Guest guest Posted June 11, 2003 Report Share Posted June 11, 2003 Hi , I'm a newbie here (C1W1D3) so my 2 cents may not be worth 2 cents, but it strikes me that you're doing better than you give yourself credit for. You say you're eating clean and drinking water...you missed one workout. I don't see how that translates into a week you have " failed " . I can only speak for myself, but I know when I get into that kind of black-and-white thought pattern that's exactly when I'm in trouble...hating myself for not doing it perfectly doesn't motivate me to get to the gym. Feeling good about the things I have done right gets me there. in Idaho coollaura0 wrote: >OK. I guess I need to whine. I need a good kick and some motivation. > >I really seem to be doing this challenge in fits and starts. I'll be >on one day and off the next. The good news is that I have eaten >cleanly for about a week and a half now. Today is right on track, >too. I'm even having success with drinking more water and less >coffee. > >That leaves the exercise. I did a great UBWO on Monday morning, >despite my still sore joints. Believe me, my muscles were crying >yesterday! I slept late yesterday, but since I didn't have school, I >did my cardio when I got home from work. Not the greatest timing, >especially considering my meals, but I still got it in. Bad timing is >better than not at all. Well, I stayed up too late again last night >and I couldn't get up this morning. So no LBWO. And I *do* have >school tonight - in fact I have a chemistry final - so it won't be >happening tonight, either. So another week where I have failed. :-( > >I am struggling with a lot of anger and depression over this. I have >done this before. My first challenge was very successful. I am >totally capable of doing this! I don't know why I am fighting it so >hard. I enjoy lifting weights. I just didn't want to get out of bed. >After losing all that weight on C1, I am now *gaining* weight. My >pant-o-meter is moving in the WRONG direction. > >I read all the messages on this board, and I feel pumped up and >excited. Many of you face far greater difficulties in getting this >done, and you are out there every day working away at it. I have it >pretty easy - I have a gym at home, a supportive husband and really >the time and means to do this with a little planning. And I am >failing! I have no excuse. Knowing I have no excuse makes me very >angry at myself. I kind of feel like it is my destiny to be fat and >flabby and weak, and I should just accept it. That idea makes me >really depressed. It's a viscious cycle. > >I don't know how to break out of this totally negative mindset, but I >know I need to!!! Any advice would be appreciated. > >Redondo > > > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2003 Report Share Posted June 11, 2003 , you can do this. Proof being that you did it once already. I think we all go through phases in which we get pessimistic or discouraged, especially after having seen some success and improvement which makes any lack stable period seem like a failure. But you, , are not failing. You seem tohave a lot on your plate right now - and school can be a definite time consumer - I should know, because along with teaching French and Italian at the university, I am also a research assitant and a fulltime PhD student and it's TIME CONSUMING. And on top of that, you have a family! I was overweight and then obese from the age of 7 to 22 and it was hard and painful. You know why I think I stayed inthat state so long? Because I would tell myself that I was a failure and that I was just destined to be that way. Not true. I was miserable, and not because my peers or family poked fun, but because I slammed myself everyday and lambasted my own self-esteem. Then I moved to Italy for a year, convinced that I would pack on another20 or 30 lbs, and just let myself be happy and say f*** off to all the negativity. And guess what? I left a 232 lb unhappy girl and came back a 170lb woman with a smile and a helluva lot of confidence. Happiness is the greatest key to a healthy body and in doing BFL you are making a step toward your own happiness. How happy are you when you say that you are fat? that you are failing? Not at all, and if you are an emotional eater like me, it makes you want more junk and makes you less inspired to go to the gym. It's normal to have a negative period now and again, but keep sight of your dreams and your goals. Why did you decide to do the second challenge? The success the first time around made you feel good and strong and you will only feel better and stronger the second time around. Don't punish yourself with harsh words and negative thoughts because you missed a workout - you can never fail here - you can only improve. So you missed some, chalk it up to stress and chaos and that damned chem final, and next week make it a goal to not miss a workout, or to at least do 2 morning workouts. Something, anything to encourage yourself - to be able to say, yes, this week was full of successes for me. You can do this, you are doing so, and so what if you had a bad week. Forgive yourself and move on - this is your body for life, it won't be made in a day and a day or two won't ruin it for life. Hang in there and let me know if there is anything I can do! Take care and smile! >From: " coollaura0 " <llarsen@...