Re: question for those on spectrum

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When I encounter things that scare me I too try to familiarize myself with them

so I don't have to feel so scared. As she continues these visits she is reliving

the events as if she is there in the moment.

 

At least that is how my memory is, I actually feel the same feelings! But over

many experiences these are easier to overcome. The initial reaction for me is

always the same, but I have control of how to deal with it and can calm down and

" cure " the initial fear much faster.

 

There was a time I could not walk through an empty house or be in complete

silence because of fear. I hated to be home alone and would panic at every

noise. Overtime, after many trips through the dark alone, I have overcome much

of this fear.

 

However, every noise still makes my heart pound so hard that I am certain people

would hear it if they were around.

 

Having autism makes it difficult to deal with fears, our initial reactions are

usually from a sensory point of view and it takes experience with them over and

over again to overcome that initial reaction and to feel calm and safe.

 

I believe she is not seeking out the feeling of fear. If what I think is true

she has tapped into the realization that yes this is scary, but if I deal with

it enought times, it won't be scary anymore.

 

Curiousity only killed the cat...kids are pretty much immune. When I seek out

fearful experiences it is because I want to understand why I was or am so scared

and to find a way to deal with that and to overcome it if I can...

 

I am 31 now and know that is why I do it, at 25 I had no explaination!

 

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Subject: question for those on spectrum

To: Autism_in_Girls

Date: Sunday, September 21, 2008, 8:29 PM

Just wondering, is the desire for routine so great to make you want to

do unpleasant things just for the routine? Allie has had a Children's

Hospital obsession now for a few months. It's gotten to the point that

for a good behavior reward we will take a drive over, get out and walk

around. Once I got a nurse to let us go into an empty room & look

around. I noticed when we went to the ER she looked down the hallway

toward the nurse's station and got really scared-looking. She also

looked that way when we went to the lab waiting room and she looked

into the window toward the staff/rooms. Just curious why she would

want to go down there & see the things that bring her fear while

wanting to go so often. Is it sort of like an amusement park ride, you

enjoy the thrill of the fear?

I told Allie we will have to stop our inside hospital visits for now

as sick season is approaching. Don't know how she's gonna take it. We

can still drive by but as sick as she has been through the years I'm

not gonna risk extra exposures.

Debi