Guest guest Posted June 1, 2006 Report Share Posted June 1, 2006 i can't really relate to this two i've always been bad at doing two things which is absurd -- i do 50000 things per day but i guess two new things, two learning curve things felicity > > >> ...I actually find it hard to be passionate about athleticism and >> singing at the same time (doing both on the same day, even) This is >> where I need help. I feel expelled...like I only have enough focus >> to do one or the other...so singing has been hanging in the closet >> since February...yikes! > > > I can really relate to this! > > I'm a writer, working on a novel, and last year when I did my first > BFL challenge I barely > wrote at all. This spring I've tried to make both writing and BFL a > priority and it's been > tough. I'm hoping at some point the exercise and BFL-way of eating > will be so automatic it > won't require so much focus, but I'm not there yet!. > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 Tara, I just read this by Tom Venuto: " On a muscle growth program, I would say it's a great idea to take advantage of the commercial post-workout drinks available to you because it's hard to eat enough calories to gain lean body weight. Among a list of other benefits like increased protein synthesis, decreased exercise-induced cortisol, glycogen replenishment, and improved recovery, post workout drinks provide a convenient and easy way to get more calories and that indeed may help muscle growth. " SOOO I guess that means I need to put the breaks on it, and you need to step it up! -- > >> >>> Hey all! > >> >>> > >> >>> I was just wondering today how everyone is doing... I know > > some of us > >> >>> are > >> >>> really good at letting everyone else know, and I know that > > some of us > >> >>> are > >> >>> really good about helping others when they need it... BUT, I'm > > just > >> >>> curious > >> >>> as to how everyone is doing, either how the progress is coming > > along > >> >>> during > >> >>> a challenge, how maintainence is going, or just how life is > > going in > >> >>> general... > >> >>> > >> >>> As for me... > >> >>> > >> >>> I got promoted yesterday at work!!! Better hours, better job, > > AND a 12% > >> >>> pay > >> >>> increase... this poor broke college girl needs it big time! > > AND I only > >> >>> have > >> >>> 54 days left of school! Hooray!! > >> >>> > >> >>> After week 8 in my challenge I evaluated my progress in every > > area and > >> >>> set > >> >>> new goals for myself, based on that... Well, it's week 10 and > > I've > >> >>> achieved > >> >>> half of them! I'm only .2 pounds away from the goal weight I > > set for > >> >>> myself > >> >>> (the scale is staying under 160, YES!!!!!), but still 2.1% > > away from the > >> >>> BF > >> >>> I wanted to be at, so I'll need to work really hard to get > > that down... > >> >>> I've > >> >>> already met/beat my goals for my chest, hips, thighs, and > > calves, and > >> >>> just > >> >>> need to work on the biceps, forearms, and waist. > >> >>> > >> >>> I'm no where near the original weight goal I set for myself > > (145) and I > >> >>> don't think I'll be back in my skinny jeans QUITE yet, but > > reevaluating > >> >>> things totally put my mindset where it needed to be. And > > plus, I can > >> >>> set > >> >>> more realistic goals for my next challenge, which I'm already > > thinking > >> >>> about! > >> >>> > >> >>> Hope everyone else is doing well! It's been raining for 10 > > days here, > >> >>> ick... But should be nice again by Wednesday, here's hoping! > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I wanted to reply to this post too--I feel the EXACT same way. That's kind of what I was getting at a few weeks ago when I posted something about feeling unbalanced, spending a lot of time on BFL. I feel kinda frustrated, as the weeks go by and some of my other goals are just sitting there (like getting our house ready to possibly go on the market, for ex.) There is a creative person inside of me dying to get out and make some quilts, jewelry, paint, etc. but it's just not happening. But I am choosing to do the workouts, cook the food (not such an issue tho), so that is where my priority is, no doubt. I've been doing this since Oct 2005, so for me I don't think it's a matter of adjusting to the time demands. I'm considering tweaking my workouts, maybe two total body circuits a week and 3 days HIIT, would work out better. Things are changing now anyway--summer vacation for my son already! Hope this vent wasn't too whiny. It's heartening to hear that others feel similarly. Candace > > > ...I actually find it hard to be passionate about athleticism and > > singing at the same time (doing both on the same day, even) This is > > where I need help. I feel expelled...like I only have enough focus > > to do one or the other...so singing has been hanging in the closet > > since February...yikes! > > > I can really relate to this! > > I'm a writer, working on a novel, and last year when I did my first BFL challenge I barely > wrote at all. This spring I've tried to make both writing and BFL a priority and it's been > tough. I'm hoping at some point the exercise and BFL-way of eating will be so automatic it > won't require so much focus, but I'm not there yet!. