Re: Sad days here- Gloria

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Thank you Gloria. That is one thing Rick has loved about me. He has a safe place in my heart with me. He trusts me. That is something he does not do lightly. I did suggest the forgiveness but I knew the answer before I asked. I just knew it might have helped him some but he doesn't understand. Maybe someday. ?? who knows. He is expressing his feelings a whole lot more than when I first met him. I have always been a talker. I like to talk out problems and how I feel ect. He does too. He did not know how much till I came along. My dad was a psychiatrist. Anyway may have had a little to do with it. Rick has a lot to work out in his heart and head. He is not even sure what he is feeling. I guess they called his mother and told her today. She isn't sure what to think of it either. She was on talking terms again with him. She could go to the same get togethers

with him and his wife and not kill him and visa versa. Yeah I know it is wierd. Their family is wierd.

Bed. I do need it. Love you Cinder

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From: Gloria <gadamscan@...>Subject: Re: [ ] Sad days here Date: Sunday, July 18, 2010, 11:26 PM

CinderFor my two cents here - I think that having held a resentment to one's horrible father for years, it's probably a little too difficult to up and forgive him!! However, to do so would only be so that Rick does not have to pack around that resentment for the rest of his life and never have had the chance to get rid of it.He has little time now, to go for that chance; but, sounds like he's the type of man that will just keep it all in, like just about any other man I know. So, this is either going to be some healing for Rick or it's not and nobody else can do it for him.Notice that the concern I'm suggesting is not for the old guy the put an axe in his head!!! That person doesn't deserve to be forgiven; but, Rick needs to heal from that past and it would be better while the father is still alive.A couple of my nieces live here in the Valley where I do. Especially the oldest one packs a huge

resentment toward her mother and I really don't blame her. The younger sister is just not as verbal as her big sister. Their mother, my sister-in-law, chose drugs over her kids more than once in their lives and that hurts them. All I try to do is help them not to carry that anger toward her, because it can turn and harm them. Just find a cozy place in their soul where their mother can not bother them. For both of them, their mother is not allowed to visit or anything. They don't want their children exposed to a grandmother that is so close to death on her drugs. It's really sad!!!Gloria