> >Reply- > >Subject: Help needed! >Date: Wed, 11 Jun 2003 18:22:56 -0000 > >OK. I guess I need to whine. I need a good kick and some motivation. > >I really seem to be doing this challenge in fits and starts. I'll be >on one day and off the next. The good news is that I have eaten >cleanly for about a week and a half now. Today is right on track, >too. I'm even having success with drinking more water and less >coffee. > >That leaves the exercise. I did a great UBWO on Monday morning, >despite my still sore joints. Believe me, my muscles were crying >yesterday! I slept late yesterday, but since I didn't have school, I >did my cardio when I got home from work. Not the greatest timing, >especially considering my meals, but I still got it in. Bad timing is >better than not at all. Well, I stayed up too late again last night >and I couldn't get up this morning. So no LBWO. And I *do* have >school tonight - in fact I have a chemistry final - so it won't be >happening tonight, either. So another week where I have failed. :-( > >I am struggling with a lot of anger and depression over this. I have >done this before. My first challenge was very successful. I am >totally capable of doing this! I don't know why I am fighting it so >hard. I enjoy lifting weights. I just didn't want to get out of bed. >After losing all that weight on C1, I am now *gaining* weight. My >pant-o-meter is moving in the WRONG direction. > >I read all the messages on this board, and I feel pumped up and >excited. Many of you face far greater difficulties in getting this >done, and you are out there every day working away at it. I have it >pretty easy - I have a gym at home, a supportive husband and really >the time and means to do this with a little planning. And I am >failing! I have no excuse. Knowing I have no excuse makes me very >angry at myself. I kind of feel like it is my destiny to be fat and >flabby and weak, and I should just accept it. That idea makes me >really depressed. It's a viscious cycle. > >I don't know how to break out of this totally negative mindset, but I >know I need to!!! Any advice would be appreciated. > >Redondo > > > _________________________________________________________________ The new MSN 8: advanced junk mail protection and 2 months FREE* http://join.msn.com/?page=features/junkmail Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 11, 2003 Report Share Posted June 11, 2003 Try not to look at it as a " week failed " . You missed 1 workout right? Your chemistry final is important right? So next time, you'll make sure to get the workout in, right? Eating clean for 1 1/2 weeks is something to be proud of as well as the UBWO and cardio this week! Hang in there! Do you make a list of goals when you started? Maybe it is time to re- evaluate your goals, what you are striving for, and what you can do to reach those goals. Make some short-term goals and make sure to give yourself credit for the things you do. I know how easy it is to beat ourselves up when we feel like we've 'failed' but somehow we never find the time to give ourself credit for when we don't fail. I think that is more important myself. Colleen > OK. I guess I need to whine. I need a good kick and some motivation. > > I really seem to be doing this challenge in fits and starts. I'll be > on one day and off the next. The good news is that I have eaten > cleanly for about a week and a half now. Today is right on track, > too. I'm even having success with drinking more water and less > coffee. > > That leaves the exercise. I did a great UBWO on Monday morning, > despite my still sore joints. Believe me, my muscles were crying > yesterday! I slept late yesterday, but since I didn't have school, I > did my cardio when I got home from work. Not the greatest timing, > especially considering my meals, but I still got it in. Bad timing is > better than not at all. Well, I stayed up too late again last night > and I couldn't get up this morning. So no LBWO. And I *do* have > school tonight - in fact I have a chemistry final - so it won't be > happening tonight, either. So another week where I have failed. :-( > > I am struggling with a lot of anger and depression over this. I have > done this before. My first challenge was very successful. I am > totally capable of doing this! I don't know why I am fighting it so > hard. I enjoy lifting weights. I just didn't want to get out of bed. > After losing all that weight on C1, I am now *gaining* weight. My > pant-o-meter is moving in the WRONG direction. > > I read all the messages on this board, and I feel pumped up and > excited. Many of you face far greater difficulties in getting this > done, and you are out there every day working away at it. I have it > pretty easy - I have a gym at home, a supportive husband and really > the time and means to do this with a little planning. And I am > failing! I have no excuse. Knowing I have no excuse makes me very > angry at myself. I kind of feel like it is my destiny to be fat and > flabby and weak, and I should just accept it. That idea makes me > really depressed. It's a viscious cycle. > > I don't know how to break out of this totally negative mindset, but I > know I need to!!! Any advice would be appreciated. > > Redondo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 12, 2003 Report Share Posted June 12, 2003 LAURA!!! Please forgive yourself. Just because you miss a work out your week is not a failure! It seems you need a good reason to go to the gym, perhaps my favorite the prize on the end of the stick! Think of a prize for your self, little or big. A manicure, a diamond ring, a new hair color. Then visualise it. When you achieve