Re: how to have a social life

[Guest guest]

I know exactly how you feel. I'm not going to lie to you, my social

life has suffered terribly. It used to revolve around drinking in

pubs/clubs and eating out, so I can't really do any of that any

more. What I do do in order to see my friends is go shopping with

them, or we have a little theme park here which can be fun, or you

could arrange to do a gym class with friends if you feel up to it.

Basically things that don't involve food or drink!

I have read elswehere that coffee is bad on a candida diet, because

caffeine, like nicotine (and stress!), stimulates the release of a

rush of blood sugar which, obviously, the candida will like. Perhaps

an organic decaf (no solvents) would help make the changeover. Try

mixing half-and-half for a couple of weeks, then just switching to

the decaf completely. But I just don't drink coffee at all any more.

I'm single, though luckily (!) my health problems are so severe that

I just don't have a sex drive any more, so dating isn't a problem

right now. I expect that once I'm healthy enough to want to start

dating, it will be very difficult. But I figure it will be worth it

in the end.

(You mentioned mercury poisoning - how many fillings do you have? I

only had two, so rather than go through the hideously expensive and

potentially dangerous process of having them replaced, I just had

the teeth out. I felt miles better within just a week, seriously!)

[Guest guest]

(You mentioned mercury poisoning - how many fillings do you have? I

only had two, so rather than go through the hideously expensive and

potentially dangerous process of having them replaced, I just had

the teeth out. I felt miles better within just a week, seriously!)

----->Bees diet is effective in chelating metals. I wouldn't advise

pulling teeth or filling replacement.

Pat B

[Guest guest]

What's the SAD diet? Standard American Diet? You raise a good point, i.e.,

looking better/feeling better should elicit positive queries rather than

criticisms, etc. I'm supposed to meet friends/family for dinner tonight at a

wonderful Italian rest. Just hope I can just have salad...resist the glass of

wine. Ugh...thanks for the support.

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[Guest guest]

--- zulie_60 <zulie_60@...> wrote:

> friends...people don't like to invite you for

> dinner. Plus, I'm

> single and dating and...ugh...it's nice to sit and

> have a glass of

> wine from time to time. People seem to get

> defensive and think that

> because your own diet is so " clean " that you are

> judging them. Does

> anyone else ever experience this?

Hi there...

I'm married so I don't have to deal with the dating

thing but I've been doing low carb (with lots of falls

off the wagon) for more than 12 years and did it while

I was dating too.

In fact, one of the things my husband said made me

stand out on our first date is that I ordered a rare

bloody steak and loved it.

The right people will accept you and appreciate you

for who you are. As I've gotten older I've become

much more picky with who I choose as friends.

I often choose friends who are very intelligent and

kind but perhaps don't look like models.. just real

looking people.

I am surrounded by love from those friends and from my

husband, mother and son and it's that love and support

that allows me to perservere.

So be yourself, and remember that no matter how weird

you think you are, there's someone else out there who

will appreciate you, quirks and all.

Luv,

Debby

San , CA

Website for my son Hunter Hudson, born 10/11/04:

http://debbypadilla.0catch.com/hunter/

Today is the most important day.

[Guest guest]

I've always felt the men you meet in bars aren't

usually worth meeting anyway. Usually they are there

just for the meat market.

I met my husband on the internet and I feel it's a

great way to meet people. Another great activity and

great place to meet people is at a ballroom dance

studio.

I used to ballroom dance 3-4 days a week before I got

married and pregnant. I'm working on getting back in

shape so I can do that again.

You can also go to museums, libaries, bowling, pool

halls, swimming, hiking and meet lots of great people.

You can look on and see if there are any

friends clubs in your area.

Luv,

Debby

San , CA

--- lizzie_libertine <ginger_liz@...> wrote:

> I know exactly how you feel. I'm not going to lie to

> you, my social

> life has suffered terribly. It used to revolve

> around drinking in

> pubs/clubs and eating out, so I can't really do any

> of that any

> more. What I do do in order to see my friends is go

> shopping with

> them, or we have a little theme park here which can

> be fun, or you

> could arrange to do a gym class with friends if you

> feel up to it.

> Basically things that don't involve food or drink!

Website for my son Hunter Hudson, born 10/11/04:

http://debbypadilla.0catch.com/hunter/

Today is the most important day.

[Guest guest]

Sticking to my guns in a social setting has definitely been my biggest

issue. Folks in the cubicle world I am in almost look at me as 'evil'

and even though I say NOTHING about what they eat all day, they seem

to take it personal that I refuse to eat the same. I was already a

good weight, plus I have trimmed down even further the last few months

while converting my diet, so its almost like I am the blaring example

of what they need to do. I get so many folks trying to convince me

that 'just one bite wouldn't hurt', its almost feels like someone is

trying to force drugs on me at times.........shrug. I hope that maybe

at some point folks use me as a motivational tool instead of looking

at me as a reminder of all the negatives they do to their body when it

comes to food consumption, which in turn makes them feel guilty. At

least that is my theory.. .

