Re: Update on Beth's hospitalization

[Guest guest]

Maralee,

~tight hugs~ I am soooo glad to hear that Beth is doing so much

better, and yet is still basically " herself " !!! ~hugs~ It is a

wonderful break, one that I am sure you can use!!!

As for you... Deario, you and I both know that when we have been

under enormous stress, we hold it together until it begins to let up.

Only then can we allow ourselves to " deal with it " internally. You

have been so strong and have held her together through so much this

summer... It built to a climax and now is starting to calm... it is

soooo incredibly normal for you now to have emotional bouts. It is

all that subconcious worry and stress that you have held in for so

long... and enough has been relieved so that even though more is yet

to come, your body is allowing some pressure release so that you are

physically and emotionally strong enough to take on the transitions

that are coming up! I am soooo glad to hear this. Otherwise, we would

be reading about the onset of ulcers, weight gain, depression,

unexplainable anxiety attacks, and you would eventually fall apart

physically and emotionally. You deserve this break!!! Put your feet

up, enjoy your daughter's new found stability (such as our kids have)

and let tomarrow take care of itself for now!!!

I am rooting for you... Take some time to watch a sad movie, to take

a walk, to enjoy the season changing... You deserve some time and it

sounds like you have a temporary repreeve!!!

~tight hugs from someone who loves you!!!~

Rabecca

>

> As for me, I seemed to fall apart emotionally today at work for some

> reason. I started crying during my team meeting when talking about

life

> lately, and also when I was talking to my boss this afternoon. I

think

> I'm at the end of my rope...I've had so many stressful (both good

stress

> and bad stress) things happening in my life in the past two

months....

[Guest guest]

Maralee,

~tight hugs~ I am soooo glad to hear that Beth is doing so much

better, and yet is still basically " herself " !!! ~hugs~ It is a

wonderful break, one that I am sure you can use!!!

As for you... Deario, you and I both know that when we have been

under enormous stress, we hold it together until it begins to let up.

Only then can we allow ourselves to " deal with it " internally. You

have been so strong and have held her together through so much this

summer... It built to a climax and now is starting to calm... it is

soooo incredibly normal for you now to have emotional bouts. It is

all that subconcious worry and stress that you have held in for so

long... and enough has been relieved so that even though more is yet

to come, your body is allowing some pressure release so that you are

physically and emotionally strong enough to take on the transitions

that are coming up! I am soooo glad to hear this. Otherwise, we would

be reading about the onset of ulcers, weight gain, depression,

unexplainable anxiety attacks, and you would eventually fall apart

physically and emotionally. You deserve this break!!! Put your feet

up, enjoy your daughter's new found stability (such as our kids have)

and let tomarrow take care of itself for now!!!

I am rooting for you... Take some time to watch a sad movie, to take

a walk, to enjoy the season changing... You deserve some time and it

sounds like you have a temporary repreeve!!!

~tight hugs from someone who loves you!!!~

Rabecca

>

> As for me, I seemed to fall apart emotionally today at work for some

> reason. I started crying during my team meeting when talking about

life

> lately, and also when I was talking to my boss this afternoon. I

think

> I'm at the end of my rope...I've had so many stressful (both good

stress

> and bad stress) things happening in my life in the past two

months....

[Guest guest]

Maralee,

is exactly right. I have also had outbursts following a

stressful time like this, and often think, " But things are better

now, why am I freaking out? " And the answer is because now it is

SAFE to. Who can freak out at the hospital? You've had to hold it

together so much, and now you need to destressify yourself. I hope

you will give yourself permission to feel these feelings and

unwind. Beth will also respond better if she sees you reacting to

stress in a healthy way.

I don't know you, but I am really proud of what you've

accomplished. All those trips and company and a hospitilization

crisis, and you did it! Good for You!

You've done a lot for everyone else; take it from me, you need to

recharge yourself.

Best wishes~

Candy

> Maralee,

>

> ~tight hugs~ I am soooo glad to hear that Beth is doing so much

> better, and yet is still basically " herself " !!! ~hugs~ It is a

> wonderful break, one that I am sure you can use!!!

>

> As for you... Deario, you and I both know that when we have been

> under enormous stress, we hold it together until it begins to let

up.

> Only then can we allow ourselves to " deal with it " internally. You

> have been so strong and have held her together through so much

this

> summer... It built to a climax and now is starting to calm... it

is

> soooo incredibly normal for you now to have emotional bouts. It is

> all that subconcious worry and stress that you have held in for so

> long... and enough has been relieved so that even though more is

yet

> to come, your body is allowing some pressure release so that you

are

> physically and emotionally strong enough to take on the

transitions

> that are coming up! I am soooo glad to hear this. Otherwise, we

would

> be reading about the onset of ulcers, weight gain, depression,

> unexplainable anxiety attacks, and you would eventually fall apart

> physically and emotionally. You deserve this break!!! Put your

feet

> up, enjoy your daughter's new found stability (such as our kids

have)

> and let tomarrow take care of itself for now!!!