your goals for that day or week go for it. Sometimes a lite funny prize is good. I have my daughters paint my nails. OR I have a big friggen diamond on layaway at the pawn shop. So what? I am not perfect so it will take me that much longer to get there. But hey, I can get over being inperfect. Progress not perfection. You can do it you just need a reason to do it. And please don't dismiss the fact that school is almost over and that is stressful too. So one day at a time chickie. You will suceeded, your already a winner! Everytime I read one of your posts I love your salutation. I would love to know what it means. ?? lighten up a bit, and keep on moving! MEgan in Md. > OK. I guess I need to whine. I need a good kick and some motivation. > > I really seem to be doing this challenge in fits and starts. I'll be > on one day and off the next. The good news is that I have eaten > cleanly for about a week and a half now. Today is right on track, > too. I'm even having success with drinking more water and less > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2003 Report Share Posted June 16, 2003 Hi , You have hit the nail on the head with the " black and white " comment. This is something I struggle with all the time, and still sometimes I don't even realize when I am doing it! Today is a new day - I can only go forward. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2003 Report Share Posted June 16, 2003 Hi , Thanks for sharing your story with me. You are one busy woman! What did you find in Italy that made you a happy and confident woman? You're right - it does not make me happy to do this to myself. My #1 goal this week is merely to focus on my achievements, whatever they may be, small or large. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2003 Report Share Posted June 16, 2003 Hi Colleen, > Do you make a list of goals when you started? Maybe it is time to > re-evaluate your goals, what you are striving for, and what you can > do to reach those goals. Make some short-term goals and make sure > to give yourself credit for the things you do. I know how easy it > is to beat ourselves up when we feel like we've 'failed' but > somehow we never find the time to give ourself credit for when we > don't fail. I think that is more important myself. These are excellent points. I think I have lost sight of my goals... become more caught up in the process and the whole perfectionist mind set. As I said in another note, my #1 goal this week is to acknowledge my achievements, no matter how small. Cheer them even! Thanks for the reminder. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 16, 2003 Report Share Posted June 16, 2003 Hi , " the prize on the end of the stick " ... Hmmm. That's a good idea. Honestly, I never ever think of rewarding myself, especially since I think I *should* just be perfect anyway. (although, of course, I never am.) I will give some thought to that... try to come up with something very motivating. Not sure what you mean by salutation. Are you referring to Redondo ? Redondo is my neighborhood... south of Seattle. There are a couple of different s on the list, and I wanted to say this is me! Redondo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2004 Report Share Posted June 24, 2004 , Liquids isall you need. Do not worry. Scab formation is going on right now and you need to be very careful with food. We had a few kids bleed at this time. Food is NOT important. HYDRATION is important. ph did not eat ANY food for 2 weeks with his tonsil surgery. No big deal. Fluids... Gatorade... water... etc... The kids feel bad for up to 2 weeks. God Bless, Fran Fran A Bulone Mom to ph 5 yrs old Waxhaw, NC Owner & Moderator Group Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2004 Report Share Posted June 24, 2004 , Liquids isall you need. Do not worry. Scab formation is going on right now and you need to be very careful with food. We had a few kids bleed at this time. Food is NOT important. HYDRATION is important. ph did not eat ANY food for 2 weeks with his tonsil surgery. No big deal. Fluids... Gatorade... water... etc... The kids feel bad for up to 2 weeks. God Bless, Fran Fran A Bulone Mom to ph 5 yrs old Waxhaw, NC Owner & Moderator Group Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2004 Report Share Posted June 24, 2004 , it is very common that after a T & A they seem good for a few days then get bad again before they are out of the woods. Scabs form where the tonsils were removed and scabs are very painful. Motrin, tylenol...(Bribery worked best for me!I promised them pretty much anything!) If you can keep her fluids up, that's the most important. Ask for Tylenol with codine if she seems too uncomfortable to handle it. Don't put too much on the eating, it's all about the fluids for the next few days. Good Luck! Prayers are with you and yours...Sandi (Mom to 12) Help needed! HI all, Breana had her T & A on Friday and seemed to be doing really well.....but now she will not eat at all! Not even ice cream or popsicles! She is still drinking(thank god). But even that is a huge fight. I guess I thought we;d be seeing improvement by now. Any advice welcome! mom to BReana 3.6 and 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 24, 2004 Report Share Posted June 24, 2004 , it is very common that after a T & A they seem good for a few days then get bad again before they are out of the woods. Scabs form where the tonsils were removed and scabs are very painful. Motrin, tylenol...