Re: Thanks Lorraine

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Hi Mel

Pleased you found the paper helpful. Regards telling people -

that's such a personal decision. Some tell everyone, others tell

maybe only their spouse. My hubbie knew of my plans, I told the

kids just beforehand, and told only a few of my closest family

members and friends immediately before the surgery or just

following. Even now 2.1/2 years later I haven't told any one else.

From where I stand my closest family and friends should support and

understand me, as for others I guess I've always felt that unless

you've been fat you don't understand. I didn't want people judging

me, watching me, etc. I'm sure people are wondering - but I think

let them. If people ask me how I've lost the weight I tell them a

complete change of lifestyle - eat less, given up the grog and

plenty of exercise and that's all true.

You'll work out what suits you. Some find by telling people they

have plenty of support around them, others have regretted telling.

You're going to be losing weight so not eating the things at the

coffee morning can just be a part of a new diet without you having

divulge the surgery. Your eating habits - and drinking habits - are

going to change so you'll need to have some response if you

regularly indulge with others.

Good luck Mel - one day at a time!

Regards

Lorraine

-- In SydBand , " Mel " wrote:

>

>

> Thanks Lorraine,

>

> That was a wonderful paper... he is absolutely spot on. Yes, I am

> suffering nerves but am determined to go ahead Monday. Just the

last

> minute jitters that I am sure every one having this procedure

suffer.

> Its hard to decide whether or not to tell friends. I have told 2

close

> girlsfriends in case in need backup next week with the kids etc. I

> really don't want anyone to know because I do not want them to

judge me.

> One of the girls I have told is extremely concerned about the

procedure

> and can't believe that I am taking such drastic measures. Its all

right

> for her, she is a size 12 and eats like a horse!!! She is

concerned

> about how I am going to explain my absence from our regular coffee

> meetings that we do every morning at 7.30pm... yes, we are naughty,

> everyday! So, between now and Sunday I have to come up with an

illness

> that will be a problem for 2 weeks, or come clean and tell

everyone. I

> just don't think that they will understand. Oh the problems we big

> girls face...

>

> Mel

>

[Guest guest]

> >

> >

> > Thanks Lorraine,

> >

> > That was a wonderful paper... he is absolutely spot on. Yes, I am

> > suffering nerves but am determined to go ahead Monday. Just the

> last

> > minute jitters that I am sure every one having this procedure

> suffer.

> > Its hard to decide whether or not to tell friends. I have told 2

> close

> > girlsfriends in case in need backup next week with the kids etc.

I

> > really don't want anyone to know because I do not want them to

> judge me.

> > One of the girls I have told is extremely concerned about the

> procedure

> > and can't believe that I am taking such drastic measures. Its

all

> right

> > for her, she is a size 12 and eats like a horse!!! She is

> concerned

> > about how I am going to explain my absence from our regular coffee

> > meetings that we do every morning at 7.30pm... yes, we are

naughty,

> > everyday! So, between now and Sunday I have to come up with an

> illness

> > that will be a problem for 2 weeks, or come clean and tell

> everyone. I

> > just don't think that they will understand. Oh the problems we

big

> > girls face...

> >

> > Mel

> >

>