Newly posted video of Ethan

April 18, 2006

I've had this video for some time but never published it until today. This

video shows a car

ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began biomedical interventions, right

around the

time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of Valtrex and Diflucan). It is

now posted on

the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link below.

(FOR PC)

http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

(FOR MAC)

http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

April 18, 2006

How beautiful is that?? Had I seen that not knowing what you've been through I would never believe he was a child labeled autistic. He is so sweet. It melted my heart when he apologized to you because there was no train today. What a wonderful father you are. I love the way you talk to him, the way you use your voice, the facial expressions, your hand motions. My husband doesn't get it. If he did half of what you do it would make a difference. Ethan is so lucky to have you.

Thank you for sharing that!!!

Kerrie

April 18, 2006

How beautiful is that?? Had I seen that not knowing what you've been through I would never believe he was a child labeled autistic. He is so sweet. It melted my heart when he apologized to you because there was no train today. What a wonderful father you are. I love the way you talk to him, the way you use your voice, the facial expressions, your hand motions. My husband doesn't get it. If he did half of what you do it would make a difference. Ethan is so lucky to have you.

Thank you for sharing that!!!

Kerrie

April 18, 2006

My goodness. I hardly know what to say. With what

breathtaking ease you and your son converse. I of

course long for the same moments with my son. Don't

we all? Thank you, Stan for publishing this. As

heart-wrenching as it is to watch, I couldn't turn

away from it's charm and warmth. God bless you and

your family. Sincerely, s, Mom to Ellie,

Audrey and Jack (4), ASD

--- Stan Kurtz <kurtzstan@...> wrote:

> I've had this video for some time but never

> published it until today. This video shows a car

> ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began

> biomedical interventions, right around the

> time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of

> Valtrex and Diflucan). It is now posted on

> the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link

> below.

>

> (FOR PC)

>

http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

>

> (FOR MAC)

>

http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

>

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April 18, 2006

My goodness. I hardly know what to say. With what

breathtaking ease you and your son converse. I of

course long for the same moments with my son. Don't

we all? Thank you, Stan for publishing this. As

heart-wrenching as it is to watch, I couldn't turn

away from it's charm and warmth. God bless you and

your family. Sincerely, s, Mom to Ellie,

Audrey and Jack (4), ASD

--- Stan Kurtz <kurtzstan@...> wrote:

> I've had this video for some time but never

> published it until today. This video shows a car

> ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began

> biomedical interventions, right around the

> time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of

> Valtrex and Diflucan). It is now posted on

> the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link

> below.

>

> (FOR PC)

>

http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

>

> (FOR MAC)

>

http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

>

__________________________________________________

April 18, 2006

Hi ,

You know there is a part of me that feels guilty in a way when I publish videos

about my

son. It can almost seem like gloating or bragging in the face of others who are

just

getting started or other families who have worked so hard and not had such good

result...

families who have not found their child's core issue yet. And as you continue

to tell your

story you wonder how many people secretly resent you... or quietly curse you.

My father-

in-law believes in an evil eye or said differently the negative energy that

happens when

people resent you. I know it bothers him that I continue to tell our story

publically.

I also have family that isn't so lucky just yet. I have a nephew who is still

severly impaired.

I've already had my brother snap at me while I was visiting because, " I never

stop talking

about autism. " It's the other side of trying to help people, which can, at

times, make other

feel uncomfortable... like you describe as you watched my son's 1 year progress

video

about how uncomfortable it felt to watch.

When I read your words I hear people's voices who I know I make uncomfortable

with my

passion, even though it is good intentioned. I also think about my brother and

sister-in-

law and nephew... I also think about my 47 year old cousin Kenny with autism who

lives by

himself in burg... too far away to really help him... I would need one on

one time,

which I don't seem to have with everything else I have going on... I think of my

cousin

Laurie, Kenny's sister, who had strange immune system problems all her life...

similar to

HIV, but without HIV... she died long before I knew enough to help her.

Even with the best intentions, there is discomfort caused by helping and

advocating when

there are others who have not yet recovered. I've learned that there has to be

a balance in

my efforts to some degree, because we are all different and our timing and

capacity to

learn and change and continue on when things are difficult... well, we only have

so much

energy at times.

This is a subtle dilemma that someone faces when they have a recovered (or

recovering)

child and chooses to try and help recover others.

That said, I understand what you may have felt when you saw the video, and my

intentions

are without malice and I hope you understand that I need to continue what I'm

doing to

help as many families as I can before I run out of energy or until life tears me

away to

other things.

- Stan

>

> > I've had this video for some time but never

> > published it until today. This video shows a car

> > ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began

> > biomedical interventions, right around the

> > time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of

> > Valtrex and Diflucan). It is now posted on

> > the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link

> > below.

> >

> > (FOR PC)

> >

> http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

> >

> > (FOR MAC)

> >

> http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

> >

>

> __________________________________________________

>

April 18, 2006

Hi Kerrie,

I feel for you.

Every parent has the capacity to contribute something when the time is right.

No one

signs up for an autism diagnosis and some people need more time to accept it,

understand it, and find their place in the recovery strategy. I wouldn't focus

on

resentment. It's easy to do, but it won't help your husband be more involved.

I would

focus on praising anything he does to help, and associate that to how your son

is getting

better. You may have to work harder to show him a friendly place to put his

energy into

that has some type of reward. (That sound a bit like ABA, I know... but it

works)

If you let resentment come over you, your husband will retreat. If you show him

that

something he does... anything he does contributes to his child's recovery then

you might

have a better chance of him being more involved.