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I think it has to do with the Learning Curve, when something new in life hits, it rocks the boat. And I believe that finding the balance is essential to discovering one's inner power. There are God-like creatures out there in the world, who manage to maintain a beautiful body AND a brilliant artistic career. These people raise children and have side businesses as well. Some of them are what the industry calls a " triple threat " , and can sing, dance and act (keeping their skill at top levels 8 shows a week), while looking like a million bucks. hurrumph! I want that fire. > > > ...I actually find it hard to be passionate about athleticism and > > singing at the same time (doing both on the same day, even) This is > > where I need help. I feel expelled...like I only have enough focus > > to do one or the other...so singing has been hanging in the closet > > since February...yikes! > > > I can really relate to this! > > I'm a writer, working on a novel, and last year when I did my first BFL challenge I barely > wrote at all. This spring I've tried to make both writing and BFL a priority and it's been > tough. I'm hoping at some point the exercise and BFL-way of eating will be so automatic it > won't require so much focus, but I'm not there yet!. > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 I've been thinking that I'm actually having TOO many protein shakes. On a normal day (and sadly, I eat almost exactly the same thing every day, b/c I'm a creature of habit), I have a scoop of whey w/ a carb before working out, after working out, at around 4PM and in my protein pancake. Is that WAY too much WHEY? Sorry...lame joke..I amuse myself beijobear wrote: Tara, I just read this by Tom Venuto: " On a muscle growth program, I would say it's a great idea to take advantage of the commercial post-workout drinks available to you because it's hard to eat enough calories to gain lean body weight. Among a list of other benefits like increased protein synthesis, decreased exercise-induced cortisol, glycogen replenishment, and improved recovery, post workout drinks provide a convenient and easy way to get more calories and that indeed may help muscle growth. " SOOO I guess that means I need to put the breaks on it, and you need to step it up! -- > >> >>> Hey all! > >> >>> > >> >>> I was just wondering today how everyone is doing... I know > > some of us > >> >>> are > >> >>> really good at letting everyone else know, and I know that > > some of us > >> >>> are > >> >>> really good about helping others when they need it... BUT, I'm > > just > >> >>> curious > >> >>> as to how everyone is doing, either how the progress is coming > > along > >> >>> during > >> >>> a challenge, how maintainence is going, or just how life is > > going in > >> >>> general... > >> >>> > >> >>> As for me... > >> >>> > >> >>> I got promoted yesterday at work!!! Better hours, better job, > > AND a 12% > >> >>> pay > >> >>> increase... this poor broke college girl needs it big time! > > AND I only > >> >>> have > >> >>> 54 days left of school! Hooray!! > >> >>> > >> >>> After week 8 in my challenge I evaluated my progress in every > > area and > >> >>> set > >> >>> new goals for myself, based on that... Well, it's week 10 and > > I've > >> >>> achieved > >> >>> half of them! I'm only .2 pounds away from the goal weight I > > set for > >> >>> myself > >> >>> (the scale is staying under 160, YES!!!!!), but still 2.1% > > away from the > >> >>> BF > >> >>> I wanted to be at, so I'll need to work really hard to get > > that down... > >> >>> I've > >> >>> already met/beat my goals for my chest, hips, thighs, and > > calves, and > >> >>> just > >> >>> need to work on the biceps, forearms, and waist. > >> >>> > >> >>> I'm no where near the original weight goal I set for myself > > (145) and I > >> >>> don't think I'll be back in my skinny jeans QUITE yet, but > > reevaluating > >> >>> things totally put my mindset where it needed to be. And > > plus, I can > >> >>> set > >> >>> more realistic goals for my next challenge, which I'm already > > thinking > >> >>> about! > >> >>> > >> >>> Hope everyone else is doing well! It's been raining for 10 > > days here, > >> >>> ick... But should be nice again by Wednesday, here's hoping! > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> > >> >>> Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 2, 2006 Report Share Posted June 2, 2006 Update: Bulk!!!! I got in around 2000 calories again today! Had to have a cup of cottage cheese, all bran, sugar free jam, and cocoa for my last meal (and I admit I felt a twinge of guilt), but I did it! Did NOT do cardio today! I had so much energy when I lifted today b/c I added some bulk to my preworkout shake. I had whey, oats, soymilk, and Betagen. It was so creamy and good! alysd38 <no_reply > wrote: Dallas Symphony Chorus. I love Queen!....Freddy Mercury had a huge vocal range. b. > > > > Don't invite me. I've got a great ear for music, but my vocal chords > > have a mind of their own--I can mangle " Happy Birthday " . > > > > Naomi > > ****** > > > We should have our own Bodyforlifewomen's list chorus! I sing with > the > > > symphony chorus here. I'm an alto > > > > > > Barbara > > > > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------- > ----- > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 I am allergic to everything today. I did get some things done, I just hope I don't have to redo them after I feel better and give them a second look.Kathy J(Waiting eagerly for three more days to see if anything hatches out of the eggs we have incubating in our transparent hen.