Re: EYELID SURGERY

[Guest guest]

Hi there and welcome to the group. I'm not sure of your name

(Chinita) or where you come from but welcome. I hope you enjoy

reading all the postings and find this group very supportive. I do

not post as much as I did when I first discovered the site a year

ago after searching the web. I have found the group very supportive

and thoroughly enjoyed meeting some members of the group in December

2005 in London. I was unable to make the meeting this time as the

earlier train from the north east to london arrives around 11.30,

which was too late to meet.

Anyway, I was very consious about what other people thought of me

and how I looked very different in my early teens when all teenagers

worry about what they look like but when I reached 16 years old, I

became very confident and have been very outgoing ever since, I am

29 years old now. My parents have always been very supportive and I

thought I could do anything in life which, once I was older, i

realised I could. I work as a social worker now and meet different

people everyday and no one ever mentions the BPES, they ask about

many other things like, have you got children and where do you live

etc but never about the way I look, well not to my face anyway.

Since being a child and acknowledging I was very different and

remembering I was different by comments by other children, mainly

boys in both primary and secondary school, it has never stopped me

doing anything and made me more determined to proof to everyone I

could do anything. I enjoyed learning at school and had a fantastic

time at university. Occasionally i think about what people think

but its mainly strangers that might take a second glance and I

always smile at them and they smile back. I hope you continue to

read postings and find some support in reading and receiving

messages. Ask any questions and I hope I can help. take care, .

>

> Hi everyone, I'm new to this group. I can't believe that there are

an

> entire planet of us. I'm glad to have come across the website that

led

> me to this group. I have had problems all my life, especially

socially

> and in relationships because of my BPES. This condition has also

> affected me mentally. I am 26 years old now, female and finally

> scheduled for eyelid surgery. I also have lazy eye and my son has

BPES

> as well. The surgery I am getting involves the muscles in my

eyelid.

> they are going to cut the muscle and tighten it up to lift my

eyelids.

> Has anyone recieved this surgery or some other type? If so, how

was

> the turnout? What about socially, has anyone found it difficult

for

> people to accept the way you look? Does anyone of you avoid going

out

> in public because of fear of being judged? I just want to know if

> there are people out there who have experienced what I have

because of

> my BPES.

>

[Guest guest]

Thank you so much for your advice. Gosh, I've been on this

support group nonstop since I've signed, and just knowing that there

are other people out there that have gone through the same things I

have has already helped. I wish I would have come across this group

way sooner. I am in college right now working towards my masterrs so

that I can be a Licensed counserlor. I know and realize that I can

do anything I put my mind to no matter what the obstacles are, my

issues are socially mainly. I am working on me right now in being

happy with the way I look, I know I don't display myself in a

confident manner and people can sense that and treat me accordingly.

Its time for that to stop, I'm working on that, but its hard to

change old habits. Thanks for sharing your story, I'm definitely

going to follow your example.

take care,

Bernadette

> >

> > Hi everyone, I'm new to this group. I can't believe that there

are

> an

> > entire planet of us. I'm glad to have come across the website

that

> led

> > me to this group. I have had problems all my life, especially

> socially

> > and in relationships because of my BPES. This condition has also

> > affected me mentally. I am 26 years old now, female and finally

> > scheduled for eyelid surgery. I also have lazy eye and my son

has

> BPES

> > as well. The surgery I am getting involves the muscles in my

> eyelid.

> > they are going to cut the muscle and tighten it up to lift my

> eyelids.

> > Has anyone recieved this surgery or some other type? If so, how

> was

> > the turnout? What about socially, has anyone found it difficult

> for

> > people to accept the way you look? Does anyone of you avoid

going

> out

> > in public because of fear of being judged? I just want to know

if

> > there are people out there who have experienced what I have

> because of

> > my BPES.

