Re: shutting down the fat girl

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From: moonmayden85

>Lately I've noticed that I live my life like a " fat girl " . Being fat

isn't just how I look, but who I have made myself into. I'm boring,

shy, extremely reserved, self concious, and sheltered. My every

thought and action is that of a fat girl. And I am sick of it! This

is not the person that I want to be! I want to be bold and

adventurous. I want to have lots of friends and hobbies. I want to

get out in the world and do things, to actually experience the game

I think you're looking at this all wrong. Instead of shutting down the fat

girl I think you should let the fat girl fly.

Fat girls can look people in the eye and say hello.

Fat girls can have fabulous jobs.

Fat girls can exercise and play sports.

Fat girls can have great sex.

Fat girls can travel the world.

Fat girls can be friendly and outgoing.

Fat girls can be bold and adventurous.

Fat girls can wear stylish clothes.

Well, you get the idea. You are a fat girl. We all are. That doesn't

make us bad or boring or whatever. We want to be thin girls but we have to

build satisfying lives while we are fat or we'll still be dull if we manage

to get thin. Call your less than perfect side something else. Maybe pansy

girl? weak girl? boring girl? Gertrude? Get a life girl? Give up girl?

Anything but fat girl!

Way to go kicking that bad attitude out the door and exercising for 35

minutes. That is awesome! See how great fat girls can be? The other

people at the gym are far too worried about their own workouts and lives to

be overly concerned about you and your weight.

You've heard the term " fake it 'til you make it? " Pick something that you

can change and work on it. Make eye contact and smile at every single

person you meet throughout your day (unless you live in NY or NJ Sign

up for a class in something you've always wanted to try. Volunteer to do

something that will take you outside your comfort zone. Think of what

adventure means to you and start planning or saving to make that happen.

Fat girls can fly!

Ann

bold and adventurous fat chick

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Moonmayden,

What a wonderful breakthrough. I'm so thrilled for you

and I wanted to share with you my favorite

inspirational quote. My graphic says the author is

unknown but I understand that this quote was by Mark

Twain. Have a look here for it:

http://i70.photobucket.com/albums/i103/radiancepics/WLB/Twain-1.jpg

--- moonmayden85 <moonmayden85@...> wrote:

> Lately I've noticed that I live my life like a " fat

> girl " . Being fat

> isn't just how I look, but who I have made myself

> into. I'm boring,

> shy, extremely reserved, self concious, and

> sheltered. My every

> thought and action is that of a fat girl. And I am

> sick of it! This

> is not the person that I want to be! I want to be

> bold and

> adventurous. I want to have lots of friends and

> hobbies. I want to

> get out in the world and do things, to actually

> experience the game

> instead of sitting on the sidelines waiting for my

> chance to play.

> Today I went into the fitness center at my apartment

> building. It's

> usually empty during the day, so that is when I go

> in there. I

> started walking on the treadmill and about 5 minutes

> into my workout

> some people came in. It was a couple and they were

> both skinny. The

> minute that they walked in my heart rate jumped (the

> treadmill has a

> heart rate monitor on it)! I paniced. I told

> myself that I would

> cut the workout short. I would leave after 10

> minutes instead of my

> planned 15 minutes. I have been trying to start out

> slow an work my

> way up to 30 minutes a day. But I didn't want to be

> in there with

> these people so I was going to stop early. After

> about 5 minutes the

> people left. It was like they came in there just to

> look around and

> check it out then they decided to leave. I was so

> releived! But

> then it hit me... that was a fat girl reaction. The

> fat girl within

> me was telling me to stop exercising so that I

> didn't have to feel

> embarrassed in front of people. That fat girl

> mindset is what caused

> me to get fat in the first place, and now it's what

> is keeping me

> that way! I instantly got MAD at myself for letting

> the fat girl

> take controll. I used that fresh surge of anger and

> cranked up the

> volume on my cd player. I blasted the music and

> turned up the speed

> on the treadmill. I kept exercising, bringing the

> workout up to 35

> minutes instead of the planned 15! I realized that

> this whole time I

> was only working out for 10-15 minutes because I had

> been telling

> myself that I couldn't handle 30 minutes yet. But I

> was wrong! I

> CAN handle it! I didn't even try before I decided

> that I couldn't!

> It was the fat girl mentality that has been holding

> me down this

> whole time that was causing me to underestimate

> myself! But today I

> told the fat girl within to shove off and let me

> live my life the way

> that I want to. I feel like a huge weight has been

> lifted off of my

> shoulders because now I can recognize when it's the

> fat girl talking

> and I know that I can shut her up and take controll

> back from her!

> Now if I could just learn how to keep her quiet in

> the first place

> that would be great! LOL -moonmayden

>

>

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[Guest guest]

I can completely understand where you are coming from. I made my own

similar realization just last week. I used to be an athlete, but after

injuries, marriage and children, I just stopped moving. I became

convinced that I wasn't an athlete, so I couldn't do any of those

things. Not only that, but that I was too heavy to even try.

Last week, after taking a 50 minute walk while dd did gymnastics

(which was already a huge improvement on my usual 20 minutes), I

played tennis with dh and ds for almost an hour! I suddenly wondered

why I had kept telling dh that I couldn't go with them.

The lesson for me is that being big doesn't automatically mean that I

am that and nothing else. I can be a " Big-Girl Athlete " !

Let's show 'em!

Cristie

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Yeah, baby!!!

I had the same thing happen today. After my regular workout at the

Y, I decided to go shoot some baskets. I haven't shot free throws

since maybe junior high. I knew I would not be good at it, but I

gave it a try anyway, and you know what??? I had FUN! I liked

playing basketball. It was good exercise chasing the ball around

and I actually made a few baskets. I want to get better at it.

I'm not just a fat chick. I DO have an inner athlete!

>

> I can completely understand where you are coming from. I made my

own

> similar realization just last week. I used to be an athlete, but

after

> injuries, marriage and children, I just stopped moving. I became

> convinced that I wasn't an athlete, so I couldn't do any of those

> things. Not only that, but that I was too heavy to even try.

>

> Last week, after taking a 50 minute walk while dd did gymnastics

> (which was already a huge improvement on my usual 20 minutes), I

> played tennis with dh and ds for almost an hour! I suddenly

wondered

> why I had kept telling dh that I couldn't go with them.

>

> The lesson for me is that being big doesn't automatically mean

that I

> am that and nothing else. I can be a " Big-Girl Athlete " !

>

> Let's show 'em!

>

> Cristie

>