Guest guest Posted September 7, 2004 Report Share Posted September 7, 2004 Right off the bat, I'd ask for a schedule of his day. I have a schedule for ALL my kids, not just Noah. It makes scheduling Dr. appts much easier. You can always use that if you think you need an excuse. They automatically provide a schedule at our school...I guess they just got sick of people asking. As for the communication book, maybe you can devise a " fill in the blank " type. we used that in preschool, and it was much easier for the teacher. Of course her excuse was that she had 10 special needs kiddos and needed to say a little something about each one of them, and that was a daunting task. The blanks were things like; For snack we had______, we sang_____at circle time, ______ was line leader...etc. Whatever is relevant to you is what should be included. Sometimes they think they need to write a complete summary of the day, and it just isn't going to get done. Stress the brevity and maybe you'll get a better response. Karla in Texas Kindergarten work Isaac has had 2 weeks of all-day kindergarten so far and we thought it was going fairly smoothly until I picked him up from school today and the teacher had me come in and sit down for 20 minutes. I wasn't prepared for a conference and it sort of caught me off guard. Anyway, she was thinking maybe a full day was too much for him. I asked her if he was a problem and she indicated that he was not. He is in a regular classroom with only 10 students, a teacher and he has a full-time 1/1 aide. He does get tired in the afternoons, but it's only been 2 weeks and it is a big adjustment for him, as it is for any kid. She said that during naptime some of the kids have been actually sleeping for 1 to 1 1/2 hours and she just lets them sleep because she figures they must need the sleep. Isaac did that 2 days last week and he did not nap today at school. She was also asking me if I thought the work was too hard for him and I told her that of course it was and she did say that she wanted to start the year out by giving him what the other kids were doing because she didn't want to " assume " he wasn't capable of doing something. I respect that. For instance she sent home a sheet with his name on it and he was to trace his name and then write it about 12 times. He does not like to use a pencil and basically it just ended up being me holding his hand, doing the work while he looked around the room. As I did it I told him all the letter names and described how we were making the letters. However, there has never been a person with DS at this school and there is no modification of curriculum going on here. I don't believe the teacher has ever had to do that. I don't know who is supposed to be doing the modifying here. I don't want to be out of line, but I told her that starting right off trying to write his name seems a bit unrealistic to me since he hasn't had much luck with a pencil before. I suggested perhaps he could just practice drawing some lines (like the " I " in Isaac) and then some circles or other things. Where can I get some help with this?!! I don't want to have to tell the teacher what to do, but I believe she needs some guidance/assistance. She also asked me what I was getting from him at home. I told her that I felt I was kind of in the dark because when most kids get home from school the parents can ask how their day was, what they did, etc. (I did send a communication notebook on the 1st day and it has only been written in 2 times). He can't tell me when his library books are due (we missed the due date), I don't know how many days a week he has art, music, pe, etc. because he can't tell me that. How do I politely get more information? Since Isaac is the first kid with DS in the district, I don't want this to be a bad experience for the school/teachers and definitely not for Isaac! I like this teacher, but I know that she is one of those " no hair out of place " kind of ladies and everything is always just perfect and smiley in her classroom. Isaac doesn't fit that mold and I don't want her to suggest he not be there on the off chance that it's because it's not fitting in with her ideal class. Any suggestions would be helpful. Thanks, Jill Mom to , Lydia & Isaac (5 1/2, DS) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 8, 2004 Report Share Posted September 8, 2004 Jill, We had a similar situation when my son was in kindergarten. He is also the first child with DS to attend our home school, and this was really new to everyone (still is, and he is in third grade) After a few weeks, the teacher suggested that he go home after lunch because he gets tired in the afternoon. I found out that they were not modifying anything (here the resource teacher does the modifications) and they really did not know what to do with him when he could not do what the other kids were doing. At my suggestion, we tried several different things...exercising to music after lunch to get moving again (the whole class did this)...allowing Nick to do a shorter version of what the other kids were doing (ie practicing the first letter of his name instead of the whole name, and building to the whole name, etc) He should work on his IEP goals, and they will get to know his abilities as they get to know him. I also did not have a problem if he worked individually with his 1/1 aide occasionally, ie if he would not benefit by participating in what the rest of the class was doing (should be rare in kindergarten). Inclusion is difficult when the teacher expects the child to fit into how she teaches; it's really about changing what and how the material is taught so all children can learn together. That's why it usually benefits all kids in the class. One fantastic incluion teacher told me, " it's not about how I teach, it's about how kids learn and I have to change for them. " See if his aide can write regularly in the notebook, instead of the teacher, and suggest a standing meeting of the team every 4-6 weeks to monitor progress. I found that they will generally try new things when they are suggested, so I suggest politely but firmly. My experience has been that although it's never easy, it does get easier. Good luck. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 I can remember that when tim started school I suggested that he should start with half days and build up to a full day as he was very small and frequently ill so had little stamina. the head was agast and said no, he'll miss too much social stuff (afternoons was when they did the 'fun' stuff) and that if he fell asleep he could sleep in a cuddle with the TA or on a little bed in the 'quiet' room (it was a dolls bed but tim fitted it perfectly well!!). He fell asleep every afternoon that year, and many the two following years. She was equally horrified when I suggested he go home for dinner initially for the same reasons. That one was solved for me becoz tim, after one home dinner, refused to come home again any other day!! Loves his school dinners. Anyway, they learnt a lot from tim that year and introduced half days for ALL children the follwing year until half term. Their new recruits (with DS) to the schoool this year have the benefit of teachers and TAs throughout the school learning basic sign language before the kids arrived and many other things. Tim was their learning curve, and while he benfitted greatly from their openess and willingness to learn these two little boys who started this week (6 years after tim started) will have the benfit of much better prepared teachers and a far more flexible system to work with. Anyway, long story short, no need to go home for falling asleep and being tired unless you want it becoz its affecting your child badly. sue wong Re: Kindergarten work > Jill, > We had a similar situation when my son was in kindergarten. He is also the > first child with DS to attend our home school, and this was really new to > everyone (still is, and he is in third grade) > > After a few weeks, the teacher suggested that he go home after lunch because > he gets tired in the afternoon. I found out that they were not modifying > anything (here the resource teacher does the modifications) and they really did > not know what to do with him when he could not do what the other kids were > doing. At my suggestion, we tried several different things...exercising to music > after lunch to get moving again (the whole class did this)...allowing Nick to > do a shorter version of what the other kids were doing (ie practicing the first > letter of his name instead of the whole name, and building to the whole name, > etc) He should work on his IEP goals, and they will get to know his > abilities as they get to know him. I also did not have a problem if he worked > individually with his 1/1 aide occasionally, ie if he would not benefit by > participating in what the rest of the class was doing (should be rare in kindergarten). > > > Inclusion is difficult when the teacher expects the child to fit into how she > teaches; it's really about changing what and how the material is taught so > all children can learn together. That's why it usually benefits all kids in the > class. One fantastic incluion teacher told me, " it's not about how I teach, > it's about how kids learn and I have to change for them. " > > See if his aide can write regularly in the notebook, instead of the teacher, > and suggest a standing meeting of the team every 4-6 weeks to monitor > progress. I found that they will generally try new things when they are suggested, so > I suggest politely but firmly. My experience has been that although it's > never easy, it does get easier. Good luck. > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 In a message dated 9/7/2004 10:54:21 PM Eastern Daylight Time, briggsj@... writes: > I like this teacher, but I know that she is one of those " no hair out of > place " kind of ladies and everything is always just perfect and smiley in her > classroom. Isaac doesn't fit that mold and I don't want her to suggest he not > be there on the off chance that it's because it's not fitting in with her > ideal class. > > Jill, Liam just finished Kindergarten. He was in class of 12 little boys, all with different levels of ability. He was one of 2 kids with DS in the school. Most of the work was over his head in a way. There was very little homework he could do without me. We sat for 30-60 minutes a night. I put my hand over his and wrote the letters, talking all the time about what we were doing. The curriculum was very similar if not identical to the one in the 'typical' classes my friend's son goes to because we compared notes. He learned a lot this year. Technique wise the teacher told me not to worry. Liam would probably not learn in a linear progression. So they use 'spiral' techniques. They introduce a concept/letter/number/word/song/game and reinforce it later on. He also learned a lot from the other kids in the class. It didn't seem to bother them how nonverbal he is. He's just one of the gang. I'm happy that for first grade most of the kids will stay together, even though they're transferring to a different building. Kathy, Liam's mom( 6) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted September 9, 2004 Report Share Posted September 9, 2004 had half day kindergarten last year (that is what is offered to all kids on our district) and it took a month or two for her not to be exhausted at the end of the half day. Even my other kids seem to take awhile to adjust to the new school year, though it is not as dramatic as with . She is going all day this year is 1st grade, and I am so thankful that the homework packet is for a week at a time so that we can work on homework on the weekends because she gets off the bus and just wants to flop down. She would be a bear right now if we had to sit down at 3:30 and start homework right away! I would certainly give it time. As for modifications, we found that also didn't like to write (it was really hard for her, and she doesn't like to do things that are hard, EXCEPT for the monkey bars, which she will work at all recess until she gets blisters!) The teacher or aide would use a highlighter to form the letters/numbers she