Re: another day in our lives...

[Guest guest]

I doubt this was his motivation for doing it.

Aspies like to express their individuality, but they also like bucking

the system. The older these boys get, the more they will find needless

injustices and constraints " imposed " upon them by society.

It IS important that boys conform if they are going to be successful,

but at the same time, they ought to be allowed a little leeway here

and there as kids, if for no other reason then to alleviate any stress

that might be accumulating in their lives.

Tom

Administrator

He said his friends liked it... I think they admire him for having the

guts to look 'different than the other 'paperdoll' kids.

[Guest guest]

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> He said his friends liked it... I think they admire him for having

the

> guts to look 'different than the other 'paperdoll' kids.

>

I think some of his motivation was .. She wants my hair cut so by

goodness I'll show her...spite, in other words. I agree with you

that they need to learn to conform to be successful, but if all the

kids followed the dress code it would be understandable. But several

kids dye their hair and hiphuggers are not allowed but 9 out of 10

girls wears hiphuggers.I'm just glad he has feelings about anything

other than computer games and is in a fighting mode instead of the

depressed don't give a d*mn about anything attitude he has had this

winter.

[Guest guest]

>

> He said his friends liked it... I think they admire him for having

the

> guts to look 'different than the other 'paperdoll' kids.

>

I think some of his motivation was .. She wants my hair cut so by

goodness I'll show her...spite, in other words. I agree with you

that they need to learn to conform to be successful, but if all the

kids followed the dress code it would be understandable. But several

kids dye their hair and hiphuggers are not allowed but 9 out of 10

girls wears hiphuggers.I'm just glad he has feelings about anything

other than computer games and is in a fighting mode instead of the

depressed don't give a d*mn about anything attitude he has had this

winter.

[Guest guest]

Hi and welcome to this list.

Thanks for sharing this story about your boys.

I too was rather shy in high school but still wore my own style. Looking at

a class photo from the time, I was the only one who deviated from what was

the 'mandatory' look at that time, both in hair and dress. I also have a

clip from a local paper of our class trip to Berlin. Besides covering the

trip in general, the journalist selected a few of us that she thought stuck

out enough to write something extra about. The caption under my picture says

" Inger is the only one who dares to be different. She only eats spaghetti

and candy. We went to the art museum together and her idol is Dalí. "

Though my taste has changed a bit since then, I still have my own dress

style (since I don't like the contemporary fashion now either) and still eat

only a few things.

I'm very glad my (half-Aspie) mom supported me being an original (although

she did sigh a bit when I had Vulcan eyebrows in my 20's) and didn't try to

make me into a clone just to fit in. I still grew into a responsible adult.

I'm sure your boys appreciate having such an open-minded and supportive mom

as much as I did.

Inger

another day in our lives...

I have twin 17 yo boys. They decided months ago to dye their hair.

Their hair is naturally brown. I figured they could want worse

things(drugs,alcohol etc) so I dyed Noahs black and ns blonde

so people could tell them apart. They were sick of being called 'the

twins'.I don't blame them there. They go to a private school where

there are about 30 kids in their grade and alot of them couldn't

tell them apart. Anyway , last week I got up as usual for our school

morning and noticed n had given himself a 'reverse mohawk',

shaved a path right down the middle of his hair. I didn't much care

for it but decided that I wouldn't say anything since in the scheme

of things that was no big deal. Well, I got a call from the

headmistress saying that he was pushing the dress code by dying his

hair blonde. (like none of the girls dye their hair) and that his

hair was unacceptble.SO>>> He proceeds to get the shaver out and

cuts his hair. He looked like a mangy dog. He had blonde pieces and

bald spots and it just looked comical. Again I didn't say anything

except to ask what his friends and teachers said. He said his

friends were upset that the teachers and headmistress made him cut

his reverse mohawk and that they thought he had 'b*lls'for doing it.

well, his highschool advisor said " well it looks a LITTLE better " So

yesterday morning I got up and n had shaved his head

completely and his EYEBROWS! Bless his heart he is 6'2 " and pretty

skinny. He looks like he just stepped out of a concentration camp.

Again I didn't say anything except to ask what everyone said. He

said his friends liked it... I think they admire him for having the

guts to look 'different than the other 'paperdoll' kids. I am proud

that he is confident enough to be an individual. I just find it so

interesting that he is so anxious about going to school and talking

in front of the clss yet would do something like this to make

himself stand out so much... Life is never boring around our house.

I'll take this over the screaming and fighting anyday! The

headmistress can kiss my feet.The boys are so interesting and

fascinating to me. I am totally amazed by the way they think

although I must admit sometimes it is baffling and hard to

understand. Remind me to tell you a story about the way they think

so 'literally' one day...

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[Guest guest]

Re:

> Remind me to tell you a story about the way they think

> so 'literally' one day...

Could you tell it *this* day? I don't want to wait.

Yours for better letters,

Kate Gladstone

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[Guest guest]

Re:

> Remind me to tell you a story about the way they think

> so 'literally' one day...

Could you tell it *this* day? I don't want to wait.

Yours for better letters,

Kate Gladstone

Handwriting Repair and the World Handwriting Contest

handwritingrepair@...

http://learn.to/handwrite, http://www.global2000.net/handwritingrepair

325 South Manning Boulevard

Albany, New York 12208-1731 USA

telephone 518/482-6763

AND REMEMBER ...

you can order books through my site!

