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Dear Group,

I posted a long time ago about my husband's achalasia...thanks for

helping me out then. I have some more worrisome news...

My father was recently diagnosed with stage 4 esophageal cancer with

mets to the lungs and liver. He is inoperable and they said " You

will unfortunately be dying from this disease, there is nothing but

palliative care for you. " Prayers for this please. My Dad is a great

Dad and he lives with us.

My husband Mike has achalasia...Dx 1997. He never followed up with

anything because it didn't " bother " him despite being found

aperistoltic...so no muscles were working. His weight isn't a

problem and he eats normally except for drinking large amounts of

fluids to " force " it down, even in resturants. It hasn't gotten any

worse. Because of Dad's " death sentence " I got him back in to the

GI, who exclaimed with a worried look, " Didn't we do anything about

this? You've been like this for ten years? "

Today he had a barium swallow and Friday he gets an EGD to look for

cancer. I am scared to death in a freakily calm way. I think I am in

shock from my Dad...I must be blocking my etions. I have already

made plans to sell our home and acreage which are beautiful so I can

nurse my loved ones at home and not work and miss out on my last

time with them...I homeschool our four kids and love that too.

I am sure Mike's esophagus is stretched out and I know that Dr. will

push for the surgery which he has already mentioned...unless of

course he has cancer too...then...I only know I am too young to be a

widow. Maybe I'll raise my kids alone and dress like a nun in order

to...I'm doing it again....

HELP! Provided he doesn't have cancer, wouldn't it be ok for Mike to

just live the way he has (which is fine according to him)instead of

doing a surgery which looks like it makes things worse then better

for a short period then way worse again with heartburn reflux crap

which will ensure a great case of cancer in a couple years?

Thanks,

Mobunny