Re: variations from standard setup phrase

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>

> Is there any reason why i couldnt use 'i have this problem issue

> AND i deeply and completely accept myself'?

Short answer, no.

> Let me explain.

>

> i was woking on myself before, and one memory keeps coming to mind

> and part of is when i got this new pair of grey suede boots. there

> is more to it than that, but dont really want to go into all the

> details right now. anyway, i really liked these boots.

> the setup 'even though i loved those grey suede boots, i deeply and

> completely accept myself' sounded wrong and didnt feel right. by

> saying that its as if there is something wrong with loving those

> grey suede boots by having the 'even though' part

>

> i had a brainwave and used 'i loved those grey suede boots and i

> deeply and completely accept myself' and it felt much better.

Even Craig is very flexible with set up phrases. The standard

phrase is a good one and works most of the time but it's certainly

not the only effective one.

I can't figure out what you are trying to accomplish by tapping on

boots you liked. EFT won't make good memories go away. Having nice

boots doesn't seem to be a problem.

The pain associated with the boots would be what you would put in

your set-up phrase. Did someone make you feel bad about having those

boots? Did they cause you athlete's foot? Were you embarrassed to

wear them because you lived in the tropics and everybody else wore

sandals? I'm glad if your setup phrase worked for you but I suspect

there's something you are avoiding.

> i guess if it feels right thats all that matters right?

If it feels right and gets the job done that's all that matters.

Bob

[Guest guest]

--- In EmotionalFreedomTechniques , " Bob " > > i guess

> If it feels right and gets the job done that's all that matters.

>

> Bob

I would just like to add my confirmation to this. " If it gets the job

done:-) "

My understanding is that the set-up phrase is to overcome what

calls " Psychological Reversal " , which in my view means sending a

message to the subconscious to ovecome internal resistance to

healing.

If you are in PR the statement may " sound right and feel right " , but

may still not be effective. That is because when one is in PR

everything is working backwards.

Therefore I would suggest staying with the standard set-up as much as

you can until you are quite sure you are not experiencing PR. There

are several things one can do to overcome PR and I expect there are

tips given in the files section here. Doing the " three thumps " , cross-

crawl and drinking lots of water are the best ways usually.

If you feel happy and positive you are quite likely in balance energy-

wise! If you feel negative and skeptical then quite likely there

would be PR in the meridian system.

Blessings, Nels

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Hi ,

> Is there any reason why i couldnt use 'i have this problem issue

AND

> i deeply and completely accept myself'?

>

Absolutely no reason why not at all.

I use this form sometimes with myself or clients when the thing being

tapped on isn't obviously a problem (it may or may not be).

I call it the " Non-Judgement Pattern " and I find it useful in a

coaching context when it's often much less clear whether a situation

should be judged as " good " or " bad " .

Using this kind of pattern will serve to clear any lurking negative

aspects or tailenders related to the issue (or the shoes!) that MIGHT

be there.

Basically there is nothing magical or preordained about the standard

EFT setup statement.

In my opinion the value of the standard EFT setup statement is only

to make it easier for people to get started and have a default

statement to work with.

The two important elements of EFT are:

1 - Stimulating the meridian system (via tapping, massaging, shining

lasers, mentally thinking about them, whatever)

2 - Focussing on the issue.

Saying words is one way of doing that. But there are many ways to

cause your mind to focus on the relevant issue - thinking the words,

looking at a photograph or relevant objects, seeing images in your

mind, it doesn't matter.

Therefore, the exact words you use does not matter at all.

I think if you find a form of words that " feels better " to you then

that's exactly what you should use.

The EFT recipe is very adaptable to different people's preferences -

the ultimate test of whether a variation is " right " or not is the

level of relief it gives for the person using it.

Regards

________________________________________________________________

L.R. BSc MSc

Personal Coach, EFT Advanced Practitioner and Trainer, NLP

Practitioner

www.thefuturestartsnow.com

Author of " The EFT Coach " : www.eftcoach.com

[Guest guest]

Hi again . Thanks for that. a very helpful post. my varation of

the setup seemed logicial to me, and the orginial didnt make sense

in that instance, i thought it best to see what you guys think

first, and im glad you have used this yourself.

you are right, i often just tap by placing mental images, or looking

at a specific word in my head. becasue this isnt taught, you are

never sure if you are supposed to do it this way! your post has

given me a big sigh of relief!

gratefully