Re: The passing of my Dad and reaction

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Becky,

So sorry for your loss...your family is in my thoughts and prayers..

It sounds like is dealing with this really well..but I'm sure

the knowing it would happen and you answering all of his questions

before and after has helped alot. I agree with the other Becky..it

could be where he feels close to grandpa to be in that room... and as

long as he stays calm in there...I wouldn't be to concerned...

J

--- In , becky griggs <sleeplessohio@...>

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> On Saturday the 18th my Dad took his last breath. We had tried to

prepare all week for what was coming. He asked the same

questions repeatedly and we tried to answer them as honestly as we

could. When Dad passed I was at the hospital with him and Bob was

home with . Bob told him that Grandpa had past away. When I got

home I spoke to and again answered his questions, trying so

hard not to break in front of him.

>

> Sunday we were at Mom's we had finished eating dinner and

reached for a desk of cards. My brother told him he could not play

with the new deck and offered to get him the old deck. At this time

looks around the room and starts to cry. It took 5 minutes to

understand what it was he was saying, " grandpa dead " we took him home

and he cried for almost 2 hours. Monday my family asked why he got so

upset over a deck of cards. I explained that even though he had been

told that his Grandpa had died, he did not process it until that

second. Most of the family just did not understand.

>

> attended the viewing and funeral with us. His one on one

aid from school attended with us and took charge of while Bob

took care of me. I watched and was amazed how well he handled

it. He was completely social appropriate, once during the funeral

service he tried to whisper to his aid but was loud enough for

everyone to hear " That is my grandpa, he is my buddy " .

>

> There is one thing he is doing that has us all baffled. He would

never go in the living room at my parents home. has been with

us since he was 3, he is now 16, we had tried tons of times to have

him join us the living but he just could not do it. He would sit in

the computer chair right outside the room but never in it. We have

been at Mom's ever day since Dad past away and has walk in the

house and went straight to the living room and sat down. Very calm

and polite. He has sat there the whole time playing his leapster or

watching his DVD. I can not figure out why for 13 years he could not

go in there and now he can without issue? Anyone have any ideas?

>

> Even though he seems to be handling this okay I am still taking

him to meet with the grief counslor with Stein Hospit. The person

that runs it used to be case manage through the center he

recieve counseling. So she knows and understands not only his

way of thinking but also understands autism.

>

> Becky

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>

> Becky

> Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD

>

> Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as

containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going

to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you

each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success.

> Carson

> Surgeon

>

>

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> Everyone is raving about the all-new beta.

>

[Guest guest]

Dear Becky and Family,

Please accept my deepest sympathy on the passing of your Father.

I understand how hard this is for you to deal with for your own

peace and acceptance, but having to deal with ' emotions too,

only makes it that much more difficult. God works in strange ways

and the deaths that have touched your lives recently have ironically

made ready to face the loss of someone so much closer to him.

I know you are proud of your son's ability to mourn and then accept

the death of his grandpa, his " buddy " .

I believe that when a person dies, he may not pass over right

away... at least until he feels that it is ok. Your dad may have

been there when walked into the livingroom. I'm sure he is up

there smiling down at now...as proud of him as you are, and

equally as pleased with you and your husband for raising so

well.

You are in my thoughts and prayers.

-Trish

--- In , becky griggs <sleeplessohio@...>

wrote:

>

> On Saturday the 18th my Dad took his last breath. We had tried to

prepare all week for what was coming. He asked the same

questions repeatedly and we tried to answer them as honestly as we

could. When Dad passed I was at the hospital with him and Bob was

home with . Bob told him that Grandpa had past away. When I got

home I spoke to and again answered his questions, trying so

hard not to break in front of him.