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 I am allergic to everything today. I did get some things done, I just hope I don't have to redo them after I feel better and give them a second look.Kathy J(Waiting eagerly for three more days to see if anything hatches out of the eggs we have incubating in our transparent hen.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Doing alright I guess. This Cho thing has brought up a lot of memories I would rather burn from my mind altogether. It seems to be passing though. See what's free at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Doing alright I guess. This Cho thing has brought up a lot of memories I would rather burn from my mind altogether. It seems to be passing though. See what's free at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 In a message dated 4/26/2007 8:07:23 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, rrabbits@... writes: I am allergic to everything today. I did get some things done, I just hope I don't have to redo them after I feel better and give them a second look.Kathy J(Waiting eagerly for three more days to see if anything hatches out of the eggs we have incubating in our transparent hen.) The pollen and mold have been terrible about there lately. Hoping for some rain out of those forecast storms so that the cars won't be that nasty green color anymore. See what's free at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 In a message dated 4/26/2007 10:27:16 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, no_reply writes: It brought up memories from my past about how I was bullied. Sometimes it is best to leave the past in the past, but the past can serve as a reminder to some about how to treat people properly and how we would like to be treated. Society needs reminding more than any of us here do though.TomAdministrator They'll never learn. Most of this happens amongst the children and young and they'll never change. The schools might make them shape up eventually, on campus, but off campus they'd probably be worse. Never really ends though, just changes form. See what's free at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 In a message dated 4/26/2007 10:27:16 A.M. Eastern Daylight Time, no_reply writes: It brought up memories from my past about how I was bullied. Sometimes it is best to leave the past in the past, but the past can serve as a reminder to some about how to treat people properly and how we would like to be treated. Society needs reminding more than any of us here do though.TomAdministrator They'll never learn. Most of this happens amongst the children and young and they'll never change. The schools might make them shape up eventually, on campus, but off campus they'd probably be worse. Never really ends though, just changes form. See what's free at AOL.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 > > How is everyone doing? > > I mean, generally speaking? Tired, Tired of washing walls before painting primer blah! Tired of the news although I loathe the thought of being uninformed too. I'm sorry but for those of you who don't know, my Mom passed away in February and my routine is gone. I thought if I threw myself into a project like painting the physical workout would help me feel better but it seems that isn't the case. I'm tired of my son's meltdowns when he doesn't get what he wants and tired of being the mean mom who won't cave into his demands. He's really a good kid but he is not thrilled to read and when he tries to organize his time to finish the required reading, he fails. This is where I must step in and it's not easy to watch him become so frustrated and remain calm myself. I've been doing reading about NLD and hopefully this will better enable me to walk the fine line between helping or helping too much. His grades have picked up and he now has an IEP in place. I'm tired of dealing with legal " issues " with a sibling who won't respond and in doing so holds up progress. I wish he'd just sign the required paperwork so we can get on with doing what needs to be done. If he has questions, he knows how to reach the family. ARRGGGG! Then there is the discussions between the other sibs on how to best approach the non-responding sib, blah blah blah. I hate tiptoeing around this and if I had my way, I'd just call him and ask him what he plans on doing. But my sister wants the lawyers to deal with him so everything is by the book. I need a vacation but this will be difficult seeing as I now have two dogs. I took my Mom's dog and finding a sitter for these two will be difficult. I'm not fond of kennels, much prefer to have someone I know sit them while I'm away. It will just take some planning on my part so I shouldn't gripe. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 > > How is everyone doing? > > I mean, generally speaking? Tired, Tired of washing walls before painting primer blah! Tired of the news although I loathe the thought of being uninformed too. I'm sorry but for those of you who don't know, my Mom passed away in February and my routine is gone. I thought if I threw myself into a project like painting the physical workout would help me feel better but it seems that isn't the case. I'm tired of my son's meltdowns when he doesn't get what he wants and tired of being the mean mom who won't cave into his demands. He's really a good kid but he is not thrilled to read and when he tries to organize his time to finish the required reading, he fails. This is where I must step in and it's not easy to watch him become so frustrated and remain calm myself. I've been doing reading about NLD and hopefully this will better enable me to walk the fine line between helping or helping too much. His grades have picked up and he now has an IEP in place. I'm tired of dealing with legal " issues " with a sibling who won't respond and in doing so holds up progress. I wish he'd just sign the required paperwork so we can get on with doing what needs to be done. If he has questions, he knows how to reach the family. ARRGGGG! Then there is the discussions between the other sibs on how to best approach the non-responding sib, blah blah blah. I hate tiptoeing around this and if I had my way, I'd just call him and ask him what he plans on doing. But my sister wants the lawyers to deal with him so everything is by the book. I need a vacation but this will be difficult seeing as I now have two dogs. I took my Mom's dog and finding a sitter for these two will be difficult. I'm not fond of kennels, much prefer to have someone I know sit them while I'm away. It will just take some planning on my part so I shouldn't gripe. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 It brought up memories from my past about how I was bullied. Sometimes it is best to leave the past in the past, but the past can serve as a reminder to some about how to treat people properly and how we would like to be treated. Society needs reminding more than any of us here do though. Tom Administrator " Doing alright I guess. This Cho thing has brought up a lot of memories I would rather burn from my mind altogether. It seems to be passing though. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 It brought up memories from my past about how I was bullied. Sometimes it is best to leave the past in the past, but the past can serve as a reminder to some about how to treat people properly and how we would like to be treated. Society needs reminding more than any of us here do though. Tom Administrator " Doing alright I guess. This Cho thing has brought up a lot of memories I would rather burn from my mind altogether. It seems to be passing though. " Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Let us know what happens, please. And I hope your allergies disappear. Tom Administrator (Waiting eagerly for three more days to see if anything hatches out of the eggs we have incubating in our transparent hen.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Let us know what happens, please. And I hope your allergies disappear. Tom Administrator (Waiting eagerly for three more days to see if anything hatches out of the eggs we have incubating in our transparent hen.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 " Tired. " Sorry to hear this. " I'm sorry but for those of you who don't know, my Mom passed away in February and my routine is gone. I thought if I threw myself into a project like painting the physical workout would help me feel better but it seems that isn't the case. " It isn't working because you are probably more or less avoiding all the uncomfortable feelings that happen with her passing. It's good that you are getting work done around the house, but what work are you doing on YOU? Try to allow yourself some personal time. I think you might discover that if you did nothing for a while, it might be more therapuetic than working. " I'm tired of my son's meltdowns when he doesn't get what he wants and tired of being the mean mom who won't cave into his demands. " The demands of an Aspie son can be exhausting, but you are NOT a bad mom for holding your ground, provided he is being unreasonable and you are being reasonable. " He's really a good kid but he is not thrilled to read and when he tries to organize his time to finish the required reading, he fails. This is where I must step in and it's not easy to watch him become so frustrated and remain calm myself. " He could have dyslexia. Also, left and right brain do not communicate in some Aspies and the result is a difficulty in reading. Not sure how to overcome this difficulty except by providing as stress free an environment as possible for the reading tasks which stress him the most. " I've been doing reading about NLD and hopefully this will better enable me to walk the fine line between helping or helping too much. His grades have picked up and he now has an IEP in place. " Whatever you've been reading is going to be sort of like a simplified instruction manual. It will be informative and useful, but