> >

>

[Guest guest]

Hi Bernadette, its Clare Teale in UK here. Your message touched my heart. You keep on going being positive, keep smiling, a one second smile can give the impression to a stranger you are happy confident open and feeling good. I have perfected the art of smiling, i use my whole face, it certainly puts other people at there ease and takes the gaze from my eyes. You are doing a fabulous job, keep going.... you will make a fantastic counsellor because you can tell people from your experience. I am a personal development trainer i give people confidence and enthusiasm for life, some of my clients have been through things i wouldnt even dream of, but after our course together they pick themselves up and go out in the world with a great big smile. Loads of luck clarechinita_0708 <chinita_0708@...> wrote: Thank you so much for your advice. Gosh, I've been on this support group nonstop since I've signed, and just knowing that there are other people out there that have gone through the same things I have has already helped. I wish I would have come across this group way sooner. I am in college right now working towards my masterrs so that I can be a Licensed counserlor. I know and realize that I can do anything I put my mind to no matter what the obstacles are, my issues are socially mainly. I am working on me right now in being

happy with the way I look, I know I don't display myself in a confident manner and people can sense that and treat me accordingly. Its time for that to stop, I'm working on that, but its hard to change old habits. Thanks for sharing your story, I'm definitely going to follow your example.take care, Bernadette> >> > Hi everyone, I'm new to this group. I can't

believe that there are > an > > entire planet of us. I'm glad to have come across the website that > led > > me to this group. I have had problems all my life, especially > socially > > and in relationships because of my BPES. This condition has also > > affected me mentally. I am 26 years old now, female and finally > > scheduled for eyelid surgery. I also have lazy eye and my son has > BPES > > as well. The surgery I am getting involves the muscles in my > eyelid. > > they are going to cut the muscle and tighten it up to lift my > eyelids. > > Has anyone recieved this surgery or some other type? If so, how > was > > the turnout? What about socially, has anyone found it difficult > for > > people to accept the way you look? Does anyone of you avoid going > out > > in public because of

fear of being judged? I just want to know if > > there are people out there who have experienced what I have > because of > > my BPES.> >>

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[Guest guest]

THANK YOU SO MUCH, Clare for your words of encouragement. I'm

beginning to see the power in a smile and how much it can change the

mood of your entire day. Its great that you are a personal

development trainer, helping people. I hope to help people one day

to, all I have to do is keep on smiling . Thanks again, Take care

and God Bless,

Bernadette

> > >

> > > Hi everyone, I'm new to this group. I can't believe that there

> are

> > an

> > > entire planet of us. I'm glad to have come across the website

> that

> > led

> > > me to this group. I have had problems all my life, especially

> > socially

> > > and in relationships because of my BPES. This condition has

also

> > > affected me mentally. I am 26 years old now, female and

finally

> > > scheduled for eyelid surgery. I also have lazy eye and my son

> has

> > BPES

> > > as well. The surgery I am getting involves the muscles in my

> > eyelid.

> > > they are going to cut the muscle and tighten it up to lift my

> > eyelids.

> > > Has anyone recieved this surgery or some other type? If so,

how

> > was

> > > the turnout? What about socially, has anyone found it

difficult

> > for

> > > people to accept the way you look? Does anyone of you avoid

> going

> > out

> > > in public because of fear of being judged? I just want to know

> if

> > > there are people out there who have experienced what I have

> > because of

> > > my BPES.

> > >

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

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>

[Guest guest]

more than welcome, anytime.. clare chinita_0708 <chinita_0708@...> wrote: THANK YOU SO MUCH, Clare for your words of encouragement. I'm beginning to see the power in a smile and how much it can change the mood of your entire day. Its great that you are a personal development trainer, helping people. I hope to help people one day to, all I have to do is keep on smiling . Thanks again, Take care

and God Bless,Bernadette > > >> > > Hi everyone, I'm new to this group. I can't believe that there > are > > an > > > entire planet of us. I'm glad to have come across the website > that > > led > > > me to this group. I have had problems all my life, especially > > socially > > > and in relationships because of my BPES. This condition has also > > > affected me mentally. I am 26 years old now, female and finally > > > scheduled for eyelid surgery. I also have lazy eye and my son > has > > BPES > > > as well. The surgery I am getting involves the muscles in my > > eyelid. > > > they are going to cut the muscle and tighten it up to lift my > > eyelids. > > > Has anyone recieved this surgery or some other type? If so, how >

> was > > > the turnout? What about socially, has anyone found it difficult > > for > > > people to accept the way you look? Does anyone of you avoid > going > > out > > > in public because of fear of being judged? I just want to know > if > > > there are people out there who have experienced what I have > > because of > > > my BPES.> > >> >> > > > > > > ---------------------------------> Stay in the know. Pulse on the new .com. Check it out.>

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