Re: I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

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tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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No kidding, right? Am I totally off base here? I think if anybody needs an escape it's me! I'd like to escape to Key West for a week with a cute cabana boy about now. From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:08:42 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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I second that!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:13:21 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

No kidding, right? Am I totally off base here? I think if anybody needs an escape it's me! I'd like to escape to Key West for a week with a cute cabana boy about now.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:08:42 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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And a few non alcoholic pina colada's too. From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010

9:23:24 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

I second that!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:13:21 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

No kidding, right? Am I totally off base here? I think if anybody needs an escape it's me! I'd like to escape to Key West for a week with a cute cabana boy about now.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:08:42 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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Hi Teri

Im not great at giving marital advice as you can tell. lol

My record is pretty shabby.

But heres a viewpoint.

You know Teri, this might be just what he needs to blow off some pressure of worrying about you, or an honest oversight on his part.

I know that this bugs you, but try to understand whats in his shoes, if you can.

You say you have been sick since 2004......Teri thats 6 years worth of built up worry for his sweetie, and I have no doubt that he has been worried.

Im not taking sides, just trying to give you another perspective that you requested.

Your man loves you very much Teri.

Dwell on that one, and let this one pass with your blessing.

love

don in ks

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb@...>Subject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent. Date: Thursday, April 29, 2010, 9:01 PM

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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Oh yeah, the beach and sun and good looking guys to wait on you. I ready! When do we go!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:26:56 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

And a few non alcoholic pina colada's too.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:23:24 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

I second that!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:13:21 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

No kidding, right? Am I totally off base here? I think if anybody needs an escape it's me! I'd like to escape to Key West for a week with a cute cabana boy about now.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:08:42 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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Thanks Don. He'll probably figure it out on his own.. he usually does. It just hit me the wrong way. There are bills sitting here that I can't pay and the pantry is pretty empty right now. It just came across as self-serving that's all. I am under so much pressure right now, between the normal crap and the blood work that's still pending and the thought of maybe having to move in 2 months that just hit us from out of the blue. Just not a happy camper. I know he has been worried for years. I am also seeing frustration building in him that was never there before.. It's almost like he's tired of this ride and he wants to get off. Not sure that he would but you never know. I guess I shouldn't stir things up

just in case that's how he feels. Gonna try to hold on....TeriFrom: Christ <ludichrist2000@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:36:17 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to

vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Hi Teri

Im not great at giving marital advice as you can tell. lol

My record is pretty shabby.

But heres a viewpoint.

You know Teri, this might be just what he needs to blow off some pressure of worrying about you, or an honest oversight on his part.

I know that this bugs you, but try to understand whats in his shoes, if you can.

You say you have been sick since 2004......Teri thats 6 years worth of built up worry for his sweetie, and I have no doubt that he has been worried.

Im not taking sides, just trying to give you another perspective that you requested.

Your man loves you very much Teri.

Dwell on that one, and let this one pass with your blessing.

love

don in ks

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb>Subject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent. Date: Thursday, April 29, 2010, 9:01 PM

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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Is 15 minutes ago too soon? LOL! Oh, if only.From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:43:12 PMSubject:

Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Oh yeah, the beach and sun and good looking guys to wait on you. I ready! When do we go!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:26:56 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

And a few non alcoholic pina colada's too.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:23:24 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

I second that!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:13:21 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

No kidding, right? Am I totally off base here? I think if anybody needs an escape it's me! I'd like to escape to Key West for a week with a cute cabana boy about now.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:08:42 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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feeling better yet? the visual is enough to bring a smile

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb@...> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:45:50 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Is 15 minutes ago too soon? LOL! Oh, if only.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:43:12 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Oh yeah, the beach and sun and good looking guys to wait on you. I ready! When do we go!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:26:56 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

And a few non alcoholic pina colada's too.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:23:24 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

I second that!

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:13:21 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

No kidding, right? Am I totally off base here? I think if anybody needs an escape it's me! I'd like to escape to Key West for a week with a cute cabana boy about now.

From: Beth Frey <bethfrey42301> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:08:42 PMSubject: Re: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

tell him he needs to make some extra money so you can go get a pedicure, you need good looking toes for spring

From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb> Sent: Thu, April 29, 2010 9:01:09 PMSubject: [ ] I need to vent..... OMG I need to vent.

Until this afternoon I thought I had the greatest husband in the world. Now... not so much. He informed me that he was playing golf on Sunday... His goal at work tonight is to make enough in tips to cover the cost. (he's playing next Sunday too cause his brother is flying in from NY so that's not big deal, bro will pick up the cost) but he's playing this Sunday and he is going to play on the golf league that he played on last year that we couldn't afford. Golf ain't cheap. We are broke. I am robbing to pay every month. I no longer make 72G a year.. I bring in a little better than 13G in SSD a year. And he's not making bank either. He said this is his outlet.. his escape.. WHERE THE HECK IS MINE? I am stuck in this house 24/7, I am the one taking on the responsibilities of trying to get all the bills paid and figuring out how we're going to make it thru the next

10 days with less than 100 bucks in the bank. I wish I felt good enough to just take a walk on a golf course. I have been sick sick sick since 2004. And pretty much been in my house ever since... oh there have been a few ventures out but nothing that was a luxury like golf. And I'm edgy anyway cause I'm still waiting on the blood work from a week ago that for some reason isn't back yet... No worries there.. not on his part anyway. Somebody calm me down or give me a different perspective so I don't kill him when he walks in tonight.

Holy crap I'm ticked off. Ughhhhhhh

Teri

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TeriI'm sure that you realize that I really understand where you are coming from!!!! My biggest problem has always been that I can't give the silent treatment. Lawd, when I'm that furious, even the neighbours probably know... Just really recently, I got that advise from my Mom again, too, just don't say anything.Well, I'm here to say that mostly I have a great deal of pride and not always good sense. I don't want my husband to just stick around because I've been sick and these last months, I've told him that more than I would care to count. However, I'm really not so sure now, that I could support myself awfully well and neither can he if we parted!!This is no put down to you whatsoever; but, I'd almost wish that my hubby and I just fought over

whether he could afford to go golfing!! Yes, he loved to golf; however, even his body won't let him any longer. Instead, we argue over his adult children's and one of the 6 sister's lousy attitudes toward me even after I've spent over 20 yrs with him. He's more comfortable siding with them and blaming me, even though I've been sick particularly this last year and a bit and hardly spoken to any of them.So, I'm trying to listen to my mother more and more. I'll keep my mouth shut for the most part; but, that doesn't mean to say that I have to respect him or them for such sick attitudes. He wants me to go with him to see his son and the son's wife tomorrow!!! Her and I particularly have totally different personalities and don't come very close on very much. As I've warned him, I'll go and perhaps I should even take my own car (just in case) and I'll tell them face to face that I want nothing more to do with

the negativity of all that has been going on!!! My life is all about the positive now and I don't have time to concern myself with stupid things. I want to leave it right back in their own laps what they decide to do!! If it doesn't come out well, fine, I'll get in my truck and go home. Hubby says that it won't be necessary because he would leave with me. Sure - I've got a whole lot of faith in that too!!!!!It just never ceases to amaze me that I've been as sick as I've been and these people have never bothered to talk directly to me; but, think that they have the right to judge me from a distance!!!!Gloria

Yeah I am.. but he's still getting the silent treatment when he gets home... Better than a knife I guess! LOL! Men, can't live with them and ya can't get away with killing them either. Drat.Thanks.Teri