remember that it is general and not specific to your child. " I'm tired of dealing with legal " issues " with a sibling who won't respond and in doing so holds up progress. I wish he'd just sign the required paperwork so we can get on with doing what needs to be done. If he has questions, he knows how to reach the family. ARRGGGG! Then there is the discussions between the other sibs on how to best approach the non-responding sib, blah blah blah. I hate tiptoeing around this and if I had my way, I'd just call him and ask him what he plans on doing. But my sister wants the lawyers to deal with him so everything is by the book. " If you are in charge of the legal issues, then it is your call about how to deal with them. Does this have to do with your mom's death? Are you the executrice? (Can't remember.) If so, then this is why you were made executrice...so that you could handle the affairs associated with her estate in a way she deemed the most sensible. So trust your senses and trust your judgment. " I need a vacation but this will be difficult seeing as I now have two dogs. I took my Mom's dog and finding a sitter for these two will be difficult. I'm not fond of kennels, much prefer to have someone I know sit them while I'm away. It will just take some planning on my part so I shouldn't gripe. " As I see it, I think you shouldered the majority of the responsibility when caring for your mother. While YOU assumed that responsibility and no one really owes you anything for that, it would be nice if one of your sibs cared for the dogs while you were gone. Caring for a couple of dogs for two weeks is not that big a deal. Take care, and I hope things get better. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 " Tired. " Sorry to hear this. " I'm sorry but for those of you who don't know, my Mom passed away in February and my routine is gone. I thought if I threw myself into a project like painting the physical workout would help me feel better but it seems that isn't the case. " It isn't working because you are probably more or less avoiding all the uncomfortable feelings that happen with her passing. It's good that you are getting work done around the house, but what work are you doing on YOU? Try to allow yourself some personal time. I think you might discover that if you did nothing for a while, it might be more therapuetic than working. " I'm tired of my son's meltdowns when he doesn't get what he wants and tired of being the mean mom who won't cave into his demands. " The demands of an Aspie son can be exhausting, but you are NOT a bad mom for holding your ground, provided he is being unreasonable and you are being reasonable. " He's really a good kid but he is not thrilled to read and when he tries to organize his time to finish the required reading, he fails. This is where I must step in and it's not easy to watch him become so frustrated and remain calm myself. " He could have dyslexia. Also, left and right brain do not communicate in some Aspies and the result is a difficulty in reading. Not sure how to overcome this difficulty except by providing as stress free an environment as possible for the reading tasks which stress him the most. " I've been doing reading about NLD and hopefully this will better enable me to walk the fine line between helping or helping too much. His grades have picked up and he now has an IEP in place. " Whatever you've been reading is going to be sort of like a simplified instruction manual. It will be informative and useful, but remember that it is general and not specific to your child. " I'm tired of dealing with legal " issues " with a sibling who won't respond and in doing so holds up progress. I wish he'd just sign the required paperwork so we can get on with doing what needs to be done. If he has questions, he knows how to reach the family. ARRGGGG! Then there is the discussions between the other sibs on how to best approach the non-responding sib, blah blah blah. I hate tiptoeing around this and if I had my way, I'd just call him and ask him what he plans on doing. But my sister wants the lawyers to deal with him so everything is by the book. " If you are in charge of the legal issues, then it is your call about how to deal with them. Does this have to do with your mom's death? Are you the executrice? (Can't remember.) If so, then this is why you were made executrice...so that you could handle the affairs associated with her estate in a way she deemed the most sensible. So trust your senses and trust your judgment. " I need a vacation but this will be difficult seeing as I now have two dogs. I took my Mom's dog and finding a sitter for these two will be difficult. I'm not fond of kennels, much prefer to have someone I know sit them while I'm away. It will just take some planning on my part so I shouldn't gripe. " As I see it, I think you shouldered the majority of the responsibility when caring for your mother. While YOU assumed that responsibility and no one really owes you anything for that, it would be nice if one of your sibs cared for the dogs while you were gone. Caring for a couple of dogs for two weeks is not that big a deal. Take care, and I hope things get better. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Tom, > It isn't working because you are probably more or less avoiding all > the uncomfortable feelings that happen with her passing. Well, it's pretty much mundane tasks that I'm doing but it's at her home so thinking about all that's happened is all I do. Maybe it's too much too soon. Problem with doing nothing is that I feel worse when I'm not productive. > The demands of an Aspie son can be exhausting, but you are NOT a bad > mom for holding your ground, provided he is being unreasonable and > you are being reasonable. As far as my son's temperment goes, I know I'm doing the right thing but his behavior at his age is not typical, like yesterday he stomped on his glasses, layed down on the floor and utterly refused to read. I don't blame him for feeling overwhelmed because he can't help how he perceives the task set before him and for feeling I'm being unjust for pushing him to complete what I know he can accomplish. It's just the hurt I feel for him causes me much distress because I know there is only so much I can do, so much I can say to try to help him believe in himself, only so many ways for me to help and then it's up to him to get into the mindset that he needs to have priorities when it comes to his school work. And your right about the books I've read about Nonverbal Learning Disorder, which by the way poses many of the same as difficulties as AS. They say my son is not AS because he does not show any autistic signs. This is the list taken from NLD online. Three broad categories of problem are often observed in children and adults with NLD: Motoric dysfunction - lack of coordination, balance problems and difficulty Visual-spatial disorganization - poor visual spatial analysis, disordered spatial perception, and difficulty with spatial orientation Poor social cognition - difficulty interpreting non-verbal social cues such as gestures, body language and tone of voice; difficulty adjusting to transitions. Common characteristics of NLD include but are not limited to: Performance IQ significantly lower than verbal IQ Precocious speech & language development and verbosity at a young ageRemarkable rote verbatim memoryPrecocious reading decoding ability (Hyperlexia ["word calling"])Strong spelling from dictation but poor writing and written work organizationMath disabilityPoor coordination & balance Poor fine motor skills Poor visual-spatial part-to-whole perception Difficulty comprehending novel material Deficits in social interaction The book is clearly states that in each case the child is unique so the measures taken to help must be individualized. He and I share the dyslexia and will often skip words when reading, which can change the entire meaning. Also have problems finding the main idea instead of focusing on the details, so we work on that too. I also insist on quiet during reading time in a comfortable place and we try to keep background noises, such as family chit chat, to a minimum. > If you are in charge of the legal issues, then it is your call about > how to deal with them. The legal issues are in my oldest sister's hands as she is executor and I trust her judgement, it's just tiresome dealing with my sibs sometimes. It feels as though the sib who has broken contact with the family may make things difficult but I could be wrong. I tried to be kind to him at the mass for mom whereas my other sibs gave him the cold shoulder for his lack of concern during mom's illness. I keep in mind that he and I went through the same abusive childhood I did and he may have done what was necessary for him to stay sane but I still think he could have given in a little to make amends before mom died.> While YOU assumed that > responsibility and no one really owes you anything for that, it > would be nice if one of your sibs cared for the dogs while you were > gone. Caring for a couple of dogs for two weeks is not that big a > deal. It would be nice but they took many days off during mom's illness so they won't be able to help me there. Anyone else I ask must not be afraid of BIG dogs and reliable and I'm not sure if I have complete faith in our last sitter. Teenager+keys to a empty house+girlfriend could add up to trouble if you know what I mean. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Tom, > It isn't working because you are probably more or less avoiding all > the uncomfortable feelings that happen with her passing. Well, it's pretty much mundane tasks that I'm doing but it's at her home so thinking about all that's happened is all I do. Maybe it's too much too soon. Problem with doing nothing is that I feel worse when I'm not productive. > The demands of an Aspie son can be exhausting, but you are NOT a bad > mom for holding your ground, provided he is being unreasonable and > you are being reasonable. As far as my son's temperment goes, I know I'm doing the right thing but his behavior at his age is not typical, like yesterday he stomped on his glasses, layed down on the floor and utterly refused to read. I don't blame him for feeling overwhelmed because he can't help how he perceives the task set before him and for feeling I'm being unjust for pushing him to complete what I know he can accomplish. It's just the hurt I feel for him causes