Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Hi Jackie, I wanted to share a few things with you about what my husband went through after I got sick and was facing explant. It is really hard to know how they feel inside, and I think they are really as confused as we are. My husband liked my implants of course, but he used to be disturbed by the increased attention I got, and several times he told me, "well if this is the way it's going to be, let's just get those things out!" I thought he really meant it, because he was pretty serious when he said it. At that time, I was still healthy and enjoying life fully. When I started to get sick, he asked me "Do you think it's the implants?" and I was adamant....NO! It wasn't the implants. Then the strangest thing happened. When I realized it really WAS the implants, and started to make the moves to get them out, he did a turnaround, and wanted me to get totally checked out to make sure it wasn't something else, and was almost telling me not to get them out too fast. I know he was concerned about me, but he got really kind of hostile about my involvement in the implant support groups and thought that the women were making things up, and he was incensed when I got letters that said I was sick from the implants--he didn't want me reading them. I couldn't believe it! I pretty much had to go through setting up my explant on my own, and I think he was skeptical of the idea that I was sick from my implants at that time. However, he took the day off work to be with me during the ordeal (my parents also had driven 2000 miles to be with me.), and was very concerned. After explant, it was hard. I remember feeling so ugly, and scarred, and wanting to talk to him about my feelings. I remember saying something like, "I hope you will still be able to tell me that I am beautiful to you anyway", or something to that effect, and his insensitive reply was like, "I'm not an actor speaking lines in a play you've written". It just didn't seem like him, and I had some resentment in my heart for the attitude he had during the hardest time of my life. He was there, but emotionally, he wasn't there for ME. I think he was struggling with some feelings of his own. He really is a very sensitive, mature and caring person most of the time, and has been a very good husband, but during this period of my life, he was not my knight in shining armor! That was in Feb-March 1998, and it wasn't long after that, he came around and started supporting me as I continued to do more research into breast implant issues and health issues. I really clung to the implant support groups for my help, and he realized that many, many women were sick and we were being neglected, and while he never took on any sort of active role against implants, he does believe that women are sick from them, and he thinks it is very sad that it continues. He didn't like all the time that I spent on the computer, though, and kept telling me to get out of the groups. He thought it was all too negative and wouldn't help me get better. My husband and I have never really discussed my appearance or any of the emotion tied up into all of this since that time. I guess I felt it was better left undiscussed, and I just tried to never show any insecurities about my appearance. It is what it is, and there is nothing more I can do about it. Our sex life is pretty much back to normal, and he is very loving towards me. He shows concern when I am having bad days, and tries to be understanding and helpful. He has also gotten into the natural medicine with his own health concerns, and appreciates my passion for health issues now. The last few days I have been lamenting the fact silently to myself that I never feel sexy anymore. I used to feel young and sexy, before implants, and just after implants. I always have looked younger than my age, and I felt an energy, and vitality and confidence that brought me alot of happiness and joy. Actuallly, it was just my good health back then! So, tonight I got up the courage to tell him, "you know, one thing that has happened to me since the explant ordeal is that I just never feel "sexy" anymore at all,...that sexy feeling is just gone." Do you know what his answer was? He said, "Honey, always remember there is only one thing that makes a woman sexy, and that is her smile." That was followed by a kiss and the words, I love you. So, Jackie, give your husband a chance to get over, through, under and around all these feelings. It is a very confusing thing to go through, but in the end, hopefully, he will show himself to be true blue, there for you through thick and thin, and loving you all the way. Don't show any insecurities around him, but move forward with what you know to be right. Love, Patty ----- Original Message ----- From: Jackie egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 5:04 PM Subject: Re: Re: Good Morning Thank you . I totally agree with you. If my husband can't love me without implants then he is not worth keeping around and I know that I wouldn't hesitate to leave him in a heartbeat if he made me feel less than because of my decision. I'm angry that he's not considering my health first but at this point I also understand. He's only basing his opinion on what my opinion has been for the past 12 yrs....strictly denial. I also know that he adores me and would be crushed if anything happened to me. I just know that he's in denial right now. I won't hold this against him because nothing has ever been confirmed with my health except the depression that the doc keeps throwing at me and he's now getting sick of hearing the doc say that. So because we don't have any conclusive answers we're both in denial. Thats why I was asking awhile back if there was any one specific test that would