Guest guest Posted February 27, 2008 Report Share Posted February 27, 2008 When I saw " I am a real person " I had a momentary spam attack and headed for the delete button, but then I remembered you. :-) That is one crazy rough year! Congratulations on turning things around and focusing on a positive future. I wish you much success with your business and your BFL challenge. You should maybe put your distributor link in the signature file of your e-mails. That way people can see it when you post, and they can check out the products, but you won't get called out as a crazy spammer. Congratulations on your progress so far. Keep us posted! On Wed, Feb 27, 2008 at 12:23 PM, chandranielson wrote: > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has posted > many times here, have done a 12 week BFL challenge(check out my > pictures from my first challenge), but I fell off the wagon about a > year ago and have just jumped back on. I've had a pretty rough year > with a tragic accident in which killed both my future inlaws (yes > both, mother and father). They passed away after being hit by a car > while they were on a motorcycle. Following this my dad diagnosed > with manic depression and was very hard to see such a strong person > turn into someone I didn't know. He is being treated, but sometimes > forgets his meds and become very strange and angry. This fall I > moved to a new house and then my fiancé got laid off two weeks after > we bought the house. We have been at each other all the time but we > are planning on getting married in May, but sometimes I wonder if I > can deal with him still not working. He has been off work since the > end of October 2007 and it's almost March 2008. I've been a wreck. > In about a year I put on about 15 lbs and I just see the stress in my > face, crow's feet are appearing and the expression lines are getting > deeper. Yikes!! At Christmas time I weighed 174 lbs at 5'10 " . > > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > work for anything less that he was making before. But, I don't want > to lose everything I've worked my whole life for. I needed to get my > health back in line. I felt horrible, stressed and fat. By > coincidence I was watching Snoop Dog Fatherhood on E! where he took > his kids to a soccer camp and met Beckham. I noticed that they > were wearing Herbalife jerseys. I remembered an acquaintance in > college that used to sell Herbalife and I liked the products but if > never dawned on me that it was an opportunity that was coming back to > me through Snoop Dog. I researched online and thought, " I gotta > try " . I had thought about bartending or waiting tables, but I just > don't have time to work another job since I already work 60 hrs a > week at two jobs, one as a research scientist at a bio-tech firm and > also doing barn chores at the barn I keep my horse at to help pay for > the boarding bill. > > Since Christmas I started eating better and exercising more, but > still didn't feel like myself. I was able to knock off 7 lbs, but I > had been stuck for weeks at 167 lbs. Officially I started my > challenge Feb 16 with help of Herbalife. I've needed some structure > to my diet and it was so convenient and the bonus was the opportunity > to make money! After the first day I felt so much better!! I've > now been on the Shapeworks program for a week and 3 days, and now I'm > 161 lbs as of this morning, yeah!!! I have signed up as an > Independent Distributor for Herbalife and have already made a few > sales to friends that saw that I was feeling so much better. > > Here is a quote from " I found every single successful > person I've ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point > was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they > were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve > success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make > it at 50, and most people never make it at all. " > > It's time that I make a change at 29, I am going to get healthy and > I'm going to work hard grow my Herbalife business. > > The Shapeworks program is protein based, eating 5 times a day, very > similar to BFL diet, but I believe it's even more simple, complete, > and convenient without costing an arm and leg. I think the shakes > taste better than EAS shakes, and trust me, I've had them all. I > actually spend less being healthy than eating junky with Herbalife. > There is much more to Herbalife than just weight loss products, there > is a whole line of energy, targeted nutrition, energy and fitness and > outer nutrition (hair and skin products). > > Here are some cool facts about Herbalife ïƒ > > Herbalife has been in business for 28 years, we're currently in 66 > countries and on the New York Stock Exchange. > > Our CEO is the former CEO for Disney, O. . > > Beckham, (Posh Spice's Husband), the LA Galaxy, and the > American Youth Soccer Organization are all going to be wearing the > Herbalife logo on their jerseys because Herbalife is the Official > Nutrition Advisor. > > Did you know that one of the research doctors that developed heart > health products for Herbalife won a Nobel Prize for his work on > Nitric Oxide research and the effects on the circulatory system? > > The research for products is located at Mark Cellular and > Molecular Nutrition Lab at UCLA and at the Herbalife Product and > Science Center located in LA. > > Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please > fill it out. > www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness > > If you would like to look at the product line > www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth > > Here is my new business card!! > http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb > usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > Thanks, sorry if this offends anyone, but I really wanted to share. > I'm really excited. > > Chandra Nielson > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 27, 2008 Report Share Posted February 27, 2008 Thanks for not deleting me, I was a little worried that I would get the boot, but I've been away from this board for a while and need to come back. I guess I needed a place to vent my fustrations