Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Hi, I cant really tell what my heart says. At one moment it says that he was just overwhelmed with everything and that how he had to deal with it and then I feel like it would be wrong to me and him if I stayed with him because he doesnt like medical things and I will have to go to the drs alot for the rest of my life. I love him and have been with him for 4 years and he did stick by me for the 3 months I was in the hospital and the 6 months it took me to become close to who I used to be. Chad and my family were the only people who stood by me when I got suddenly sick and transplanted and that just makes me love him so much more and I feel like I should put up with little outbursts because he has had to deal with alot of unexpected things. I guess my heart says to stay but I dont want to hurt him by getting sick later, he is so scared of anything medical. Am I being selfish by wanting to stay with him? Thanks for any advice. Cece p.s. This was supposed to be a happy post about my donor not me!joan claffey <jclaffey66@...> wrote: Hi, Your emotions must be all over the place - the letter & your boyfriends reaction..... what does your heart tell you to do? Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 He might not know how to handle it. (the transplant that is) Seeing all the stuff from your donor maybe made him think back to how he almost lost you, and he doesn't want to think about that. Maybe for him he can't support you getting to know the donor's family because it just reminds him of losing you. Just my 2 cents Cora Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Selfish?? No. How can loving someone be selfish. I think more conversation between the two of U on this matter will help. Yes he freaked out a bit, but I dont feel it was intentional. Like Joan said follow your heart, its always right! Hugs Trish ~home from a 3 day mini vacation` Am I being selfish by wanting to stay with him? > > Thanks for any advice. > Cece > p.s. This was supposed to be a happy post about my donor not me! > > joan claffey <jclaffey66@m...> wrote: > > Hi, > > Your emotions must be all over the place - the letter & your boyfriends reaction..... what does your heart tell you to do? > > Joan > > > > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 6, 2004 Report Share Posted June 6, 2004 Cece, I think maybe this is another case of how differently men and women deal with high stress and highly emotional issues. Oftentimes men just can't cope very well with things that are emotional because they are practical beings. I'm not saying this as a "bash men" post, it's just a personal observation. Perhaps this letter was just way outside his comfort zone. It doesn't mean that he doesn't care, nor does it mean he won't support you and love you. Perhaps he's just feeling very overwhelmed by it all too. Men can't seem to express their emotions in the same way a woman can. Perhaps you would be better talking this stuff through with a female friend or relative. By all means share how you feel with Chad but remember he's still very raw emotionally too and he hasn't been where you've been personally so he's probably finding it hard to really relate to it. You two will get through this, you obviously love each other very much or you two wouldn't have made it this far. *Hugs* anne Re: [ ] Cece.......... Hi, I cant really tell what my heart says. At one moment it says that he was just overwhelmed with everything and that how he had to deal with it and then I feel like it would be wrong to me and him if I stayed with him because he doesnt like medical things and I will have to go to the drs alot for the rest of my life. I love him and have been with him for 4 years and he did stick by me for the 3 months I was in the hospital and the 6 months it took me to become close to who I used to be. Chad and my family were the only people who stood by me when I got suddenly sick and transplanted and that just makes me love him so much more and I feel like I should put up with little outbursts because he has had to deal with alot of unexpected things. I guess my heart says to stay but I dont want to hurt him by getting sick later, he is so scared of anything medical. Am I being selfish by wanting to stay with him? Thanks for any advice. Cece p.s. This was supposed to be a happy post about my donor not me!joan claffey <jclaffey66@...> wrote: Hi, Your emotions must be all over the place - the letter & your boyfriends reaction..... what does your heart tell you to do? Joan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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