grieving the loss of the OLD comfort foods

January 11, 2010

guys,

the severest of the die-off seems to have come and FINALLY gone, and my body

seems to have mostly adjusted to all the changes of this past month. and since

i'm no longer suffering so painfully and uncomfortably, i seem to have gotten

enough of a reprieve for me to step back and look objectively at the overall

picture.

the end result of all this, is that a real melancholy type depression has

settled in with the realization that i can no longer eat exactly what i want,

when i want it. make no mistake about it, i am committed to staying the course

on this thing, because i've already seen the results. and when i " cheat " , i

feel the repercussions almost immediately. i mean, it is absolutely unfreaking

real to me that upon ingesting carbohydrates, my body revolts instantly and

vocally. there's simply no way at all to avoid the reality of effective

treatment for candida, which is precisely what bee's program suggests.

anyway, ya'll, i'm just wantin' to " cry in my beer " alittle, because i so

desparately just want to gorge myself with as much sugary food as i could

possibly get my hands on. not because of any real craving i don't believe, but

because of the psychological aspects of how fulfilling sweets can be, i guess.

i mean, i guess they call sweets " comfort food " for a reason, and sometimes i'm

just dying to feel that OLD comfort again. basically, it's like grieving the

loss of what i used to love to eat at times.

i'd appreciate any relative and suggestive feedback regarding the psychological

aspects of giving up the OLD comforts.

regards,

russ

January 11, 2010

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> guys,

>

> the severest of the die-off seems to have come and FINALLY gone, and my body

seems to have mostly adjusted to all the changes of this past month. and since

i'm no longer suffering so painfully and uncomfortably, i seem to have gotten

enough of a reprieve for me to step back and look objectively at the overall

picture.

>

> the end result of all this, is that a real melancholy type depression has

settled in with the realization that i can no longer eat exactly what i want,

when i want it. make no mistake about it, i am committed to staying the course

on this thing, because i've already seen the results. and when i " cheat " , i

feel the repercussions almost immediately. i mean, it is absolutely unfreaking

real to me that upon ingesting carbohydrates, my body revolts instantly and

vocally. there's simply no way at all to avoid the reality of effective

treatment for candida, which is precisely what bee's program suggests.

>

> anyway, ya'll, i'm just wantin' to " cry in my beer " alittle, because i so

desparately just want to gorge myself with as much sugary food as i could

possibly get my hands on. not because of any real craving i don't believe, but

because of the psychological aspects of how fulfilling sweets can be, i guess.

i mean, i guess they call sweets " comfort food " for a reason, and sometimes i'm

just dying to feel that OLD comfort again. basically, it's like grieving the

loss of what i used to love to eat at times.

>

> i'd appreciate any relative and suggestive feedback regarding the

psychological aspects of giving up the OLD comforts.

+++Hi Russ. I hear you my friend. The psychological aspects of denying

yourself comfort foods like sweets is very depressing. Yes, it is a loss which

we know can trigger our minds to other more serious losses in our life too.

We have acquired sweets as comfort foods because our Grandmothers and Mothers

rewarded us with cookies, cake and candies. Didn't your Mother tell you that if

you ate everything on your plate you'd get pie or ice cream, etc. ? So we've

associated sweets with love and being good, and even with eating " supposedly "

healthy foods. So after a meal we can automatically think " Now that I've been

good and eaten well, I deserve a reward. "

I have some suggestions which may help you.

1) Start substituting taking vitamin C for sweets every time you think about

them.

2) When you feel depressed take a walk and look around you, which helps get you

extroverted so you aren't so introverted into your mind and your past.

3) Reward yourself on a regular basis for being good, but don't reward yourself

with foods. Instead, treat yourself to something else you enjoy. You could

make a list things so you know what you can reward yourself with. What I enjoy

would probably be different than yours, and I'm a gal too. I enjoy things like

shopping, even if I don't buy anything, making jewellery and doing artwork,

reading, going to the library, visiting family and friends, talking on the phone

with upbeat people, taking a brisk walk in the snow (in Summer it's the beach

and boating), watching comedy, being supportive and helpful to others etc.

One of my favorite quotes is by L. Ron Hubbard: " Do not regret yesterday, life

is in you today, and you make your tomorrow. "

I hope this helps you Russ.

All the best, Bee

January 11, 2010

Hi Russ:

*** Good for you: staying the course!

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> i'd appreciate any relative and suggestive feedback regarding the

psychological aspects of giving up the OLD comforts.

***The good news is: once your body transitions to running on fats for fuel

rather than carbs, you will not crave the carbs anymore. So the physical will

trump the psychological. It's a little bit of a struggle until the 4 months

(roughly) goes by. Bee has some advice on her site about how to deal with

cravings in the meantime. Just search " cravings " .... LOL!

Best to you!

Marissa

January 11, 2010

When I read the post by Russ about grieving the loss of " comfort " foods I could

totally relate. I have been feeling the same way. It was particularly hard for

me throughout the holidays to " abstain " from doing what I had always done with

my children and family. I couldn't make traditional cut-out sugar cookies-I have

been doing that since I was a child. Didn't make the pecan tarts to give to

friends and neighbors etc. I felt like I was denying my family important memory

making activities that we shared each year.

Then I read Bee's response. It was great! I was inspired to create new

traditions with my family and to reward them and myself with something other

than food. It isn't easy; change usually isn't. But I hope that my children can

begin following new traditions which will become their " comfort " foods and

" comfort " activities to them and their future families. I want the addiction to

sugar and carbs to STOP with me so my future generations can enjoy good health

and not have to fight the battle I am currently involved in to retake my health.

So thanks Russ for voicing what I was feeling and thanks Bee for inspiring me to

make new traditions for myself and my family.

God Bless you all,

Darlene B.

January 11, 2010

hi russ,

i can totally relate to what you are saying and it connects to some questions i

have about our old " comfort foods " .

i was reading hering's law of cure again and the article spoke of how one of the

aspects of healing is from the head down. it is so hard to even get started

again on this diet because of what i consider to be

addictive/emotional/psychological elements (the head) having a power over my

weakened will to eliminate the sugar and carb eating. i know there has been a

lot written on what to do in a moment of craving...but i would love to hear any

ideas/responses to breaking the addictive quality in our mental/emotional parts

of our beings so that we can be released from the addictive power of sugar/carb

eating.

sincerely,

janelle