Re: Re: Husband's Death/Sharon same thing

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Gloria,They did that to my family when my father died. He was a horrible man and abused my mother. Big alcoholic. Well, when he died, they would not let me, or my sister ride in the funeral car or my mother. But my mother didn't want to anyway. Me and sister felt like we were pieces of shit. We were young and really did'nt get it. How do you treat someone's two daughters that way when they suffered all the consequences of his evil ways. It was hurtful, but in the end no one really cared but us. We never laid eyes on

anyone in his family again. There are sick people out their, I had them in my lives too. He wasn't even a nice person? I think that these people get gratification off one's misery. Hey, we are still here, they, well, never saw them again in my life. Thank you.I am sorry for you and your family. You are not alone, it happens when one has the control "remember". It's the only thing they can control. We are the ones that put up with his shit not them. They were clueless who they buried. They asked my sister, for money to bury him??? We were stunned, she never even went the funeral, she was the smart one. I have two sisters, they wouldn't even dared have asked me for money I would have spit at them. I drove behind the limo saying why

am I here in a beat up station wagon that was about 90 years old. It was terrible. I never forgot how humiliated I was. I never forgot it. I wish I had never gone. They let people in the limo that weren't even related to him?? The daughters followed imagine, lol I have to laugh now, I should never had even went that would have got their goat! I hope you can grasp what I'm telling you. I'm over it, plain and simple and you will be too. Cool down, they want your reaction to piss you off. Don't give it to them, that's what they want from you. They want to see you steaming mad. That's their gratificiation, don't give it to them. Sorry. Or you could do your own article as Suzy suggested for yourself, not for them. you will be okay, but it is a shitty thing to do. My mother did say a few things but it didn't matter, we rid him of our lives and never looked back. I still remember

the humiliation, I should have stayed home it would have been better for me, but I didn't. I thought I was doing the right thing, maybe I did, who knows.sharonFrom: SuziQ <ancientkron@...> Sent: Thu, January 6, 2011 11:35:51 PMSubject: [ ] Re: Husband's Death

Gloria,

I have an idea. You know the "IN MEMORY OF" paper that is handed out at funerals? There is not time to get one printed, but you might make one on your computer and pass it out outside the service. Write the good things you shared together and his sobriety etc List survived by WIFE of xx years and friends (name a few). Name his family as well so it is not vindictive. Otherwise you may have another surprise awaiting you at the funeral service. You probably will not be mentioned on that memorial paper. You can call ahead to the funeral home to see what it says. Call a few of your AA friends to be sure they are there to support you--you will need them. I called mine for my son's funeral.

I will stand beside you even if you can't see me. I have walked in your shoes and it is painful.

Love SuziQ

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> > Hey Guys

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> > I want to share with you just how sick my step-children are. Here are two

> > paragraphs from the obit that is to be in our paper on Friday:

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> > He will be deeply missed by his children, Tom (Lorna), Bill, (Kat),

> > Cheryl (Greg) and stepson Shon. His many grandchildren: ,

> > , Emma, Olivia; Damien, , Tristan; , Kyla and Grayden. He also

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> > leaves behind to mourn: six sisters; three brothers; many nieces and

> > nephews and Gloria.

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> > In light of Dad’s recent diagnosis, he made the decision to retire and

> >was

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> > looking forward to traveling the world with his special friend Pat, but he

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> > was called to God’s side unexpectedly and was blessed to have his daughter

> > Cheryl, son Tom and grandson by his side.

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> > I'm going into town now and make lots of noise.

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> > Gloria

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