Guest guest Posted October 8, 2003 Report Share Posted October 8, 2003 Hi , You have hit the nail on the head. It *is* an all or nothing way of thinking. I don't know why it is so hard to be somewhere in the middle. I am working right now on my internal messages. Everytime I say " I suck " (or worse) because I failed to be perfect, I am trying to catch myself and replace it with a positive message. You are right... the more often we can get past this, the less of an issue it will prove to be. I hope! Redondo > Message: 4 > Date: Tue, 07 Oct 2003 16:51:51 -0000 > From: " rachelthea " <rcullenen@...> > Subject: Re: Hello again > > This is one of my biggest struggles too - the struggle against > perfectionism! I am such an all-or-nothing persion. I either have to > be 110% on the program, or eating completely unhealthily and not > exercising at all. Why is it so difficult to reach that point of > moderation?! > > Congratulations on sticking with it this morning even without the > workout. I know I am very inclined to do the same thing - one screw- > up and I throw in the towel, declare the day or week a failure. It is > so hard not to do that, but I think every time we are able to continue > despite a mishap, it makes our ability to do so in the future that much > stronger. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2003 Report Share Posted October 8, 2003 Hi , Thanks for the welcome! I have done that too - given up before I've even tried because I wasn't instantly perfect at something. I am *slowly* learning that some things take time! I like your idea about the little child. I've also tried saying to myself, if A (my best friend) came to you with this, how would you treat her? Would you tell her she was awful and she should just give up? Of course not. I am much nicer to other people than I am to myself, sadly. I like the added dimension of discipline... I certainly do need to learn to discipline myself, which is NOT the same thing as beating myself up. Redondo > From: " " <chandani@...> > Subject: Re: Hello again > > Hi , and welcome back! > Your struggle with perfectionism is SO familiar. I've fought that same > battle most of my life. I'm doing a lot better than I used to, but it's > always there in the back of my mind...I can hardly stand to do anything > I'm not already really good at (hello? How are you supposed to learn > anything new?) and I'd rather shut down entirely than be disappointed in > myself for not meeting impossible standards. It's a harsh way to deal > with yourself...I can't think of anyone else on this planet I would > dream of treating that way. Sometimes I just have to try to remember to > treat myself like a little child who's precious to me. Encourage a lot > and even spoil that child a little bit, knowing that where discipline is > necessary it's only to help that child learn to make better choices, > not to punish or humiliate. > > -- in ID Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2003 Report Share Posted October 8, 2003 Hi , You're right - it is all a matter of perspective. If I exercise *at all*, I'm already doing better than just being a couch potato. I am also trying to keep the food and the exercise separate in a way. I can eat cleanly. And as it has been pointed out many times, you're always only a couple of hours away from getting back on track with the food. Redondo > From: " Dupree " <jenniferdupree@...> > Subject: Re: Hello again > > Not to promote missing workouts or anything, but for the majority of my > first challenge I don't think I made all 6 days in any one week. I > usually made at least 5, though. When I'd start to get upset with > myself about missing a workout a week I'd mention it to any number of my > friends (none of whom workout regularly) and their reaction would make > me realize that me working out 5x/week is a whole lot more than the > majority does. > > in WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted October 8, 2003 Report Share Posted October 8, 2003 Hi ! I remember you, too!!! :-) I laughed when I read " Perfection is the enemy of the good. " Well, then, it's quite simple, isn't it? I'm all about the good, baby! :-) You're right... I should reread Skwigg's words of wisdom. Funny how I get so stubborn in my negativity sometimes. God forbid I should be wrong about being wrong. Or something like that. Good luck to you. We are STRONG WOMEN. We are healthy women. We can do this! Redondo > From: Lyons <zookeeper08@...> > Subject: Re: Re: Hello again > > Hey, Redondo , I remember you! We both did C1 in > January, and struggled pretty much ever since then. > We're both back now, so let's really go for it! > > Remember: Perfection is the enemy of the good. > > We don't need to be perfect. No one is. Remember > Skwigg's essay about finishers? The one where she > talks about the finishers -- they won't do a " perfect " > challange, but they do a whole lot better than the one > who keeps starting over, in quest of the perfect > challange....We both oughta reread it. > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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