(Bribery worked best for me!I promised them pretty much anything!) If you can keep her fluids up, that's the most important. Ask for Tylenol with codine if she seems too uncomfortable to handle it. Don't put too much on the eating, it's all about the fluids for the next few days. Good Luck! Prayers are with you and yours...Sandi (Mom to 12) Help needed! HI all, Breana had her T & A on Friday and seemed to be doing really well.....but now she will not eat at all! Not even ice cream or popsicles! She is still drinking(thank god). But even that is a huge fight. I guess I thought we;d be seeing improvement by now. Any advice welcome! mom to BReana 3.6 and 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2004 Report Share Posted June 25, 2004 Thank you so much!!! I had been so worried.....fluids fluids fluids it is! Re: Help needed! , Liquids isall you need. Do not worry. Scab formation is going on right now and you need to be very careful with food. We had a few kids bleed at this time. Food is NOT important. HYDRATION is important. ph did not eat ANY food for 2 weeks with his tonsil surgery. No big deal. Fluids... Gatorade... water... etc... The kids feel bad for up to 2 weeks. God Bless, Fran Fran A Bulone Mom to ph 5 yrs old Waxhaw, NC Owner & Moderator Group Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2004 Report Share Posted June 25, 2004 Thank you so much!!! I had been so worried.....fluids fluids fluids it is! Re: Help needed! , Liquids isall you need. Do not worry. Scab formation is going on right now and you need to be very careful with food. We had a few kids bleed at this time. Food is NOT important. HYDRATION is important. ph did not eat ANY food for 2 weeks with his tonsil surgery. No big deal. Fluids... Gatorade... water... etc... The kids feel bad for up to 2 weeks. God Bless, Fran Fran A Bulone Mom to ph 5 yrs old Waxhaw, NC Owner & Moderator Group Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2004 Report Share Posted June 25, 2004 Thxs Sandi! Help needed! HI all, Breana had her T & A on Friday and seemed to be doing really well.....but now she will not eat at all! Not even ice cream or popsicles! She is still drinking(thank god). But even that is a huge fight. I guess I thought we;d be seeing improvement by now. Any advice welcome! mom to BReana 3.6 and 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2004 Report Share Posted June 25, 2004 Thxs Sandi! Help needed! HI all, Breana had her T & A on Friday and seemed to be doing really well.....but now she will not eat at all! Not even ice cream or popsicles! She is still drinking(thank god). But even that is a huge fight. I guess I thought we;d be seeing improvement by now. Any advice welcome! mom to BReana 3.6 and 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2004 Report Share Posted June 25, 2004 Hang in there and Breana! I think when had his T & A it was sooo well worth it! Good Luck, Sandi Help needed! HI all, Breana had her T & A on Friday and seemed to be doing really well.....but now she will not eat at all! Not even ice cream or popsicles! She is still drinking(thank god). But even that is a huge fight. I guess I thought we;d be seeing improvement by now. Any advice welcome! mom to BReana 3.6 and 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted June 25, 2004 Report Share Posted June 25, 2004 Hang in there and Breana! I think when had his T & A it was sooo well worth it! Good Luck, Sandi Help needed! HI all, Breana had her T & A on Friday and seemed to be doing really well.....but now she will not eat at all! Not even ice cream or popsicles! She is still drinking(thank god). But even that is a huge fight. I guess I thought we;d be seeing improvement by now. Any advice welcome! mom to BReana 3.6 and 14 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 In a message dated 3/28/2007 9:23:27 A.M. Eastern Standard Time, tiger6564403@... writes: Also the principal says he will be in Alternative school because is not performing to his potential. I feel that will be more than detrimental to hia already compromised abilities. Welcome to the group. I was just about to log out & go grocery shopping... so I only have a minute, but wanted to respond to your post first. {{{{hugs}}}}} girl. There was a lot of information in your email. I just have a couple thoughts right at this second...... I do know that it's not uncommon for kids (for some reason especially boys) at that age to slack off on turning in papers, etc.... so I'm just wondering if *a little bit* of the behavior is just the norm for a boy his age. However, I'm not trivializing the OCD & Tourettes - you are correct & those disorders can really cause problems with school work & the ability to concentrate & stay on task. Your school is obligated to provide an education for your son & take his disabilities into consider & provide for them. You mentioned a meeting about a 504 plan... does he having something already in place, or were they just discussing the possibility of using one? I know there are different types of plans you can use at school... the 504 & an IEP (?) something like that -- I'll leave those details to the education " experts " on this board.... and there are many of them! You're sure to get lots of good information from them. Don't let them bully you into sending your child to an alternative school. The only time you should do that is if it's a consensus between the school, you as parents & his doctors/therapists, that it's the best thing for him. Have you asked his therapist