confirm silicone poisoning or something of that nature. I guess there isn't tho. I appreciate everyones honesty and need to hear it to help prepare me for what I am going to be going thru. I don't find anything discouraging here that I am reading. I just get discouraged with myself because one minute I know its the right thing to do and the next I'm doubting myself. What if...... is always going thru my mind. When I spoke to Sandy at the Womens Implant Centre yesterday she told me the same thing about making a decision to have them removed because of the age of the implants and either replace or go without. Reality tells me that I don't have $5,000. to be replacing these things every few years, maybe longer if I'm lucky or maybe shorter if I'm not. Sandy said some woman opt for the saline implants to replace the silicone like I have and have found that their symptoms do not get better but they do not get worse either. I personally don't have the money or the desire for frequent surgeries for the duration of the rest of my life. A lift might be in order tho. We'll see how much the PS quotes me. Thanks for caring and talking with me. Jackie ----- Original Message ----- From: egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 12:47 PM Subject: Re: Good Morning Dear jackie, I know exactly how you feel, I went through this too, I didn't want to get out the implants at all...I felt that the posts were often discouraging also, like people still seemed sick so what was the point. I am still having really bad days too...so I am not going to deny the fact that that is sounds discouraging, but for me I had to feel I had at least tried, and done everything I could to get better. Well I did..now I am working on my health. I suggest you really need to talk to your husband about what his priorities are, do you really want to be married to a man who values your breast size over your health? that is not the kind of man I want. I am single, but I was dating someone and when I told him the truth he seemed not to care too much about the implants, just that I was ok. Well Jackie it takes time to get well after implants, and I may not ever be what I was, but I am glad to be alive and feel i will get better eventually, and with the implants I would never have that chance. You need to live with your decisions...pray about it and do what you need to do for yourself not for your husband. If he can't love you without your implants he really isn't worth much is he?Remember also that 12 year old implants are way past there life span and you need to replace or get them out anyway...good luck and godbless you in this struggle...I can totally understand how yu feelIn egroups, "Jackie " <poopie@t...> wrote:> Hello ladies, > > Hope this note finds you all well. I've been reading your posts and I can't honestly say they have been helping me but I'm still reading. I believe the reason is because I'm sitting in denial. I know in my heart that the implants have to come out and yet I go thru periods each day that are a little discouraging to say the least. I know I'll deal with this, its just going to take some time. > > I do have some positive news tho. I finally spoke to one of the woman from the Women's Implant Centre here in Vancouver yesterday and she was able to answer alot of my questions including cost of explantation. It seems our medical system here in BC WILL cover the cost of removing the implants so I don't have to worry about that cost. They have a list of some excellent Dr's that will perform this if my PS gives me the usual sales pitch about not being satisfied with my body afterwards. She gave me the option of trying my PS first and then if I'm not satisfied I can go and see them for a recommendation. I have booked an appointment tomorrow with my GP to get a referral to my PS and I have booked an appointment with my PS on January 16th to discuss removal and the cost of a breast lift. I have started the ball rolling. > > My husband doesn't want to discuss this with me, he says it gives him the shivers. I asked him what does, the idea of me being flat chested or the thought of the operation, to which he replied "I don't know" Has anyone ever lost their husbands because they went back to being small chested? Probably. What a stupid question eh? Anyway, I'll deal with it as it comes up. You all have a great day and I'll see ya real soon. > > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2001 Report Share Posted January 5, 2001 Patty, Thank you for sharing that and perhaps helping me to understand my husband a bit better. I know this is a confusing time for both of us since I have remained skeptical for many years about tying the sickness into the implants. And whether I can convince myself beyond a shadow of a doubt that the implants are causing my health concerns is completely irrelevant simply because the age of my implants are like sitting on a time bomb waiting for the explosion. I am in a position that I have to make a choice and I choose health. Your husband has adjusted and loves you just the same and I foresee my husband doing the same thing. It would be really nice if he would be here for me right now tho when I really do need him. I will be patient with him and try and help him as much as I can tho cause in the end, I know he will be there for me. Jackie ----- Original Message ----- From: Patty egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 9:43 PM Subject: Husbands Hi Jackie, I wanted to share a few things with you about what my husband went through after I got sick and was facing explant. It is really hard to know how they feel inside, and I think they are really as confused as we are. My husband liked my implants of course, but he used to be disturbed by the increased attention I got, and