and goals to people who are in sorta the same boat, trying to do better for themself. Thanks again ! By the way, I can send out some free samples to anyone who is interested. I would love to share. Chandra CN Better Health Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please fill it out. www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness If you would like to look at healthy product line from Herbalife www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth Here is my new business card!! http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has posted > > many times here, have done a 12 week BFL challenge(check out my > > pictures from my first challenge), but I fell off the wagon about a > > year ago and have just jumped back on. I've had a pretty rough year > > with a tragic accident in which killed both my future inlaws (yes > > both, mother and father). They passed away after being hit by a car > > while they were on a motorcycle. Following this my dad diagnosed > > with manic depression and was very hard to see such a strong person > > turn into someone I didn't know. He is being treated, but sometimes > > forgets his meds and become very strange and angry. This fall I > > moved to a new house and then my fiancé got laid off two weeks after > > we bought the house. We have been at each other all the time but we > > are planning on getting married in May, but sometimes I wonder if I > > can deal with him still not working. He has been off work since the > > end of October 2007 and it's almost March 2008. I've been a wreck. > > In about a year I put on about 15 lbs and I just see the stress in my > > face, crow's feet are appearing and the expression lines are getting > > deeper. Yikes!! At Christmas time I weighed 174 lbs at 5'10 " . > > > > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > > work for anything less that he was making before. But, I don't want > > to lose everything I've worked my whole life for. I needed to get my > > health back in line. I felt horrible, stressed and fat. By > > coincidence I was watching Snoop Dog Fatherhood on E! where he took > > his kids to a soccer camp and met Beckham. I noticed that they > > were wearing Herbalife jerseys. I remembered an acquaintance in > > college that used to sell Herbalife and I liked the products but if > > never dawned on me that it was an opportunity that was coming back to > > me through Snoop Dog. I researched online and thought, " I gotta > > try " . I had thought about bartending or waiting tables, but I just > > don't have time to work another job since I already work 60 hrs a > > week at two jobs, one as a research scientist at a bio-tech firm and > > also doing barn chores at the barn I keep my horse at to help pay for > > the boarding bill. > > > > Since Christmas I started eating better and exercising more, but > > still didn't feel like myself. I was able to knock off 7 lbs, but I > > had been stuck for weeks at 167 lbs. Officially I started my > > challenge Feb 16 with help of Herbalife. I've needed some structure > > to my diet and it was so convenient and the bonus was the opportunity > > to make money! After the first day I felt so much better!! I've > > now been on the Shapeworks program for a week and 3 days, and now I'm > > 161 lbs as of this morning, yeah!!! I have signed up as an > > Independent Distributor for Herbalife and have already made a few > > sales to friends that saw that I was feeling so much better. > > > > Here is a quote from " I found every single successful > > person I've ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point > > was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they > > were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve > > success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make > > it at 50, and most people never make it at all. " > > > > It's time that I make a change at 29, I am going to get healthy and > > I'm going to work hard grow my Herbalife business. > > > > The Shapeworks program is protein based, eating 5 times a day, very > > similar to BFL diet, but I believe it's even more simple, complete, > > and convenient without costing an arm and leg. I think the shakes > > taste better than EAS shakes, and trust me, I've had them all. I > > actually spend less being healthy than eating junky with Herbalife. > > There is much more to Herbalife than just weight loss products, there > > is a whole line of energy, targeted nutrition, energy and fitness and > > outer nutrition (hair and skin products). > > > > Here are some cool facts about Herbalife ïƒ > > > > Herbalife has been in business for 28 years, we're currently in 66 > > countries and on the New York Stock Exchange. > > > > Our CEO is the former CEO for Disney, O. . > > > > Beckham, (Posh Spice's Husband), the LA Galaxy, and the > > American Youth Soccer Organization are all going to be wearing the > > Herbalife logo on their jerseys because Herbalife is the Official > > Nutrition Advisor. > > > > Did you know that one of the research doctors that developed heart > > health products for Herbalife won a Nobel Prize for his work on > > Nitric Oxide research and the effects on the circulatory system? > > > > The research for products is located at Mark Cellular and > > Molecular Nutrition Lab at UCLA and at the Herbalife Product and > > Science Center located in LA. > > > > Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please > > fill it out. > > www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness > > > > If you would like to look at the product line > > www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth > > > > Here is my new business card!! > > http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb > > usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > > > Thanks, sorry if this offends anyone, but I really wanted to share. > > I'm really excited. > > > > Chandra Nielson > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > work for anything less that he was making before. This statement and a few other things jumped out at me from your post. Not that you asked, but I think he needs a kick in the butt to get out there and get a job, ANY job that