was supposed to write, and then she could continue to trace while the other students were doing the independent writing. When she got more comfortable with writing, the aide would encourage her to write on her own, and then if she couldn't/wouldn't, she would come back in with the highlighter. Things like her name came first, then numbers, then writing words with a model (she copies pretty well). This technique also worked later when they were trying to write sentences..... would tell the aide what she wanted to write (with prompting), the aide would write her words out as she said them, and the would come back and trace. She still doen't just sit down and write without a hassle, but it's getting better. Perhaps the OT can suggest some writing practice? Handwriting Without Tears is a great program. Also, does your district have an Inclusion Specialist? If so, it is usually this person's job to assist the classroom teacher in implementing modifications. We didn't use her last year (because I didn't know that was her job :-), but as things are moving more quickly in 1st grade, I have suggested to 's teacher that she contact the Inclusion Specialist for assistance, if needed. The teacher didn't even know what the Inclusion Specialist did, and that she could ask for assistance until I told her. In terms of " what you get from him at home " , there is frequently a difference between school and home performance, and there is often no way to figure out why and what to do about it. For example, last year, knew all her letter sounds (I knew this for certain because she sang the song multiple times per day, and if I asked her about a particular letter, she could tell me the sound... ).. So, I was shocked when the kindergarten teacher showed my a phonics goal a couple days before the IEP (I had asked the resource teacher to write one) and said she thought it was too hard, since didn't know any of her letter sounds yet. So, the night before the IEP I made a video of her sitting in front of the computer, saying letters and sounds. Brought the whole thing to the meeting, just to be told be the teacher.... " hey, guess what, you're right..... yesterday she told me all the letters and their sounds! " We see this in many things, and there are also things she will do at school that we can't get her to do at home. I am starting to accept that this is her personality, and just like in other ways, I don't understand why she can " clam up " , " shut down " , or just get " plain old stubborn " , but as long as she can do it, I am not caring so much where she does it, as long as both the teacher and I communicate and know her capabilities. Good luck....... inclusion can be challenging, but can be really great! , mom to (8), (6 DS), and (5) briggsj wrote: >Isaac has had 2 weeks of all-day kindergarten so far and we thought it was going fairly smoothly until I picked him up from school today and the teacher had me come in and sit down for 20 minutes. I wasn't prepared for a conference and it sort of caught me off guard. Anyway, she was thinking maybe a full day was too much for him. I asked her if he was a problem and she indicated that he was not. He is in a regular classroom with only 10 students, a teacher and he has a full-time 1/1 aide. He does get tired in the afternoons, but it's only been 2 weeks and it is a big adjustment for him, as it is for any kid. She said that during naptime some of the kids have been actually sleeping for 1 to 1 1/2 hours and she just lets them sleep because she figures they must need the sleep. Isaac did that 2 days last week and he did not nap today at school. > >She was also asking me if I thought the work was too hard for him and I told her that of course it was and she did say that she wanted to start the year out by giving him what the other kids were doing because she didn't want to " assume " he wasn't capable of doing something. I respect that. For instance she sent home a sheet with his name on it and he was to trace his name and then write it about 12 times. He does not like to use a pencil and basically it just ended up being me holding his hand, doing the work while he looked around the room. As I did it I told him all the letter names and described how we were making the letters. However, there has never been a person with DS at this school and there is no modification of curriculum going on here. I don't believe the teacher has ever had to do that. I don't know who is supposed to be doing the modifying here. I don't want to be out of line, but I told her that starting right off trying to write his name seems a bit unrealistic to me since he hasn't had much luck with a pencil before. I suggested perhaps he could just practice drawing some lines (like the " I " in Isaac) and then some circles or other things. Where can I get some help with this?!! I don't want to have to tell the teacher what to do, but I believe she needs some guidance/assistance. > >She also asked me what I was getting from him at home. I told her that I felt I was kind of in the dark because when most kids get home from school the parents can ask how their day was, what they did, etc. (I did send a communication notebook on the 1st day and it has only been written in 2 times). He can't tell me when his library books are due (we missed the due date), I don't know how many days a week he has art, music, pe, etc. because he can't tell me that. How do I politely get more information? Since Isaac is the first kid with DS in the district, I don't want this to be a bad experience for the school/teachers and definitely not for Isaac! > >I like this teacher, but I know that she is one of those " no hair out of place " kind of ladies and everything is always just perfect and smiley in her classroom. Isaac doesn't fit that mold and I don't want her to suggest he not be there on the off chance that it's because it's not fitting in with her ideal class. > >Any suggestions would be helpful. >Thanks, >Jill >Mom to , Lydia & Isaac (5 1/2, DS) > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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