(Amazon.com link -

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[Guest guest]

I'll be glad to. I hope you think it's funny and I am NOT making fun of

the kids.... When they were younger and had a stomach virus we would put

them to bed and place a trash can by the bed and tell them that if they

needed to throw up to use the trash can. Well about 2 years ago I went

into the boys bathroom downstairs and there was vomit all over the wall

and in the trash can. I said who got sick? n said I did about

three days ago. (YUCK) I said why didn't you throw up in the toilet

instead of the trash can? He said well, mom, you always told us to throw

up in the trash can.. Well, I guess I did. I about threw up myself

cleaning up 3 day old dried up puke!

Kate Gladstone wrote:

> Re:

>

> > Remind me to tell you a story about the way they think

> > so 'literally' one day...

>

> Could you tell it *this* day? I don't want to wait.

>

>

>

> Yours for better letters,

> Kate Gladstone

> Handwriting Repair and the World Handwriting Contest

> handwritingrepair@...

> http://learn.to/handwrite, http://www.global2000.net/handwritingrepair

> 325 South Manning Boulevard

> Albany, New York 12208-1731 USA

> telephone 518/482-6763

> AND REMEMBER ...

> you can order books through my site!

> (Amazon.com link -

> I get a 5% - 15% commission on each book sold)

>

>

> FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

> support and acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

> Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page in

> the folder marked " Other FAM Sites. "

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

I'll be glad to. I hope you think it's funny and I am NOT making fun of

the kids.... When they were younger and had a stomach virus we would put

them to bed and place a trash can by the bed and tell them that if they

needed to throw up to use the trash can. Well about 2 years ago I went

into the boys bathroom downstairs and there was vomit all over the wall

and in the trash can. I said who got sick? n said I did about

three days ago. (YUCK) I said why didn't you throw up in the toilet

instead of the trash can? He said well, mom, you always told us to throw

up in the trash can.. Well, I guess I did. I about threw up myself

cleaning up 3 day old dried up puke!

Kate Gladstone wrote:

> Re:

>

> > Remind me to tell you a story about the way they think

> > so 'literally' one day...

>

> Could you tell it *this* day? I don't want to wait.

>

>

>

> Yours for better letters,

> Kate Gladstone

> Handwriting Repair and the World Handwriting Contest

> handwritingrepair@...

> http://learn.to/handwrite, http://www.global2000.net/handwritingrepair

> 325 South Manning Boulevard

> Albany, New York 12208-1731 USA

> telephone 518/482-6763

> AND REMEMBER ...

> you can order books through my site!

> (Amazon.com link -

> I get a 5% - 15% commission on each book sold)

>

>

> FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

> support and acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

> Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page in

> the folder marked " Other FAM Sites. "

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

LOL! That was funny! :-D

Inger

Re: another day in our lives...

I'll be glad to. I hope you think it's funny and I am NOT making fun of

the kids.... When they were younger and had a stomach virus we would put

them to bed and place a trash can by the bed and tell them that if they

needed to throw up to use the trash can. Well about 2 years ago I went

into the boys bathroom downstairs and there was vomit all over the wall

and in the trash can. I said who got sick? n said I did about

three days ago. (YUCK) I said why didn't you throw up in the toilet

instead of the trash can? He said well, mom, you always told us to throw

up in the trash can.. Well, I guess I did. I about threw up myself

cleaning up 3 day old dried up puke!

[Guest guest]

it is now, but cleaning it up was not so funny . (except to the boys

laughing at me for urping and gagging)

Inger Lorelei wrote:

> LOL! That was funny! :-D

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> Inger

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> Re: another day in our lives...

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> I'll be glad to. I hope you think it's funny and I am NOT making fun of

> the kids.... When they were younger and had a stomach virus we would put

> them to bed and place a trash can by the bed and tell them that if they

> needed to throw up to use the trash can. Well about 2 years ago I went

> into the boys bathroom downstairs and there was vomit all over the wall

> and in the trash can. I said who got sick? n said I did about

> three days ago. (YUCK) I said why didn't you throw up in the toilet

> instead of the trash can? He said well, mom, you always told us to throw

> up in the trash can.. Well, I guess I did. I about threw up myself

> cleaning up 3 day old dried up puke!

>

>

>

>

>

> FAM Secret Society is a community based on respect, friendship,

> support and acceptance. Everyone is valued.

>

> Don't forget, there are links to other FAM sites on the Links page in

> the folder marked " Other FAM Sites. "

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

No it was sick :-)

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> LOL! That was funny! :-D

>

> Inger

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> Re: another day in our lives...

>

>

> I'll be glad to. I hope you think it's funny and I am NOT making

fun of

> the kids.... When they were younger and had a stomach virus we

would put

> them to bed and place a trash can by the bed and tell them that if

they

> needed to throw up to use the trash can. Well about 2 years ago I

went

> into the boys bathroom downstairs and there was vomit all over the

wall

> and in the trash can. I said who got sick? n said I did about

> three days ago. (YUCK) I said why didn't you throw up in the toilet

> instead of the trash can? He said well, mom, you always told us to

throw

> up in the trash can.. Well, I guess I did. I about threw up myself

> cleaning up 3 day old dried up puke!

>