Re: OT - it was paint that killed my dog

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> Although I am still extremely sad about having lost our dog, I

cannot tell you how happy I am that it was not my son who caused her

death.

> I want to thank all of you for your compassion and comforting

words, not to mention the extremely valuable advice you had for me. As

we enter the teen years I am sure I will come back and review it all.

> We will be getting a new dog tomorrow and all the safeguards will

be in place to prevent any potential problems.

Just wanted to say I am glad you found the truth. Still sad about

your dog tho. But this also seems to explain why your son would not

have any remorse, since he did not do anything to the dog.

Good luck with your new dog.

Dana

[Guest guest]

This brings up another problem. I have also had my son falsely confess to

something that it turned out he did not do. It was a broken dish. He was

very upset about it and very convincing he had broken it when I asked what

happened, but then my husband came in with the vacuum explaining he had to

clean up the dish HE had knocked over, not my son. My son had seen it

happen and was upset about it.

This could be a terrible thing for our children if we can't figure out how

to help them not do it.

Imagine if they are at school and something happens. Before we caught on not

to tell the school his diagnosis, at age THREE I saw other children

scapegoat my son for things they did (like hurting other children--when he

was on the other end of the playgroudn). If I hadn't seen it with my own

eyes, I would not have believed a child that young could falsely accuse

another one (becasue I don't have any NT children!) THe teachers ate it up

and eventually I took him out of there. . . .

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On Behalf Of jane milota

Sent: Tuesday, July 18, 2006 8:34 PM

autismjtm@...

Subject: [ ] OT - it was paint that killed my dog

Hi all, I just wanted to let everyone know that I am breathing a sigh of

relief. It turns out that it was NOT my son that hurt my poor dog. The

little stinker got in the bathroom where my husband was painting and she

drank the paint - it had ANTIFREEZE in it. This is a dog who once ate a

whole jar of vaseline! must have been so confused and scared (he

saw her on the floor in the middle of this gigantic seizure) that he just

said he hit her.

Although I am still extremely sad about having lost our dog, I cannot tell

you how happy I am that it was not my son who caused her death.

I want to thank all of you for your compassion and comforting words, not to

mention the extremely valuable advice you had for me. As we enter the teen

years I am sure I will come back and review it all.

We will be getting a new dog tomorrow and all the safeguards will be in

place to prevent any potential problems.

Jane

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[Guest guest]

Exactly. It is my biggest worry that later on will be coached into

saying (or doing) something bad. He is definitely a follower and as such is

prone to do whatever. This incident just confirmed my great fear.

And you are right about the schools; once they get older it is the favorite

thing in the school to say " he choses to...... " or " he just don't want to..... "

Getting them to understand that the empathy and connection between cause and

effect is not there, can be quite a task.

Jane

Carolyn Weissberg <kylesmom@...> wrote:

This brings up another problem. I have also had my son falsely confess

to

something that it turned out he did not do. It was a broken dish. He was

very upset about it and very convincing he had broken it when I asked what

happened, but then my husband came in with the vacuum explaining he had to

clean up the dish HE had knocked over, not my son. My son had seen it

happen and was upset about it.

This could be a terrible thing for our children if we can't figure out how

to help them not do it.

Imagine if they are at school and something happens. Before we caught on not

to tell the school his diagnosis, at age THREE I saw other children

scapegoat my son for things they did (like hurting other children--when he

was on the other end of the playgroudn). If I hadn't seen it with my own

eyes, I would not have believed a child that young could falsely accuse

another one (becasue I don't have any NT children!) THe teachers ate it up

and eventually I took him out of there. . . .

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From: [mailto: ]

On Behalf Of jane milota

Sent: Tuesday, July 18, 2006 8:34 PM

autismjtm@...

Subject: [ ] OT - it was paint that killed my dog

Hi all, I just wanted to let everyone know that I am breathing a sigh of

relief. It turns out that it was NOT my son that hurt my poor dog. The

little stinker got in the bathroom where my husband was painting and she

drank the paint - it had ANTIFREEZE in it. This is a dog who once ate a

whole jar of vaseline! must have been so confused and scared (he

saw her on the floor in the middle of this gigantic seizure) that he just

said he hit her.