will help you pay the mortgage on your house (that you bought TOGETHER!). You may not need a third job, but you may need a new fiance. ;-) joni Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 I'm sorry to chime in here...as I haven't written in a couple months....but I just wanted to say to Chandra that if this feels like a red flag...then take it to heart. My sister sure wished she had!!! Her fiance was the same way, but she figured it was just a down time for him ...and if she just gave him the emotional support he needed, he'd be able to find the perfect job for him. They married and she was the sole supporter for most of their 20 years of marriage as- he kept getting fired from every job he had (which ofcourse took him forever to find those jobs as he was so particular re. his worth). The day after Christmas last year, after her husband accepted all the gifts and money from our family - he told her he'd " found his soulmate " - it was her best friend. Both he and her best friend left their spouses that night and moved in together, leaving my sister and their 2 boys, aged 9 and 11. They've been divorced for nearly a year now (and he still lives with her ex-best friend - I wonder when she'll figure out that the pattern he had with my sister is continuing with her). It is in their divorce decree that he doesn't have to pay child support until he gets a job. My sister wanted him to be able to get on his feet first. He still hasn't paid a dime of child support - because he " refuses to get a job that pays him less than he is worth. " And for some reason - he truly believes that is a good enough reason not to pay a dime towards helping raise his children. He does still see them, but ALL the expenses fall on her. Him not having a job when they got married was a HUGE red flag for my sister, our parents and all of us.......but she was " in love " and she wanted to be married...so she ignored the red flags (which she will say herself)...she didn't realize his before marriage choices were indicative of what her entire marriage - and divorce would be like. After a year of dealing with this, the family joke is - " don't even date him unless he has a good job " ....and that is towards my three girls as well. Her ex was so put off by her success and his lack of it that duirng their entire marriage he demeaned her every opportunity he got. Publicly and privately. Through example, he taught his boys to do the same. It's been a long year while our dad has been the main male influence in the kids lives and teaching them the respect men and kids should give to women and adults. My sister is now dating an amazing man now who treats her like a the wonderful woman she is - something her husband NEVER did. We are so happy to see her glow like she's never done before. She is a different person now!!! She's alive again!!! Your fiance may be different. But I can tell you this - the guy my sister is dating now - his position was cut the day after his divorce was final. He ended up taking 3 different menial jobs while trying to find a new career job - because he wouldn't allow himself to shirk his responsibilities with child support! THAT is the kind of man I want for my sister! PLEASE consider carefully if you want to spend the rest of your life with a man who is okay with you working 3 jobs to support the both of you while he sits on his a__ waiting for a job that will " pay him what he's worth " . YOU are worth more than that. Sorry...soapbox...remember...don't marry a man just because you love him. Marry him because you can't live without him...and because you know he'll be an amazing father and role model for your future children. I've never been more appreciative of my husband than I have been this last year - and he, I. We don't live the high life, but he's ALWAYS been able to support me and our 4 children....and he sets an amazing example as a father. My 16 year old son treats me like a queen - and I give his father much of the credit for that! oy vey...I hope I haven't offended you....feel free to take what you like and throw the rest out! Webster Re: Turning point. > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > work for anything less that he was making before. This statement and a few other things jumped out at me from your post. Not that you asked, but I think he needs a kick in the butt to get out there and get a job, ANY job that will help you pay the mortgage on your house (that you bought TOGETHER!). You may not need a third job, but you may need a new fiance. ;-) joni ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.516 / Virus Database: 269.21.1/1302 - Release Date: 2/27/2008 4:34 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 Oh Chandra...I just read your entire story!!! Oh my gosh, what a hard year....could your fiance be depressed. I know I sure would be if I'd lost both my parents in an accident. Bipolar is a tough thing to deal with...and becoming stable is a process. I hope for the best with your father!!!! Have a great day! Webster www.michellebaileywebster.com Re: Turning point. Thanks for not deleting me, I was a little worried that I would get the boot, but I've been away from this board for a while and need to come back. I guess I needed a place to vent my fustrations and goals to people who are in sorta the same boat, trying to do better for themself. Thanks again ! By the way, I can send out some free samples to anyone who is interested. I would love to share. Chandra CN Better Health Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please fill it out. www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness If you would like to look at healthy product line from Herbalife www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth Here is my new business card!! http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has posted > > many times here, have done a 12 week BFL challenge(check out my > > pictures from my first challenge), but I fell off the wagon about a > > year ago and have just jumped back on. I've had a pretty rough year > > with a tragic accident in which killed both my future inlaws (yes > > both, mother and father). They passed away after being hit by a car > > while they were on a motorcycle. Following this my dad diagnosed > > with manic depression and was very hard to see such a strong person > > turn into someone I didn't know. He is being treated, but sometimes > > forgets his meds and become very strange and angry. This fall I > > moved to a new house and then my fiancé got laid off two weeks after > > we bought the house. We have been at each other all the time but we > > are planning on getting married in May, but sometimes I wonder if I > > can deal with him still not working. He has been off work since the > > end of October 2007 and it's almost March 2008. I've been a wreck. > > In about a year I put on about 15 lbs and I just see the stress in my > > face, crow's feet are appearing and the expression lines are getting > > deeper. Yikes!! At Christmas time I weighed 174 lbs at 5'10 " . > > > > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > > work for anything less that he was making before. But, I don't want > > to lose everything I've worked my whole life for. I needed to get my > > health back in line. I felt horrible, stressed and fat. By > > coincidence I was watching Snoop Dog Fatherhood on E! where he took > > his kids to a soccer camp and met Beckham. I noticed that they > > were wearing Herbalife jerseys. I remembered an acquaintance in > > college that used to sell Herbalife and I liked the products but if > > never dawned on me that it was an opportunity that was coming back to > > me through Snoop Dog. I researched online and thought, " I gotta > > try " . I had thought about bartending or waiting tables, but I just > > don't have time to work another job since I already work 60 hrs a > > week at two jobs, one as a research scientist at a bio-tech firm and > > also doing barn chores at the barn I keep my horse at to help pay for > > the boarding bill. > > > > Since Christmas I started eating better and exercising more, but > > still didn't feel like myself. I was able to knock off 7 lbs, but I > > had been stuck for weeks at 167 lbs. Officially I started my > > challenge Feb 16 with help of Herbalife. I've needed some structure > > to my diet and it was so convenient and the bonus was the opportunity > > to make money! After the first day I felt so much better!! I've > > now been on the Shapeworks program for a week and 3 days, and now I'm > > 161 lbs as of this morning, yeah!!! I have signed up as an > > Independent Distributor for Herbalife and have already made a few > > sales to friends that saw that I was feeling so much better. > > > > Here is a quote from " I found every single successful > > person I've ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point > > was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they > > were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve > > success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make > > it at 50, and most people never make it at all. " > > > > It's time that I make a change at 29, I am going to get healthy and > > I'm going to work hard grow my Herbalife business. > > > > The Shapeworks program is protein based, eating 5 times a day, very > > similar to BFL diet, but I believe it's even more simple, complete, > > and convenient without costing an arm and leg. I think the shakes > > taste better than EAS shakes, and trust me, I've had them all. I > > actually spend less being healthy than eating junky with Herbalife. > > There is much more to Herbalife than just weight loss products, there > > is a whole line of energy, targeted nutrition, energy and fitness and > > outer nutrition (hair and skin products). > > > > Here are some cool facts about Herbalife ïf > > > > Herbalife has been in business for 28 years, we're currently in 66 > > countries and on the New York Stock Exchange. > > > > Our CEO is the former CEO for Disney, O. . > > > > Beckham, (Posh Spice's Husband), the LA Galaxy, and the > > American Youth Soccer Organization are all going to be wearing the > > Herbalife logo on their jerseys because Herbalife is the Official > > Nutrition Advisor. > > > > Did you know that one of the research doctors that developed heart > > health products for Herbalife won a Nobel Prize for his work on > > Nitric Oxide research and the effects on the circulatory system? > > > > The research for products is located at Mark Cellular and > > Molecular Nutrition Lab at UCLA and at the Herbalife Product and > > Science Center located in LA. > > > > Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please > > fill it out. > > www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness > > > > If you would like to look at the product line > > www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth > > > > Here is my new business card!! > > http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb > > usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > > > Thanks, sorry if this offends anyone, but I really wanted to share. > > I'm really excited. > > > > Chandra Nielson > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 ps...one last thing....check out your local NAMI - National Alliance on Mental Illness. It's designed for the loved ones of those with mental illness. They have great resources and probably a support group in your area. Have a great day! Webster www.michellebaileywebster.com Re: Turning point. Thanks for not deleting me, I was a little worried that I would get the boot, but I've been away from this board for a while and need to come back. I guess I needed a place to vent my fustrations and goals to people who are in sorta the same boat, trying to do better for themself. Thanks again ! By the way, I can send out some free samples to anyone who is interested. I would love to share. Chandra CN Better Health Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please fill it out. www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness If you would like to look at healthy product line from Herbalife www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth Here is my new business card!! http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has posted > > many times here, have done a 12 week BFL challenge(check out my > > pictures from my