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I'm feeling very stressed out and emotional. Is this normal right before surgery?

Peggy

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Peggy, I think what Cam said maybe true, I also saw your to do list and that exhausted me and I was just reading it. We are all so different in how we handle things, I know with me the loss of sleep and taking on to many things stresses me out and I become very emotional. Believe me when I say because I am following right behind you is make some time for yourself which is what I am doing, I am trying to do things that you don't have to think like read an easy book one that doesn't make you have to really think or watch T.V. (no big plot) or just listen to music. I did not have a primary doctor, I have been a very healthy person but I did find one and so last week I went and just talked to her about what was coming up and felt good to talk to her. She prescribed me Xanax for when I am feeling anxious, I don't take them all the time just when I am feeling anxious and it has really helped me

stay focused, its not a high dosage its just enough to take the edge off so I can concentrate on the important things........ I hope that helps............ cammaltby <cammaltby@...> wrote: Peggy,It is very normal to feel stressed out before surgery. I think most of us experienced the usual host of feelings that go along with this pre-op time....loss of sleep, anxiety, crying at small things/big things. I guess I believe it would not be normal to

feel that way at least a little bit.Some people do better than others. Many of us found that using Bellaruth Naperstacks "Successful Sugery" CD to be very helpful in this pre-op time. I actually fell asleep to it the week before, including the night before surgery..so I swear by it. There seems to be evidence that positive mental imagry can help get you to a better place for surgery. Perhaps you can still buy the CD locally at a and Noble or somewhere?If the anxiety begins to feel overwhelming, contact your surgeon and he is likely to prescribe something that will take the edge off for you. You don't want to go into the surgery exahusted...Try not to take on any tasks that feels "extra" this week. I saw your "To do" list and while I am sure it will provide you with distraction on the one hand, I wondered if you are doing too much. Of course I will be glad to see you at the retreat...but perhaps

you should look over your entire coming week again and X out anything that doesnt feel like is going to get you to the hospital nextr week feeling good and well rested? Remember, as a woman, you always reserve the right to change your mind and anything you tell someone yuo have to defer this week because of pending surgery will be well understood by everyone!Deep breaths,Cam

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Peggy,

Feeling stressed before surgery is absolutely normal. I mean

they are doing a very major job here and a little apprehension

is to be expected. Take a deep breathe and keep reminding yourself

as to why you made this decision in the first place. Keep

praying and or meditating and remember the group is here for

you. Emotionally it is a very trying time and a very difficult

decision but remember it is the " quality of life " you seek. Trust in

your heart and the decision you have made and find peace with it.

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Stress relief...gonna sneak off and play nine holes in morning after Hubby goes

to work. Then see a friend and plan a quilt. Still depressed about the house

that has my heart.

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On Jun 25, 2010, at 12:52 AM, Trudy <trudykinsey@...> wrote:

Well, Hubs and I decided to look for a place to rent while I do tx; this RV is

great but not a place for that. I don't want the added expense of rent and

utilities again, but must be in better surrondings to accomadate tx. We found a

sweet farm house in the peaceful countryside with everything and more we could

ask for. Owner said he wanted to sell on contract(yea!) and only 4 grand to

enter legal contract. It is move in ready. Did I mention it has a garden area

and small fruit orchard and roses by the front porch( with porch swing)? It

speaks to my soul. And a great oppotunity at only four grand . Has a nice two

bed, two bath mobile on corner acre included that rents for five hundred a month

so that helps with the low 800. monthly payment. Good well and propane so only

an electric bill. And great cell/ Internet service.he really likes us so dropped

it to two grand down. And I can't come up with the 2 grand! Not quick enough.

Heartbroken:( Stressing

about it. Smoked two packs cigs after quitting for two years. So disappointed.

In a funk. Can't muster the heart to look again. Praying about it. Did I also

mention it has what would make a great quilt studio?? Curses! Been a bad

rollercoaster coupla days.

Fyi: I didn't pull those teeth... Don't want to look like the Beverly

Hillbillies. ( more stress).

I need a hug. A big one.

