Guest guest Posted April 27, 2004 Report Share Posted April 27, 2004 Hi. There is a posting on the first day of each month with all the abbreviations. You could go back to the first of April and find it. FOO is family of origin and nada is a term to describe a borderline mother in that she wasn't a mother, hence nada. I agree that confronting a borderline with their condition is a waste of time. A big part of their problem is that they don't recognize their abusive behavior so confrontations are pointless. The book that helped me the most was Understanding the Borderline Mother (UBM)It can be difficult to find but worth the effort. It is overwhelming when first learning of bpd but also very validating. It helps to read the posts on this board and all the literature you can. Some people on this list keep in contact with their nada and learn to set boundaries and others have ended contact altogether. Obviously you don't have to decide anything drastic right away and the more you read and the more you see the behaviors in her the answers will surface I am sure. Good luck and keep posting and feel free to share more about your experience if you are comfortable. > Hello all, > I'm VERY new at all this, just starting out trying to uncover this mental > illness in my husband's family. We don't know a whole lot about BPD, but > what we are learning has shocked us, as it describes his mother so well. As > of now, we are completely at a loss as to what to do... yes, we think we've > figured out what she's suffering from, but now what? We're aren't too > thrilled about the idea of confronting her about it (we value our lives!). > What are your experiences? Any suggestions? Also, (like I said, I'm new at > this) but WHAT is " nada " and " foo " and such?? Confused! > Look forward to hearing from you! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2004 Report Share Posted April 27, 2004 Hi Anne, Oops, there you are. <g> Somehow I missed your original post. When you signed onto this list you should have also received a copy of the abbreviations used on the WTO lists. I put them in the " Files " section at the listserv and all newbies signing onto the ModOasis list get a copy. And, like wrote, the WTO Guidelines (all 12 sections) are posted to all the WelcomeToOz lists at the beginning of each month. You'll find copies if you sign in at the listserv with your YahooID, at: http://www.yahoogroups.com/group/ModOasis I'm glad you've signed on our ModOasis list. We're having a heat wave in So California. It was 104 on my porch today. They've promised us cooler weather tomorrow. - Edith List Manager & Gal Friday WelcomeToOz Family of NonBP Email Support Groups Jaylin & Anne Dahlhauser wrote: > Hello all, > I'm VERY new at all this, just starting out trying to uncover this mental > illness in my husband's family. We don't know a whole lot about BPD, but > what we are learning has shocked us, as it describes his mother so well. As > of now, we are completely at a loss as to what to do... yes, we think we've > figured out what she's suffering from, but now what? We're aren't too > thrilled about the idea of confronting her about it (we value our lives!). > What are your experiences? Any suggestions? Also, (like I said, I'm new at > this) but WHAT is " nada " and " foo " and such?? Confused! > Look forward to hearing from you! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 2004 Report Share Posted April 29, 2004 Welcome to the group. Keep posting and reading the other posts. You will learn alot here by doing that. Be kind & gentle to yourself, Sylvia > Hello all, > I'm VERY new at all this, just starting out trying to uncover this mental > illness in my husband's family. We don't know a whole lot about BPD, but > what we are learning has shocked us, as it describes his mother so well. As > of now, we are completely at a loss as to what to do... yes, we think we've > figured out what she's suffering from, but now what? We're aren't too > thrilled about the idea of confronting her about it (we value our lives!). > What are your experiences? Any suggestions? Also, (like I said, I'm new at > this) but WHAT is " nada " and " foo " and such?? Confused! > Look forward to hearing from you! > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted July 5, 2004 Report Share Posted July 5, 2004 This is the 3rd day mom is so out of it. They can't get her out of bed, she won't eat but she is drinking some. Her vital signs are all okay but she is so uncomfortable with terrible hot flashes aand terrible sweating. She is soaking wet! I've found out that she was on Zyprexa(which was on the list of bad meds that i gave them at the NH and said these meds she can't be on. My sister knew this but said she had been taking it and it had been helping her. Now since June 30 she was taken off it cold turkey! Does anyone know if this could be the cause? She is really bad. She does not sllep and they have given her trazazone and she still can't sleep. They want to send her to the ER but i said no! God know what they would give her there! Why did our LO's have to get a disease that so little is known about????? I have to go to the NH now but if anyone knows what we could do for her please let me know. Thank you so much- Sharon G. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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