Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 Ha ha ha ha ha I used to love doing that as a kid. However now i would have to go buy some. but that sounds like fun. My daughter loves doing it now. Anytime we get something with that she takes it over. I get so sleepy and very I mean extreamly tired. That happens if I only missed one and that sure surprised me. The stress is so much here that I know it's not only going to be very hard, as after my son's nurse called me from the hospital today I had to have one, and after my ex came by and left I had to have another one. I really must face this stuff head on and maybe just let it go. Thank you. I know today was not a good day to quit even just a little.But I have got to!!!! hugs paulette Arthurnator@... wrote: Another thing to keep your hands buisy is popping bubble wrap. Who can't resist poping that stuff when it comes in packaging and I know you can buy it. I don't recall being tired.Just cranky a bit for the first 2 weeks,after that it was a breeze until the stress of all stress hit.A chronicly ill child. Good luck Becki and 7 systemic Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job of even cutting down. This is sure frustrating. hugs paulette ajaoky@... wrote: That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of luck and you will always have friends here. Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. I know you can do this...Don't give up! (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job of even cutting down. > > This is sure frustrating. > > hugs paulette > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of luck and you > will always have friends here. > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 Hi , Well I did start cutting down today. I passed up two cigerettes so far. I am keeping my eyes on the goal! Plus it will save me alot of money. I was thinking of calling my doctor about the wellbetrin I think that is what it was called, and see if he can give me a pill to help with the withdrawels. I will stop cold turkey if he can give me something. I don't know if he would like a phone call. My lung doctor or heart doctor may help here I don't know but thought I would try both and see which one will give the proscription for the pills. Besides, I do get depressed alot as I have so much to deal with and all alone too. So maybe the pills will help in both aspects. Hugs and thank you so much for chearing me on! paulette sonia1md <sonia1md@...> wrote: ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. I know you can do this...Don't give up! (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job of even cutting down. > > This is sure frustrating. > > hugs paulette > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of luck and you > will always have friends here. > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 I can only imagine that both of your doctors are going to be thrilled with your decision and will no doubt be willing to give you the script for Wellbutrin...Heck, you can't beat it...curbs your appetite, helps with withdrawls and improves your mood! :-) Keep up the good fight today! Write on the calendar how many cigs you had today and then try to lower that number tomorrow. I have never smoked before, but personally I think cutting back sounds harder that the cold turkey method...But, what do I no! lol We will encourage you with whatever method you try. sonia (aundrea 10 systemic)--- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Hi , > > Well I did start cutting down today. I passed up two cigerettes so far. I am keeping my eyes on the goal! Plus it will save me alot of money. > > I was thinking of calling my doctor about the wellbetrin I think that is what it was called, and see if he can give me a pill to help with the withdrawels. I will stop cold turkey if he can give me something. > > I don't know if he would like a phone call. My lung doctor or heart doctor may help here I don't know but thought I would try both and see which one will give the proscription for the pills. Besides, I do get depressed alot as I have so much to deal with and all alone too. So maybe the pills will help in both aspects. > > Hugs and thank you so much for chearing me on! paulette > > sonia1md <sonia1md@y...> wrote: > ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any > excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do > this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today > to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with > the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. > > I know you can do this...Don't give up! > > (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- > > -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the > nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job of > even cutting down. > > > > This is sure frustrating. > > > > hugs paulette > > > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of > luck and you > > will always have friends here. > > Donna > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 ette, It is worth a shot. When I had my brother in last week, his ortho mentioned that Wellbutrin can help too. We're all pulling for you. e Ginger Sunshine <pct777@...> wrote: Hi , Well I did start cutting down today. I passed up two cigerettes so far. I am keeping my eyes on the goal! Plus it will save me alot of money. I was thinking of calling my doctor about the wellbetrin I think that is what it was called, and see if he can give me a pill to help with the withdrawels. I will stop cold turkey if he can give me something. I don't know if he would like a phone call. My lung doctor or heart doctor may help here I don't know but thought I would try both and see which one will give the proscription for the pills. Besides, I do get depressed alot as I have so much to deal with and all alone too. So maybe the pills will help in both aspects. Hugs and thank you so much for chearing me on! paulette sonia1md <sonia1md@...