Re: kids pick up OUR anxiety!!!

[Guest guest]

Hi Ellen, It can be very scary when test results come back

indicating a possibility of something being wrong! Also very natural

for us to be concerned. I will pray nothing is wrong! When I am in a

bad mood or worried about something, even my husband picks up on the

mood. I tell him I try to be perfect all the time, but it is

impossible.

When Bre(15) picks up on my moods and reacts to it, I sit her down

and explain why I am feeling that way. I know she has anxiety

already, but when we have heart to heart talks it makes her feel

grownup and special. I use to worry about how I could be making her

worse and many times I do hide it. But if it is something I can't

hide, then it's time to talk. Bre is learning not to take on

everyone else's feelings and though it is a tough battle, I see her

making progress.

Hang in there!

Sandy

-- In , " musicgirl9395 "

<musicgirl9395@...> wrote:

>

> Hi all,

> Haven't posted in a while, but I try to read when I can. I was

> wondering if your OCD kids pick up on your anxiety like mine

does! I

> can't even be in a bad mood or it will effect her. Recently, my

OB/GYN

> has been watching my CA-125 score, only because my mother just had

> breast cancer. My score has been elevated and it is REALLY scary

for

> me. (This is a test for ovarian cancer, but it is an unreliable

one)

> I have been having a really hard time. And my daughter is picking

up

> on it.... I haven't told her anything because it really is

nothing

> right now. Just a scare....Anyone have any experience with this

test?

> Or how to teach your kids NOT to pick up on everyone else's

feelings?

> Thanks...... Ellen

>

[Guest guest]

My psychologist and I were just talking about this last week. Its like these

kids are so intense in everything and yes they do pick up on our mood. I

have found my son can tell how someone will like him just being in the same

room and act accordingly. Really interesting but I think that is the root of

some of the fear and anxiety. They are just so sensitive. It makes things so

hard when you are going through a hard time because then they react and make

it even worse.

Hope things end up okay with the cancer.

Adele

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Sent: Saturday, October 07, 2006 4:13 PM

Subject: kids pick up OUR anxiety!!!

Hi all,

Haven't posted in a while, but I try to read when I can. I was

wondering if your OCD kids pick up on your anxiety like mine does! I

can't even be in a bad mood or it will effect her. Recently, my OB/GYN

has been watching my CA-125 score, only because my mother just had

breast cancer. My score has been elevated and it is REALLY scary for

me. (This is a test for ovarian cancer, but it is an unreliable one)

I have been having a really hard time. And my daughter is picking up

on it.... I haven't told her anything because it really is nothing

right now. Just a scare....Anyone have any experience with this test?

Or how to teach your kids NOT to pick up on everyone else's feelings?

Thanks...... Ellen

[Guest guest]

I wish you the best results with the test. I have not heard of it or dealt with

it. My dd DOES pick up on my anxieties BIG time. I need to be very careful, as

well, or I could start a new worry.

Sharon

kids pick up OUR anxiety!!!

Hi all,

Haven't posted in a while, but I try to read when I can. I was

wondering if your OCD kids pick up on your anxiety like mine does! I

can't even be in a bad mood or it will effect her. Recently, my OB/GYN

has been watching my CA-125 score, only because my mother just had

breast cancer. My score has been elevated and it is REALLY scary for

me. (This is a test for ovarian cancer, but it is an unreliable one)

I have been having a really hard time. And my daughter is picking up

on it.... I haven't told her anything because it really is nothing

right now. Just a scare....Anyone have any experience with this test?

Or how to teach your kids NOT to pick up on everyone else's feelings?

Thanks...... Ellen

[Guest guest]

My kids can practically taste it when someone is upset--especially me. I

seem to be the one they pick it up from the most. Since they are fifteen and

thirteen, I try to tell them what I am upset about and if it something that is

my

problem (I have OCD too) I let them know that it is my issue and that they

don't have to worry about it. If I " own " the anxiety, they do better. Just

telling them that I am stressed but that I'll be okay seems to help. I have to

remind them sometimes that they don't have to be upset if someone else is. A

lot of times, though, they will hold it together until the anxiety is gone and

then they blow. Kelley in NV

[Guest guest]

so sorry to hear - - hope all is fine - I do get that test as such a

strong family history here- I'm praying for you - yes they're so

sensitive and with my dd I usually hide stuff as to not open a new can

of worms - but she's just 7 - seems 87 though so sometimes LOL!!! so we

do have heart to hearts here and there and she does get upset during

(as do I) but then has gotten over it - not become an issue - tough to

tell - hopefully you have nothing to tell - I'd go by her age and how

she's reacted in the past - keep us posted

God Bless

Eileen

Quoting musicgirl9395 <musicgirl9395@...>:

> Hi all,

> Haven't posted in a while, but I try to read when I can. I was

> wondering if your OCD kids pick up on your anxiety like mine does! I

> can't even be in a bad mood or it will effect her. Recently, my OB/GYN

> has been watching my CA-125 score, only because my mother just had

> breast cancer. My score has been elevated and it is REALLY scary for

> me. (This is a test for ovarian cancer, but it is an unreliable one)

> I have been having a really hard time. And my daughter is picking up

> on it.... I haven't told her anything because it really is nothing

> right now. Just a scare....Anyone have any experience with this test?

> Or how to teach your kids NOT to pick up on everyone else's feelings?

> Thanks...... Ellen

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