to speak to the school about your son's disorders? They should be dealing with the person who knows your son's situation personally. This is kind of off the OCD topic & more on the general parenting topic - you mentioned that other kids are allowed to take CD players, gameboys, etc to school. I'm sure there's a school policy on this, as most schools have one.... but I also know that kids will take these things anyway & use them on the school bus. Is there a specific reason you're not allowing your son to take his CD player? While I'm not saying that we should give in more to our kids because they're already dealing with troubles that most kids don't have to, I guess what I'm suggesting here is that may possibly be a way he sees that he can " be like other kids " or " fit in " ..... what could the harm be in letting him take the CD player to school? As long as he understands the rules about not using *at* school & the resulting consequences (school takes it away, you can't take it again... etc) if it happens. Both my kids were about the same age when they wanted to take stuff like that to school. They did fine - they understood the rules right up front - if it's taken out during school & you get in trouble, that will be the last time it's allowed.... and if it's lost or stolen, the cost for replacement comes out of your pocket - not ours. Just my thoughts there - this is obviously a personal parenting decision that has to be made by you & your husband. - I'm so sorry to hear about your battle with early Alzheimers. I can't imagine how difficult it must all be for you to deal with. I hope your husband gets on board with you regarding your son's situation. Has Dad gone to any of the doctor's appts? You mentioned a psychiatrist, but is your son also seeing a psychologist? LT ************************************** AOL now offers free email to everyone. Find out more about what's free from AOL at http://www.aol.com. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 > > Wow, . You really have a lot to deal with. Big HUG. My son only has OCD, and it's not nearly as bad as what I've read about in this group, but I still expect his grades to suffer because he is preoccupied in class, responding to possible contamination and figuring out when he can wash his hands again. This disease takes a lot of a kid's energy, leaving little for focusing on school. Also, I think the pressures of homework and school aggravate the OCD. For my son, I spoke with the school's administrator and told her my son has an anxiety issue and would benefit from less pressure from the teachers. She sent each of his teachers a letter so they'd understand if he missed an assignment here or there, and so they wouldn't pressure him to perform. So far, so good. In fact, it was a relief to my son to know they'd cut him some slack. So yes, the disease will affect your son academically. It's not an IQ thing. From what I've read, we have to make their recovery a priority and accept that his grades may suffer for now. I would also be careful not to be too demanding of him, in terms of very strict rules. It may be a good time to choose your battles carefully so as not to make him any more anxious than he already is. Best of luck. I'm thinking of you. F. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 > > Wow, . You really have a lot to deal with. Big HUG. My son only has OCD, and it's not nearly as bad as what I've read about in this group, but I still expect his grades to suffer because he is preoccupied in class, responding to possible contamination and figuring out when he can wash his hands again. This disease takes a lot of a kid's energy, leaving little for focusing on school. Also, I think the pressures of homework and school aggravate the OCD. For my son, I spoke with the school's administrator and told her my son has an anxiety issue and would benefit from less pressure from the teachers. She sent each of his teachers a letter so they'd understand if he missed an assignment here or there, and so they wouldn't pressure him to perform. So far, so good. In fact, it was a relief to my son to know they'd cut him some slack. So yes, the disease will affect your son academically. It's not an IQ thing. From what I've read, we have to make their recovery a priority and accept that his grades may suffer for now. I would also be careful not to be too demanding of him, in terms of very strict rules. It may be a good time to choose your battles carefully so as not to make him any more anxious than he already is. Best of luck. I'm thinking of you. F. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 tracy - i feel so bad for you - with what you personally are dealing with and of course what your son is going thru - i feel there are times my husband thinks our dd is just using it etc too, siding with school opinions - and I know more often than not there's ocd behind it your son has added complications that I don't know about but I'm sure others will jump in soon but as for school - i wouldn't move him and maybe you should give them handouts or even a copy of the book " Teaching the Tiger " it was recommended here and I gave it to her teacher - they'll take too long to educate themselves i'd jump in and also can't the therapist explain to them - or did he/she already ?? that doesn't even work sometimes - it's so hard to get them to see it's the disorder and not a behvior - if you look up 504 or IEP's here there should be a lot of info on what accomadtions others have in place that may help the school see - and also the oCF website has handouts I 've used welcome again we're here hang in eileen PS my nephew is 16 and speech never helped his stuttering but now he has a CD out with his other 2 brothers and he finds the stuttering affecting his TV interviews etc and is looking into ways to help - I can ask what he's doing if you want Quoting YoungHope <tiger6564403@...