> wrote: ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. I know you can do this...Don't give up! (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job of even cutting down. > > This is sure frustrating. > > hugs paulette > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of luck and you > will always have friends here. > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 11, 2006 Report Share Posted January 11, 2006 Oh LIsa I wish nothing but true love for you both and may you both always be together. Maybe one day I will meet someone but since I don't go to bars or nightclubs or anything other then markets and book stores and clothing stores I doubt I will meet anyone but I guess you never know. Hugs; paulette Salvucci <lisa_salvucci@...> wrote: There are people out there who will love you despite the fact that you have a chronic disease. Honestly that really shocked me! I didn't even want to be around me most of the time, I'm pretty boring when I'm sick, yet somehow at 18 (which i considered pretty young to fall in love) I met a guy who despite everything still loved me and wanted to hang out with me. We've been together for two and half years. He use to hang out with me on methotrexate nights (not to mention he never drank alcohol during the time I was on mtx because I wasn't allowed to and he never wanted me to feel different when we were at parties) even though I felt like crap and most of the time fell asleep during whatever movie we were watching, despite his fear of needles he learned how to give me my enbrel shots, he has always been there to offer a massage when I was in pain, and in the two and half years that i have been sick he has stayed by my side through hospitilizations, one surgery, and a lot of uncertainty, I feel very lucky and I know now that I have this because I deserve this as does every person. Maybe me and my boyfriend wont be together forever or maybe we will, but I realize now how lucky I am to have such a caring and understanding boyfriend. I can't believe your mom would say that to you, or that either of your boyfriends would ever say such hurtful things, I know being 21 my life experience doesn't rank up there that much especially in the love department but I do know that we all deserve people who love and understand us, and it breaks my heart that anyone would ever act that way towards you. We are so much better then that! Donna I am so glad that you found the amazing husband that you have, and ette I'm glad you dumped that ass (pardon my language I'm not much for swearing but it definitely was the only word that fit)! Ginger Sunshine <pct777@...> wrote: Yes I guess your right! My mom used to say to me when I first went out with this man, why does he want you? You are so sick and he is a healthy normal cute man what does he want you for? I guess she was right! She always said stick to your own kind. Well we have no other JRA's around here but me! ha ha ha ha Thank you, I will keep this all in mind when he keeps coming by while working with his truck. hugs and many thanks to you. paulette Fischer <pfischer@...> wrote: I'd like to add that Arthur gives us a unique perspective/ opportunity while dating. While others are going out with the Asshole, bitch (pardon my language), high maintenance sorority girl/ Frat guy... And failing miserably. Arthur has given us a way to QUICKLY weed out those awful types of people that aren't worth your time. If they don't want to be part of your life because of deformities, doctors visits, a little extra time getting out of the car... Then you DON'T want them either. It is that simple. He or she is out there... I promise. Fischer DPA Architects, Inc. pfischer@... Re: OT: Impact Of Smoking And Genes On Rheumatoid Arthritis ette, wow, you do have a lot to contend with but I must chime in on one thing you mentioned, " He has always told me I was lucky to have him as no one else would ever want me because of my JRA. I need crutches and do have the deformities from this thng. " Well hun if that what he thinks you are much to good for man like that anyway. Let him have his new girlfriend there are better things around the corner! I relate because many years ago I was in a similar situation and ironically was told the very same thing. My ex would hold my (deformed) hands in front of my face and say things like, " Look & *^%$ who else will have you look at you, your a monster, you should feel lucky to have me. " Well his loss, I left him and have moved on and given myself and my kids a much better home. I dated several times and even got married in 2004. We are so much better than that! Never again will another person have the chance to even think about talking to me like that. If this disease does nothing else it makes you strong, compassionate, courageous, brave, tolerant and patient and oh yeah..vocal. Hang tight and hang tough my friend! Also I quit smoking in a day! I through my cigarettes out in the road, seen the pack get run over and have never smoked again! Smiles! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 Well I know I really need it now. I am so depressed when my ex came by today he wants me to sell his engagement ring and wedding ring for him, how dare him and he even made it clear to me why he is doing what he is doing for his new girl as I was not worth it. I had three cigerettes in an hour. I am just to depressed to go into detail but man do I really deserve this? I feel so ugly and no good and usless. Haven't gotten into the how do I do away with myself mood yet. Thank God for that! hugs; paulette sonia1md <sonia1md@...