Re: To Ghyll

[Guest guest]

Invited to lunch! That is amazing, I have booked untold conferences in Sydney and Melbourne and have never been invited to lunch!

Leanne.

-- To Ghyll

Hi Ghyll - could you please give me a call at work. Did you get the info I emailed you the other day? The hotel has invited us to lunch so you can view the property yourself and see what you think.Talk soonCherie

[Guest guest]

Hi Ghyll

What do you eat, having 8 small meals a

day?

Still struggling to get off (and stay off)

my own plateau, reading everyone’s comments.

Hugs,

American Sue

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From: Ghyll Kincaid -

Sent: Tuesday, 14 March 2006 6:08

PM

To: SydBand

Subject: Maree

Alright this old chook has come out of hiding and is now

ready to take on the magnificent Freyja.

So Girlfriend, take a seat with a glass of beer and have a

very good listen because I am only going to say this once.

Your doctor is great for doing the operation and for doing

the fills and that is all. What they know about weight loss and the

journey is all theory and most certainly not set in concrete. All

of us banders know this. The doctors quote averages and normals but all

of us know there is no such thing as normal or average. The individual

person has to be taken into consideration and the answer given to you although

painful and hurtful does not necessarily have to apply to you.

Unfortunately we are all governed by the most ridiculous chart of BMI and

height, age and weight. If it was so simple then surely every baby that

was born would be inbetween the 5 to 6 kgs mark at birth - there would not be

the variety that there is. Now the same goes for us as adults. Big

bones, etc have to be taken into account - the individual's personal history

genetically etc before a general answer can be given.

As you know I had 12.5mls in my band and had 3.5mls taken out

a week ago because all that was happening - was an

increase with weight - now with that much less in the band, I am eating more but

for some strange reason have lost 3kgs in a week. The dietician I see

told me that I needed to use food as a tool in loosing weight, that I had

plateaued and now needed to learn to eat 8 small meals a day, and to keep this

up until the day that I am put into a wooden box. When she first

told me that I thought she had lost the plot, but in this week except for the

week-end and we know what I ate, I have tried to honour this 8 small meals a

day and it is working. I am not saying I will not have more fill put in

at a later stage but at the moment something is working. Of course I have

no restriction but the size of the meals or portions are definitely smaller

than they used to be.

I have joined that dreaded c word place - Curves and am going

to gym - not as much as I should and I am trying to get into the swimming pool

when I can. I am more than prepared to work with you on this side of

things - there are always options available to us. DON'T take your

doctor's word as the final say - get a second opinion if necessary - phone my

doctor if you like - speak to Janice - she has a magnificent head on her and

sound bloody advice - I spoke to her last week and she knows all about my

hassles, and the advice she gave me was to take a shade and shovel the shit out

of the way. And this Dear One is exactly what we have to do with

this weight journey.

We MUST not limit ourselves of the function of the band -

yes, maybe theoretically and statistically your band has done it's job and

infact more that it's job - but that does not mean the end of the road for your

band - hell maybe it wants to keep on working as hard as it did

before. Why put a use by date on a working contract when it is not

necessary - that band has got you this far and will continue - maybe not

as fast but most certainly further. I believe this with everything inside

of me.

To every yes there are ten no's. So you keep going

until you find a plastic surgeon who is not afraid of bat wings, floppy thighs,

hanging tummy, and sagging umoosh/moot. They are out there - no question

about that.

Today is Tuesday, and it is nearly over, and tomorrow is

another day to dream and put out our future plans and wishes.

You know that you have great personal strength, you are not a

quitter and you are not frightened of life, so don't let something like this

make you do something silly like removing the band, eating comfort food

in excess, and giving up hope. You are too important to many people

to just throw in the towel. And I can tell you right now that is

the very last thing that you are going to do, if it means I come to your house,

your sea side hide away - I shall personally make bloody sure that you do not

do that.

This journey is NOT for the FAINT hearted - and you have

proved that so why let a few words get you down - there are banding doctors out

there with more experience and knowledge who would advise differently - and now

listen, Maree Neal, why on earth would you take a NO at this stage of your

life.

That's is. I am giving you only until tomorrow to have

a sorry party for yourself, tomorrow is a new day and we are going to seize it

and turn the world upside down -

Lots of special love,

Ghyll

May all your weeds be wildflowers

[Guest guest]

Dear Ghyll

My sympathies are with you - I am finding myself in the same situation. At present I am waiting for my boss to come and show me something so I can do something constructive. I really hate the waiting part of learning a new job. I am a bit impatient to get on and have the job down so I can at least feel like I am competent and contributing.

We will have to arrange an 'inner westie' evening coffee soon, so we can console one another over a wee beverage.

Nx