>: > My name is and I am new here. I joined because we have a 12 > year old son that I feel is in desperate need of help. > > I will try to make this quick and to the point. > > Our son was diagnosed with OCD and Mild Tourettes in 2000 at about > age 5. His OCD consisted of having to having his toy cars lined up > just right before he could eat a meal of go to the bathroom, etc. > His stuffed animals had to be in the right order on his dress at > night. He has a fear of flying insects to the point that he either > freaks out when he sees them or freezes up. When we re playing cards > the pile of cards have to be straigth or he is constantly fiddling > with them. As far as his Tics (Tourettes)his consists of goraning > and grunting in his throat. He also stutters when he gets anxious or > nervous so when he talks sometimes he grimaces alot. > > When he started grade school he did exceptionally well A's, B's and > as he got into 4th grade we say a dramatic drop in his grades are > they have been consistent D'S & F'S since then. > > He does receive Speech theraphy in which he hates because he is the > only 6th grader still in speech. He wants to quit but as discussed > with his speech teacher he is still in need although his goals have > almost been met. > > He also sees a Psychaitrist to help us with these issues and has > been on Amantadine for 6 years for the Tics and it helped > tremendously for awhile but now waxes and wanes. He is alo on > Wellbutrin for anxiety to help with the OCD and now on Lexapro for > possible depression. The doctor is going to wean him off of the > Amantadine and put him on Strattera and says that will possible help > with the stuttering as well as the Tics. > > In the mean times he has also developed compulsive lying and his > response is always, " I don't know " . He will hide Yu-gi-oh cards in > his locker at school because we do not allow him to have them > although we did at one time and discussed with him the reasons we no > longer wanted him to have them. So he gets them from his friends and > I found them in his locker yesterday. This morning he wanted to take > his CD palyer to school because all of the other kids get to take > their gameboys, gamecards, cd players, etc. and he feels left out. I > shook him down because he usually hides things in his socks of > pockets and he had put his cd player in his school binder. I asked > him why and he said, " the other kids get to, so I should to. " I > thought he put it in his room and as he walked to the bus stop he > bent over in the ditch and pciked it up. He had snuck outside in > hopes of getting by with it. I called him back and took it away and > again he was upset. > > He has alot of difficulty getting his assignments turned in at > school and many times lies about turning in papers and we find out > that he hasn't. We had a meeting with the Special Ed. Dept. in > regards to the 504 plan. Bascially the result was that no nothing > about Tourettes or OCD and feel as he is jacking around and just > doens't want to do his work and just doesn't care. They said they > would do some research on Tourettes and OCD and get back with us in > a couple of weeks. His overall IQ score was 92 and they felt that is > average enough that he had no reason for failing as he is. > > I have called his psychiatrist who we will see next week to get more > information on how and if Tourettes and OCD can affect his academic > performance. The sad thing is my husband is leaning towards their > feelings as well. I feel like I am fighting a battle that I am > losing and our son is paying the price because no one knows enough > about his disgnoses. > > To top all of this off with his own stressors, I have Alzheimers > Disease. I was diagnosed in 2002 with Early Onset and am now 42 and > in the middle stages. We have been very strong advocates for AD but > now we need to be advocates for him. > > I am being to over protective? He is an only child. Where do I go > from here? What dod I do? How do we find out if he is truly playing > around and just don't care or if there is more going on with his > diagnosis? > > Also the principal says he will be in Alternative school because is > not performing to his potential. I feel that will be more than > detrimental to hia already compromised abilities. > > I am so lost and confused here, please help. > > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Hugs to you, . You have a lot you are dealing with. I can relate in some ways. Our son is also an only child, and I seem to be the only one that realizes he cannot snap out of it and behave the way everybody would like for him to. My husband also misinterprets Josh's behavior at times. I think he wants it to not be what it is (OCD and Tourettes) and it's easier for him to cope if he thinks it's behavioral somehow. . Despite the fact that it's all over in my husband's family. Josh also has OCD with mild Tourettes, which causes him to make noises. I also have a health problem (my heart) that had landed me in the hospital on numerous occasions, which has added to our son's anxiety. I've