> wrote: I can only imagine that both of your doctors are going to be thrilled with your decision and will no doubt be willing to give you the script for Wellbutrin...Heck, you can't beat it...curbs your appetite, helps with withdrawls and improves your mood! :-) Keep up the good fight today! Write on the calendar how many cigs you had today and then try to lower that number tomorrow. I have never smoked before, but personally I think cutting back sounds harder that the cold turkey method...But, what do I no! lol We will encourage you with whatever method you try. sonia (aundrea 10 systemic)--- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Hi , > > Well I did start cutting down today. I passed up two cigerettes so far. I am keeping my eyes on the goal! Plus it will save me alot of money. > > I was thinking of calling my doctor about the wellbetrin I think that is what it was called, and see if he can give me a pill to help with the withdrawels. I will stop cold turkey if he can give me something. > > I don't know if he would like a phone call. My lung doctor or heart doctor may help here I don't know but thought I would try both and see which one will give the proscription for the pills. Besides, I do get depressed alot as I have so much to deal with and all alone too. So maybe the pills will help in both aspects. > > Hugs and thank you so much for chearing me on! paulette > > sonia1md <sonia1md@y...> wrote: > ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any > excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do > this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today > to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with > the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. > > I know you can do this...Don't give up! > > (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- > > -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the > nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job of > even cutting down. > > > > This is sure frustrating. > > > > hugs paulette > > > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of > luck and you > > will always have friends here. > > Donna > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 paulette, I know you are really hurting and I feel so bad for all that your going thru...I hope that you will give some consideration to seeking out a a cousnelor...You are just under so much stress and perhaps finding someone that you could sort your feelings out with and renew your self esteem would be a good thing. A counselor could help you deal with the issues with the ex, chronic pain, loss of your parents, your health issues and your desire to kick the cig habit. I hope that you will consider this option. At this point an antidepressant would be a bandaid...Don't get me wrong, I think it could help but I belive if you couple it with couseling then this creepy ex would loose his hold on you. His behavior may continue to be the same but he will have no power over you! Hang in there girl... Things will get better! Hugs & blessings, (aundrea 10 systemic jra)-- - In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Well I know I really need it now. I am so depressed when my ex came by today he wants me to sell his engagement ring and wedding ring for him, how dare him and he even made it clear to me why he is doing what he is doing for his new girl as I was not worth it. I had three cigerettes in an hour. I am just to depressed to go into detail but man do I really deserve this? I feel so ugly and no good and usless. Haven't gotten into the how do I do away with myself mood yet. Thank God for that! > > hugs; paulette > > sonia1md <sonia1md@y...> wrote: > I can only imagine that both of your doctors are going to be > thrilled with your decision and will no doubt be willing to give you > the script for Wellbutrin...Heck, you can't beat it...curbs your > appetite, helps with withdrawls and improves your mood! :-) > > Keep up the good fight today! Write on the calendar how many cigs > you had today and then try to lower that number tomorrow. > > I have never smoked before, but personally I think cutting back > sounds harder that the cold turkey method...But, what do I no! lol > We will encourage you with whatever method you try. > > sonia (aundrea 10 systemic)--- > > In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > > > Hi , > > > > Well I did start cutting down today. I passed up two cigerettes > so far. I am keeping my eyes on the goal! Plus it will save me alot > of money. > > > > I was thinking of calling my doctor about the wellbetrin I think > that is what it was called, and see if he can give me a pill to help > with the withdrawels. I will stop cold turkey if he can give me > something. > > > > I don't know if he would like a phone call. My lung doctor or > heart doctor may help here I don't know but thought I would try both > and see which one will give the proscription for the pills. Besides, > I do get depressed alot as I have so much to deal with and all alone > too. So maybe the pills will help in both aspects. > > > > Hugs and thank you so much for chearing me on! paulette > > > > sonia1md <sonia1md@y...