Re: What to do when they can still push your buttons...

[Guest guest]

First thing is set up a filter in your e-mail so his messages go

straight to the trash. You should not read them, period. There is no

point. They are nothing but lies and only upset you. Why do you

continue to read them?

Tap on your resistance to just hit Delete. " Even though I can't stand

not to look and see what he wrote, I deeply and completely accept

myself. "

" Even though I HATE him with all my heart and soul, I still can't

stop reading his messages, and I DEEPLY and COMPLETELY accept myself

anyway. "

Once you break that hold, then you can tap away the emotional

attachment. You might wish you could have somehow rescued him, you

might wish things had turned out differently, I don't know, and you

likely don't either. Turning it over in your mind isn't going to

help, and neither is reminding yourself how he isn't the nicest

person going to help either.

Just make a decision it is time to move on and get busy. Let us know

how it goes, and if you need/want more specific ideas for the

tapping.

I once had a toxic boyfriend and it took me decades to get it out of

my system - if only I'd had EFT then.

Martyn, M.NLP

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[Guest guest]

Dear a,

First of all, right now...this minute... put a block on his emails.

If you have saved his previous emails, save them to disc and then

delete them from your computer. Put the disc in your safe deposit

box and let it go. Do not accept phone calls, emails or any other

form of contact from him.

I highly recommend you seek out a Certified EFT Practitioner and

start clearing out the emotions attached to this man. Day and night

when any thought, any feeling, sensation, dream, sight, sound or

smell surfaces that has any reminder or connection to him, tap, then

tap some more.

It's time for you to take control now and let his power weaken and

fade then finally disappear completely from your life, from your

body, mind and spirit.

By writing that letter to the group, you have taken the first big

step to begin purging his poison from your life. Tapping on the

content of the letter is a place to start.

Again, I would seriously consider seeking outside help with this and

the sooner you begin the better. It sounds like continueing as

things are could be potentially dangerous for you physically,

emotionally the damage is ongoing. Please take steps now.

Jen

I should be simply glad that the psycho is out of my life!

>

> SO-any suggestions on how to rid myself of his ability to do this

to

> me?

[Guest guest]

Hi a,

Read through the other replies before posting my own here.

Like some others I also would ask you to question why you have not

blocked emails and continue to read them.

Ask yourself what is your need to read them and thus still continue

the relationship in this way. When I got to the bottom of my anger

with my ex, the person I found out that I was really mad with was

myself. I was mad at myself for allowing myself to be decieved and

the lack of trust I had in being in any relationship. In short

could I ever trust myself to be in any relationship again. I also

echo the sentiments of some others that I wish I would have had EFT.

Every button you feel pushed is an opportunity for healing and

allowing your true essence to shine.

Others have given you suggestions for tapping I will not add anymore.

I just embrace the fact that you can learn to love your self and EFT

can be a wonderful tool in that healing.

Love and Laughter

LeRoy

> Dear a,

>

> First of all, right now...this minute... put a block on his

emails.

> If you have saved his previous emails, save them to disc and then

> delete them from your computer. Put the disc in your safe deposit

> box and let it go. Do not accept phone calls, emails or any other

> form of contact from him.

[Guest guest]

> " I had been concentrating so much on just the opposite thought, that

he is not going to effect me, that when it became beneficial to do

so I just didn't think of it. "

Now that is breakthrough! From, " He is NOT going to effect me, "

to " He darn well does affect me and I don't like it. " I'd be willing

to bet you already feel differently about his affect on you?

One of the very first things I used NLP on (long before EFT was

introduced) was the rapid heart beat that occurred whenever I " saw " a

certain someone - someone I did not want to be affected by any

longer. I thought there must be some way to change that response even

though it seemed so automatic that most would have thought it was

just something I'd have to live with.

That's what you can do now too - stop feeling anything when you see

an e-mail from him (I'd still suggest simply deleting them but that's

up to you), but at least, the sight will not bother you any more than

flicking lint off your shoulder. ;-)

And for anyone reading this that struggles with weight loss issues,

these " relationship " based issues have a big impact on the way we

take care of ourselves overall. Work on them and it will affect the

whole body.

Warmly,

Martyn, M.NLP

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