Syndie and C

[Guest guest]

If it were me I would think " do I need the aggravation of this woman's constant

interference? " Knowing that it would be very hard on Sydnie this would make me

feel bad but still at that point I would make the decision to tell C's mother

something like this- " I hope you don't take this in any fashion other then

intended but I strongly feel that children's friendships need to be spontaneous

and unfettered. If you are uncomfortable with C having Syndie as a friend, for

any reason, I understand but I would rather not have discussions about who did

what. I find that kids fight and make up and that is a big part of their

learning how to navigate the world. I don't want to interfere with that. C is

such a little sweetie and means so much to Sydnie but it does make me

uncomfortable when there is so much concern over what happens between them on a

day to day basis. " It will be hard to do but the reward is that you will have

drawn a boundary regarding what you have to deal with.

I have found that that is the thing that saps me the most. Losing boundaries.

Maintaining them is a life affirming move. Somedays I do it and somedays I

can't.

Ann mother to Amelia (6 ds) and Jake (5)