Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 When 1st started to develop air under his arms he was trying to pull them out. He did not want them there, they did not belong there. It took forever to get him to understand that as he gets older his body will change. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Check out the all-new beta - Fire up a more powerful email and get things done faster. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 It is such a tough issue to deal with. obsesses over things so easily and I am worried about how best to approach it. I don't want to ignore it but if I go into too much detail, chances are that he will do something inappropriate to some poor little girl at school (lol, that is something I DEFINITELY don't want to deal with). I think the best way is to let him take the lead and answer questions as they come. I can be prepared by having all the material and resources ready. I think the hardest part for me is the smack in the face that my baby is growing up. Ugh, I miss the "Winnie the Pooh stage" - things were so simple then. Janebecky griggs <sleeplessohio@...> wrote: When 1st started to develop air under his arms he was trying to pull them out. He did not want them there, they did not belong there. It took forever to get him to understand that as he gets older his body will change. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Check out the all-new beta - Fire up a more powerful email and get things done faster. Cheap Talk? Check out Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 LOL! Yes they were. I remember thinking I had it all under control and life was getting easier until puberty it. Now I find myself looking in the mirror and saying "Boy did you fool yourself!" But you are right, having the material ready and answering is questions, addressing his comments as they develop. That is what we have tried to do. We have always, well since getting DX, made it clear the proper way to talk and be with other people. We were very concerned, as we were foster parents at the time, that a girl would take something did or said in complete innocents and turn it into something so very wrong. SO we continue to work on this topic at all times. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 Last year we went to a homecoming parade. I was calling 's name, and he turned to me and said "Mom, they call me 'Chris' here at school". That one little sentence made me realize that I better start preparing for dropping him off 1/2 block away from school and disappearing when (if he ever) has friends over. I have to ask myself if I am really worried about growing up or if it is me terrified of growing old, lol. Another funny story is that he has been stalling on getting his christmas list done. This weekend my husband told him that if he didn't get it done, Daddy would ask Santa to get him a bunch of Barbie and Bratz dolls. I was worried about the pen catching fire, that's how fast he was writing! Janebecky griggs <sleeplessohio@...> wrote: LOL! Yes they were. I remember thinking I had it all under control and life was getting easier until puberty it. Now I find myself looking in the mirror and saying "Boy did you fool yourself!" But you are right, having the material ready and answering is questions, addressing his comments as they develop. That is what we have tried to do. We have always, well since getting DX, made it clear the proper way to talk and be with other people. We were very concerned, as we were foster parents at the time, that a girl would take something did or said in complete innocents and turn it into something so very wrong. SO we continue to work on this topic at all times. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. Cheap Talk? Check out Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 29, 2006 Report Share Posted November 29, 2006 Up until late last school year loved me dropping in on his class. He would hug me and be all excited. When I would leave he would hug me again and tell me "you the bestest Mommy, I love you" Than I started noticing when I stopped in he would clam up and shut down. It took me a couple of months to figure it out, boy is Mom slow!, He no longer wanted/needed me in his space. The aid that was hired for him made a great connection with him and made school a safe comfy place to be himself. He no longer needed nor wanted Mommy there. I did cry when I realized this, another step to his independence from me. I was both thrilled and scared. As his mother I had felt that no one could help him better than his parents. Now he has found a connection that lets him step away. Even though he does depend on his aid to help him when he gets through his rough patches, he has grown, matured and is showing more indepent at school. Now he still tells me I am the bestest Mommy and I never know when this will come out of his mouth. But it never stops amazing me that he says this more often than not at times when I am questioning my ability, strenght to parent him. Our kids sure are amazing Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Check out the all-new beta - Fire up a more powerful email and get things done faster. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 Both very cute anecdotes, thanks for sharing, Jane. Sure made me smile. ----- Original Message ----- From: jane milota Sent: Wednesday, November 29, 2006 12:46 PM Subject: Re: [ ] Puberty References Last year we went to a homecoming parade. I was calling 's name, and he turned to me and said "Mom, they call me 'Chris' here at school". That one little sentence made me realize that I better start preparing for dropping him off 1/2 block away from school and disappearing when (if he ever) has friends over. I have to ask myself if I am really worried about growing up or if it is me terrified of growing old, lol. Another funny story is that he has been stalling on getting his christmas list done. This weekend my husband told him that if he didn't get it done, Daddy would ask Santa to get him a bunch of Barbie and Bratz dolls. I was worried about the pen catching fire, that's how fast he was writing! Janebecky griggs <sleeplessohio > wrote: LOL! Yes they were. I remember thinking I had it all under control and life was getting easier until puberty it. Now I find myself looking in the mirror and saying "Boy did you fool yourself!" But you are right, having the material ready and answering is questions, addressing his comments as they develop. That is what we have tried to do. We have always, well since getting DX, made it clear the proper way to talk and be with other people. We were very concerned, as we were foster parents at the time, that a girl would take something did or said in complete innocents and turn it into something so very wrong. SO we continue to work on this topic at all times. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. Cheap Talk? Check out Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted November 30, 2006 Report Share Posted November 30, 2006 Sometimes you have to smile. As much as we people have on our plates, a laugh feels soooo good. Jane Cochran <Ladyshrink111@...> wrote: Both very cute anecdotes, thanks for sharing, Jane. Sure made me smile. ----- Original Message ----- From: jane milota Sent: Wednesday, November 29, 2006 12:46 PM Subject: Re: [ ] Puberty References Last year we went to a homecoming parade. I was calling 's name, and he turned to me and said "Mom, they call me 'Chris' here at school". That one little sentence made me realize that I better start preparing for dropping him off 1/2 block away from school and disappearing when (if he ever) has friends over. I have to ask myself if I am really worried about growing up or if it is me terrified of growing old, lol. Another funny story is that he has been stalling on getting his christmas list done. This weekend my husband told him that if he didn't get it done, Daddy would ask Santa to get him a bunch of Barbie and Bratz dolls. I was worried about the pen catching fire, that's how fast he was writing! Janebecky griggs <sleeplessohio > wrote: LOL! Yes they were. I remember thinking I had it all under control and life was getting easier until puberty it. Now I find myself looking in the mirror and saying "Boy did you fool yourself!" But you are right, having the material ready and answering is questions, addressing his comments as they develop. That is what we have tried to do. We have always, well since getting DX, made it clear the proper way to talk and be with other people. We were very concerned, as we were foster parents at the time, that a girl would take something did or said in complete innocents and turn it into something so very wrong. SO we continue to work on this topic at all times. Becky Mother to , 16, Autism, Epilepsy, Cerebal Palsy, MR, ADHD Everybody has barriers and obstacles. If you look at them as containing fences that don't allow you to advance, then you're going to be a failure. If you look at them as hurdles that strengthen you each time you go over one, then you're going to be a success. Carson Surgeon Want to start your own business? Learn how on Small Business. Cheap Talk? Check out Messenger's low PC-to-Phone call rates. Everyone is raving about the all-new beta. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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