several times he told me, "well if this is the way it's going to be, let's just get those things out!" I thought he really meant it, because he was pretty serious when he said it. At that time, I was still healthy and enjoying life fully. When I started to get sick, he asked me "Do you think it's the implants?" and I was adamant....NO! It wasn't the implants. Then the strangest thing happened. When I realized it really WAS the implants, and started to make the moves to get them out, he did a turnaround, and wanted me to get totally checked out to make sure it wasn't something else, and was almost telling me not to get them out too fast. I know he was concerned about me, but he got really kind of hostile about my involvement in the implant support groups and thought that the women were making things up, and he was incensed when I got letters that said I was sick from the implants--he didn't want me reading them. I couldn't believe it! I pretty much had to go through setting up my explant on my own, and I think he was skeptical of the idea that I was sick from my implants at that time. However, he took the day off work to be with me during the ordeal (my parents also had driven 2000 miles to be with me.), and was very concerned. After explant, it was hard. I remember feeling so ugly, and scarred, and wanting to talk to him about my feelings. I remember saying something like, "I hope you will still be able to tell me that I am beautiful to you anyway", or something to that effect, and his insensitive reply was like, "I'm not an actor speaking lines in a play you've written". It just didn't seem like him, and I had some resentment in my heart for the attitude he had during the hardest time of my life. He was there, but emotionally, he wasn't there for ME. I think he was struggling with some feelings of his own. He really is a very sensitive, mature and caring person most of the time, and has been a very good husband, but during this period of my life, he was not my knight in shining armor! That was in Feb-March 1998, and it wasn't long after that, he came around and started supporting me as I continued to do more research into breast implant issues and health issues. I really clung to the implant support groups for my help, and he realized that many, many women were sick and we were being neglected, and while he never took on any sort of active role against implants, he does believe that women are sick from them, and he thinks it is very sad that it continues. He didn't like all the time that I spent on the computer, though, and kept telling me to get out of the groups. He thought it was all too negative and wouldn't help me get better. My husband and I have never really discussed my appearance or any of the emotion tied up into all of this since that time. I guess I felt it was better left undiscussed, and I just tried to never show any insecurities about my appearance. It is what it is, and there is nothing more I can do about it. Our sex life is pretty much back to normal, and he is very loving towards me. He shows concern when I am having bad days, and tries to be understanding and helpful. He has also gotten into the natural medicine with his own health concerns, and appreciates my passion for health issues now. The last few days I have been lamenting the fact silently to myself that I never feel sexy anymore. I used to feel young and sexy, before implants, and just after implants. I always have looked younger than my age, and I felt an energy, and vitality and confidence that brought me alot of happiness and joy. Actuallly, it was just my good health back then! So, tonight I got up the courage to tell him, "you know, one thing that has happened to me since the explant ordeal is that I just never feel "sexy" anymore at all,...that sexy feeling is just gone." Do you know what his answer was? He said, "Honey, always remember there is only one thing that makes a woman sexy, and that is her smile." That was followed by a kiss and the words, I love you. So, Jackie, give your husband a chance to get over, through, under and around all these feelings. It is a very confusing thing to go through, but in the end, hopefully, he will show himself to be true blue, there for you through thick and thin, and loving you all the way. Don't show any insecurities around him, but move forward with what you know to be right. Love, Patty ----- Original Message ----- From: Jackie egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 5:04 PM Subject: Re: Re: Good Morning Thank you . I totally agree with you. If my husband can't love me without implants then he is not worth keeping around and I know that I wouldn't hesitate to leave him in a heartbeat if he made me feel less than because of my decision. I'm angry that he's not considering my health first but at this point I also understand. He's only basing his opinion on what my opinion has been for the past 12 yrs....strictly denial. I also know that he adores me and would be crushed if anything happened to me. I just know that he's in denial right now. I won't hold this against him because nothing has ever been confirmed with my health except the depression that the doc keeps throwing at me and he's now getting sick of hearing the doc say that. So because we don't have any conclusive answers we're both in denial. Thats why I was asking awhile back if there was any one specific test that would confirm silicone poisoning or something of that nature. I guess there isn't tho. I appreciate everyones honesty and need to hear it to help prepare me for what I am going to be going thru. I don't find anything discouraging here that I am reading. I just get discouraged with myself because one minute I know its the right thing to do and the next I'm doubting myself. What if...... is