Guest guest Posted April 26, 1999 Report Share Posted April 26, 1999 Happy Birthday Sue B. ) Hope you enjoyed your day! Dianne A. (Colorado) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 1999 Report Share Posted April 26, 1999 Dear Sue B.: Happy Birthday! You go girl! Don't worry about appearance. I went out in shorts the other day! Even if I did frighten small children and dogs, I was comfortable! Hope you have a great day! Kathy (AIH) Seattle area Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 26, 1999 Report Share Posted April 26, 1999 Sue, Good for you! Happy birthday and I hope that each one is better than the last. Anyhow, it's what we are inside that really counts and I think that always shines through. Have a wonderful time, whatever you're going to do to celebrate. (Wish I were as young as you... no matter how old you are... sometimes I feel older than the pyramids.) Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 1999 Report Share Posted April 27, 1999 Happy Birthday to Sue B. Hope you had a good day " out in public " I'm sure you looked great! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 1999 Report Share Posted April 27, 1999 Glenn and Janet, Just by chance are you originally from Maine? Saco, ME Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 1999 Report Share Posted April 27, 1999 SueB: Hapy Birthday. Don't worry about what you look like. I go out everyday with 60 extra pounds I received from the Prednisone. I don't think I should hide in my house because I look bad. I remember two things about my weight. 1. At the doctors office last summer and an old lady points to me and says to her friend next to her. Look how fat that person is. I should of gotten up and told her that I did not like being fat but it can't be helped. 2. My mother-in-law told my at Easter that I could were her late husbands clothes. Gene was 6' 4 " and work 3xxx clothes. ( I only 4' 11 " ) So you see I have really no where to put extra weight. Enjoy everyday!!! Sue AIH |WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 1999 Report Share Posted April 27, 1999 Happy Birthday Sue B and many many more! p.s. I'm sure you look just fine. Take Care Janet [ ] New List > From: " milko " <milko@...> > > Geri, > Just want to see if I made the new list. > I'm putting this disease on hold today, it is my birthday and I'm going to > go into public, even looking like I look, and enjoy myself. > Aren't you proud of me. > SueB. > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > You can now easily share photos and documents with your fellow list members > http://www.ONElist.com > Check out our homepage for details on how to use our new shared files feature! > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Help someone you may know and love > Be an Organ Donor! > Please support the American Liver Foundation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 27, 1999 Report Share Posted April 27, 1999 Sue, I know how you feel about the extra weight. My little 5 yr. old cousin told me I was getting fatter and children are only brutally honest. Needless to say it hurt my feelings and all I could do was deal with it, because there;s not much else I can do. Im 5'6 " and about 175lbs. -Mari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 1999 Report Share Posted April 29, 1999 Geri, I agree about something need to be said to the 5yr.old it really hurt my feelings, so I told my mom who told her sister (the 5 yr. olds grand mother) and they talked to the little girl. I hope it doesn't happen again but if it does I guess her parents will have to start doing something to stop her. --mari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 1999 Report Share Posted April 29, 1999 Mari, 175 lbs. at 5'6 " doesn't sound so bad to me, though I'll bet you hate it. When I hit 165 lbs. and it seems that all it took to add a pound was to look at the scales, I couldn't believe that I was almost matching my husband's weight. Now that I'm back down to 150 lbs. I feel like a reed... until I look in the mirror or try to wear any of my old clothes. But, if the extra weight isn't causing any huge medical problems, what the heck. On the plus side, you know why you have the extra weight and that sooner or later, lots of it is going to drop off. Meantime, someone needs to talk to children about sensitivity and remarks about appearance. Kids might be honest, but even a 5 year old needs to know that comments about someone's appearance aren't socially acceptable. (Hope I'm not saying the wrong thing, but I really believe that children shouldn't be allowed to make hurting remarks, even at a tender age.) Take care and don't let it get to you. Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 1999 Report Share Posted April 29, 1999 Mari, I think it is good that you put your feelings into words for the family. I am sure it wasn't any easy thing to do. A child can sometimes say things in complete innocence and not know that it is wrong unless they are told different. My nephews do that sometimes too. Once my sisters oldest ( he was 5 at the time also) said that my mother was fat. It really hurt her feelings, but she didn't say anything. My sister and I both spoke to him about that and he really felt sorry for hurting her. He loves her so much, but didn't understand what he was doing Speaking out about things is the only way to make yourself feel better. I applaud you on your manner in handling the situation. I hope this finds you well. Dorothy > [ ] Re: New List > > From: " mari villagomez " <mev1470@...> > > Geri, > I agree about something need to be said to the 5yr.old it really > hurt my feelings, so I told my mom who told her sister (the 5 yr. > olds grand mother) and they talked to the little girl. I hope it > doesn't happen again but if it does I guess her parents will have to > start doing something to stop her. > --mari > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Looking for a new hobby? Want to make a new friend? > > Come join one of the 130,000 e-mail communities at ONElist! > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Please support the American Liver Foundation! > > 1.) To subscribe send e-mail to -subscribeonelist > 2.) To UNsubscribe send to -unsubscribeonelist > 3.) Digest e-mail format send to -digestonelist > 4.) Normal e-mail format send to -normalonelist Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 1999 Report Share Posted April 29, 1999 Geri, I agree with you. I don't like the term " fat " . I don't like to think about the incident I can still remember it like it was yesterday when it was really weeks ago. --Mari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 29, 1999 Report Share Posted April 29, 1999 Mari, Children are so innocent, it's up to us to teach them how to be sensitive to what can hurt others. I was about 5 years old when I made a remark to an elderly woman who was visiting my family. I had no idea that it was unkind (it was about her wrinkled skin) but my parents carefully explained to me that I should never, ever, say anything to anyone about their appearance because I could accidentally hurt their feelings. I've never forgotten that little lesson. I personally dislike the term " fat " . I think it's an unkind word. Take care, Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 1999 Report Share Posted April 30, 1999 Boy being fat and being called fatty brings back memories of when I was growing up and today I still have a problem with my weight due to the medicine. But now I can handle it better. I just sit on them hahaha Sue AIH WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 1999 Report Share Posted April 30, 1999 Sue, I've known so many people who have battled weight problems most of their lives, and the lack of understanding from people who are otherwise intelligent has always bothered me. I was just the opposite, always skinny, but people can be unkind about thin people too. Not as hurtful, though, I don't think. One of my daughter-in-laws is very heavy and she refuses to see a doctor because of her weight. At some point, she was told she might have diabetes, looks like a high blood pressure candidate (her coloring isn't good) and she's never had a mammogram or a pap smear. I even located a gynecologist for her, a woman who is herself very large and absolutely terrific, but still wouldn't go. No one should have low self esteem to that extent, but I know she's had more negative input than she should have. The added pounds that go with Prednisone add insult to injury, in my opinion. We need to re-assess our values a little and stop dictating how people are supposed to look based on a standard that has little to do with real life. The h--l with the extra pounds, as long as you're dealing with your real problems. That's what's important. Take care, Geri (who flinches a little when she looks in the mirror.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 1999 Report Share Posted April 30, 1999 Thanks for the support. I guess I was always fat and will die fat. My daughter was in the bathroom today with me before work (we have to share the bathroom-my husband has one in the basement) and she said to me Mom your chins are almost gone. In my family, we all have double chins no matter if you weigh 100 or 200. We call it the Carlson's chin. Well, I hope that this medicine I.m on will help me in the weight department. Thanks for been a friend. Sue AIH WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 1999 Report Share Posted April 30, 1999 I too have been gaining weight . I have tried not eating and I go to gym 5 times a week. I have gone from a size 6 petite to 12 petite. I hate it. Hoped dropping my pred. to 10 mg. would help Ha Ha Well at least my face went down some and my son said I don't look so shiny what ever that means. I guess I have lots of company. Pa. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted April 30, 1999 Report Share Posted April 30, 1999 , You definitely have company in the weight gain department. I guess that is one of the perks of this disease (lol). I don't eat very much at all----never very hungry, but I still gain. The sad fact is I only take 1 mg of prednisone now and still can't drop my extra friends. I am not really gaining anymore, but not going down either. It is very frustrating to me. Oh well, we are all keeping our health somewhat intact anyway. Life is good!!!!! Dorothy > [ ] Re: New List > > From: zjm@... > > I too have been gaining weight . I have tried not eating and I go to gym > 5 times a week. I have gone from a size 6 petite to 12 petite. I hate > it. Hoped dropping my pred. to 10 mg. would help Ha Ha Well at least my > face went down some and my son said I don't look so shiny what ever that > means. I guess I have lots of company. > > Pa. > > > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Looking for the perfect gift for a friend? > > Tell them about ONElist's 130,000 free e-mail communities! > ------------------------------------------------------------------------ > Please support the American Liver Foundation! > > 1.) To subscribe send e-mail to -subscribeonelist > 2.) To UNsubscribe send to -unsubscribeonelist > 3.) Digest e-mail format send to -digestonelist > 4.) Normal e-mail format send to -normalonelist Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 1999 Report Share Posted May 1, 1999 Mari, It's funny how a thoughtless remark can stay with you for a long time, even when you know better or it's about something that usually doesn't bother you. So many of us are battling the weight problems that go with prednisone usage and from liver disease, too. Maybe we need to carry a sign, but that's not the point. The real point is that rudeness and insensitivity is inexcusable and if we don't teach our children not to be that way, we're not nearly as civilized as we like to think we are. I wouldn't think about it again if I were you. If you ever have an opportunity, explain to the little guy (boy?) that people come in all sizes and shapes but that each of us are beautiful in our own way. That's what his parents should also do. Take care, Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 1, 1999 Report Share Posted May 1, 1999 Geri, Thanks, I feel better after I let my frustrations out via e-mail. --Mari Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 2, 1999 Report Share Posted May 2, 1999 Sue, First thing we have to do is abolish the word " fat " from our vocabularies. My aunt has five daughters and all of them are gorgeous, but all but one started gaining weight during adolescence. I don't know what my aunt did or said to her daughters, but these young women have tremendous self esteem and I honestly don't think that, at their heaviest, they have ever thought of themselves as obese. Her second oldest stayed slim until she was 16 and by then she was dating a kid who looks like a movie star. She graduated with honors, married her high school sweetheart, and now, 25 years later they are still married and anyone who sees them together knows that he adores her. She's barely 5 feet tall and I'm sure she weighs at least 200 lbs., but I've never seen her look less than beautifully groomed and this young lady " doesn't complain, doesn't explain. " This is who she is and this is how it is. Her Mom tells me that she's tried to diet but it didn't work for her. So, she does the best she can with what she has to work with. Just like we all should. If anyone makes inappropriate remarks to you or asks questions, I'd say, give it right back to them. Either tell them that you consider their remarks to be inappropriately rude or that their questions are personal and you don't care to discuss your medical status unless you start the conversation. Take care, Geri Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 1999 Report Share Posted May 3, 1999 Thanks for the support and I know that I am very fluffy (not fat) Sue AIH WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 1999 Report Share Posted May 3, 1999 Thanks for the support and I know that I am very fluffy (not fat) Sue AIH WI Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 1999 Report Share Posted May 3, 1999 Wow This makes me want to go out and get a make over!! With the weight gain I have stopped wearing make up and etc... I've never done my nails !! hey maybe all start! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted May 3, 1999 Report Share Posted May 3, 1999 Wow This makes me want to go out and get a make over!! With the weight gain I have stopped wearing make up and etc... I've never done my nails !! hey maybe all start! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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