>

> Sunday we were at Mom's we had finished eating dinner and

reached for a desk of cards. My brother told him he could not play

with the new deck and offered to get him the old deck. At this time

looks around the room and starts to cry. It took 5 minutes to

understand what it was he was saying, " grandpa dead " we took him

home and he cried for almost 2 hours. Monday my family asked why he

got so upset over a deck of cards. I explained that even though he

had been told that his Grandpa had died, he did not process it until

that second. Most of the family just did not understand.

>

> attended the viewing and funeral with us. His one on one

aid from school attended with us and took charge of while Bob

took care of me. I watched and was amazed how well he handled

it. He was completely social appropriate, once during the funeral

service he tried to whisper to his aid but was loud enough for

everyone to hear " That is my grandpa, he is my buddy " .

>

> There is one thing he is doing that has us all baffled. He would

never go in the living room at my parents home. has been with

us since he was 3, he is now 16, we had tried tons of times to have

him join us the living but he just could not do it. He would sit in

the computer chair right outside the room but never in it. We have

been at Mom's ever day since Dad past away and has walk in the

house and went straight to the living room and sat down. Very calm

and polite. He has sat there the whole time playing his leapster or

watching his DVD. I can not figure out why for 13 years he could not

go in there and now he can without issue? Anyone have any ideas?

>

> Even though he seems to be handling this okay I am still taking

him to meet with the grief counslor with Stein Hospit. The person

that runs it used to be case manage through the center he

recieve counseling. So she knows and understands not only his

way of thinking but also understands autism.

>

> Becky

>

>

>

>

> Becky

> Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD

>

> Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as

containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going

to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you

each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success.

> Carson

> Surgeon

>

>

> ---------------------------------

> Everyone is raving about the all-new beta.

>

[Guest guest]

Becky, I am sorry for your loss. I have a 7 yo son who has anxiety & misses his grandmother days before parting from a visit. We fortunately have not had to cross a birdge like yours. Thank you so much for sharing your experience w/us. I too believe that now must find a security/closeness w/his grandfather in the living room. Most children w/these special gifts have incrediable memories, which will allow him to cherish the good & happy times. Your dad can do much more for as an Angel than he could on Earth. May God rest his soul & help your family find peace & Grace in the Lords Love. becky griggs <sleeplessohio@...> wrote: On Saturday the 18th my Dad took his last breath. We had tried to prepare all week for what was coming. He asked the same questions repeatedly and we tried to answer them as honestly as we could. When Dad passed I was at the hospital with him and Bob was home with . Bob told him that Grandpa had past away. When I got home I spoke to and again answered his questions, trying so hard not to break in front of him. Sunday we were at Mom's we had finished eating dinner and reached for a desk of cards. My brother told him he could not play with the new deck and offered to get him the old deck. At this time looks around the room and starts to cry. It took 5 minutes to understand what it was he was saying, "grandpa dead" we took him

home and he cried for almost 2 hours. Monday my family asked why he got so upset over a deck of cards. I explained that even though he had been told that his Grandpa had died, he did not process it until that second. Most of the family just did not understand. attended the viewing and funeral with us. His one on one aid from school attended with us and took charge of while Bob took care of me. I watched and was amazed how well he handled it. He was completely social appropriate, once during the funeral service he tried to whisper to his aid but was loud enough for everyone to hear " That is my grandpa, he is my buddy". There is one thing he is doing that has us all baffled. He would never go in the living room at my parents home. has been with us since he was 3, he is now 16, we had tried tons of times to have him join us the living but he just could not do it. He would sit in the

computer chair right outside the room but never in it. We have been at Mom's ever day since Dad past away and has walk in the house and went straight to the living room and sat down. Very calm and polite. He has sat there the whole time playing his leapster or watching his DVD. I can not figure out why for 13 years he could not go in there and now he can without issue? Anyone have any ideas? Even though he seems to be handling this okay I am still taking him to meet with the grief counslor with Stein Hospit. The person that runs it used to be case manage through the center he recieve counseling. So she knows and understands not only his way of thinking but also understands autism. Becky Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Everyone is raving about the all-new beta.

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