first challenge), but I fell off the wagon about a > > year ago and have just jumped back on. I've had a pretty rough year > > with a tragic accident in which killed both my future inlaws (yes > > both, mother and father). They passed away after being hit by a car > > while they were on a motorcycle. Following this my dad diagnosed > > with manic depression and was very hard to see such a strong person > > turn into someone I didn't know. He is being treated, but sometimes > > forgets his meds and become very strange and angry. This fall I > > moved to a new house and then my fiancé got laid off two weeks after > > we bought the house. We have been at each other all the time but we > > are planning on getting married in May, but sometimes I wonder if I > > can deal with him still not working. He has been off work since the > > end of October 2007 and it's almost March 2008. I've been a wreck. > > In about a year I put on about 15 lbs and I just see the stress in my > > face, crow's feet are appearing and the expression lines are getting > > deeper. Yikes!! At Christmas time I weighed 174 lbs at 5'10 " . > > > > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > > work for anything less that he was making before. But, I don't want > > to lose everything I've worked my whole life for. I needed to get my > > health back in line. I felt horrible, stressed and fat. By > > coincidence I was watching Snoop Dog Fatherhood on E! where he took > > his kids to a soccer camp and met Beckham. I noticed that they > > were wearing Herbalife jerseys. I remembered an acquaintance in > > college that used to sell Herbalife and I liked the products but if > > never dawned on me that it was an opportunity that was coming back to > > me through Snoop Dog. I researched online and thought, " I gotta > > try " . I had thought about bartending or waiting tables, but I just > > don't have time to work another job since I already work 60 hrs a > > week at two jobs, one as a research scientist at a bio-tech firm and > > also doing barn chores at the barn I keep my horse at to help pay for > > the boarding bill. > > > > Since Christmas I started eating better and exercising more, but > > still didn't feel like myself. I was able to knock off 7 lbs, but I > > had been stuck for weeks at 167 lbs. Officially I started my > > challenge Feb 16 with help of Herbalife. I've needed some structure > > to my diet and it was so convenient and the bonus was the opportunity > > to make money! After the first day I felt so much better!! I've > > now been on the Shapeworks program for a week and 3 days, and now I'm > > 161 lbs as of this morning, yeah!!! I have signed up as an > > Independent Distributor for Herbalife and have already made a few > > sales to friends that saw that I was feeling so much better. > > > > Here is a quote from " I found every single successful > > person I've ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point > > was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they > > were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve > > success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make > > it at 50, and most people never make it at all. " > > > > It's time that I make a change at 29, I am going to get healthy and > > I'm going to work hard grow my Herbalife business. > > > > The Shapeworks program is protein based, eating 5 times a day, very > > similar to BFL diet, but I believe it's even more simple, complete, > > and convenient without costing an arm and leg. I think the shakes > > taste better than EAS shakes, and trust me, I've had them all. I > > actually spend less being healthy than eating junky with Herbalife. > > There is much more to Herbalife than just weight loss products, there > > is a whole line of energy, targeted nutrition, energy and fitness and > > outer nutrition (hair and skin products). > > > > Here are some cool facts about Herbalife ïf > > > > Herbalife has been in business for 28 years, we're currently in 66 > > countries and on the New York Stock Exchange. > > > > Our CEO is the former CEO for Disney, O. . > > > > Beckham, (Posh Spice's Husband), the LA Galaxy, and the > > American Youth Soccer Organization are all going to be wearing the > > Herbalife logo on their jerseys because Herbalife is the Official > > Nutrition Advisor. > > > > Did you know that one of the research doctors that developed heart > > health products for Herbalife won a Nobel Prize for his work on > > Nitric Oxide research and the effects on the circulatory system? > > > > The research for products is located at Mark Cellular and > > Molecular Nutrition Lab at UCLA and at the Herbalife Product and > > Science Center located in LA. > > > > Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please > > fill it out. > > www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness > > > > If you would like to look at the product line > > www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth > > > > Here is my new business card!! > > http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb > > usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > > > Thanks, sorry if this offends anyone, but I really wanted to share. > > I'm really excited. > > > > Chandra Nielson > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 I'll add a big " ditto " to everything that wrote. I know THREE women who could have written the same post joni did, and guess what? Years later, the women are still working their asses off while the lazy jerks sat around doing NOTHING, not even helping to clean up the house or take care of the kids. (Well, two of them--the third one FINALLY got divorced after letting him sponge off of her for a couple of decades. Naomi ****** wrote: > > I'm sorry to chime in here...as I haven't written in a couple > months....but I just wanted to say to Chandra that if this feels like > a red flag...then take it to heart. My sister sure wished she had!!! > Her fiance was the same way, but she figured it was just a down time > for him ...and if she just gave him the emotional support he needed, > he'd be able to find the perfect job for him. They married and she was > the sole supporter for most of