Eating out, I have tried to just pick places I know I can get a nice

steak or something similar, with steamed veggies or a salad as an

alternative to the standard sides. I fill a small container with

olive oil and usually toss in a lemon wedge in a baggie into my purse.

It seems easier to carry it then describe all the things I need to a

waitress all the time. I have even carried some pats of butter along

on occassion..lol.

[Guest guest]

I know exactly what you mean because I feel quite the

same way. I have found that saying I have allergies

or that I am pre-diabetic often means that people will

leave me alone.

Saying you have medical reasons for not eating things

leaves little room for argument, but if you say you

are just trying to eat healthy or lose weight often

people do think a little bit won't hurt.

Luv,

Debby

San , CA

--- peaceflmeadow <peaceflmeadow@...> wrote:

> Sticking to my guns in a social setting has

> definitely been my biggest

> issue. Folks in the cubicle world I am in almost

> look at me as 'evil'

> and even though I say NOTHING about what they eat

> all day, they seem

> to take it personal that I refuse to eat the same.

> I was already a

> good weight, plus I have trimmed down even further

> the last few months

> while converting my diet, so its almost like I am

> the blaring example

> of what they need to do. I get so many folks trying

> to convince me

> that 'just one bite wouldn't hurt', its almost feels

> like someone is

> trying to force drugs on me at times.........shrug.

Website for my son Hunter Hudson, born 10/11/04:

http://debbypadilla.0catch.com/hunter/

Today is the most important day.

[Guest guest]

>

> Okay...first stumbled upon this group a few days ago and wrote in

> with a couple questions regarding symptoms in my feet (electric-

like worms)combined with arthritis in my spine (had electric nerve

tests on hands/feet, MRI/Xray/CTscan on spine, various blood tests

for B deficiencies, etc.) but nothing, nothing shows up. Going back

for a follow up with the neurologist and the suggestion has been to

be tested for lyme's disease and maybe mercury poisoning. (Any other

> ideas?)

==>You can't go wrong going on this program. It will give your body

what it needs to heal properly. You know that you do not " catch "

germs like lyme's disease - see many wonderful articles in the Germ &

Antibody Theories are False Folder - it's a depressed immune system

and poor nutrition that allows the body to get sick. This diet will

also chelate out mercury and other heavy metals in the body - that's

one of the things the body is very good at if given what it needs to

do its job, particularly " good " saturated fats like butter, coconut

oil, lard, etc, and in the ratios recommended in the Candida Diet

Folder. I cured my candida without removing fillings from my teeth.

> But after several days of reading the comments and questions

> and other things from the files, I suspect I need to get serious,

> i.e., really change my diet.

>

><snip> Here's the main reason and the reason I'm concerned about

admitting to myself and declaring to " the world " so to speak that my

diet is causing so many troubles now: People saw me as some sort of

freak. I'd take my own food with me and was very particular about

> restaurants (thank goodness I live in a small, but cosmopolitan

> college town with lots and lots of ethnic restaurants and health

> conscious folks all over). My point is, it's hard to have

> friends...people don't like to invite you for dinner. Plus, I'm

> single and dating and...ugh...it's nice to sit and have a glass of

> wine from time to time. People seem to get defensive and think

that because your own diet is so " clean " that you are judging them.

Does anyone else ever experience this?

==>Yes, it can be difficult to deal with " other people's think " about

what you are eating when it is not " normal " , according to them.

>

> I just feel that deciding to be rigid once again with my eating

ends up isolating me...and I'm a kind of person who feels isolated

from the get-go. Does anyone else feel this way? I know, I know my

> health issues will be helped by cutting out all

sugars/alcohol/dairy and most grains. I know that. But I'm scared,

frankly, to take the plunge. It isn't an issue of not being able to

do it...I can be very disciplined. Just don't want to be seen as

some sort of oddball.

==>Unfortunately we may appear like oddballs by others, but the truth

is " they are the oddballs " and also very ignorant, eating nutrient-

devoid foods and toxins which are damaging to their bodies. We are

waking up to the fact that we have candida and need to eat healthier,

but one day those people will wake up with cancer, diabetes or heart

disease and be clueless about why or how they got it. Cancer and

candida have a definite connection, and diet can cure heart disease

and diabetes.

==>If you want to get around the issue it is best to not make

announcements or make a big issue about what you eat; just quietly

pick out what you can eat, or order foods that are best for you,

refuse the wine, etc. When I refuse wine I say " it doesn't like

me. " The truth is I don't have candida now, and I could have wine

but I prefer not to. I don't mean to minimize your feelings, but you

are the one in charge of your life and your health, and if others are

critical the question is: " do they not want you to do well? "

>

> One last question...is coffee really, really bad? It's hard enough

> giving up everything else once again. Can't I keep my morning cup

of coffee...please?

==>It is not a good idea to give up everything at once; do it one

step at a time so your body can adjust to the changes. It is best to

not have caffeine if you can. You can have swiss water processed

decaffeinated coffee instead.

