[Spinal Disorders Support]NO Questions on Chronic Pain

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Hi my name is .Have had problems since birth,manageable.2 car accidents @

that time dr. said my back looked way too old. I'm a pretttty 52. son won't help

he's 20.I love being single. If I can't get up for 3 days my chihuahua's start

hovering around me as if to say. Momma get up!

I have puppies now. Have saved many an ol lady in need of love. lol A lot more

loyal than a man. ha ha ha

Everyone has always said everything wrong is in my head. And as my name is

. I know what is going on in my body(sort of?lol) @ least pain wise. If

someone wants to accept me for me & my assortd medical problems. that's great.

lots of people my age have medical problems.all kinds. lol

we are getting old. My pain is real have a great poem on it for another day,

My neighbor sent his lil friend over to come and get me to eat w/ them. I gotta

go and run!He's holding my chi hostage.lol w/ loving, pork loin & ! lol

Lincoln? You will get bad gri-gri if you leave your wife just because she is

sick. lol that's some bad stuff. Karma. My friends are kickin the bucket left

and right. One day they are ignorant alcoholics.lol and the next they've had a

stroke, hit a treee, anurisms, diabetes. left them changed forever. I would

rather be alone than be w/ someone who does not want to be there.lol and I am.

4 bdrm brick & my chi's.lol

& (^;^) & karen in Louisiana

> From: SUE C L <sulaws9@...>

> Subject: Re: Questions on Chronic Pain

> spinal problems

> Date: Thursday, May 27, 2010, 7:43 PM

> I have to agree here.Why is it that

> in todays society,marriage is only sustainable during the

> good times?My Grandparents worked side by side on a

> farm,raised 5 kids and stuck together through the worst of

> times.They would have never considered abandoning one

> another over sickness or anything else.They would have told

> you as much.I guess things change.I feel my last marriage

> ended in great part due to my pain and issues with my back

> and neck.I worked everyday,kept a nice

> house,cooked,cleaned,traveled,did the laundry,entertained

> but I know this man saw me as flawed because I said " It

> hurts " and I tried to find a way to get relief.Now at 52 I,m

> alone.I,m considered attractive,youthful looking,but because

> of this mans rejection of me because of my health,it is

> engrained in my mind,who would want someone like me? I have

> just had my second neck surgery,I have a herniation at T10

> and the very real fact is,I may live the rest of my life

> with the pain,who wants to deal with that? Luckily,I,m

> learning to be ok with being alone.Lincoln,I was told after

> a fall in my 20,s that my neck would probably always give me

> trouble.Sadly,you,re wife being in pain with her back is not

> so unusual.I,m so sorry that it has gotten so bad,so

> quickly.PCP,s really don,t want to deal with this stuff and

> frankly aren,t qualified to do so.That is one reason they

> phoo-phooo you.Get her to a specialsit.I understand your

> feeling of being overwhelmed.You,re human too.Both of you

> need some guidance.Have you tried contacting a free standing

> diagnostic center and asking them the self pay rate for an

> MRI? Ask them if you could pay a portion upfront and then

> pay out the balance? I think self pay rates are much better

> than going through insurance.Its worth a try.Good luck and

> let us know how you are both doing.

>

> > >

> > > I have been married to my wife for almost 4 years

> (we are both 28) and its becomming increasingly difficult

> for me to deal with her constant pain.

> > > 

> > > She was in a car accident when she was 15, and

> she claims that since then she has never been the same (I

> wish I knew her then)

> > > I love her very much, think she is extremely

> smart, beautiful, and on her good days shes my goddess.

> > > 

> > > Most of the time she does complain about back

> pain though.  I try to massage it away, but I cannot

> get through her tight muscles, they are too much for me.

> > > 

> > > She has been to doctors but he they all not think

> that anything is wrong with her.  they refuse to give

> her an MRI, and says that they think she is too young for

> back pain.  Now hearing them say this, I agreed..

> mostly.  I think that doctors are extremely smart, and

> have this authority for a reason. Why should I question

> them?

> > > 

> > > They told her and me that her pain is

> psychological.

> > > 

> > > I have since then been frustrated with her

> expecially on days where she claims she cannot get out of

> bed.  Can't she just 'will' herself out of bed? I do

> not understand.

> > > 

> > > Things got so bad, I was considering a divorce,

> but I love her so much, I would miss her terribly. 

> > > One day while things were bad, I brought her a

> pill that a friend swore up and down would help..

> > > She took it, and I have never seen her so lovely,

> she was just acting like a normal person, doing things that

> normal people do.. dishes, chasing after our son... cleaning

> house.. she seemed able to do the things that I would expect

> to see every other day.

> > > 

> > > It was then I realized that something may really

> be wrong with her.  There is that normal person

> underneath all this pain..

> > > 

> > > I told her that night that I gave her a low dose

> of oxycotin... she did not know what that was but she

> thanked me for a normal day.

> > > 

> > > She researched the drug online the next day and

> became very nervous telling me to never give it to her

> again.... and that was along time ago..

> > > 

> > > Since then its been a horrible roller coaster

> again.. and I do not know how to cope with all of this.

> > > Should I believe the doctors, and just think that

> its all in her head? 

> > >

> > > I have a very hard time understanding what this

> is like for her, and I am just looking for a way to get some

> empathy, understanding and advice from others. 

> > >

> > > Is it possible that these doctors are all

> wrong?  I cannot afford to be taking her to other

> doctors or anything (we are apart of a discount program).

> > >

> > > She claims that Tylenol and

> Ibprophine/motrin/asprin/neproxin.. does nothing for her.

> > >

> > > I massage her with menthol creams... have taken

> her to Chriropractors etc.. but nothing seems to work.

> > >

> > > She does alot of reading on this stuff, and has

> self-dianosed herself with a herniated disc- she says the

> pain matches up very well.

> > >

> > > WHat can I do for her if this is the case? 

> Once we do have adiquite medical insurance, what may her

> options be?

> > >

> > >

> > > How am I supposed to deal with all of this?-- she

> is tired all the time, and tells me that its related to the

> pain.. is this something that is characteristic of chronic

> pain?

> > >

> > > Since none of the doctors in our low income

> prgram are answering any of our questions, I am turning to

> you guys...

> > > 

> > > 

> > > any help would be appreciated

> > > Lincoln

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