become very concerned about what happens to him if something happens to me, because the last time I saw the cardiologist he told me I was having ventricular arrhythmias but doesn't know why. And his exact words were, " I don't think you will drop dead from this " , although I've had a cousin and grandfather who did just that. Hmmmmmm. . that's reassuring! And I also have a father who is in the end stages of Alzheimers, so know how devastating the disease can be. You are so young to be dealing with it. I'm so sorry. In answer to one of your questions, " Yes " OCD can most definitely affect school work. My son has told me that unless he can become completely absorbed by whatever he is doing, he can't shut the OCD out and make it shut up. So I guess it would be somewhat like us trying to pay the bills and give it our complete attention, while someone is behind you tapping you on the shoulder the whole time and talking to you. (Which by the way my husband does to me sometimes - lol) I don't know much about the process of making the school work with you, because we opted to homeschool a long time ago. But there are others here who can give you information on that. My understanding is the schools have to work with you. You pay the taxes that keeps them open. The one thing I can tell you is that educating yourself to understanding OCD can help so much. Getting your husband to also do some reading will help, since you have your own health issues to deal with. Finding the right meds and the right therapy will help your son to have the tools to cope with this potentially life long disorder too, although finding a qualified therapist, who knows specifically how to treat OCD, can be a trial. My husband has no desire to pick up a book and read, especially since I'm handling it all already. . . But, I'm constantly throwing facts and information at him and forcing him to listen to me for the sake of our son. If something happens to me, Josh needs an advocate for him. Hopefully some of what I'm saying to Bruce will get through enough that he can be there for his son, if that need arises. You are not alone. There are a lot of people here who understand what your family is going through. This is a great site for information and support. Welcome. BJ > > My name is and I am new here. I joined because we have a 12 > year old son that I feel is in desperate need of help. > > I will try to make this quick and to the point. > > Our son was diagnosed with OCD and Mild Tourettes in 2000 at about > age 5. His OCD consisted of having to having his toy cars lined up > just right before he could eat a meal of go to the bathroom, etc. > His stuffed animals had to be in the right order on his dress at > night. He has a fear of flying insects to the point that he either > freaks out when he sees them or freezes up. When we re playing cards > the pile of cards have to be straigth or he is constantly fiddling > with them. As far as his Tics (Tourettes)his consists of goraning > and grunting in his throat. He also stutters when he gets anxious or > nervous so when he talks sometimes he grimaces alot. > > When he started grade school he did exceptionally well A's, B's and > as he got into 4th grade we say a dramatic drop in his grades are > they have been consistent D'S & F'S since then. > > He does receive Speech theraphy in which he hates because he is the > only 6th grader still in speech. He wants to quit but as discussed > with his speech teacher he is still in need although his goals have > almost been met. > > He also sees a Psychaitrist to help us with these issues and has > been on Amantadine for 6 years for the Tics and it helped > tremendously for awhile but now waxes and wanes. He is alo on > Wellbutrin for anxiety to help with the OCD and now on Lexapro for > possible depression. The doctor is going to wean him off of the > Amantadine and put him on Strattera and says that will possible help > with the stuttering as well as the Tics. > > In the mean times he has also developed compulsive lying and his > response is always, " I don't know " . He will hide Yu-gi-oh cards in > his locker at school because we do not allow him to have them > although we did at one time and discussed with him the reasons we no > longer wanted him to have them. So he gets them from his friends and > I found them in his locker yesterday. This morning he wanted to take > his CD palyer to school because all of the other kids get to take > their gameboys, gamecards, cd players, etc. and he feels left out. I > shook him down because he usually hides things in his socks of > pockets and he had put his cd player in his school binder. I asked > him why and he said, " the other kids get to, so I should to. " I > thought he put it in his room and as he walked to the bus stop he > bent over in the ditch and pciked it up. He had snuck outside in > hopes of getting by with it. I called him back and took it away and > again he was upset. > > He has alot of difficulty getting his assignments turned in at > school and many times lies about turning in papers and we find out > that he hasn't. We had a meeting with the Special Ed. Dept. in > regards to the 504 plan. Bascially the result was that no nothing > about Tourettes or OCD and feel as he is jacking around and just > doens't want to do his work and just doesn't care. They said they > would do some research on Tourettes and OCD and get back with us in > a couple of weeks. His overall IQ score was 92 and they felt that is > average