> wrote: > > ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any > > excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do > > this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today > > to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with > > the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. > > > > I know you can do this...Don't give up! > > > > (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- > > > > -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> > wrote: > > > > > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the > > nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job > of > > even cutting down. > > > > > > This is sure frustrating. > > > > > > hugs paulette > > > > > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > > > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of > > luck and you > > > will always have friends here. > > > Donna > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 Thank you , I am calling my Rhumathologist(sp) tomorrow as when my parents passed away I was so depressed knowing I had no one else and she wanted me to see a counsler and put me on a low does antidepressent then. Thank you. paulette sonia1md <sonia1md@...> wrote: paulette, I know you are really hurting and I feel so bad for all that your going thru...I hope that you will give some consideration to seeking out a a cousnelor...You are just under so much stress and perhaps finding someone that you could sort your feelings out with and renew your self esteem would be a good thing. A counselor could help you deal with the issues with the ex, chronic pain, loss of your parents, your health issues and your desire to kick the cig habit. I hope that you will consider this option. At this point an antidepressant would be a bandaid...Don't get me wrong, I think it could help but I belive if you couple it with couseling then this creepy ex would loose his hold on you. His behavior may continue to be the same but he will have no power over you! Hang in there girl... Things will get better! Hugs & blessings, (aundrea 10 systemic jra)-- - In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Well I know I really need it now. I am so depressed when my ex came by today he wants me to sell his engagement ring and wedding ring for him, how dare him and he even made it clear to me why he is doing what he is doing for his new girl as I was not worth it. I had three cigerettes in an hour. I am just to depressed to go into detail but man do I really deserve this? I feel so ugly and no good and usless. Haven't gotten into the how do I do away with myself mood yet. Thank God for that! > > hugs; paulette > > sonia1md <sonia1md@y...> wrote: > I can only imagine that both of your doctors are going to be > thrilled with your decision and will no doubt be willing to give you > the script for Wellbutrin...Heck, you can't beat it...curbs your > appetite, helps with withdrawls and improves your mood! :-) > > Keep up the good fight today! Write on the calendar how many cigs > you had today and then try to lower that number tomorrow. > > I have never smoked before, but personally I think cutting back > sounds harder that the cold turkey method...But, what do I no! lol > We will encourage you with whatever method you try. > > sonia (aundrea 10 systemic)--- > > In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > > > Hi , > > > > Well I did start cutting down today. I passed up two cigerettes > so far. I am keeping my eyes on the goal! Plus it will save me alot > of money. > > > > I was thinking of calling my doctor about the wellbetrin I think > that is what it was called, and see if he can give me a pill to help > with the withdrawels. I will stop cold turkey if he can give me > something. > > > > I don't know if he would like a phone call. My lung doctor or > heart doctor may help here I don't know but thought I would try both > and see which one will give the proscription for the pills. Besides, > I do get depressed alot as I have so much to deal with and all alone > too. So maybe the pills will help in both aspects. > > > > Hugs and thank you so much for chearing me on! paulette > > > > sonia1md <sonia1md@y...> wrote: > > ette just start over with your plan today...Don't make any > > excuses, don't let circumstance dictate your goals. You can do > > this. Enlist the ideas given. If you need to make the goal today > > to contact your doc to see about a script that will help you with > > the withdrawls then just make that call your goal for today. > > > > I know you can do this...Don't give up! > > > > (Aundrea 10 systemic jra)- > > > > -- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> > wrote: > > > > > > Thank you Donna but today with the ex dropping by and then the > > nurse calling from my son's hospital I didn't do such a good job > of > > even cutting down. > > > > > > This is sure frustrating. > > > > > > hugs paulette > > > > > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > > > That's right, you and those kids should be your world! best of > > luck and you > > > will always have friends here. > > > Donna > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 ette, I have learned bars and clubs are the worst place to meet men anyway. I have only met one ex boyfriend there and it was the worst relationship ever. I met my husband at an amusement park while there with my kids! Of course this was our second meeting when you consider we were childhood sweethearts but we went 25 + years without seeing each other. The time will come when you least expect it! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 Yipppe, and congrats ette! See you can do it! If you can say NO once, trust me, the second time is easier and sometimes more fun. LOL. I can sense in your emails you are an incredibly strong woman. Keep up the great work! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 Oh how wonderful for you. I guess my time will come when ever. I don't know if I would trust anyone else. But I do know I grab at any love since I haven't had any kind of kindness througout my life. It's a wonder I can give my kids love. But I vowed to myself I would never treat anyone the way I was treated. And even though my two children living with me are mentally challenged I still tell them I bet you can become anything you put your mind to and give them the bennifit of the doubt. My son who is Bipolor and in and out of Mental Hospital I even tell him that he is so good and how much I love him and how I know one day he is going have himself a good job and this year will be the best of his whole life. I like to encourage them as I never was. Thank you Donna I will try and be patient. My ex called me while we were out and he wanted me to go see if I can find any calenders for him as he needs one, and I said NO sorry. Not today. Too busy. Hugs and thank you all so much for the help. I feel some better today as compaired to last night. ette ajaoky@... wrote: ette, I have learned bars and clubs are the worst place to meet men anyway. I have only met one ex boyfriend there and it was the worst relationship ever. I met my husband at an amusement park while there with my kids! Of course this was our second meeting when you consider we were childhood sweethearts but we went 25 + years without seeing each other. The time will come when you least expect it! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 ette, glad to hear your doing a bit better today...good job on saying no to your ex...Thats a starting point.. did you call your rheumy today? sonia (drea 10 systemic jra)--- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Oh how wonderful for you. I guess my time will come when ever. > > I don't know if I would trust anyone else. But I do know I grab at any love since I haven't had any kind of kindness througout my life. It's a wonder I can give my kids love. But I vowed to myself I would never treat anyone the way I was treated. And even though my two children living with me are mentally challenged I still tell them I bet you can become anything you put your mind to and give them the bennifit of the doubt. My son who is Bipolor and in and out of Mental Hospital I even tell him that he is so good and how much I love him and how I know one day he is going have himself a good job and this year will be the best of his whole life. I like to encourage them as I never was. > > Thank you Donna I will try and be patient. My ex called me while we were out and he wanted me to go see if I can find any calenders for him as he needs one, and I said NO sorry. Not today. Too busy. > > Hugs and thank you all so much for the help. I feel some better today as compaired to last night. > ette > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > ette, I have learned bars and clubs are the worst place to meet men > anyway. I have only met one ex boyfriend there and it was the worst relationship > ever. I met my husband at an amusement park while there with my kids! Of > course this was our second meeting when you consider we were childhood sweethearts > but we went 25 + years without seeing each other. The time will come when > you least expect it! > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 Yeah I'd say bar and club men are pretty scumy! My sister is really into clubs and I have met some of the guys she hangs out with.. and uh no.. I wouldn't go for those type. I met my boyfriend through friends actually and it just so happened we had a lot in common.. There is someone out there for you and when the time is right you will find each other. The first step though is learning to be ok with yourself and knowing that you are amazing and beautiful no matter what your ex-jerk has to say.. he is a nobody and you are so much better.. I mean you must be.. you have all us rooting for you..none of us will ever be disapointed in you..just proud of your accomplishments.. you joined a support group but you gained a family..Just remember that all of us are here to support you.. you can quit smoking... feel better about yourself.. ignore that dumb guy.. and find the guy of dreams..because we all believe in you ajaoky@... wrote: ette, I have learned bars and clubs are the worst place to meet men anyway. I have only met one ex boyfriend there and it was the worst relationship ever. I met my husband at an amusement park while there with my kids! Of course this was our second meeting when you consider we were childhood sweethearts but we went 25 + years without seeing each other. The time will come when you least expect it! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 12, 2006 Report Share Posted January 12, 2006 well to start the process of liking yourself know that this is a very strong group of folks and not only do we LIKE ya we are pulling hard for ya! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2006 Report Share Posted January 13, 2006 Thank you Donna, as he came by again today and told me now he is moving into a trailer park as that is what I was trying to do. I still may if I can find someone who will help. I gave him half of my left over lunch as I knew I couldn't finnish it all. But other wise I really don't want to see him. He wanted me to sell the rings he bought for the other girl friend and will give this new girl friend brand new ones even though these haven't been used. So I said what do I get I want some of the money. ha ha ha ha He looked at me so funny. But i don't care. I do hope he moves maybe I wont see him anymore. ha ha ha Only difference is I want to move out of this city all together. I still feel depressed as I no longer have my Mom or dad to talk to and feel so alone. But I am trying very hard when not in pain to keep busy. Hugs; paulette ajaoky@... wrote: Yipppe, and congrats ette! See you can do it! If you can say NO once, trust me, the second time is easier and sometimes more fun. LOL. I can sense in your emails you are an incredibly strong woman. Keep up the great work! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2006 Report Share Posted January 13, 2006 Thank you Donna and thank you to all of you wonderful family here on this group. I realy thank you all because without you all I don't know where I would be. Yes Donna your so right. I have to start this by first likeing myself. That is going to be hard as I was called so many names but I am going to give it a good try. hugs to you and thank you so much; paulette Salvucci <lisa_salvucci@...> wrote: Yeah I'd say bar and club men are pretty scumy! My sister is really into clubs and I have met some of the guys she hangs out with.. and uh no.. I wouldn't go for those type. I met my boyfriend through friends actually and it just so happened we had a lot in common.. There is someone out there for you and when the time is right you will find each other. The first step though is learning to be ok with yourself and knowing that you are amazing and beautiful no matter what your ex-jerk has to say.. he is a nobody and you are so much better.. I mean you must be.. you have all us rooting for you..none of us will ever be disapointed in you..just proud of your accomplishments.. you joined a support group but you gained a family..Just remember that all of us are here to support you.. you can quit smoking... feel better about yourself.. ignore that dumb guy.. and find the guy of dreams..because we all believe in you ajaoky@... wrote: ette, I have learned bars and clubs are the worst place to meet men anyway. I have only met one ex boyfriend there and it was the worst relationship ever. I met my husband at an amusement park while there with my kids! Of course this was our second meeting when you consider we were childhood sweethearts but we went 25 + years without seeing each other. The time will come when you least expect it! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2006 Report Share Posted January 13, 2006 Hi , No as most of the day all of what happend yesterday still came to haunt me and then the guy came to fix the garage door. So by the time I was out of a slump it was too late. I can call and make an appoitment with her. I know it would be better to see her as I can explain how my knees are hurting and I am so depressed on and off that I don't want to start thinking those thoughts again I had before, and how bad I want to quit smoking and need help. Maybe all those things she would be more likely to give me the pills. I'll let you all know. I do know I can't wait till I can take something so when my ex comes by I can just let it all slip by me and not bother me like another fight today. He got mad because I told him I would not sell rings he bought for his girlfriend and he made the mistake in the first palce and why do I need to take all the phone calls and stuff and when will he pay me back. So he yelled and shouted and stormed out and said forget it your stupid. Well I will keep you all informed on what the doctor says. hugs; paulette sonia1md <sonia1md@...> wrote: ette, glad to hear your doing a bit better today...good job on saying no to your ex...Thats a starting point.. did you call your rheumy today? sonia (drea 10 systemic jra)--- In , Ginger Sunshine <pct777@y...> wrote: > > Oh how wonderful for you. I guess my time will come when ever. > > I don't know if I would trust anyone else. But I do know I grab at any love since I haven't had any kind of kindness througout my life. It's a wonder I can give my kids love. But I vowed to myself I would never treat anyone the way I was treated. And even though my two children living with me are mentally challenged I still tell them I bet you can become anything you put your mind to and give them the bennifit of the doubt. My son who is Bipolor and in and out of Mental Hospital I even tell him that he is so good and how much I love him and how I know one day he is going have himself a good job and this year will be the best of his whole life. I like to encourage them as I never was. > > Thank you Donna I will try and be patient. My ex called me while we were out and he wanted me to go see if I can find any calenders for him as he needs one, and I said NO sorry. Not today. Too busy. > > Hugs and thank you all so much for the help. I feel some better today as compaired to last night. > ette > > ajaoky@a... wrote: > ette, I have learned bars and clubs are the worst place to meet men > anyway. I have only met one ex boyfriend there and it was the worst relationship > ever. I met my husband at an amusement park while there with my kids! Of > course this was our second meeting when you consider we were childhood sweethearts > but we went 25 + years without seeing each other. The time will come when > you least expect it! > Donna > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 13, 2006 Report Share Posted January 13, 2006 Thank you so much Donna and all. Hugs and a big one for even just likeing me makes me feel so much better. paulette ajaoky@... wrote: well to start the process of liking yourself know that this is a very strong group of folks and not only do we LIKE ya we are pulling hard for ya! Donna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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