Re: I'm having a pitty party

[Guest guest]

Kay,

I'll join your pitty party. I've been having one myself this weekend. I'll

get over it soon. I always do as I'm sure you will too.

I live in Dallas (actually Duncanville). So I am a Texan too.

AUDRA

AIH

[Guest guest]

Hi KayK,

I'm sure there isn't an " in " crowd, 'cuz they let me post here! <g> Living

alone has got to be terrible when you have a chronic disease. It's important

to be able to share your aches and pains, frustrations, and fears. Feel free

to do so here. We all understand!

Don

AIH Minneapolis

[Guest guest]

Kay,

No " in crowd " here! I always look forward to hearing from you. You don't

post often enough. This is a good place to go to get things out of your

system. You are NEVER alone. Even in the middle of the night, there is

usually one of us insomniacs lurking, waiting to hear from someone else who

can't sleep and who needs a pat on the back.

The possibility of another biopsy gives me the willies. I'm a total

chicken when it comes to having anything punched through my skin, though

having blood drawn doesn't bother me. I just want them to leave my

" vitals " untouched. I think I picked the wrong disease for those kinds of

expectations.

This group IS addictive. Like right now, when I have a ton of things to do

and I hear stirring and rumblings coming from my husband in the other room

who would like to see me get off the stick and get moving.

Take care, Kay. Definitely, you're " in " !!

Geri

[Guest guest]

Audra, thanks for coming, thanks for responding, sorry you are in the same

place. Yeah I always get over it but this is the only place where I can

vent (dump!) without people who know me going crazy! Happy to know another

Texan.

> Kay,

>

> I'll join your pitty party. I've been having one myself this weekend.

I'll

> get over it soon. I always do as I'm sure you will too.

[Guest guest]

Audra, Don, Patty ( loved your analogies, they were perfect), Geri (I was

loosing it), thanks. I feel so guilty when I am feeling sorry for myself.

A whole weekend, no one called, came over, etc. Lest someone pose the

obvious, weekends are for trying to keep up with what it takes to try to

pursue in a normal life. And seriously, Geri, my second biopsy was so much

different than my first. Things have changed so much. If I were to have

another, I would say forget even the " feel good " med. It was nothing.

Speaking of which, and it also speaks to my lack of fearlessness until a

year ago, (BRAIN FOG; TO BED CONTINUED!)

Geri, consider sleep (rest) and nourishment (food) as part of your

prescriptions for healing - or at least maintaining.

Dr. KayK in Austin ;-)

[Guest guest]

Kay,

Sounds like you had a rough weekend. My husband and I went out to dinner

and sat in a small casino restaurant with tears running down both of our

cheeks, talking about those we loved who are gone now. For some reason,

we've also been feeling down all day.

Some people are totally oblivious to the emotional needs of others. I've

seen this happen before, where people who are sick and most in need of just

a kind word or gesture, get nothing from those who should always be there

for them.

One of our daughters has emotionally closed the door to me since I first

got sick. I've only heard from her 3 times since I was diagnosed. She

tells her other sister and brothers that illness " depresses " her. Wait

until her day comes, and it will, as it does to everyone.

I hope I can be forgiven for repeating an anecdote: A few years ago my

aunt's husband was in the hospital dying from cancer. Dave had been my

husband's boss and friend and we introduced him to my pretty aunt Coleen

(who had SEVEN children!). They married and were very happy. Dave's

illness progressed quickly. I couldn't bring myself to see him in the

hospital though I knew that his time was very short. Another aunt told me,

" If Dave can handle his cancer, certainly you can handle spending a few

minutes by his side. " Fearfully, I did go to see him. I was told that he

was in a semi-coma and didn't recognize anyone. But, as I stood beside his

bed, he took my hand and pulled me close and gave me a kiss on the

cheek. He died a few days later and I am so grateful that I was able to

put his feelings over my own fears.

Family and friends who are too " sensitive " to show those they say they care

about that they really do care, should think every day about what it will

be like if that person is gone forever. If we were to treat each other

like each time we are together will be our last, I'm sure that none of us

would ever have a lonely weekend.

Don't let those weekends get you down, Kay. You're never alone. There's

always someone like me out there thinking about you.

Take care,

Geri

[Guest guest]

Kay K,

I'm sorry you have been having a rough time, and I sure can relate to it!

No there is no in crowd around here, I know for myself that sometimes I feel

so bad that I'm not up to posting... Sorry for not paying attention! I too

live alone, so I know how you feel.

I'm so glad we all have each other to talk to, I'd be lost.

Hugs,

(AIH) in Florida

[Guest guest]

How do you manage to live alone?! I live in my mother's house. She is 89

years old and tho in excellent health, she could drop over at any time. My

20 year old daughter lives with me but is talking about leaving to go to a

college where she would have to live in a dorm. I seriously dread the

thought of living alone.

J

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>Kay K,

>I'm sorry you have been having a rough time, and I sure can relate to it!

>No there is no in crowd around here, I know for myself that sometimes I

>feel

>so bad that I'm not up to posting... Sorry for not paying attention! I too

>live alone, so I know how you feel.

>

>I'm so glad we all have each other to talk to, I'd be lost.

>

>Hugs,

> (AIH) in Florida

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[Guest guest]

Hi Kay,

Hang on to this group. It's not pity it is acceptance, and reality.

Gayle