enough that he had no reason for failing as he is. > > I have called his psychiatrist who we will see next week to get more > information on how and if Tourettes and OCD can affect his academic > performance. The sad thing is my husband is leaning towards their > feelings as well. I feel like I am fighting a battle that I am > losing and our son is paying the price because no one knows enough > about his disgnoses. > > To top all of this off with his own stressors, I have Alzheimers > Disease. I was diagnosed in 2002 with Early Onset and am now 42 and > in the middle stages. We have been very strong advocates for AD but > now we need to be advocates for him. > > I am being to over protective? He is an only child. Where do I go > from here? What dod I do? How do we find out if he is truly playing > around and just don't care or if there is more going on with his > diagnosis? > > Also the principal says he will be in Alternative school because is > not performing to his potential. I feel that will be more than > detrimental to hia already compromised abilities. > > I am so lost and confused here, please help. > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Hi , welcome and lots of ((((hugs))))! A lot on your plate right now with your son and with you & family members. Tell your son that my 2 sons (now age 18, twins, not identical) both were still in speech when they began 6th grade. One did finish up in 6th, the other in 7th. My OCD son was the one who finished in 6th. I agree your son should finish, reach those goals! My son's OCD began in 6th grade too, right after he began! Our school system doesn't allow any of that stuff at school. Will be taken if brought. Well, OK, the cards are OK, but CD players, gameboys, etc., they don't. My sons were all into yu-gi-oh too and I remember ALL those cards, LOL. Yes, they took them to school to trade or show off or sell. As to schoolwork - what are your son's OC behaviors? OCD can definitely affect schoolwork (did for us). I guess my question is *how* do you think it is affecting his schoolwork? Does he have trouble writing? Reading? Will he talk about his OCD? That would be a great help if he says where it's causing problems. Also he is now 12!! Puberty, feeling more " grown up " , hormones, all that can be playing a part; wanting to " fit in " with peers. Many kids have grades drop in middle school. You mentioned his went down before this though. I think if your son - or you if you can tell - will say just " how " OCD is bothering him with schoolwork, it'll help get him his 504 Plan. We had one. SIGH, I just rambled & jumped around, wish I had more time but you're definitely in a great group for dealing with schools, OCD, even Tourette's, etc. (((hugs))) for the Alzheimers, I'm sooooo sorry. Take care of YOU too, take some time each day for YOU and your needs! We'll help you get through this OCD stuff, you don't need the added stress! single mom, 3 sons , 18, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/mild > > My name is and I am new here. I joined because we have a 12 > year old son that I feel is in desperate need of help. > > I will try to make this quick and to the point. > > Our son was diagnosed with OCD and Mild Tourettes in 2000 at about Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 28, 2007 Report Share Posted March 28, 2007 Hi , welcome and lots of ((((hugs))))! A lot on your plate right now with your son and with you & family members. Tell your son that my 2 sons (now age 18, twins, not identical) both were still in speech when they began 6th grade. One did finish up in 6th, the other in 7th. My OCD son was the one who finished in 6th. I agree your son should finish, reach those goals! My son's OCD began in 6th grade too, right after he began! Our school system doesn't allow any of that stuff at school. Will be taken if brought. Well, OK, the cards are OK, but CD players, gameboys, etc., they don't. My sons were all into yu-gi-oh too and I remember ALL those cards, LOL. Yes, they took them to school to trade or show off or sell. As to schoolwork - what are your son's OC behaviors? OCD can definitely affect schoolwork (did for us). I guess my question is *how* do you think it is affecting his schoolwork? Does he have trouble writing? Reading? Will he talk about his OCD? That would be a great help if he says where it's causing problems. Also he is now 12!! Puberty, feeling more " grown up " , hormones, all that can be playing a part; wanting to " fit in " with peers. Many kids have grades drop in middle school. You mentioned his went down before this though. I think if your son - or you if you can tell - will say just " how " OCD is bothering him with schoolwork, it'll help get him his 504 Plan. We had one. SIGH, I just rambled & jumped around, wish I had more time but you're definitely in a great group for dealing with schools, OCD, even Tourette's, etc. (((hugs))) for the Alzheimers, I'm sooooo sorry. Take care of YOU too, take some time each day for YOU and your needs! We'll help you get through this OCD stuff, you don't need the added stress! single mom, 3 sons , 18, with OCD, dysgraphia and Aspergers/mild > > My name is and I am new here. I joined because we have a 12 > year old son that I feel is in desperate need of help. > > I will try to make this quick and to the point. > > Our son was diagnosed with OCD and Mild Tourettes in 2000 at about Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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