In the doldrums, Trudy in what coulda been OK

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First of all - BIG CYBER HUGS, TrudyPlus, do whatever is necessary in the footwork department; but, don't just accept the no go regarding this place!! It sounds wonderful. It may be a horrible thought; but, what about using your RV as security for one of those loan places that is not a bank. I know, the interest is ridiculous; but, is it worth it????Gloria

Well, Hubs and I decided to look for a place to rent while I do tx; this RV is great but not a place for that. I don't want the added expense of rent and utilities again, but must be in better surrondings to accomadate tx. We found a sweet farm house in the peaceful countryside with everything and more we could ask for. Owner said he wanted to sell on contract(yea!) and only 4 grand to enter legal contract. It is move in ready. Did I mention it has a garden area and small fruit orchard and roses by the front porch( with porch swing)? It speaks to my soul. And a great oppotunity at only four grand . Has a nice two bed, two bath mobile on corner acre included that rents for five hundred a month so that helps with the low 800. monthly payment. Good well and propane so only an electric bill. And great cell/ Internet service.he really likes us so dropped it to two grand down. And I can't come up with the 2 grand! Not quick enough. Heartbroken:( Stressing

about it. Smoked two packs cigs after quitting for two years. So disappointed. In a funk. Can't muster the heart to look again. Praying about it. Did I also mention it has what would make a great quilt studio?? Curses! Been a bad rollercoaster coupla days.

Fyi: I didn't pull those teeth... Don't want to look like the Beverly Hillbillies. ( more stress).

I need a hug. A big one.

In the doldrums, Trudy in what coulda been OK

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Well, think we have exhausted every possibility. Very sad and frusttrating. We are only 1000.00 short on the down pay and can recoup that in just a few short days by renting the mobile home( rent and deposit = 1000.00) But no go. did try putting up our 16000 ( loan value ) truck ( clear title, pristine condition)as collateral against 3000 loan ...no good ! Why are banks even open if they are too scared to loan money ??

So tryin' to get it out of my head. Snuck off this morning to play 9 holes golf while Hubby at work LOL...too hot after 6 holes, but went very well !! Good stress release and cleared mind ( for a while). I know God has a plan...I just hope it is better... http://www.facebook.com/people/andTrudy-Kinsey/1340460877 " A well-behaved woman never made History" Trudy

From: Gloria <gadamscan@...> Sent: Fri, June 25, 2010 10:15:05 PMSubject: Re: [ ] Stressed

First of all - BIG CYBER HUGS, TrudyPlus, do whatever is necessary in the footwork department; but, don't just accept the no go regarding this place!! It sounds wonderful. It may be a horrible thought; but, what about using your RV as security for one of those loan places that is not a bank. I know, the interest is ridiculous; but, is it worth it????Gloria

Well, Hubs and I decided to look for a place to rent while I do tx; this RV is great but not a place for that. I don't want the added expense of rent and utilities again, but must be in better surrondings to accomadate tx. We found a sweet farm house in the peaceful countryside with everything and more we could ask for. Owner said he wanted to sell on contract(yea! ) and only 4 grand to enter legal contract. It is move in ready. Did I mention it has a garden area and small fruit orchard and roses by the front porch( with porch swing)? It speaks to my soul. And a great oppotunity at only four grand . Has a nice two bed, two bath mobile on corner acre included that rents for five hundred a month so that helps with the low 800. monthly payment. Good well and propane so only an electric bill. And great cell/ Internet service.he really likes us so dropped it to two grand down. And I can't come up with the 2 grand! Not quick enough. Heartbroken: (

Stressingabout it. Smoked two packs cigs after quitting for two years. So disappointed. In a funk. Can't muster the heart to look again. Praying about it. Did I also mention it has what would make a great quilt studio?? Curses! Been a bad rollercoaster coupla days.Fyi: I didn't pull those teeth... Don't want to look like the Beverly Hillbillies. ( more stress).I need a hug. A big one.In the doldrums, Trudy in what coulda been OK http://facebook. com/people/ andTrudy- Kinsey/134046087 7 ""A well- behaved woman never made history"...Mae Westhttp://oktravels. wordpress. comhttp://allrecipes. com/cook/ TrudyK/profile. aspx

LL

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Gawd help me, I was never very good at golf. But this one time, I was sooo angry an this old guy when another fella and I joined up for a game. My ball were always pink then. Well, every time I was about to take another shot, I turned that ball so that I could see the two spots on it and pictured those to be his eyes. Don't think it improved my game one iota; but, sure did get my anger out.There's something else I'll have to bring out here!! The field behind me a large enough to be a driving range. I could bring out the clubs and at least start with some wiffle balls. Then, the walking to pick them up with only slightly test my body. Later, I could bring out the real balls and then really have to walk to go and get them. Bet my dog

would love the excersise too.Gloria

Well, think we have exhausted every possibility. Very sad and frusttrating. We are only 1000.00 short on the down pay and can recoup that in just a few short days by renting the mobile home( rent and deposit = 1000.00) But no go. did try putting up our 16000 ( loan value ) truck ( clear title, pristine condition)as collateral against 3000 loan ...no good ! Why are banks even open if they are too scared to loan money ??