their 20 years of marriage as- he kept > getting fired from every job he had (which ofcourse took him forever > to find those jobs as he was so particular re. his worth). > > The day after Christmas last year, after her husband accepted all the > gifts and money from our family - he told her he'd " found his > soulmate " - it was her best friend. Both he and her best friend left > their spouses that night and moved in together, leaving my sister and > their 2 boys, aged 9 and 11. They've been divorced for nearly a year > now (and he still lives with her ex-best friend - I wonder when she'll > figure out that the pattern he had with my sister is continuing with > her). It is in their divorce decree that he doesn't have to pay child > support until he gets a job. My sister wanted him to be able to get on > his feet first. He still hasn't paid a dime of child support - because > he " refuses to get a job that pays him less than he is worth. " And for > some reason - he truly believes that is a good enough reason not to > pay a dime towards helping raise his children. He does still see them, > but ALL the expenses fall on her. > > Him not having a job when they got married was a HUGE red flag for my > sister, our parents and all of us.......but she was " in love " and she > wanted to be married...so she ignored the red flags (which she will > say herself)...she didn't realize his before marriage choices were > indicative of what her entire marriage - and divorce would be like. > After a year of dealing with this, the family joke is - " don't even > date him unless he has a good job " ....and that is towards my three > girls as well. > > Her ex was so put off by her success and his lack of it that duirng > their entire marriage he demeaned her every opportunity he got. > Publicly and privately. Through example, he taught his boys to do the > same. It's been a long year while our dad has been the main male > influence in the kids lives and teaching them the respect men and kids > should give to women and adults. My sister is now dating an amazing > man now who treats her like a the wonderful woman she is - something > her husband NEVER did. We are so happy to see her glow like she's > never done before. She is a different person now!!! She's alive again!!! > > Your fiance may be different. But I can tell you this - the guy my > sister is dating now - his position was cut the day after his divorce > was final. He ended up taking 3 different menial jobs while trying to > find a new career job - because he wouldn't allow himself to shirk his > responsibilities with child support! THAT is the kind of man I want > for my sister! > > PLEASE consider carefully if you want to spend the rest of your life > with a man who is okay with you working 3 jobs to support the both of > you while he sits on his a__ waiting for a job that will " pay him what > he's worth " . YOU are worth more than that. > > Sorry...soapbox...remember...don't marry a man just because you love > him. Marry him because you can't live without him...and because you > know he'll be an amazing father and role model for your future > children. I've never been more appreciative of my husband than I have > been this last year - and he, I. We don't live the high life, but he's > ALWAYS been able to support me and our 4 children....and he sets an > amazing example as a father. My 16 year old son treats me like a queen > - and I give his father much of the credit for that! > > oy vey...I hope I haven't offended you....feel free to take what you > like and throw the rest out! > > Webster > ----- Original Message ----- joni > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 Oops, I meant Chandra, not Joni. Naomi > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 28, 2008 Report Share Posted February 28, 2008 Hey everyone, thanks for the support! Hlthygal31 filled out my wellness survey too, thanks! I'll be sending out some free samples and a DVD if you like. I am officially calling off the wedding for now, I can't see us getting things situated by May 25th. Maybe some other time if he can grow and see what he is doing to me is wrong. My fiance has been to a councelor once and he said she said he is " fine " . I think he is full of it and just didn't want to go back because he isn't " Fine " . Well got to leave to go to my second job now > > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has posted > many times here, have done a 12 week BFL challenge(check out my > pictures from my first challenge), but I fell off the wagon about a > year ago and have just jumped back on. I've had a pretty rough year > with a tragic accident in which killed both my future inlaws (yes > both, mother and father). They passed away after being hit by a car > while they were on a motorcycle. Following this my dad diagnosed > with manic depression and was very hard to see such a strong person > turn into someone I didn't know. He is being treated, but sometimes > forgets his meds and become very strange and angry. This fall I > moved to a new house and then my fiancé got laid off two weeks after > we bought the house. We have been at each other all the time but we > are planning on getting married in May, but sometimes I wonder if I > can deal with him still not working. He has been off work since the > end of October 2007 and it's almost March 2008. I've been a wreck. > In about a year I put on about 15 lbs and I just see the stress in my > face, crow's feet are appearing and the expression lines are getting > deeper. Yikes!! At Christmas time I weighed 174 lbs at 5'10 " . > > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > work for anything less that he was making before. But, I don't want > to lose everything I've worked my whole life for. I needed to get my > health back in line. I felt horrible, stressed and fat. By > coincidence I was watching Snoop Dog Fatherhood on E! where he took > his kids to a soccer camp and met Beckham. I noticed that they > were wearing Herbalife jerseys. I remembered an acquaintance in > college that used to sell Herbalife and I liked the products but if > never dawned on me that it was an opportunity that was coming back to > me through Snoop