I know it's not easy and these are just spoken words from a guy who doesn't know

the

details of the difficulty in your household, but I do know a little about the

dynamics of how

autism effects a household and how powerless and full of guilt and resentment it

can

make you feel.

You both love your child. I would start from there and try to not give up on

your husband

just yet. He's the one you have and the one who is there. Some don't stay

around at all.

- Stan

>

> How beautiful is that?? Had I seen that not knowing what you've been

> through I would never believe he was a child labeled autistic. He is so

sweet. It

> melted my heart when he apologized to you because there was no train today.

> What a wonderful father you are. I love the way you talk to him, the way you

> use your voice, the facial expressions, your hand motions. My husband

> doesn't get it. If he did half of what you do it would make a difference.

Ethan is

> so lucky to have you.

>

> Thank you for sharing that!!!

>

> Kerrie

>

April 19, 2006

Stan,

You & Ethan continue to inspire me with all your videos/stories to

keep the faith alive that someday I'll be able to bring back my own

Ethan too. Your Ethan is my poster boy (and a living proof) to remind

me that autism is treatable!

You inspire many people so please continue with what you're doing

because you continue to give us hope. And at this point, hope means a

lot!

Awi

> >

> > > I've had this video for some time but never

> > > published it until today. This video shows a car

> > > ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began

> > > biomedical interventions, right around the

> > > time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of

> > > Valtrex and Diflucan). It is now posted on

> > > the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link

> > > below.

> > >

> > > (FOR PC)

> > >

> > http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

> > >

> > > (FOR MAC)

> > >

> > http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

> > >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

April 19, 2006

Where can I view this video? ANdreaautismpinoy <autismpinoy@...> wrote: Stan,You & Ethan continue to inspire me with all your videos/stories tokeep the faith alive that someday I'll be able to bring back my ownEthan too. Your Ethan is my poster boy (and a living proof) to remindme that autism is treatable! You inspire many people so please continue with what you're doingbecause you continue to give us hope. And at this point, hope means alot!Awi> > > > > I've had this video for some time but never> > > published it until today. This video shows a car > > > ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began> > > biomedical interventions, right around the > > > time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of> > > Valtrex and Diflucan). It is now posted on > > > the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link>

> > below.> > > > > > (FOR PC)> > > > > >> > http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv> > > > > > (FOR MAC)> > > > > >> > http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov> > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > __________________________________________________> >

April 19, 2006

Stan just saw the video. What a heart warming exchange, one only the

parent of a recovered child can possibly appreciate. Your son is very

cute and you guys are having fun doing something as boring as riding

to school. Tons of interaction with barely any eye contact. You are

doing your RDI consultant proud. You should send this to Steve

Gutstein at the Connections Center, its the ultimate of what every

parent should be striving towards (even though I know its almost all

biomedical that got your son to where he is). How old is he in the

video?

Gayatri

>

> I've had this video for some time but never published it until

today. This video shows a car

> ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began biomedical

interventions, right around the

> time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of Valtrex and

Diflucan). It is now posted on

> the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link below.

>

> (FOR PC)

>

> http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

>

> (FOR MAC)

>

> http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

>

April 19, 2006

Hi Stan,

I've never posted before but have read alot. I, for one, am so

grateful when I see or hear recovery stories. It gives me hope and

hope is what keeps me going each and every single day.

The first time I saw Ethan's recovery video on Generation Rescue, I

watched it 3 times in a row and cried and cried, but in a good way.

I've learned that every single child is different and that we have

to get to the root of the issue which may take time but time is all

I have and I'm o.k. with that.

I have also received alot of help and advise from the Shoemaker

family and I can't tell you the number of times I have watched

's recovery video. Every time I'm feeling a little down or

helpless, I watch that video and it makes me feel soooooo much

better and I pick myself back up and get back at it.

I think everyone that is on this discussion board or any other

discussion board for that matter, absolutely loves the recovery

stories and I don't think you should ever feel guilty about sharing

your story. We all know that you are not gloating about your child

being recovered, we know how hard you have worked to help Ethan get

better and how hard you are working to help all of us.

If it weren't for you and the Shoemaker's sharing your stories I

might have threw in the towel by now but hearing and seeing your

stories keeps me striving to make my daughter better each day.

The recovery videos have helped me to educate my friends and family

members who thought I was a kook in the beginning of treating my

daughter. I would say 90% of them actually understand now because

they saw it with their own eyes. Without that video to share with

them, they would all still be on the fence. Sometimes people need

to " see it to believe it " ~~ I know I have sent people numerous

things to read about recovery and I know that most of them deleted

it or just didn't have " the time " but when I send them the videos to

watch, I ALWAYS get an email saying " Wow, that was amazing " .

I thank all of you from the bottom of my heart, I know how hard I

work on a daily basis just trying to keep up with " reading " all of

my discussion boards, I can't imagine how you guys keep up with

answering all of our questions and educating all of us.

So I send my thanks to you, & Angie (Shoemaker), and all the

other parents who share their stories. It has helped me and my

family more than you know.

Thank you again,

Baldwin

> >

> > > I've had this video for some time but never

> > > published it until today. This video shows a car

> > > ride to school with Ethan 1 year after we began

> > > biomedical interventions, right around the

> > > time when we stopped Valtrex (after 9 months of

> > > Valtrex and Diflucan). It is now posted on

> > > the www.recoveryvideos.com site and at this link

> > > below.

> > >

> > > (FOR PC)

> > >

> > http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.wmv

> > >

> > > (FOR MAC)

> > >

> > http://www.childrenscornerschool.com/video/ethancar.mov

> > >

> >

> > __________________________________________________

> >

April 19, 2006