SAMI.

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In a message dated 12/29/01 4:04:20 PM Pacific Standard Time, sami112489@... writes:

Gayle,

Please do not apologize for being bold. That is exactly what I am looking

for. She is now in the hospital, as of Thursday evening, 12/27. The ER dr.

said he thought all that could save her would be a transplant and we all know

that she will not qualify for that. I just can not imagine letting myself

get in such a shape. She has 5 beautiful grandchildren, ages 8, 6, 6, 5, and

8 months. I would think that not being able to watch them grow up would have

been a wake up call a long time ago if it were me. But I guess that is what

something like that can do to you. She is only 51 years old. I just have to

wonder how much longer she has.

Thanks for your concern.

Sami

HI SAMI,

SORRY TO HEAR THAT SHE IS IN THE HOSPITAL, (BIG HUGS)

.......(delicately speaking though)

......FROM READING YOUR POSTS, IT SEEMS IT WAS ONLY A MATTER OF TIME BEFORE THIS HAPPENED....

I DON'T MEAN TO SOUND COLD, BUT YOU NEED TO PREPARE FOR THE WORST....(HUGS) THIS IS GOING TO BE A VERY DIFFICULT TIME FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY(as it has been) STAY POSITIVE, AND BE STRONG.....(but cry when you need to, this helps) I KNOW THIS SEEMS ALL EASY FOR ME TO SAY, I AM NOT THERE WITH YOU, AND SEEING YOUR PAIN AND ANGUISH.....BUT I HAVE SEEN ENOUGH IN MY LIFE, THAT I CAN AT LEAST IMAGINE WHAT YOUR ARE FEELING.....(HUGS)

AS FAR AS THE GRANDCHILDREN AND THAT IT SHOULD OF BEEN A WAKE UP CALL FOR HER....I AGREE, BUT SAMI, IT SOUNDS LIKE SHE HAS BEEN ILL FOR A VERY LONG TIME....

(HUGS AGAIN) I DO KNOW FROM SOME EXPERIENCE OF ALCOHOLISM, THAT PEOPLE GET SO FAR INTO THE DISEASE THAT THEY REALLY DON'T KNOW WHAT THEY ARE DOING. THIS IS A VERY ADDICTING DRUG; THAT TURNS INTO A SERIOUS DISEASE!!!! IT AFFECTS MILLIONS OF PEOPLE EVERY YEAR! THEY LOSE TOUCH WITH REALITY, FAMILY AND FRIENDS; LOSE THEIR JOBS; SPOUSES.....THEY FEEL LIKE THEIR LIFE IS TOTALLY WORTHLESS!! THEN THE GUILT OF WHAT THEY ARE DOING TO THEMSELVES AND THEIR FAMILY IS SO OVER-WHELIMING, THAT THEY KEEP DRINKING TO FORGET!! THEY JUST KEEP CHASING THEIR TAIL

(so to speak) FEELING LIKE THERE IS NO WAY OUT!!! I DO NOT KNOW EXACTLY WHY HER LIFE TURNED IN THAT DIRECTION.......BUT WHATEVER THE REASON, KNOW IT HAD NOTHING TO DO WITH YOU OR ANYONE ELSE!! THIS IS NOT YOUR FAULT, AND ALL YOU CAN DO NOW, IS JUST MAKE HER COMFORTABLE, AND LOVE HER, AS YOU ARE....

..........SHE REALLY DOESN'T REALIZE HOW MUCH SHE IS HURTING YOU AND YOUR FAMILY....OR HOW MUCH SHE IS HURTING HERSELF!! PLEASE BE SURE TO LET HER KNOW HOW MUCH YOU LOVE HER.....AND LET THE GRANDBABIES SEE HER TOO.....

EVEN THOUGH, THIS COULD BE A SCAREY TIME FOR THEM, ITS BETTER FOR THEM TO SEE HER, THAN TO BE IN THE DARK. I HAVE FOUND THROUGH MY EXPERIENCES, THAT KIDS ARE A LOT STRONGER THAN WE GIVE THEM CREDIT FOR.....HECK!! I HAVE LEARNED A LOT FROM MY OWN KIDS ABOUT LIFE!!

PLEASE TAKE IT EASY, AND I WILL SAY PRAYERS FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY TO PULL THROUGH THIS.....

PLEASE STAY IN TOUCH.......

LOTS OF LOVE AND HUGS YOUR WAY!!!

**HAPPY**HOLIDAYS**

**AND WARM HUGS**

Bert.