Guest guest Posted January 4, 2006 Report Share Posted January 4, 2006 ---Kam, Thanks, I really need some calming talk at the moment. It is just so consuming of me at the moment.I can't wait until I get the CD...!!! You and your husband are so wonderful to take time to do that for me!! I am going for a pedicure next THursday in Boston the day before the surgery. If I have time i might get a massage too!! MAry,PA In , " advokam " <advokam@o...> wrote: > > , > > Adam and I went to the post office when he got home yesterday and > sent the CD 2nd day. You should received before the week is done! If > I were you, I would listen to it in the morning before school and as > much as you'd like between when you get home and bed. > > I know my pain was much worse right before we left for St. Louis and > I ended up taking Propoxy 3 days in a row. My last day at work, a > coworker told me that I was much different than the day > before...like totally freaked out versus to happy-go-lucky. So even > calm, cool, and collected Kam has her moments! I went to bed at 8 pm > last night, too, worn to a frazzle after running a few errands as > passenger. > > Stress always increases pain and if you have any tried and true > relaxation techniques, now is a good time to put them to work. > Perhaps you could book a gentle massage or even a really good > pedicure? Pampering, even a nice bubble bath, can do wonders! > Sometime I even get pain relief from a good cup of hot tea or cocoa > with marshmallows...depending on my hormone cycle. > > Well, I suppose you get the point. I am sending some sedated vibes > your way and hope that you can find a place close to center inside > of you, take lots of good, deep belly breaths, tense and release > your muscles, and take a nice nap. > > You are going to make it. Promise. I hope you make it calmly and > serenely. > > kam > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 4, 2006 Report Share Posted January 4, 2006 -- Kam, I was wondering and I am sure I do too much of that now...did you have sciatica pain in relation to you back before your surgery? If so, did you get any relief after the first surgery? I am suffering so bad right now and have come very close to going to the emergency room. I don't know if it is becasue I am on my feet all day at work and the compression of the herniated discs are just too much on the nerves?? I can't really stay home..I have so, so much to do before I leave for surgery..I wish the script for the Ativan had come when they told me....I called my PCP today but she is on vacation and I did not try to expalin to the office staff..it is just too complicated...I just need to suck it up until the Fed Ex person comes tomorrow with the script and hopefully I will get it by Friday...To make matters worse..I was robbed this summer by a 12 year old girl at my public library,she took all the cash from my wallet..I have to go to her court hearing tomorrow and I have to testify...I am sure I wil be in great shape tomorrow....Oh god..how much is one person to take!! , PA - In , " advokam " <advokam@o...> wrote: > > , > > Adam and I went to the post office when he got home yesterday and > sent the CD 2nd day. You should received before the week is done! If > I were you, I would listen to it in the morning before school and as > much as you'd like between when you get home and bed. > > I know my pain was much worse right before we left for St. Louis and > I ended up taking Propoxy 3 days in a row. My last day at work, a > coworker told me that I was much different than the day > before...like totally freaked out versus to happy-go-lucky. So even > calm, cool, and collected Kam has her moments! I went to bed at 8 pm > last night, too, worn to a frazzle after running a few errands as > passenger. > > Stress always increases pain and if you have any tried and true > relaxation techniques, now is a good time to put them to work. > Perhaps you could book a gentle massage or even a really good > pedicure? Pampering, even a nice bubble bath, can do wonders! > Sometime I even get pain relief from a good cup of hot tea or cocoa > with marshmallows...depending on my hormone cycle. > > Well, I suppose you get the point. I am sending some sedated vibes > your way and hope that you can find a place close to center inside > of you, take lots of good, deep belly breaths, tense and release > your muscles, and take a nice nap. > > You are going to make it. Promise. I hope you make it calmly and > serenely. > > kam > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 , I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it helps...it was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and Dr Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I did. Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to focus on what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the butt feeling " was gone. I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are busy with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a court house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your pain. I know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to try to slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just going to take a little time. I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all the instructions you have been given...now and after they send you home. Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking wherever you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in NYC if you choose! Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay there. Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember you told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely confident about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that feeling. Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel all that tension. Wishing you peace, Cam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 Dear , I just wanted to add to what Kam and Cam said. My surgeries were different than most, I had a decompression first, sort of like having the first stage, then a year later I had full revision. The pain relief from the sciatica was glorious, it was the pain that drove me to surgery, and having that awful hip and leg pain gone was just the best. Then I had a year to realize that I had other pain issues to deal with, the loss of Lordosis, did give me a constant dull pain in my low back, and revision got rid of that. The sciatic pain was definately the worst, keep me from doing just about everything I wanted to do, so I definately think your first stage will grant you that relief. The whole getting prepared for two surgeries can get your mind running. This is a time in your life where things are all about you. Take care of yourself, especially mentally, it really aids in recovery if you " See " and " feel " yourself well. I knew, like you did with Rand, that Dr. Kumar was my guy, that he was going to get me better, and I was going to do all I could to allow the great work he did to work, and mentally being prepared is half the battle. Take yourself daily to a calm place, listen to some music that makes you feel that way, I have an old " Best of Bread " album that does that for me, God I'm old! I also just did some shopping or went to a movie by myself, something for just me, perfume or a chick flick. Don't let the rat race getting ready for surgery make you crazy, step back, slow your mind, and ask for help with the little things you need to do to get ready. The best gift you can give yourself before hand is peace of mind, and my dear friend Liz made me realize the whole see and feel yourself better aspect, a true gift, better than a magazine or candy at the hospital. I just slowed the world, hard to do when you have three kids and a large extended family, all who want to relate twenty surgery stories. My husband was very protective, he's always good in a crunch, and kept me centered and upbeat. I'm very lucky, my plan worked out, what I " Saw " in my mind came true for me. It took a while, and despite some complications and one extra surgery, I'm so happy to walk, be level, stand, and have my deformaty reduced. Keep your goal in your mind, it will get you through the tough parts, I'm here, keeping the faith for you! Colorado Springs [ ] Re: , it's in the mail > , > > I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it helps...it > was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and Dr > Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I did. > Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to focus on > what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the butt > feeling " was gone. > > I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are busy > with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a court > house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. > > Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your pain. I > know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to try to > slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just going > to take a little time. > > I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all the > instructions you have been given...now and after they send you home. > Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking wherever > you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in NYC if > you choose! > > Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay there. > Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember you > told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely confident > about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that feeling. > Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel all > that tension. > > Wishing you peace, Cam > > > > > > > > > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 -Dear Susuan, Thanks for that kind email/post....everytime I get a message like that one I feel better about it..I guess I am the kind of person who needs hand holding and constant reassurance. I never really realized that until this happened..I was always so strong, forged on ,despite most obstacles....this pretty much has brought me to me knees!! Actually, has been killing my knees to be correct....they are so sore!! Anyone who wants to know about my court apperance....UGH!! Took the day off from work, when I really can't afford the time due to up coming surgery, showed up when told..and guess what the juvinile who robbed me was a no show!! GOd, I was so mad!! They wanted me to come back Monday,like I have no life! I was the one robbed and I am screwed again!!! I told them NO!! I had to explain my situation which ofcourse, baby me, brought me to tears,so they decided to issue a bench warrent for the girl, lock her up tomorrow and over the weekend, and put her on ankle bracelt until I come back from Boston.. ,PA -- In , " Kirkaldie " <.Kirkaldie@a...