Re: M and stress and the acupuncturist

March 18, 2004

well you can tell I've been stressed again over her. I am getting

burned out from it as well. I don't know why she is so stubborn about

coming home and doing nothing. She said she would think about all of

it too much. I think she thinks if she doesn't deal with it ---it

will just go away, just like that idiot doctor told her to go into

the woods and it will just disappear.

It's amazing the damage this one doctor did to her mind.

But I have manage to get her testing again this way we can gauge how

she is doing on the armour/ adrenal meds. We should know more in

another week or so. They said the dhea tests take longer?? Anyway

once I get the info I'll let you guys see it.

She did have some good points from the acupuncturist---she told her

to eat only warm foods, to stay as warm as possible to not allow her

body the stress of being too cold (thus it would work harder trying

to keep warm) to also drink warm fluids and wear socks all the time.

Not to swim only to do light walking--yoga is ok---only light

exercise--hard exercise is too much on the body she told her.

So far she is getting something out of these appointments--if

anything they are allowing her to realize this illness is not all in

her head!!! Since they are very supportive.

They also did tell her she has adrenal and kidney issues and that is

what they are dealing with when they use the needles. They can tell

by the way her pulse is so slow still---around 50 to 60.

I just tell her go to the appointments --I feel anything positive can

only help her!!!!

thanks for asking---tina

> hi tina, I'm sure it must be hard for you worrying about a.

She is so young, and of course she wants to work at the summer camp

instead of staying home and resting. she is lucky that she at least

has the opportunity to stay and home and recoup. so many of us don't

have that opportunity.

>

> She is young though, and she may choose to follow her heart rather

March 18, 2004

Hi Tina, Yeah, I could tell you were getting stressed about M.

I can understand where she's coming from. She's young, full of life, and she

just wants to enjoy every moment she can. she said if she came home she would

just dwell about her health, and I'm sure she would. She would likely get

depressed and feel sad. I would be the same way. I really would.

I guess that's why she's stubborn...she just doesn't want to miss out, you know?

It doesn't make it any easier for you.

I guess I'm like M. in a way. I know it's better for me if I get as much rest as

I can. I know the stress from school is VERY hard on me!! My doctor tells me to

stay home and rest, but I'm stubborn and enrolled in school.

anyway, all you can do is be there for her when she needs you. You just have to

try to find some kind of balance. You're getting burned out and stressed. Please

don't get mad at me when I say this, but maybe you should take more time to

focus on taking care of yourself, Tina. You are one of those wonderful, caring

people in this world. You're trying to take care of your kids, your mom, and

also a relationship with your husband. You're also busy with your work. But are

you getting enough time for yourself to really take care of yourself the way you

should?

Are you getting time for your gardening? Are you getting time to relax and

really enjoy yourself? Are you so busy taking care of everyone else that there's

virtually no time left for yourself?

Please, please don't think I'm judging you in any way because I KNOW you could

turn around and ask me the same questions!!!! I hope you know I think you're a

wonderful mom and person!!! I just am a worry wart I guess. The past year or so

has been really hard for you, and maybe you just need some " you " time.

It sounds like M. has good relationship with her accupuncturist and some good

things are happening there. So that's good.

M. will be okay. She has a good head on her shoulders and you've taught her

well. If she starts to feel bad again, she will slow down and take care of

herself. And you, being the great mom you are, will always be there for her.

Just don't forget to be there for yourself too!!! {{{Hugs,}}} Sheila

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