Guest guest Posted April 27, 2003 Report Share Posted April 27, 2003 hi bert, please ramble on as much as you want. i went through something similar with my son some years ago, i know how you are feeling and if i was closer i would give you all a big hug. of course my prayers will be with you all, i always pray for everyone, but you will have a special one tonight. i know its hard, but try to be strong, i feel that everything will be fine with all your problems. love, hugs and many prayers anita ____________________________________________________ IncrediMail - Email has finally evolved - Click Here Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2003 Report Share Posted April 27, 2003 Bert, I'm going to bed now but noticed you were on line. Hope all goes well tomorrow for you and Zach. I know how worried you must be. Try to get some rest. You and Zach will be in my prayers. Let us know how things go tomorrow. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2003 Report Share Posted April 27, 2003 Bert, I am so sorry that Zac is obviously very distraught over his surgery. I do think it wasn't the wisest thing in the world for the doctor to tell an 8 year old that you never know how surgery can go. We never know how crossing the street can go, but we try to take all the necessary precautions and then put our faith in God. Please know that you and Zak are in my prayers for Zak to have an uneventful surgery and recovery. W Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2003 Report Share Posted April 27, 2003 Bert and Zac My thoughts and prayers are with you both for Monday morning. Bert I know how hard it is as a Mom to be strong in front of the kids. God will give you the strength. Hugs Glo Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2003 Report Share Posted April 27, 2003 Bert.....I'm sure you know that you and especially Zac will be in my prayers....all will be OK...I'm sure of it....that surgeon needs to get some sensitivity training... My love goes out to you and your whole family... love jerry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 2003 Report Share Posted April 27, 2003 Dear Bert, Please know that I will be praying for you, you family and particularly, Zac. It is terrible to see your child so frightened and not being able to help. Bert, the fact that the doctor said that the tumor is not likely to be malignant must mean that he is confident that that is the case. I'm sure a doctor would not say something like that if he wasn't quite certain about it. I feel for Zac, he is so young and even as adults we get frightened at times like this. It is a shame the doctor said what he did about there being no guarantees in front of Zac, but I think I would say to Zac that that is the case with all surgeries, and doctors always say that when one is going to have an operation? I hope that all goes well for him. Please tell Zac that we are all praying for him. Love, Bozena > Message: 13 > Date: Sun, 27 Apr 2003 12:12:36 -0400 > From: " Bertha Dotson " <sunshinedotson@...> > Subject: Zac's surgery, help... > > Hello everyone, I hope you are having a nice weekend. I don't usually ask > for much from my family here, but I need to today, please. Zachary, for the > last 2 weeks started a count down until his surgery date; every morning I > say good morning to all my kids, but Zac says, very quietly, " mom I got > these many days " until surgery. He is very stressed and frightened I know; > but he told my oldest, , to please help him get things in order in > case he died on Monday from surgery. I was beside myself when told > me and I just want to cry; this happened a few days ago. > > He isn't talking much and I try to just hold him as much as I can, but he is > really just extremely terrified. He is really beginning to scare me with > the way he talking, as if he knows something I don't. They said the > procedure is only supposed to be about an hour; nevertheless it will be the > longest hour in the world for me tomorrow morning. His surgery time is at > 7:30am., but we have to be there by 6am. I am really nervous, but I am > lucky enough to know how to hide it. I am constantly changing the subject > or just keeping him as busy as I can, but not ignoring him when he wants to > talk about it. The crazy part is that he really don't want to talk about > it, he just says, like this morning, as soon as he seen me, > " mom I got 1 day " I said yes honey I know, it will be all right and gave him > a big hug. Then I walked away because I almost started to cry. > > I really could use some moral support with this. I am asking for many, many > prayers please, as I am very scared for him. I don't know this Dr. and I am > intrusting him with my baby; he's only 8 years old. I only met this Dr. 1 > time for a consult, then the surgery date was scheduled. Many of you know > about the many awful Dr.'s I've had in the past, and some recent for my > health, so you can understand why I am so frightened for Zac. This Dr. too, > came a crossed arrogant and said right of the bat, it's NOT a tumor that > will be malignant. Hey I didn't know he was God and could predict that!!! > Every case is different, this I know for FACT! It took 3 or more years > before Dr.'s believed me that there was many things wrong with me. So I am > skittish when Dr.'s are so SURE of themselves from just looking at something > for 5 seconds!! I don't care how many surgeries he's done like this one, > everyone is different! > > *another issue* > My other oldest step-son that came to live with us recently was told of the > permanent change last night, and then he tried to run away again. He wants > to be here, but then he don't want the change. We understand this and are > trying to make this transition as easy as we can for him, but he's still > talking about running away, so we're on 24 hour police patrol if you know > what I mean. In the middle of all this last night, is when Zac says > something about the 2 days; I could have just fell over with grief!! I > guess I am really DESPERATE and reaching here, I need support in every way I > can get it from any of you, please? > > I never complain about things being " off-topic " myself, but I am going to > say this anyway in case it bothers some; I am sorry this wasn't liver > related, but I need all my friends, and that's you. As sad as it is, I do > not have any friends here in Bay City, " still " and only have a couple in > real life. Funny how people grow up and go their separate ways and loose > contact; but I have many here with you, and I am DESPERATE FOR HELP!! > Thanks for listening.......... > > I am so sorry that I just rambled on here as much as I did, but I am just > having one of those days, weeks, months and then some. I hope everyone is > doing all right, please take care...... > > Love always with tons of HUGS.... > Bert. > p.s. I don't think it helped much that the surgeon told me, in front of Zac, > that there aren't ever any guarantee's with how a surgery will go. Maybe > that's why Zac is more terrified???????? > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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