Re: My father in law died

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Oh I am so sorry.  Please let Rick know that him and all of you are in my prayers and thoughts.  Is there anything I can do for you?  Let me know if you need anything okay?  If you need to talk, I am here.  

Hugs,TeriOn Sun, Nov 28, 2010 at 10:38 PM, Cinder <datagrey@...> wrote:

 

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family.

Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing.

His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out of the way and safe and well for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was huge.

I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah.

Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see.

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Hi

I am sorry you and your family have to go through this.

I know that it is hard on everybody.

Now is the time to be there for Rick.

He's going to need you in big and small ways while he adjusts.

I am blasting you and Rick with strength and love.

I am blasting StepMom with tons of peace, stength and love.

Give the chi chi a hug from me.

love

don in ks

From: Cinder <datagrey@...>Subject: [ ] My father in law died Date: Sunday, November 28, 2010, 10:38 PM

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family. Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing. His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out of the way and

safe and well for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was huge. I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah. Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see. ------------------------------------

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I can't say that I'm sorry about your father-in-law, , because now he's not in the incredible pain anymore.I do hope that Rick had the ability to deal with his past resentments and has been able to let them go. Sometimes, the Higher Power sets it up so that the survivor can let it all go!!Doesn't your mother-in-law have a son of her own?? Will he be there to help her??Gloria

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family.

Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing.

His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out of the way and safe and well for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was

huge.

I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah.

Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see.

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Thanks Don.

I will have to stop by sometime and bring my chis so you can meet them. It will have to be a good day so you can see them on your porch for a few min. Maybe when I take them to the vet. I have to take the one for shots. Then later on for spaying. The other for shots.

The new dog turned out to be a good addition. Rick likes her.

Well heading for bed. Good night.

Blasting you right back with your health too. Hoping you get to moving better and get help with all your stuff going on. You have a lot going on health wise kind of like me. When it rains it pours.

Love and hugs

From: Cinder <datagrey@...>Subject: [ ] My father in law died Date: Sunday, November 28, 2010, 10:38 PM

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family. Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing. His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out

of the way and safe and well for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was huge. I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah. Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see. ------------------------------------

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I am not sorry he died. I was glad he did and the suffering is over. It was hard watching him suffer. Thanksgiving he fell out of the recliner. So this is better than watching that on and on. I do think Rick can deal with his past okay. That isn't going to be as bad as I thought. He is more worried about his brother Barry. Barry was very attached to the old man. So Rick was there alot more at the end more for Barry and for the mother in law prompted by me to help them out. He did good too. He is taking the week off. He is a little sad because in the last little bit his dad actually was nicer. He isn't much on showing his feelings. He would though if he could. He trusts me with his feelings.

The mother in law has a son. He is more around for the money and things he can get. He is the doctor. But he is all she has. She will be okay it will be hard going for awhile I just know it will be hard starting over. I can see how frightening it will be for her at first. She has had such a hard time of it she is down to 94 lbs at 5'6". She has weight problems. It may have been better if she had not seen the end. He struggled at the last few min bad. It looked worse than it was.

Got to get to bed. Thanks for writing

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>Subject: Re: [ ] My father in law died Date: Sunday, November 28, 2010, 11:04 PM

I can't say that I'm sorry about your father-in-law, , because now he's not in the incredible pain anymore.I do hope that Rick had the ability to deal with his past resentments and has been able to let them go. Sometimes, the Higher Power sets it up so that the survivor can let it all go!!Doesn't your mother-in-law have a son of her own?? Will he be there to help her??Gloria

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Hi ,

I am so sorry to hear that your father in law has passed away, and I hope that you, Rick & the family are doing okay.I know it must have been really painful attaching the last part of it, as nobody wanted to see the suffering, and just wanted him to go in peace. It is good that the whole family is around to support each other during this. It is good that Rick will have some time off. I went through this last Christmas with my Step mom passing away from Cancer, it is a really tough time for everybody, please let me know if I can help out in anyway! you are all in my prayers!Hugs

nyFrom: Cinder <datagrey@...> Cc: Sent: Sunday, November 28, 2010 6:38:31 PMSubject: [ ] My father in law died

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family.

Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing.

His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out of the way and safe and well for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was

huge.

I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah.

Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see.

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It helps me out tremedously just being here and emailing me and being the friend I need. Keeping our family in your prayers. That is all we need. Thanks you are so sweet.

From: Barrett <barrjohnm@...>Subject: Re: [ ] My father in law died" " < >Date: Monday, November 29, 2010, 6:31 AM

Hi ,

I am so sorry to hear that your father in law has passed away, and I hope that you, Rick & the family are doing okay.I know it must have been really painful attaching the last part of it, as nobody wanted to see the suffering, and just wanted him to go in peace. It is good that the whole family is around to support each other during this. It is good that Rick will have some time off. I went through this last Christmas with my Step mom passing away from Cancer, it is a really tough time for everybody, please let me know if I can help out in anyway!

you are all in my prayers!

Hugs ny

From: Cinder <datagrey@...> Cc: Sent: Sunday, November 28, 2010 6:38:31 PMSubject: [ ] My father in law died

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family. Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing. His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out of the way and safe and well

for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was huge. I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah. Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see.

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hi ,I hope that everything os going okay there for you & the family. You are in all of our prayers,let us know if you need anything,Hugs, nyFrom: Cinder <datagrey@...> Sent: Mon, November 29, 2010 7:00:54 AMSubject: Re: [ ] My

father in law died

It helps me out tremedously just being here and emailing me and being the friend I need. Keeping our family in your prayers. That is all we need. Thanks you are so sweet.

From: Barrett <barrjohnm@...>Subject: Re: [ ] My father in law died" " < >Date: Monday, November 29, 2010, 6:31 AM

Hi ,

I am so sorry to hear that your father in law has passed away, and I hope that you, Rick & the family are doing okay.I know it must have been really painful attaching the last part of it, as nobody wanted to see the suffering, and just wanted him to go in peace. It is good that the whole family is around to support each other during this. It is good that Rick will have some time off. I went through this last Christmas with my Step mom passing away from Cancer, it is a really tough time for everybody, please let me know if I can help out in anyway!

you are all in my prayers!

Hugs ny

From: Cinder <datagrey@...> Cc: Sent: Sunday, November 28, 2010 6:38:31 PMSubject: [ ] My father in law died

My father in law died about 7:30 pm. Rick was at his bedside as were most of the family. Rick said the end was not pretty. It was hard to watch him struggle so hard for those last breaths. He was choking for those breaths. Rick was praying for him to just stop breathing. His step mom had a break down. For 30 years she has had no other life than this man. She doesn't know any other life. She has no friends. She has no family to lean on because they all leaned on her. She was the one with money. The whole thing is just sad. Rick is taking the next week and a half off work to try and get stuff straightened out. His dad left so much paper work undone and nothing settled about who got what. So lots left to go over. Rick did not want to go back tomorrow because if he got yelled at once by his mean boss he would have punched him he said. He would have deserved it. Anyway. I have been waiting around at home staying out of the way and safe and well

for Rick trying to keep everything okay here for him. That made him feel good I was okay and his kid was okay. He had a really good visit with his kid this time. His kid did really good at getting along with me this time. He ate breakfast with us today. Biscuits and gravy. Wow that was huge. I got me a new cute tan chihuahua female dog to go with my other female chihuahua. They sure have become close friends. Good to see them playing. I got two bed buddies now. yeah. Got a MRI tomorrow morning to see if the nerologist can figure out why my legs give out once in awhile. He said it could be something I could need surgery for. If it is I am not having it now. I will wait till long after tx. Tx will come first before anything else. Hopefully maybe in April for tx. We will see.