always going thru my mind. When I spoke to Sandy at the Womens Implant Centre yesterday she told me the same thing about making a decision to have them removed because of the age of the implants and either replace or go without. Reality tells me that I don't have $5,000. to be replacing these things every few years, maybe longer if I'm lucky or maybe shorter if I'm not. Sandy said some woman opt for the saline implants to replace the silicone like I have and have found that their symptoms do not get better but they do not get worse either. I personally don't have the money or the desire for frequent surgeries for the duration of the rest of my life. A lift might be in order tho. We'll see how much the PS quotes me. Thanks for caring and talking with me. Jackie ----- Original Message ----- From: egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 12:47 PM Subject: Re: Good Morning Dear jackie, I know exactly how you feel, I went through this too, I didn't want to get out the implants at all...I felt that the posts were often discouraging also, like people still seemed sick so what was the point. I am still having really bad days too...so I am not going to deny the fact that that is sounds discouraging, but for me I had to feel I had at least tried, and done everything I could to get better. Well I did..now I am working on my health. I suggest you really need to talk to your husband about what his priorities are, do you really want to be married to a man who values your breast size over your health? that is not the kind of man I want. I am single, but I was dating someone and when I told him the truth he seemed not to care too much about the implants, just that I was ok. Well Jackie it takes time to get well after implants, and I may not ever be what I was, but I am glad to be alive and feel i will get better eventually, and with the implants I would never have that chance. You need to live with your decisions...pray about it and do what you need to do for yourself not for your husband. If he can't love you without your implants he really isn't worth much is he?Remember also that 12 year old implants are way past there life span and you need to replace or get them out anyway...good luck and godbless you in this struggle...I can totally understand how yu feelIn egroups, "Jackie " <poopie@t...> wrote:> Hello ladies, > > Hope this note finds you all well. I've been reading your posts and I can't honestly say they have been helping me but I'm still reading. I believe the reason is because I'm sitting in denial. I know in my heart that the implants have to come out and yet I go thru periods each day that are a little discouraging to say the least. I know I'll deal with this, its just going to take some time. > > I do have some positive news tho. I finally spoke to one of the woman from the Women's Implant Centre here in Vancouver yesterday and she was able to answer alot of my questions including cost of explantation. It seems our medical system here in BC WILL cover the cost of removing the implants so I don't have to worry about that cost. They have a list of some excellent Dr's that will perform this if my PS gives me the usual sales pitch about not being satisfied with my body afterwards. She gave me the option of trying my PS first and then if I'm not satisfied I can go and see them for a recommendation. I have booked an appointment tomorrow with my GP to get a referral to my PS and I have booked an appointment with my PS on January 16th to discuss removal and the cost of a breast lift. I have started the ball rolling. > > My husband doesn't want to discuss this with me, he says it gives him the shivers. I asked him what does, the idea of me being flat chested or the thought of the operation, to which he replied "I don't know" Has anyone ever lost their husbands because they went back to being small chested? Probably. What a stupid question eh? Anyway, I'll deal with it as it comes up. You all have a great day and I'll see ya real soon. > > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2001 Report Share Posted January 6, 2001 Another thing I just thought of was that last week we were watching TV with family and someone flipped onto a channel of a woman getting implants and we stopped to look for a moment until we all felt like we were going to throw up including Gord who left the room. The way the doctor was scraping and stretching the breast tissue was enough to make anyone gag and I think that is what has left Gord a little squeamish. hehe Can't says I blame him. He came to the doctor's with me today because he had something he wanted to ask as well so sat quietly while I asked for my referral to the PS. My doc asked me why and I told him to have these implants removed and he asked if I was having them replaced with the saline implants. His question took me by surprise (don't know why) but I said NO. I said very confidently in front of Gordon (my hubby) that I have learned that my silicone implants are time bombs waiting to happen and want then out and will probably just discuss a lift. The doc nodded his agreement and said he would process the referral right away. Later Gord and I went for lunch and out of the blue he asked me when my appt with my PS was. So I don't really think he will be so bad and insensitive as long as I keep up the confidence. Jackie ----- Original Message ----- From: Jackie egroups Sent: Friday, January 05, 2001 10:52 AM Subject: Re: Husbands Patty, Thank you for sharing that and perhaps helping me to understand my husband a bit better. I know this is a confusing time for both of us since I have remained skeptical for many years about tying the sickness into the implants. And whether I can convince myself beyond a shadow of a doubt that the implants are causing my