> wrote: > > Dear , > > I just wanted to add to what Kam and Cam said. My surgeries were different > than most, I had a decompression first, sort of like having the first > stage, then a year later I had full revision. The pain relief from the > sciatica was glorious, it was the pain that drove me to surgery, and having > that awful hip and leg pain gone was just the best. Then I had a year to > realize that I had other pain issues to deal with, the loss of Lordosis, did > give me a constant dull pain in my low back, and revision got rid of that. > The sciatic pain was definately the worst, keep me from doing just about > everything I wanted to do, so I definately think your first stage will grant > you that relief. > > The whole getting prepared for two surgeries can get your mind running. This > is a time in your life where things are all about you. Take care of > yourself, especially mentally, it really aids in recovery if you " See " and > " feel " yourself well. I knew, like you did with Rand, that Dr. Kumar was my > guy, that he was going to get me better, and I was going to do all I could > to allow the great work he did to work, and mentally being prepared is half > the battle. Take yourself daily to a calm place, listen to some music that > makes you feel that way, I have an old " Best of Bread " album that does that > for me, God I'm old! I also just did some shopping or went to a movie by > myself, something for just me, perfume or a chick flick. Don't let the rat > race getting ready for surgery make you crazy, step back, slow your mind, > and ask for help with the little things you need to do to get ready. The > best gift you can give yourself before hand is peace of mind, and my dear > friend Liz made me realize the whole see and feel yourself better aspect, a > true gift, better than a magazine or candy at the hospital. I just slowed > the world, hard to do when you have three kids and a large extended family, > all who want to relate twenty surgery stories. My husband was very > protective, he's always good in a crunch, and kept me centered and upbeat. > > I'm very lucky, my plan worked out, what I " Saw " in my mind came true for > me. It took a while, and despite some complications and one extra surgery, > I'm so happy to walk, be level, stand, and have my deformaty reduced. Keep > your goal in your mind, it will get you through the tough parts, I'm here, > keeping the faith for you! > > > Colorado Springs > [ ] Re: , it's in the mail > > > > , > > > > I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it helps...it > > was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and Dr > > Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I did. > > Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to focus on > > what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the butt > > feeling " was gone. > > > > I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are busy > > with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a court > > house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. > > > > Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your pain. I > > know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to try to > > slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just going > > to take a little time. > > > > I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all the > > instructions you have been given...now and after they send you home. > > Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking wherever > > you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in NYC if > > you choose! > > > > Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay there. > > Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember you > > told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely confident > > about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that feeling. > > Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel all > > that tension. > > > > Wishing you peace, Cam > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 Dear PA, Court sucks, my oldest daughter's father was a huge flake, wouldn't pay his nominal child support, 134.00 a month. I would drive the hour up to court, sit there and wait and have him not show up. Best of all the would give him the benefit of the doubt that he hadn't recieved the mailed notice. They actually threatened to hold me in contempt if I didn't show up. Did this several times before a GREAT prosectutor got him held in violation, and had the money taken directly from his pay checks. At that time my back was really singing, and I was so thankful to her to understand that and to know that kids deserve to have their support each month even when it's not what it takes to support them each month. Seems like court is bias to the accused, and that lady gave me back the power, really glad to have a ally in the whole thing. , I know from experience that some people who are really strong in other areas of their lives, just have a meltdown when it comes to medical stuff. Rely on us to be a support, one of us have been through just about anything this surgery and recovery can throw at a person. And as I said before, relax and find some peace for yourself, being tense and on edge just makes pain worse and keeps your mind spinning. A deep breath and a vision in your head of taking a long afternoon walk, with zero pain, can get you through this. This is the first step to you regaining a more painfree life, with much better quality, so just keep your eye and your mind on the goal. God I sound like a High School football coach! But being positive does have a roll in outcome and recovery, it's the work YOU can do, the rest is up to your surgeon, and he has known excellent outcomes, youv'e seen it here. I'll do my part, keep you in my prayers, and I'll share anything I can to help you. You are about to go through a big moment in your life, no getting around that, but it's a moment, luckily the memory of surgical pain fades, and even if all you got from it was a reduction in pain, it would be sooooo worth it. That's all I was looking for, and I got so much more. I'm pulling for you, if you can get through scoliosis, Harrington Rod surgery, sciatic pain, you will be able to handle this. SEE yourself well, and I can't wait to hear about your excellent outcome! Colorado Springs [ ] Re: , it's in the mail >> >> >> > , >> > >> > I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it > helps...it >> > was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and Dr >> > Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I > did. >> > Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to focus on >> > what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the butt >> > feeling " was gone. >> > >> > I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are > busy >> > with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a > court >> > house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. >> > >> > Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your > pain. I >> > know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to try to >> > slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just going >> > to take a little time. >> > >> > I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all the >> > instructions you have been given...now and after they send you > home. >> > Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking wherever >> > you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in NYC if >> > you choose! >> > >> > Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay there. >> > Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember you >> > told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely confident >> > about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that feeling. >> > Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel all >> > that tension. >> > >> > Wishing you peace, Cam >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > >> > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 --- , I had never been to a court adjudication before so I was not sure how it all worked. Boy, I do hope I never have to go back again! Actually, that was silly, ofcourse I have to go back again, when I return from Boston!! It does appear that the criminals have all the rights!!!It just really made me angry, probably more so becasue I am not feeling well etc. Good news, Ativan script came a few minutes ago from Rand's office, Fed Exp, have no idea what happened to the one they mailed?? That one never arrived. I am trying to focus on positve things, and trying to vision myself walking straight etc. I am very eager to get the CD Kam is sending me. I am thankful for all of you and your positive notes and energies being sent my way....you will never know how much it means to me and my current mental health status...Thanks,,PA In , " Kirkaldie " <.Kirkaldie@a...> wrote: > > Dear PA, > > Court sucks, my oldest daughter's father was a huge flake, wouldn't pay his > nominal child support, 134.00 a month. I would drive the hour up to court, > sit there and wait and have him not show up. Best of all the would give him > the benefit of the doubt that he hadn't recieved the mailed notice. They > actually threatened to hold me in contempt if I didn't show up. Did this > several times before a GREAT prosectutor got him held in violation, and had > the money taken directly from his pay checks. At that time my back was > really singing, and I was so thankful to her to understand that and to know > that kids deserve to have their support each month even when it's not what > it takes to support them each month. Seems like court is bias to the > accused, and that lady gave me back the power, really glad to have a ally in > the whole thing. > > , I know from experience that some people who are really strong in other > areas of their lives, just have a meltdown when it comes to medical stuff. > Rely on us to be a support, one of us have been through just about anything > this surgery and recovery can throw at a person. And as I said before, relax > and find some peace for yourself, being tense and on edge just makes pain > worse and keeps your mind spinning. A deep breath and a vision in your head > of taking a long afternoon walk, with zero pain, can get you through this. > This is the first step to you regaining a more painfree life, with much > better quality, so just keep your eye and your mind on the goal. God I sound > like a High School football coach! But being positive does have a roll in > outcome and recovery, it's the work YOU can do, the rest is up to your > surgeon, and he has known excellent outcomes, youv'e seen it here. I'll do > my part, keep you in my prayers, and I'll share anything I can to help you. > You are about to go through a big moment in your life, no getting around > that, but it's a moment, luckily the memory of surgical pain fades, and even > if all you got from it was a reduction in pain, it would be sooooo worth it. > That's all I was looking for, and I got so much more. I'm pulling for you, > if you can get through scoliosis, Harrington Rod surgery, sciatic pain, you > will be able to handle this. SEE yourself well, and I can't wait to hear > about your excellent outcome! > > > Colorado Springs > [ ] Re: , it's in the mail > >> > >> > >> > , > >> > > >> > I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it > > helps...it > >> > was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and Dr > >> > Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I > > did. > >> > Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to focus on > >> > what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the butt > >> > feeling " was gone. > >> > > >> > I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are > > busy > >> > with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a > > court > >> > house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. > >> > > >> > Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your > > pain. I > >> > know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to try to > >> > slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just going > >> > to take a little time. > >> > > >> > I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all the > >> > instructions you have been given...now and after they send you > > home. > >> > Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking wherever > >> > you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in NYC if > >> > you choose! > >> > > >> > Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay there. > >> > Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember you > >> > told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely confident > >> > about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that feeling. > >> > Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel all > >> > that tension. > >> > > >> > Wishing you peace, Cam > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 --- Finally got the Ativan....I am curious to see how it works....today is a day that I really need it after that court fiasco!!,PA In , " Kirkaldie " <.Kirkaldie@a...