Sad days here - Cindy

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Hi

I am very sorry to hear about Ricks father.

I have no doubt that this is going to be very hard on Rick.....and you.

No matter how bad a person behaves, somehow when push comes to shove, we find that we still love them.

I think it is built into us all, soul reaching out to soul.

And I believe that a persons soul is pure, even if their lives were not.

Like a new born baby.

, hold your man. He needs you now more than ever.

Be his strength if you can, and forgive him if he loses it now and again.

If he does, remember that it isnt you, even if he directs his grief your way.

I just posted 'MED COST HELP' to Trudy.

There is lots of good info there for you too.

It is all contained here:

http://health.dir./group/ /message/28081

and here:

http://health.dir./group/ /links/MEDS_WITH_NO_INSURANCE_001241471077/

I am blasting you, and your loved ones with everything good Trudy.

Please hang in there, my friend.

love

don in ks

From: Cinder <datagrey@...>Subject: [ ] Sad days here Date: Sunday, July 18, 2010, 10:03 AM

My husbands father just found out this week he has cancer in most of his body. Bones, chest lungs, organs tissue. everywhere. They have already seen second and third opinions. He for sure has it. We knew he had been getting worse with something. He didn't look good. He went in about a back ache. Came out after finding out he has cancer.Reminds me of me going in with arthritis pain and finding out I have Hep C. Except his cannot be lived with. He is dying. Rick is having a hard time with his emotions on this one. His dad was always a brutal alcoholic. He was not a nice dad. He even at one time put an axe in Ricks head. But for some reason he is finding it hard to deal with his feelings of his dad going through dying. He has gotten closer in his later years. His dad has mellowed out and he has spent a little bit more time with him. He never forgot the bad times or forgave them but he was at least able to be around him some. I told

him I guess in general we are genetically programed to care about our parents when we lose them. We have feelings about them leaving us even if they haven't always been good to us. Like I found out this week my mom who raised me is thinking about getting remarried and moving to Mass. I worried about what if she gets hurt or beat up or something horrible. No one will be there to help her. Why we have not got a long in years. We hate each other. She has done horrible things to me. So why would I care. Same thing I think as Rick the genetically progamed to feel that way. I guess. Sounds good anyway. Anyway so that is what I have been up to. When Rick first got the call his face was pure shock and red and he looked like he was going to cry. He never cries. His son was there too. He has never seen his dad cry. Lots of feelings going round. Ricky seems to be the only one without feelings about it. All his dad asked was could he still drink??? Yes you

aren't going to hurt anything now. They are going to have a hard time medicating him enough to keep him out of pain. Our time with Ricky has been good this time. No dissagreements. He has been a gentleman. He has been great to me. Wow. big change since last time. He thanked me for cooking special just for him since he is so picky. Wow. That was huge. He can be nice when he wants to be. We had a good visit this time. He is growing up. He is almost 14 and he has passed 6 foot already. Taller than his dad now. He turns 14 in August. I got turned down on the one people for help on the copay. But the nurse from my doc said they would send me info on another company I could try. If not I will start and if I can't work I will send them the info with out my paycheck and that should help get it paid then. I keep getting put off like this I just may be waiting long enough to still be doing the protease instead. lol. I miss you all.

Cinder------------------------------------