Re: I'm Here :o/ (Ranting)

[Guest guest]

Helen!~ The reason that you have Angel in your moniker is because you are one, I have heard of the hellish 3 years those poor kids have been through, you fought for them to get them from your son and now your daughter acts up.

They say a mother is the one who takes care of you and loves you no matter what, you have proven that you are chosen to be their mom beyond all scope.

Seems to be your daughter does not accept responsibility, nor is she an adult and is using threats as a strangle hold on you.

May the angels care for you and them always

LOVE Anne

[Guest guest]

Mom,

I'm very sorry to read this. I have two cousins that are going through this same thing, but in reverse. They were with an unfit parent, then taken out by the courts, given to the abusive parent. My oldest cousin, come to find out, was being sexually harassed by her Father's friend (who we found out was a registered sex offender) and the Father is defending his friend, saying that it was just a joke. The police say this is what he does to girls before he rapes them. I don't see how any father can defend his friend instead of his own child. I wish I had words of wisdom for you, but I think I've said all I can during the stint with their "father". This seems so unfair. I'm not sure why God would allow this to happen to these innocent children, but perhaps there is a reason. I used to wonder that myself when I was little and going through the same thing, but now I can see that it made me a better person. I can only hope that these girls can heal as they grow, and not become bitter towards their parents. (as I have) Please make sure you are taking care of yourself. If for no other reason than the girls need you, but you are much loved and I for one would hate to see your health suffer more than it already has. (((((((Mom))))))

Love,

I'm Here :o/ (Ranting)

Have missed everyone!!! Have all the Halloween parties done (Thank Goodness) Trick or Treating over, went to the girls school Halloween parties, sat and sun trick or treating, all the while ill... I have infectious sinusitis and my winter cough, plus a headache from H---! Hands hurt beyond hurt, muscle pain in right thigh and hip makes sitting and laying very difficult, heart skipping like crazy, I know its from overdoing... Tried to get my daughter to take the girls to some of these functions as she had the time off and I told her I was very ill, her response "your Always ill, I'm busy" That's, OK, the girls didn't want to go with her anyway... The girls are here whenever they are off from school and when they do have school during the week, I'm there taking care of them... I do the girls washing and ironing fix their supper and help them clean their rooms, have been sorting summer cloths and winter cloths as mother dearest just throws them all together and it ends up as one Big pile of cloths in the middle of the floor and then she screams at the girls to clean it up and make sure they put everything where it Belongs! They are 10-9-and 7, they just cry as to her screaming at them all the time and cursing at them they just want to come back home here to live... And the courts said that Being with a parent is better for the children then leaving them with us (their grandparents, who raised them for 7 years!!!) I'm Still raising them only at mother dearest convenience now... I swear, I think I'm the free maid she needs, that's how I'm treated... I Love the girls so much, it went from their fathers brutality, to now their mothers and the courts allow it ( I'm just so tired and worn out, physically and emotionaly... I just don't know what to tell the girls anymore, the older two keep crying and crying, wondering why they have to stay with their mother when she doesn't want them anyways... I've covered for their mother, i stick up for her, i try and explain to them she just isn't used to children it will get better, but they don't believe a word of it... (I Know what I would Like to tell them, but i can't do that to the children, that would make me as bad as her) The little one copes with it all as to her this is Better than what she had to go through with her so called father!!! And thats bad!!! The girls are suppose to be seeing a therapist to help them through all this, but even mother dearest, just like father dearest, won't allow it, she also says they Don't need one, they are coping fine!!! They won't talk to her about anything, she makes fun of them no matter what they say... The two older ones are just staring to develope and they are self conscience of it, and what does she do? She will go right up to them, in Front of her friends, in public and grab their tops and say "Looky, they have boobies" they just jave tears go down their faces as they are so embaressed... How can a True mother do this to her own children??? She calls them B----, Stupid, Idiots and so on... I guess she has told the girls, as they told me she said "I can't wait till your old enough to do this work yourselves and watch yourselves, then your B---- of a grandmother won't have to come here anymore"... They are at the end of their ropes and so am I... If I say anything, she will stop All contact with the girls and us, I and They couldn't handle that... The court is no help, we're all caught in the middle and the tears are flowing from me again, this just isn't right ( They have gone through so much, how much more do they and us have to go through??? They all three say they wish they were dead! That Scares me to death!!! How much more is God going to allow all of us to endure??? This has been going on now for three years!!! A year and a half with him and now a year and a half with her ( It All boils down to child support just like it did with him... We had the girls all summer and no finacial help from her, (didn't ask for any) We would take the girls in a heartbeat and they can Both keep their darn child support and choke on it as far as we're concerned, as long as our girls are safe and happy again we'll manage somehow on our retirement pay... Heaven help us...