me much distress because I know there is only so much I can do, so much I can say to try to help him believe in himself, only so many ways for me to help and then it's up to him to get into the mindset that he needs to have priorities when it comes to his school work. And your right about the books I've read about Nonverbal Learning Disorder, which by the way poses many of the same as difficulties as AS. They say my son is not AS because he does not show any autistic signs. This is the list taken from NLD online. Three broad categories of problem are often observed in children and adults with NLD: Motoric dysfunction - lack of coordination, balance problems and difficulty Visual-spatial disorganization - poor visual spatial analysis, disordered spatial perception, and difficulty with spatial orientation Poor social cognition - difficulty interpreting non-verbal social cues such as gestures, body language and tone of voice; difficulty adjusting to transitions. Common characteristics of NLD include but are not limited to: Performance IQ significantly lower than verbal IQ Precocious speech & language development and verbosity at a young ageRemarkable rote verbatim memoryPrecocious reading decoding ability (Hyperlexia ["word calling"])Strong spelling from dictation but poor writing and written work organizationMath disabilityPoor coordination & balance Poor fine motor skills Poor visual-spatial part-to-whole perception Difficulty comprehending novel material Deficits in social interaction The book is clearly states that in each case the child is unique so the measures taken to help must be individualized. He and I share the dyslexia and will often skip words when reading, which can change the entire meaning. Also have problems finding the main idea instead of focusing on the details, so we work on that too. I also insist on quiet during reading time in a comfortable place and we try to keep background noises, such as family chit chat, to a minimum. > If you are in charge of the legal issues, then it is your call about > how to deal with them. The legal issues are in my oldest sister's hands as she is executor and I trust her judgement, it's just tiresome dealing with my sibs sometimes. It feels as though the sib who has broken contact with the family may make things difficult but I could be wrong. I tried to be kind to him at the mass for mom whereas my other sibs gave him the cold shoulder for his lack of concern during mom's illness. I keep in mind that he and I went through the same abusive childhood I did and he may have done what was necessary for him to stay sane but I still think he could have given in a little to make amends before mom died.> While YOU assumed that > responsibility and no one really owes you anything for that, it > would be nice if one of your sibs cared for the dogs while you were > gone. Caring for a couple of dogs for two weeks is not that big a > deal. It would be nice but they took many days off during mom's illness so they won't be able to help me there. Anyone else I ask must not be afraid of BIG dogs and reliable and I'm not sure if I have complete faith in our last sitter. Teenager+keys to a empty house+girlfriend could add up to trouble if you know what I mean. Kim Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 Dear Tom, Thank you for asking. How are you? Currently I have been able to spend almost two weeks on my brother's northern Vermont farm which is situated next to three thousand acres of protected Vermont wilderness - we got a beautiful April snow storm so I was able to have a week of wilderness winter that was so beautiful and such a gift. I am helping him to get Solar and Wind evaluations so that the farm can eventually be using sustainable energy; and we are working a turning his barn into an education center that promotes sustainability, the environment and ethical animal care. It has been very good to be together - I am one of the few people who can work with him as he still has ADD and hyperactivity along with the AS - I take notes as he flies by and then toss him a printed sheet he can read on the tractor or in the pick up truck as he is about his chores. It has been a nice rest for me. Thanks - Again, how are you? Zarin > > How is everyone doing? > > I mean, generally speaking? > > An odd question I know, but sometimes the simplest questions yield > interesting answers. > > Tom > Administrator > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 2007 Report Share Posted April 26, 2007 " Thanks - Again, how are you? " Very busy up here in Canada, creating art cards for the MIC project, making up a radio commercial, and another podcast. I also attended some business meetings. Raven won an honorary mention in a Businesswomen of the Year competition. In her community of 125,000, half of those are women, may of whom are employed. 25 were nominated. 3 won. 7 were given honorable mentions. Raven was one of those that got an honorable mention. Her albums, her composing and singing, and her various business ventures including the MIC project were all taken into consideration during the competition. Tom Administrator Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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