health concerns is completely irrelevant simply because the age of my implants are like sitting on a time bomb waiting for the explosion. I am in a position that I have to make a choice and I choose health. Your husband has adjusted and loves you just the same and I foresee my husband doing the same thing. It would be really nice if he would be here for me right now tho when I really do need him. I will be patient with him and try and help him as much as I can tho cause in the end, I know he will be there for me. Jackie ----- Original Message ----- From: Patty egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 9:43 PM Subject: Husbands Hi Jackie, I wanted to share a few things with you about what my husband went through after I got sick and was facing explant. It is really hard to know how they feel inside, and I think they are really as confused as we are. My husband liked my implants of course, but he used to be disturbed by the increased attention I got, and several times he told me, "well if this is the way it's going to be, let's just get those things out!" I thought he really meant it, because he was pretty serious when he said it. At that time, I was still healthy and enjoying life fully. When I started to get sick, he asked me "Do you think it's the implants?" and I was adamant....NO! It wasn't the implants. Then the strangest thing happened. When I realized it really WAS the implants, and started to make the moves to get them out, he did a turnaround, and wanted me to get totally checked out to make sure it wasn't something else, and was almost telling me not to get them out too fast. I know he was concerned about me, but he got really kind of hostile about my involvement in the implant support groups and thought that the women were making things up, and he was incensed when I got letters that said I was sick from the implants--he didn't want me reading them. I couldn't believe it! I pretty much had to go through setting up my explant on my own, and I think he was skeptical of the idea that I was sick from my implants at that time. However, he took the day off work to be with me during the ordeal (my parents also had driven 2000 miles to be with me.), and was very concerned. After explant, it was hard. I remember feeling so ugly, and scarred, and wanting to talk to him about my feelings. I remember saying something like, "I hope you will still be able to tell me that I am beautiful to you anyway", or something to that effect, and his insensitive reply was like, "I'm not an actor speaking lines in a play you've written". It just didn't seem like him, and I had some resentment in my heart for the attitude he had during the hardest time of my life. He was there, but emotionally, he wasn't there for ME. I think he was struggling with some feelings of his own. He really is a very sensitive, mature and caring person most of the time, and has been a very good husband, but during this period of my life, he was not my knight in shining armor! That was in Feb-March 1998, and it wasn't long after that, he came around and started supporting me as I continued to do more research into breast implant issues and health issues. I really clung to the implant support groups for my help, and he realized that many, many women were sick and we were being neglected, and while he never took on any sort of active role against implants, he does believe that women are sick from them, and he thinks it is very sad that it continues. He didn't like all the time that I spent on the computer, though, and kept telling me to get out of the groups. He thought it was all too negative and wouldn't help me get better. My husband and I have never really discussed my appearance or any of the emotion tied up into all of this since that time. I guess I felt it was better left undiscussed, and I just tried to never show any insecurities about my appearance. It is what it is, and there is nothing more I can do about it. Our sex life is pretty much back to normal, and he is very loving towards me. He shows concern when I am having bad days, and tries to be understanding and helpful. He has also gotten into the natural medicine with his own health concerns, and appreciates my passion for health issues now. The last few days I have been lamenting the fact silently to myself that I never feel sexy anymore. I used to feel young and sexy, before implants, and just after implants. I always have looked younger than my age, and I felt an energy, and vitality and confidence that brought me alot of happiness and joy. Actuallly, it was just my good health back then! So, tonight I got up the courage to tell him, "you know, one thing that has happened to me since the explant ordeal is that I just never feel "sexy" anymore at all,...that sexy feeling is just gone." Do you know what his answer was? He said, "Honey, always remember there is only one thing that makes a woman sexy, and that is her smile." That was followed by a kiss and the words, I love you. So, Jackie, give your husband a chance to get over, through, under and around all these feelings. It is a very confusing thing to go through, but in the end, hopefully, he will show himself to be true blue, there for you through thick and thin, and loving you all the way. Don't show any insecurities around him, but move forward with what you know to be right. Love, Patty ----- Original Message ----- From: Jackie egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 5:04 PM Subject: Re: Re: Good Morning Thank you . I totally agree with you. If my husband can't love me without implants then he is not worth keeping around and I know that I wouldn't hesitate to leave him in a heartbeat if he made me feel less than because of my decision. I'm angry that he's not considering my health first but