Sorry for the vent, I'm just so tired... Please Pray for my granbabies and give them the strength they need...

((( Angel Hugs )))

Helen

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[Guest guest]

Much love and big hugs to you Helen. The Family Court is a mess. The

welfare of the children is rarely uppermost in their mind. You are a

godsend for the children. On behalf of the three girls, Thank YOU!

Lee

P.S. Sorry I'm no mail and can't post much right now.

> Have missed everyone!!! Have all the Halloween parties done

(Thank

> Goodness) Trick or Treating over, went to the girls school

Halloween parties, sat and

> sun trick or treating, all the while ill... I have infectious

sinusitis and

> my winter cough, plus a headache from H---! Hands hurt beyond

hurt, muscle

> pain in right thigh and hip makes sitting and laying very

difficult, heart

> skipping like crazy, I know its from overdoing... Tried to get my

daughter to take

> the girls to some of these functions as she had the time off and I

told her I

> was very ill, her response " your Always ill, I'm busy " That's,

OK, the girls

> didn't want to go with her anyway... The girls are here whenever

they are

> off from school and when they do have school during the week, I'm

there taking

> care of them... I do the girls washing and ironing fix their

supper and help

> them clean their rooms, have been sorting summer cloths and winter

cloths as

> mother dearest just throws them all together and it ends up as one

Big pile of

> cloths in the middle of the floor and then she screams at the

girls to clean it

> up and make sure they put everything where it Belongs! They are

10-9-and 7,

> they just cry as to her screaming at them all the time and cursing

at them

> they just want to come back home here to live... And the courts

said that Being

> with a parent is better for the children then leaving them with us

(their

> grandparents, who raised them for 7 years!!!) I'm Still raising

them only at

> mother dearest convenience now... I swear, I think I'm the free

maid she needs,

> that's how I'm treated... I Love the girls so much, it went from

their fathers

> brutality, to now their mothers and the courts allow it ( I'm

just so

> tired and worn out, physically and emotionaly... I just don't

know what to tell

> the girls anymore, the older two keep crying and crying, wondering

why they

> have to stay with their mother when she doesn't want them

anyways... I've covered

> for their mother, i stick up for her, i try and explain to them

she just

> isn't used to children it will get better, but they don't believe

a word of it...

> (I Know what I would Like to tell them, but i can't do that to the

children,

> that would make me as bad as her) The little one copes with it

all as to her

> this is Better than what she had to go through with her so called

father!!!

> And thats bad!!! The girls are suppose to be seeing a therapist

to help them

> through all this, but even mother dearest, just like father

dearest, won't

> allow it, she also says they Don't need one, they are coping

fine!!! They won't

> talk to her about anything, she makes fun of them no matter what

they say...

> The two older ones are just staring to develope and they are self

conscience of

> it, and what does she do? She will go right up to them, in Front

of her

> friends, in public and grab their tops and say " Looky, they have

boobies " they

> just jave tears go down their faces as they are so embaressed...

How can a True

> mother do this to her own children??? She calls them B----,

Stupid, Idiots

> and so on... I guess she has told the girls, as they told me she

said " I

> can't wait till your old enough to do this work yourselves and

watch yourselves,

> then your B---- of a grandmother won't have to come here

anymore " ... They are

> at the end of their ropes and so am I... If I say anything, she

will stop All

> contact with the girls and us, I and They couldn't handle that...

The court

> is no help, we're all caught in the middle and the tears are

flowing from me

> again, this just isn't right ( They have gone through so much,

how much more

> do they and us have to go through??? They all three say they wish

they were

> dead! That Scares me to death!!! How much more is God going to

allow all of

> us to endure??? This has been going on now for three years!!! A

year and a

> half with him and now a year and a half with her ( It All boils

down to

> child support just like it did with him... We had the girls all

summer and no

> finacial help from her, (didn't ask for any) We would take the

girls in a

> heartbeat and they can Both keep their darn child support and

choke on it as far as

> we're concerned, as long as our girls are safe and happy again

we'll manage

> somehow on our retirement pay... Heaven help us...

> Sorry for the vent, I'm just so tired... Please Pray for my

granbabies and

> give them the strength they need...

> ((( Angel Hugs )))

> Helen

[Guest guest]

Helen, could you not get help from a child protection agency, this scene you give is so cruel to all of you, you are their Mom, not the biological mother and father

Your daughter should lose custody, but of course, the great almighty court system will not allow it.

She is a baby in adult clothing, no responsibility, no right to raise kids.

You have to set aside some 'calm' time for yourself Helen, try if you broke down then who will care for these precious little children

Sending loving hugs

Anne