So tryin' to get it out of my head. Snuck off this morning to play 9 holes golf while Hubby at work LOL...too hot after 6 holes, but went very well !! Good stress release and cleared mind ( for a while). I know God has a plan...I just hope it is better... http://www.facebook .com/people/ andTrudy- Kinsey/134046087 7 " A well-behaved woman never made

History" Trudy

From: Gloria <gadamscan (DOT) ca> Sent: Fri, June 25, 2010 10:15:05 PMSubject: Re: [ ] Stressed

First of all - BIG CYBER HUGS, TrudyPlus, do whatever is necessary in the footwork department; but, don't just accept the no go regarding this place!! It sounds wonderful. It may be a horrible thought; but, what about using your RV as security for one of those loan places that is not a bank. I know, the interest is ridiculous; but, is it worth it????Gloria

Well, Hubs and I decided to look for a place to rent while I do tx; this RV is great but not a place for that. I don't want the added expense of rent and utilities again, but must be in better surrondings to accomadate tx. We found a sweet farm house in the peaceful countryside with everything and more we could ask for. Owner said he wanted to sell on contract(yea! ) and only 4 grand to enter legal contract. It is move in ready. Did I mention it has a garden area and small fruit orchard and roses by the front porch( with porch swing)? It speaks to my soul. And a great oppotunity at only four grand . Has a nice two bed, two bath mobile on corner acre included that rents for five hundred a month so that helps with the low 800. monthly payment. Good well and propane so only an electric bill. And great cell/ Internet service.he really likes us so dropped it to two grand down. And I can't come up with the 2 grand! Not quick enough. Heartbroken: (

Stressingabout it. Smoked two packs cigs after quitting for two years. So disappointed. In a funk. Can't muster the heart to look again. Praying about it. Did I also mention it has what would make a great quilt studio?? Curses! Been a bad rollercoaster coupla days.Fyi: I didn't pull those teeth... Don't want to look like the Beverly Hillbillies. ( more stress).I need a hug. A big one.In the doldrums, Trudy in what coulda been OK http://facebook. com/people/ andTrudy- Kinsey/134046087 7

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aspx

LL

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Great idea Gloria!!!! I paid off a car title loan for my daughter several years

ago--didn't know she had it--was royally pissed.

But under your circumstances--it sounds as if it might be well worth it. My

neighbor also has one of those loans. As Gloris said--high interest, but they

DO LOAN easily and quick on cars etc. They hold the title. Banks are really

stingy after taxpayers gave them all that money. Do you have a credit card with

a cash advance offer?

The place sounds wonderful.

SuziQ

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> First of all - BIG CYBER HUGS, Trudy

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> Plus, do whatever is necessary in the footwork department; but, don't just

accept the no go regarding this place!! It sounds wonderful. It may be a

horrible thought; but, what about using your RV as security for one of those

loan places that is not a bank. I know, the interest is ridiculous; but, is it

worth it????

>

> Gloria

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Teri OMG I am so sorry. Crap I can't believe this. That lady sounds like a crazy witch. I am so sorry you are going through this. This is just nuts. Big hugs Teri. Love and hugs Cinder

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From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb@...>Subject: Re: [ ] Stressed Date: Friday, June 25, 2010, 1:04 AM

Oh Trudy, you are speaking to my soul right now. I have been crying for 2 days. The house that we had found so wonderful and signed a lease on has an owner that is crazy. We signed a lease, she signed the lease, terms were agreed to. Then yesterday she comes up with this 4 thousand dollar number somewhere out of her head. Plus 45 dollars a day because she doesn't understand that the lease went from the 25th of June 2010 to the 25th of June 2012. So she was now charging me and extra 45 bucks a day for 6 days. Then she's not even understanding that I already put down 650 when I signed the lease and she's added more money to it. I don't have 4 grand and don't know anyone that does. She sent a new lease over today, changing it from 2 years to one year and her numbers are even more skewed. I am backing out of the lease and getting my deposit back.... Now, I have to move in 5 days.... to where?