Dog. I researched online and thought, " I gotta > try " . I had thought about bartending or waiting tables, but I just > don't have time to work another job since I already work 60 hrs a > week at two jobs, one as a research scientist at a bio-tech firm and > also doing barn chores at the barn I keep my horse at to help pay for > the boarding bill. > > Since Christmas I started eating better and exercising more, but > still didn't feel like myself. I was able to knock off 7 lbs, but I > had been stuck for weeks at 167 lbs. Officially I started my > challenge Feb 16 with help of Herbalife. I've needed some structure > to my diet and it was so convenient and the bonus was the opportunity > to make money! After the first day I felt so much better!! I've > now been on the Shapeworks program for a week and 3 days, and now I'm > 161 lbs as of this morning, yeah!!! I have signed up as an > Independent Distributor for Herbalife and have already made a few > sales to friends that saw that I was feeling so much better. > > Here is a quote from " I found every single successful > person I've ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point > was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they > were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve > success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make > it at 50, and most people never make it at all. " > > It's time that I make a change at 29, I am going to get healthy and > I'm going to work hard grow my Herbalife business. > > The Shapeworks program is protein based, eating 5 times a day, very > similar to BFL diet, but I believe it's even more simple, complete, > and convenient without costing an arm and leg. I think the shakes > taste better than EAS shakes, and trust me, I've had them all. I > actually spend less being healthy than eating junky with Herbalife. > There is much more to Herbalife than just weight loss products, there > is a whole line of energy, targeted nutrition, energy and fitness and > outer nutrition (hair and skin products). > > Here are some cool facts about Herbalife & #61664; > > Herbalife has been in business for 28 years, we're currently in 66 > countries and on the New York Stock Exchange. > > Our CEO is the former CEO for Disney, O. . > > Beckham, (Posh Spice's Husband), the LA Galaxy, and the > American Youth Soccer Organization are all going to be wearing the > Herbalife logo on their jerseys because Herbalife is the Official > Nutrition Advisor. > > Did you know that one of the research doctors that developed heart > health products for Herbalife won a Nobel Prize for his work on > Nitric Oxide research and the effects on the circulatory system? > > The research for products is located at Mark Cellular and > Molecular Nutrition Lab at UCLA and at the Herbalife Product and > Science Center located in LA. > > Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please > fill it out. > www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness > > If you would like to look at the product line > www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth > > Here is my new business card!! > http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb > usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > Thanks, sorry if this offends anyone, but I really wanted to share. > I'm really excited. > > Chandra Nielson > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2008 Report Share Posted February 29, 2008 I'M SOOOOO PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! And btw...they all think the counselor says their fine...I don't think he's lying...I think they really believe that! It always amazes me what my husband hears and what I hear. Is that a man thing????? Oh...I can't even begin to tell you how proud I am of you for taking a stand before it's too late. I'll never forget when my husband told me that my brother in law said to a guy with them (on the golfcourse no less) - " Hey, I know a good thing when I see it...I won't be messin up this gig! " It was a year later that he " moved on " . He tried to think he was a stay at home dad - but he hired someone to clean the house, had a weekly yard service and was in some sort of a club that he paid for to get his car washed every week. And either my sister cooked after work or they went out. I know he enjoyed his golf game...but other than that - none of us really knows what he did...well, in the end we figured it out....But slothfulness isn't good for any of us...it makes us look for our self worth in all the wrong places (for me...that would be FOOD!). Way to go Chandra!!! ps...I'll try to get to the survey this weekend...goodnight! Re: Turning point. Hey everyone, thanks for the support! Hlthygal31 filled out my wellness survey too, thanks! I'll be sending out some free samples and a DVD if you like. I am officially calling off the wedding for now, I can't see us getting things situated by May 25th. Maybe some other time if he can grow and see what he is doing to me is wrong. My fiance has been to a councelor once and he said she said he is " fine " . I think he is full of it and just didn't want to go back because he isn't " Fine " . Well got to leave to go to my second job now > > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has posted > many times here, have done a 12 week BFL challenge(check out my > pictures from my first challenge), but I fell off the wagon about a > year ago and have just jumped back on. I've had a pretty rough year > with a tragic accident in which killed both my future inlaws (yes > both, mother and father). They passed away after being hit by a car > while they were on a motorcycle. Following this my dad diagnosed > with manic depression and was very hard to see such a strong person > turn into someone I didn't know. He is being treated, but sometimes > forgets his meds and become very strange and angry. This fall I > moved to a new house and then my fiancé got laid off two weeks after > we bought the house. We have been at each other all the time but we > are planning on getting married in May, but sometimes I wonder if I > can deal with him still not working. He has been off work since the > end of October 2007 