Re: Crime and punishment (was I'm Depressed)

September 1, 2005

I only had to get spanked once or twice, and those were times when I did something that was life-threatening. Most of the time they would put me in the "naughty chair". This was a rather uncomfortable chair in the den from which I could see the TV and my playroom, but the TV was off of course and I couldn't play with the toys. I had to sit there for usually 15 minutes at a time. It was very effective.

Now, my brutish "friends" were raised differently. They got spankings fairly frequently or were sent to their rooms. I suppose the parents thought it was working because of how they cried and carried on, but as soon as they were out of sight and earshot, the crying would almost always stop. If they had been sent to their room, they would usually spit on the floor over their parent's bedroom, especially at night when the parents were actually in bed.

I don't know why they thought spanking would work on those kids anyway. They were always beating the living daylights out of each other as it was so a spanking was nothing.

September 1, 2005

This is why I have chosen not to become a parent. I realize I do not

have the patience or the skill to care for a child.

Your approach makes sense .

Tom

OKay, then there is one way left for teaching a child. It's a full

time job that shouldn't be handed over to daycares, teachers, day

camps. It should be handled by a full time parent at home. We've

created a society that doesn't respect the full time parent spending

their days teaching and disciplining the future citizens of the

world. Children are instead thrown into group situations where

there is one caregiver for every 4-8 children who cannot possible

give each of them the nurturing (including discipline) s/he needs.

We wonder why kids group together to create families and develop

an " us against the world " attitude.

Discipline, by the way comes from the root " disciple " which is

someone to be taught.

September 1, 2005