Although I am still extremely sad about having lost our dog, I cannot tell

you how happy I am that it was not my son who caused her death.

I want to thank all of you for your compassion and comforting words, not to

mention the extremely valuable advice you had for me. As we enter the teen

years I am sure I will come back and review it all.

We will be getting a new dog tomorrow and all the safeguards will be in

place to prevent any potential problems.

Jane

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[Guest guest]

Very important to be aware of, particularly if law enforcement ever becomes

involved. There is at least one training program for law enforcers about

autism. Dennis Debaubt, I think is the trainer's name. I think he is the

father of a young man with autism.

S S

<p>This brings up another problem. I have also had my son falsely

confess to<br>

something that it turned out he did not do.

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[Guest guest]

Well thank heavens! I can imagine your relief. I am sure you son was

so confused. Paint is very toxic, one of the reasons I am wondering

why they sell it for use in our homes. Milk paint worked fine and it

was not harmful. Wallpaper..even better. In any event, glad to hear

things are going better.

>

> Hi all, I just wanted to let everyone know that I am breathing a

sigh of relief. It turns out that it was NOT my son that hurt my

poor dog. The little stinker got in the bathroom where my husband

was painting and she drank the paint - it had ANTIFREEZE in it. This

is a dog who once ate a whole jar of vaseline! must have

been so confused and scared (he saw her on the floor in the middle

of this gigantic seizure) that he just said he hit her.

> Although I am still extremely sad about having lost our dog, I

cannot tell you how happy I am that it was not my son who caused her

death.

> I want to thank all of you for your compassion and comforting

words, not to mention the extremely valuable advice you had for me.

As we enter the teen years I am sure I will come back and review it

all.

> We will be getting a new dog tomorrow and all the safeguards

will be in place to prevent any potential problems.

> Jane

>

>

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[Guest guest]

Hi Jane, It's amazing how quickly we can get off the subject of autism, but I have to admit that once in awhile, it's kinda nice! Congratulations on your new family member. Weimerimers are beautiful creatures. They remind me of sculptures. Their coloring is unlike any other...and those eyes! They are spirited and fun. My dd almost got one before she got her first boxer. She was told by a trainer that weimeriners should be taken around the house on a leash for awhile (don't remember how long) to learn their limits. If you don't want them on furniture, now is the time to teach them. Once you get this stuff established, training shouldn't be too difficult and they remember well. I was disappointed when they didn't get a weimeriner, although I am in love with , their 8 month old Boxer. I love the Wegman dogs that are on Sesame Street, and I think I bought all of the books! One of the teachers I work with always has a calender of the

Wegman dogs hanging in the classroom. Make sure you give us some details, ie, boy, girl, name, how is doing with his new pet, etc. Oh, and post a picture! ...And to tie autism in with this post.... at least you don't have to worry about your puppy being on the spectrum...they took thimerisol out of animal vaccines a LONG time ago!!!! Ironic, huh???? Congratulations on your newest family member. We all feel for you and your family on the loss of your other dog, and we are all thrilled to share in welcoming your newest little guy or gal!!! -Trish

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[Guest guest]

What wonderful, horrible news. It sounds like your boy has a huge, loving

heart. Wonderful.

Sorry about the dog though.

jane milota <autismjtm@...> wrote:

Hi all, I just wanted to let everyone know that I am breathing a sigh

of relief. It turns out that it was NOT my son that hurt my poor dog. The little

stinker got in the bathroom where my husband was painting and she drank the

paint - it had ANTIFREEZE in it. This is a dog who once ate a whole jar of

vaseline! must have been so confused and scared (he saw her on the

floor in the middle of this gigantic seizure) that he just said he hit her.

Although I am still extremely sad about having lost our dog, I cannot tell you

how happy I am that it was not my son who caused her death.

I want to thank all of you for your compassion and comforting words, not to

mention the extremely valuable advice you had for me. As we enter the teen years

I am sure I will come back and review it all.

We will be getting a new dog tomorrow and all the safeguards will be in place to

prevent any potential problems.

Jane

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