and it's almost March 2008. I've been a wreck. > In about a year I put on about 15 lbs and I just see the stress in my > face, crow's feet are appearing and the expression lines are getting > deeper. Yikes!! At Christmas time I weighed 174 lbs at 5'10 " . > > I started looking into a third job since my fiancé is too proud to > work for anything less that he was making before. But, I don't want > to lose everything I've worked my whole life for. I needed to get my > health back in line. I felt horrible, stressed and fat. By > coincidence I was watching Snoop Dog Fatherhood on E! where he took > his kids to a soccer camp and met Beckham. I noticed that they > were wearing Herbalife jerseys. I remembered an acquaintance in > college that used to sell Herbalife and I liked the products but if > never dawned on me that it was an opportunity that was coming back to > me through Snoop Dog. I researched online and thought, " I gotta > try " . I had thought about bartending or waiting tables, but I just > don't have time to work another job since I already work 60 hrs a > week at two jobs, one as a research scientist at a bio-tech firm and > also doing barn chores at the barn I keep my horse at to help pay for > the boarding bill. > > Since Christmas I started eating better and exercising more, but > still didn't feel like myself. I was able to knock off 7 lbs, but I > had been stuck for weeks at 167 lbs. Officially I started my > challenge Feb 16 with help of Herbalife. I've needed some structure > to my diet and it was so convenient and the bonus was the opportunity > to make money! After the first day I felt so much better!! I've > now been on the Shapeworks program for a week and 3 days, and now I'm > 161 lbs as of this morning, yeah!!! I have signed up as an > Independent Distributor for Herbalife and have already made a few > sales to friends that saw that I was feeling so much better. > > Here is a quote from " I found every single successful > person I've ever spoken to had a turning point. The turning point > was when they made a clear, specific unequivocal decision that they > were not going to live like this anymore; they were going to achieve > success. Some people make that decision at 15 and some people make > it at 50, and most people never make it at all. " > > It's time that I make a change at 29, I am going to get healthy and > I'm going to work hard grow my Herbalife business. > > The Shapeworks program is protein based, eating 5 times a day, very > similar to BFL diet, but I believe it's even more simple, complete, > and convenient without costing an arm and leg. I think the shakes > taste better than EAS shakes, and trust me, I've had them all. I > actually spend less being healthy than eating junky with Herbalife. > There is much more to Herbalife than just weight loss products, there > is a whole line of energy, targeted nutrition, energy and fitness and > outer nutrition (hair and skin products). > > Here are some cool facts about Herbalife & #61664; > > Herbalife has been in business for 28 years, we're currently in 66 > countries and on the New York Stock Exchange. > > Our CEO is the former CEO for Disney, O. . > > Beckham, (Posh Spice's Husband), the LA Galaxy, and the > American Youth Soccer Organization are all going to be wearing the > Herbalife logo on their jerseys because Herbalife is the Official > Nutrition Advisor. > > Did you know that one of the research doctors that developed heart > health products for Herbalife won a Nobel Prize for his work on > Nitric Oxide research and the effects on the circulatory system? > > The research for products is located at Mark Cellular and > Molecular Nutrition Lab at UCLA and at the Herbalife Product and > Science Center located in LA. > > Here is a wellness survey I would like to share with you. Please > fill it out. > www.cnbetterhealth.com/wellness > > If you would like to look at the product line > www.shopherbalife.com/cnbetterhealth > > Here is my new business card!! > http://i18.photobucket.com/albums/b112/arabsporthorsegirl/livepreviewb > usinesscardherbalife.jpg > > Thanks, sorry if this offends anyone, but I really wanted to share. > I'm really excited. > > Chandra Nielson > ------------------------------------------------------------------------------ No virus found in this incoming message. Checked by AVG Free Edition. Version: 7.5.516 / Virus Database: 269.21.1/1302 - Release Date: 2/27/2008 4:34 PM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted February 29, 2008 Report Share Posted February 29, 2008 Hi, Chandra - I'm real, too, except I think I've been lurking the whole time I've been on this board. I haven't " made the decision " yet, so while quietly gleaning encouragement from the wonderful folks on this forum, I haven't had anything to offer. Until now... I had a very tough time deciding if I'd accept a marriage proposal from my man, and a friend gave me the BEST ADVICE EVER: " There is nothing wrong with a long engagement. If things don't work out, it's much easier to end an engagement than a marriage. " Congratulations for putting a hold on things for now. Suffice to say, it worked for me (I called things off a MONTH beforehand, and asked for a year to get my ducks in a row). You'll have your own reasons to give, none of which need to be " his " fault. Meanwhile, spend the time watching him, to see what he does. If you'll already be holding down the fort alone, commit yourself to doing so for a fixed amount of time. After then, you can get a roommate, and more importantly...get an attorney to draw up a financial partnership agreement for the house. If you're making the payments, it'll be kind of easy to buy out your fiance, if ya'll don't make it. Or, you could have my luck, and fiance will realize that you're a gem, get off his butt, and do the right thing. [] My two cents~ Beth C. P.S. HI, everyone! > > > > Sorry this is long, but I had to share!! > > > > Hi, my name is Chandra Nielson and I am a real person who has > posted > > many times here,... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Recommended Posts
Join the conversation
You are posting as a guest. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.