at this point I also understand. He's only basing his opinion on what my opinion has been for the past 12 yrs....strictly denial. I also know that he adores me and would be crushed if anything happened to me. I just know that he's in denial right now. I won't hold this against him because nothing has ever been confirmed with my health except the depression that the doc keeps throwing at me and he's now getting sick of hearing the doc say that. So because we don't have any conclusive answers we're both in denial. Thats why I was asking awhile back if there was any one specific test that would confirm silicone poisoning or something of that nature. I guess there isn't tho. I appreciate everyones honesty and need to hear it to help prepare me for what I am going to be going thru. I don't find anything discouraging here that I am reading. I just get discouraged with myself because one minute I know its the right thing to do and the next I'm doubting myself. What if...... is always going thru my mind. When I spoke to Sandy at the Womens Implant Centre yesterday she told me the same thing about making a decision to have them removed because of the age of the implants and either replace or go without. Reality tells me that I don't have $5,000. to be replacing these things every few years, maybe longer if I'm lucky or maybe shorter if I'm not. Sandy said some woman opt for the saline implants to replace the silicone like I have and have found that their symptoms do not get better but they do not get worse either. I personally don't have the money or the desire for frequent surgeries for the duration of the rest of my life. A lift might be in order tho. We'll see how much the PS quotes me. Thanks for caring and talking with me. Jackie ----- Original Message ----- From: egroups Sent: Thursday, January 04, 2001 12:47 PM Subject: Re: Good Morning Dear jackie, I know exactly how you feel, I went through this too, I didn't want to get out the implants at all...I felt that the posts were often discouraging also, like people still seemed sick so what was the point. I am still having really bad days too...so I am not going to deny the fact that that is sounds discouraging, but for me I had to feel I had at least tried, and done everything I could to get better. Well I did..now I am working on my health. I suggest you really need to talk to your husband about what his priorities are, do you really want to be married to a man who values your breast size over your health? that is not the kind of man I want. I am single, but I was dating someone and when I told him the truth he seemed not to care too much about the implants, just that I was ok. Well Jackie it takes time to get well after implants, and I may not ever be what I was, but I am glad to be alive and feel i will get better eventually, and with the implants I would never have that chance. You need to live with your decisions...pray about it and do what you need to do for yourself not for your husband. If he can't love you without your implants he really isn't worth much is he?Remember also that 12 year old implants are way past there life span and you need to replace or get them out anyway...good luck and godbless you in this struggle...I can totally understand how yu feelIn egroups, "Jackie " <poopie@t...> wrote:> Hello ladies, > > Hope this note finds you all well. I've been reading your posts and I can't honestly say they have been helping me but I'm still reading. I believe the reason is because I'm sitting in denial. I know in my heart that the implants have to come out and yet I go thru periods each day that are a little discouraging to say the least. I know I'll deal with this, its just going to take some time. > > I do have some positive news tho. I finally spoke to one of the woman from the Women's Implant Centre here in Vancouver yesterday and she was able to answer alot of my questions including cost of explantation. It seems our medical system here in BC WILL cover the cost of removing the implants so I don't have to worry about that cost. They have a list of some excellent Dr's that will perform this if my PS gives me the usual sales pitch about not being satisfied with my body afterwards. She gave me the option of trying my PS first and then if I'm not satisfied I can go and see them for a recommendation. I have booked an appointment tomorrow with my GP to get a referral to my PS and I have booked an appointment with my PS on January 16th to discuss removal and the cost of a breast lift. I have started the ball rolling. > > My husband doesn't want to discuss this with me, he says it gives him the shivers. I asked him what does, the idea of me being flat chested or the thought of the operation, to which he replied "I don't know" Has anyone ever lost their husbands because they went back to being small chested? Probably. What a stupid question eh? Anyway, I'll deal with it as it comes up. You all have a great day and I'll see ya real soon. > > Jackie Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted March 26, 2004 Report Share Posted March 26, 2004 Hmmm, a group for the men? That's definitely a great idea. My hubby isn't much on "support groups" but he might be interested in seeing how other men deal with the things we go through. Let me know if one gets started. PamColleen <cfortner@...> wrote: that is a great idea!!!! From: "naturalbeauty38" <naturalbeauty38@...>Reply- Date: Wed, 24 Mar 2004 15:17:20 -0000 Subject: Husbands My husband said maybe he should start a group for husbands of wifes who had implants removed. He said he would like to set allot of guys straight on how to care for your wife through this time. He has been a total gem! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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