Don and I have gone back and forth off line today and Steve and I have as well. Turns out I have a friend, a dear friend that I've known for almost 50 years that has a house she was trying to sell, but the market is so bad it's not selling and she has it listed for less than she paid for it. She is renting me that house with no end date, I can buy it if I want to when I want to. I'm going to look at it in the morning but I have already told her I'd take it sight unseen. No crazy amounts asked for to move in, just rent. I've been a mess with this move and other stuff since Monday and today was the worst.... By 6 tonight the problem was almost solved and at 9:15 it was solved.

I know you just fell in love with that house.... I have learned that there is a plan for all of us... Maybe a rent to own situation might work for you guys. At least you won't have as much crap to pack as I do! You'll find something wonderful, I know you will. Just have faith and the right thing will drop in your lap.... and if you don't believe me I can forward you the e-mail that went back and forth between me and Don today.

Hang in there twisted sister,

Teri

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To Everyone...I know you have all listened to and read my crazy rants about this move. I am crying while I am writing this but it is good tears. We have FINALLY found a soft place to land. My best friend, that I have known since I was 3 has a house for sale (or it was for sale til about 15 minutes ago) that she is renting to us and is close by. Well 12 miles close by but in the other direction from the crazy lady in Cary. Papers are being drawn up now for the lease and we are starting to move things in tomorrow. It's been a horrible week for me and I've accomplished next to nothing because of all the stress. I shut down, my husband shut down and neither of us could do a thing. I think I packed

a whole 6 boxes all week.My neighbor was just here, she does moving estimates for a living and she walked thru this house and told me I have about 15 hours of packing left to do... That's 30 hours in Teri mode. So it's a lot but it's doable. It feels like somebody just took 800 pounds off my shoulders. I can't believe this week has been so bad but I really think God is putting me where he wants me. Now that I know this is a go, I will post all the pics of the new place on Facebook. Sigh................. it's a good sigh............ man I have a lot to do now!Hugs from Chicago.. Gonna be Gurnee soon!Teri From: Cinder <datagrey@...>To:

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Teri OMG I am so sorry. Crap I can't believe this. That lady sounds like a crazy witch. I am so sorry you are going through this. This is just nuts. Big hugs Teri. Love and hugs Cinder

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From: Teri Gottlieb <theresagottlieb>Subject: Re: [ ] Stressed Date: Friday, June 25, 2010, 1:04 AM

Oh Trudy, you are speaking to my soul right now. I have been crying for 2 days. The house that we had found so wonderful and signed a lease on has an owner that is crazy. We signed a lease, she signed the lease, terms were agreed to. Then yesterday she comes up with this 4 thousand dollar number somewhere out of her head. Plus 45 dollars a day because she doesn't understand that the lease went from the 25th of June 2010 to the 25th of June 2012. So she was now charging me and extra 45 bucks a day for 6 days. Then she's not even understanding that I already put down 650 when I signed the lease and she's added more money to it. I don't have 4 grand and don't know anyone that does. She sent a new lease over today, changing it from 2 years to one year and her numbers are even more skewed. I am backing out of the lease and getting my deposit back.... Now, I have to move in 5 days.... to where?

Don and I have gone back and forth off line today and Steve and I have as well. Turns out I have a friend, a dear friend that I've known for almost 50 years that has a house she was trying to sell, but the market is so bad it's not selling and she has it listed for less than she paid for it. She is renting me that house with no end date, I can buy it if I want to when I want to. I'm going to look at it in the morning but I have already told her I'd take it sight unseen. No crazy amounts asked for to move in, just rent. I've been a mess with this move and other stuff since Monday and today was the worst.... By 6 tonight the problem was almost solved and at 9:15 it was solved.

I know you just fell in love with that house.... I have learned that there is a plan for all of us... Maybe a rent to own situation might work for you guys. At least you won't have as much crap to pack as I do! You'll find something wonderful, I know you will. Just have faith and the right thing will drop in your lap.... and if you don't believe me I can forward you the e-mail that went back and forth between me and Don today.

Hang in there twisted sister,

Teri

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Hi Teri,I know how stressful moving can be, I hope that everything will work out witht he move to the new house and you will find a happy plce that you love to live in. I wish I knew how to help, but if I cn help out in anyway please let me know.best of luck with your move`-`ny