You can lead a horse to water BUT

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I am always hesitant to venture an opinion about many OCD related

things as I feel not very experienced as OCD was only part of our

lives (about 3months) for such a short time and I have not

experienced many of the things that I read about but one thing we all

share is the pain of what is happening to our children and the

willingness to do ANYTHING that will make them well again. I keep up

with this list so I can continue to educate myself in case this

enters our lives again.

I have been reading about many who are going to therapists and the

children promising (while there) that they will do this and that and

then not follow through. It seems to me that they are possibly not

ready at this time for therapy and it must be pointless going if they

are not co-operating. I have learned that as mothers we would suffer

their pain if we could, drive a million miles to get the right help

any many others things BUT the one thing we cant do for them is their

therapy. We can love them, sympathise with them, support them, help

them but with therapy they have to WANT to do it and then follow it

through. After all the whole point of therapy is to help solve the

things that are affecting and happening to THEM. I know it's a lot

of work and they would probably rather be doing other things but my

daughter looked at this way and these are HER words, you have to

suffer the pain for the big gain. Before we went to therapy I gad an

idea of what the process would be for ERT but had no idea if it would

work but we told our daughter that it would work and it would take a

lot of time and effort on her part (little did I know then that we

would be walking up and down the hallway for 60 minutes a day and

then washing hands and shaking them dry for 30 minutes).

So my comment would be that if they cant or wont co-operate with

therapy at the moment save your time and your money for when they ARe

ready, Hence my opening statement, You can lead a horse to water but

you cant make it drink.

Dont know if this will help anyone but I felt compelled to write this.

Kerrie

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Kerrie,

You are right!!

take care, wendy in canada

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> I have been reading about many who are going to therapists and the

> children promising (while there) that they will do this and that and

> then not follow through. It seems to me that they are possibly not

> ready at this time for therapy and it must be pointless going if

they are not co-operating. I have learned that as mothers we would

suffer their pain if we could, drive a million miles to get the right

help any many others things BUT the one thing we cant do for them is

their therapy. We can love them, sympathise with them, support them,

help them but with therapy they have to WANT to do it and then follow

it through. After all the whole point of therapy is to help solve the

things that are affecting and happening to THEM. .........

............. Dont know if this will help anyone but I felt compelled

to write this.> Kerrie