> wrote: > > Dear PA, > > Court sucks, my oldest daughter's father was a huge flake, wouldn't pay his > nominal child support, 134.00 a month. I would drive the hour up to court, > sit there and wait and have him not show up. Best of all the would give him > the benefit of the doubt that he hadn't recieved the mailed notice. They > actually threatened to hold me in contempt if I didn't show up. Did this > several times before a GREAT prosectutor got him held in violation, and had > the money taken directly from his pay checks. At that time my back was > really singing, and I was so thankful to her to understand that and to know > that kids deserve to have their support each month even when it's not what > it takes to support them each month. Seems like court is bias to the > accused, and that lady gave me back the power, really glad to have a ally in > the whole thing. > > , I know from experience that some people who are really strong in other > areas of their lives, just have a meltdown when it comes to medical stuff. > Rely on us to be a support, one of us have been through just about anything > this surgery and recovery can throw at a person. And as I said before, relax > and find some peace for yourself, being tense and on edge just makes pain > worse and keeps your mind spinning. A deep breath and a vision in your head > of taking a long afternoon walk, with zero pain, can get you through this. > This is the first step to you regaining a more painfree life, with much > better quality, so just keep your eye and your mind on the goal. God I sound > like a High School football coach! But being positive does have a roll in > outcome and recovery, it's the work YOU can do, the rest is up to your > surgeon, and he has known excellent outcomes, youv'e seen it here. I'll do > my part, keep you in my prayers, and I'll share anything I can to help you. > You are about to go through a big moment in your life, no getting around > that, but it's a moment, luckily the memory of surgical pain fades, and even > if all you got from it was a reduction in pain, it would be sooooo worth it. > That's all I was looking for, and I got so much more. I'm pulling for you, > if you can get through scoliosis, Harrington Rod surgery, sciatic pain, you > will be able to handle this. SEE yourself well, and I can't wait to hear > about your excellent outcome! > > > Colorado Springs > [ ] Re: , it's in the mail > >> > >> > >> > , > >> > > >> > I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it > > helps...it > >> > was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and Dr > >> > Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I > > did. > >> > Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to focus on > >> > what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the butt > >> > feeling " was gone. > >> > > >> > I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are > > busy > >> > with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a > > court > >> > house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. > >> > > >> > Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your > > pain. I > >> > know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to try to > >> > slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just going > >> > to take a little time. > >> > > >> > I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all the > >> > instructions you have been given...now and after they send you > > home. > >> > Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking wherever > >> > you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in NYC if > >> > you choose! > >> > > >> > Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay there. > >> > Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember you > >> > told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely confident > >> > about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that feeling. > >> > Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel all > >> > that tension. > >> > > >> > Wishing you peace, Cam > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > > >> > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 5, 2006 Report Share Posted January 5, 2006 PA Believe me I KNOW all about the court system. I won't go into details but this can drag on forever! You need to tell the court you will NOT be able to come back after Boston for quite a while. Maybe even six months! And they had better get your testimony on tape and just use that because you are too sick/weak/stressed to keep coming and being told she didn't show up or wants it postponed or a new lawyer, etc. Juvenile cases are rarely taken seriously and they are ALWAYS given the benefit of the doubt! And I'm sure you will do GREAT in surgery! Go fill your prescription and take a deep breath! Kathy > > >> > > >> Dear , > > >> > > >> I just wanted to add to what Kam and Cam said. My surgeries were > > > different > > >> than most, I had a decompression first, sort of like having