Bee

[Guest guest]

>

> Thanks for the feedback...I have quite a few fillings, but I broke a

mercury thermometer about ten years ago in my bathroom and then

vaccummed it up...not knowing what to do. It's worried me since. The

doc says not a problem.

=>That shouldn't cause you any problem unless you ate it or held the

mercury in your hand. Even then your body does chelate out heavy

metals.

Bee

[Guest guest]

, albacore tuna is fine.

Bee

>

> Thanks for the feedback...I have quite a few fillings, but I broke a

mercury thermometer about ten years ago in my bathroom and then

vaccummed it up...not knowing what to do. It's worried me since. The

doc says not a problem. Other opinions about this? I also eat a lot of

albacore tuna...bad? You know, I'm 45 and just feel so awful

especially in the mornings...back is so sore...I'm very, very

active...run/lift weights/bike 30 miles...but it's just hard lately.

>

> I've tried giving up coffee in the past. I just don't know if I

can do it. Sugar...alcohol...dairy...I can give those up. I have

dreams about coffee and coffee shops. Which reminds me, so much in our

society revolves around food/drink/coffee. Ugh...

[Guest guest]

wrote:

>

> What's the SAD diet? Standard American Diet?

==>Yes that is correct.

You raise a good point, i.e., looking better/feeling better should

elicit positive queries rather than criticisms, etc. I'm supposed to

meet friends/family for dinner tonight at a wonderful Italian rest.

Just hope I can just have salad...resist the glass of wine.

Ugh...thanks for the support.

==>Eventually they will notice the improvements you've made. Stick to

your guns. It's your life and you need to be in charge of it.

Hugs, Bee

[Guest guest]

>

> Sticking to my guns in a social setting has definitely been my

biggest issue. Folks in the cubicle world I am in almost look at me

as 'evil' and even though I say NOTHING about what they eat all day,

they seem to take it personal that I refuse to eat the same. I was

already a good weight, plus I have trimmed down even further the last

few months while converting my diet, so its almost like I am the

blaring example of what they need to do.

==>That is so true, that we are the example and it makes them feel

guilty because they " know " what they are eating isn't good for them.

I've had many people apologize for what they eat when I'm around.

They also say " oh, I know you don't eat junk food, sorry I bought

donuts and you won't eat them. " I just shrug. I even had one girl

at work tell me she doesn't care that she will get sick eating pasta

and high carbs.

> I get so many folks trying to convince me that 'just one bite

wouldn't hurt', its almost feels like someone is trying to force

drugs on me at times.........shrug. I hope that maybe at some point

folks use me as a motivational tool instead of looking at me as a

reminder of all the negatives they do to their body when it comes to

food consumption, which in turn makes them feel guilty. At least

that is my theory.. .

==>Very good point !

>

> Eating out, I have tried to just pick places I know I can get a nice

> steak or something similar, with steamed veggies or a salad as an

> alternative to the standard sides. I fill a small container with

> olive oil and usually toss in a lemon wedge in a baggie into my

purse. It seems easier to carry it then describe all the things I

need to a waitress all the time. I have even carried some pats of

butter along on occassion..lol.

==>I also take my stash of goodies with me to family functions and

restaurants. Last time I ate at my daughter's home my grandson and

granddaughter grabbed up my goodies, i.e. butter, homemade dressing

and ocean sea salt and slattered them on their foods. Then they

said " sorry Grandma, is there enough left for you - it's so good we

couldn't resist! " LOL!

==>When I visited my parents in July I took my supplements and ocean

sea salt with me. My mother said " can't you eat fruit, pasta, bread,

etc. - I laughed and said " it's not that I can't eat them, I just

choose not to. " I feel I am also setting an example by practicing

what I preach. My brother started on my program while I was there,

and now my mother comments on how much better he looks, how much more

friendly he is, like she's got her son back! Well he's suffered for

over 20 years with diarrhea and numerous other candida symptoms, and

doing this program has improved his health and mental outlook

immensely. He told me he felt that I was saving his life. She said

he sure picks and chooses his food at family gatherings, like you

Bee! LOL!

Bee

[Guest guest]

>

> (You mentioned mercury poisoning - how many fillings do you have? I

> only had two, so rather than go through the hideously expensive and

> potentially dangerous process of having them replaced, I just had

> the teeth out. I felt miles better within just a week, seriously!)

>

> ----->Bees diet is effective in chelating metals. I wouldn't advise

> pulling teeth or filling replacement.

> Pat B

>

Well, when I went to my dentist, he looked very grim and told me that

from the looks of things, one of the fillings had been leaking for

quite some time, it was very ground down, and it would be best to have

it out. I live in the UK, and it was an NHS dentist - so he wasn't

just trying to squeeze money out of me! In any case, he had to refer

me to someone else to do it as it's only a small practice and he

doesn't have the facilities for anaesthetics. It's worked out quite

well for me, though, as I had to learn to chew things properly again

which of course has helped with my digestion. If a dentist says it's

not important, then that should be good enough. But mine said it was,

and I like that he was honest with me.