>

> I am rooting for you... Take some time to watch a sad movie, to

take

> a walk, to enjoy the season changing... You deserve some time and

it

> sounds like you have a temporary repreeve!!!

>

> ~tight hugs from someone who loves you!!!~

> Rabecca

>

>

> >

> > As for me, I seemed to fall apart emotionally today at work for

some

> > reason. I started crying during my team meeting when talking

about

> life

> > lately, and also when I was talking to my boss this afternoon. I

> think

> > I'm at the end of my rope...I've had so many stressful (both

good

> stress

> > and bad stress) things happening in my life in the past two

> months....

[Guest guest]

Maralee,

is exactly right. I have also had outbursts following a

stressful time like this, and often think, " But things are better

now, why am I freaking out? " And the answer is because now it is

SAFE to. Who can freak out at the hospital? You've had to hold it

together so much, and now you need to destressify yourself. I hope

you will give yourself permission to feel these feelings and

unwind. Beth will also respond better if she sees you reacting to

stress in a healthy way.

I don't know you, but I am really proud of what you've

accomplished. All those trips and company and a hospitilization

crisis, and you did it! Good for You!

You've done a lot for everyone else; take it from me, you need to

recharge yourself.

Best wishes~

Candy

> Maralee,

>

> ~tight hugs~ I am soooo glad to hear that Beth is doing so much

> better, and yet is still basically " herself " !!! ~hugs~ It is a

> wonderful break, one that I am sure you can use!!!

>

> As for you... Deario, you and I both know that when we have been

> under enormous stress, we hold it together until it begins to let

up.

> Only then can we allow ourselves to " deal with it " internally. You

> have been so strong and have held her together through so much

this

> summer... It built to a climax and now is starting to calm... it

is

> soooo incredibly normal for you now to have emotional bouts. It is

> all that subconcious worry and stress that you have held in for so

> long... and enough has been relieved so that even though more is

yet

> to come, your body is allowing some pressure release so that you

are

> physically and emotionally strong enough to take on the

transitions

> that are coming up! I am soooo glad to hear this. Otherwise, we

would

> be reading about the onset of ulcers, weight gain, depression,

> unexplainable anxiety attacks, and you would eventually fall apart

> physically and emotionally. You deserve this break!!! Put your

feet

> up, enjoy your daughter's new found stability (such as our kids

have)

> and let tomarrow take care of itself for now!!!

>

> I am rooting for you... Take some time to watch a sad movie, to

take

> a walk, to enjoy the season changing... You deserve some time and

it

> sounds like you have a temporary repreeve!!!

>

> ~tight hugs from someone who loves you!!!~

> Rabecca

>

>

> >

> > As for me, I seemed to fall apart emotionally today at work for

some

> > reason. I started crying during my team meeting when talking

about

> life

> > lately, and also when I was talking to my boss this afternoon. I

> think

> > I'm at the end of my rope...I've had so many stressful (both

good

> stress

> > and bad stress) things happening in my life in the past two

> months....

[Guest guest]

Carolyn,

~tight hugs~ You... Me.... Maralee... and all the rest of the

caretakers of the world all need a good cry right now, a pat on the

back, and hey, a vacation without worries would be nice!!! ~winks~ (I

was the one writing to Maralee, so I guess this one was to me...

~hugs~) Anyway, you deario have too much on your plate and take on

too much of your family's strife! They are the only ones that can

control the drinking, their relationships, their attitudes, their

emotions, etc. I know that you want them all to be happy... We all

want our families to be happy!!! ~hugs~ Unfortunately, if they are

all grown up and choose to make bad choices, our hearts may break,

but there is little to nothing we can do about it but bleed and pray

for the best... and vent a bit too!!!

I hope you are taking some time for yourself... Perhaps a long bubble

bath... with candles for light... soft music... and no one else

within hearing range so you can sing along as loud as you want and

off tune too!!! (this really works well if done with your whole heart

and at the top of your lungs... Either that or you need to take a

long walk in the rain, barefooted, where you can splash in all the

puddles, do a jig, cry, and yell to your hearts content (make sure

you are in an isolated location first so that the padded wagon

doesn't show up!) Anyway you can get it, you need stress relief!!!

I am glad you are able to share your stress, your joys, and your

pains here. We all are here together, muddling through this thing we

call " life " . It may not be perfect, but it is the best we've got!!!

~tight squeeze~ hang in there girl!!!

~hugs~

Rabecca

>

> I know you were writing this to Beth's mom, sorry your

> name escapes me right now. Anyway you have helped me with

> these words! This is exactly what is wrong with me right