the > > > first > > >> stage, then a year later I had full revision. The pain relief > > > from the > > >> sciatica was glorious, it was the pain that drove me to surgery, > > > and having > > >> that awful hip and leg pain gone was just the best. Then I had a > > > year to > > >> realize that I had other pain issues to deal with, the loss of > > > Lordosis, did > > >> give me a constant dull pain in my low back, and revision got rid > > > of that. > > >> The sciatic pain was definately the worst, keep me from doing > just > > > about > > >> everything I wanted to do, so I definately think your first stage > > > will grant > > >> you that relief. > > >> > > >> The whole getting prepared for two surgeries can get your mind > > > running. This > > >> is a time in your life where things are all about you. Take care > of > > >> yourself, especially mentally, it really aids in recovery if > you " > > > See " and > > >> " feel " yourself well. I knew, like you did with Rand, that Dr. > > > Kumar was my > > >> guy, that he was going to get me better, and I was going to do > all > > > I could > > >> to allow the great work he did to work, and mentally being > prepared > > > is half > > >> the battle. Take yourself daily to a calm place, listen to some > > > music that > > >> makes you feel that way, I have an old " Best of Bread " album > that > > > does that > > >> for me, God I'm old! I also just did some shopping or went to a > > > movie by > > >> myself, something for just me, perfume or a chick flick. Don't > let > > > the rat > > >> race getting ready for surgery make you crazy, step back, slow > > > your mind, > > >> and ask for help with the little things you need to do to get > > > ready. The > > >> best gift you can give yourself before hand is peace of mind, and > > > my dear > > >> friend Liz made me realize the whole see and feel yourself > better > > > aspect, a > > >> true gift, better than a magazine or candy at the hospital. I > just > > > slowed > > >> the world, hard to do when you have three kids and a large > extended > > > family, > > >> all who want to relate twenty surgery stories. My husband was > very > > >> protective, he's always good in a crunch, and kept me centered > and > > > upbeat. > > >> > > >> I'm very lucky, my plan worked out, what I " Saw " in my mind came > > > true for > > >> me. It took a while, and despite some complications and one extra > > > surgery, > > >> I'm so happy to walk, be level, stand, and have my deformaty > > > reduced. Keep > > >> your goal in your mind, it will get you through the tough parts, > > > I'm here, > > >> keeping the faith for you! > > >> > > >> > > >> Colorado Springs > > >> [ ] Re: , it's in the mail > > >> > > >> > > >> > , > > >> > > > >> > I know you addressed this question to Kam, however if it > > > helps...it > > >> > was excruciating sciatic pain that drove me to surgery... and > Dr > > >> > Rand promised I would have relief after the first surgery and I > > > did. > > >> > Of course other stuff hurt...but the minute I was able to > focus on > > >> > what was really hurting I realized that " red hot poker in the > butt > > >> > feeling " was gone. > > >> > > > >> > I feel for you, I really do. The days leading up to surgery are > > > busy > > >> > with all kinds of last minute details...and spending time in a > > > court > > >> > house is not how I would wish for you to spend time this week. > > >> > > > >> > Try to remember that tension and anxiety is heightening your > > > pain. I > > >> > know you will be on the Ativan soon...but still you need to > try to > > >> > slow your mind down and relax. All will be well...it is just > going > > >> > to take a little time. > > >> > > > >> > I know you are going to have a great result if you follow all > the > > >> > instructions you have been given...now and after they send you > > > home. > > >> > Before you know it you will be standing tall and talking > wherever > > >> > you want without thinking about it again...all 57 blocks in > NYC if > > >> > you choose! > > >> > > > >> > Take yourself to a happy place in your mind and try to stay > there. > > >> > Letting yourself get all wound up is not productive. Remember > you > > >> > told me that after you met Dr Rand you felt completely > confident > > >> > about your decision to go forward...try to recapture that > feeling. > > >> > Take some nice deep belly breaths like a baby does and expel > all > > >> > that tension. > > >> > > > >> > Wishing you peace, Cam > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > > > >> > scoliosis veterans * flatback sufferers * revision candidates > > >> > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted January 6, 2006 Report Share Posted January 6, 2006 , Sorry for the delayed reply. I took a couple of days off to " find my limitations. " I had excruciating pain in my left buttock and thigh and often it radiated to my calf and left foot. I think it was stenosis pain more than sciatica, but nerve pain is nerve pain. Nevertheless, I have had ZERO pain in my left leg since I woke up from surgery on December 13th. I suspect you will find the same. The only pain I have now is around the incision on my back from where they pulled everything back to operate and in my hips. I honestly believe much of my hip pain is a result of being terrible about following instructions regarding bending. I was told not to bend my legs more than 90 degrees and this is extremely challenging for me. The left hip hurts when I bend it too far, but the right one doesn't seem to mind. So, at present I am trying to limit my bendabiity so as to heal well and avoid the soreness that it causes. BUT, to answer your question, my nerve pain is totally gone. kam Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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