Any Ministers Here??

[Guest guest]

OK, so now we are dealing with eating problems.

Quick background/summary: is now in 11th grade. OCD, the

disorder, officially began (had always had a bit) in 6th grade.

also has Aspergers (on autism spectrum), so sometimes that is

thrown into the mix here. His only social outlet is his school

fencing club; no friends, social life, online chatting or anything.

He's always had a VERY limited diet. Food texture part of the

problem, chewing, and then I guess taste too, hard to get him to try

new foods. Quick rundown of most eaten foods: Chicken (fried,

nuggets, patties); soft tacos (only time he gets any beef); mac &

cheese; potatos (fries, baked, mashed); Ham & Cheese Hot Pockets;

cheese pizza; biscuits; hot dogs with mayo; corn dogs; vanilla ice

cream; some pasta like Fettucine Alfredo, Lipton Chicken Noodles; a

few things I can't think of now too, but no fruits, veges (I'm not a

vege eater either much).

So - OCD has been acting up now. AND has been reading the

Bible nightly pretty much this past year or so at bedtime.

Well - apparently WAY back in elementary school and then also in 8th

grade he had sworn some things to God. Things he ignored or had

forgotten about until now. In 8th grade he swore he wouldn't take

fencing. And in elementary school, that he wouldn't eat ham (which

by the way, ham sandwiches were his only lunch, only thing he would

eat). NOW he is not ignoring those " oaths " anymore. Suddenly he

can't go to fencing. And he can't eat Hot Pockets (the ham); can't

eat something that might not be unleavened; isn't sure about tacos

due to beef, and then there's the cheese and lettuce; oh, I got him

to eat a baked potato tonite but NO margarine, he isn't sure about

it. He's not eating lunch at school (only ate cheese pizza and/or

fries).

Now - even though perhaps it was OCD that made him " swear to God " ,

knock OCD out of the picture, the point is he DID swear to God and he

now feels he has to abide by it (though he hadn't been). So for him,

forget OCD making him do it, he " swore. "

So this week I began being very understanding, talking about what God

would want for him, etc. Then I lost some patience and was more to

the point. Of course that solves nothing.

We don't go to church so I have no minister to immediately call on.

I've been out of work sick this week (caught what had on the

weekend and can't shake the fever). I did go in for 2 hours this

a.m. There's a coworker whose husband is a minister, but they are

out of town for the week!

SIGH! 's always had a bit of scrupulosity. He stayed home

from fencing Monday night, and I guess he'll stay home tomorrow

(twice a week they meet). I'm not sure he's 100% recovered from

this " bug " he had and I have so I'm sort of not pushing it for now.

But with his limited diet, he's knocking out the few foods he has,

worrying about " unleavened " and ham or beef and chicken (for whatever

reason) and so on. I've told him he is NOT Jewish or Hindu or

whatever, but the point for him is he did " swear " and also some of it

being what the Bible says. SIGH!!

I need someone with some " God clout " so to speak to tell him it's OK

NOT to keep those oaths he swore and explain why, I can't get through

to him.

Just had to vent!

(hanging in!)