Guest guest Posted December 17, 2001 Report Share Posted December 17, 2001 Does anyone have any suggestions for making through a " But mom, tell me what to do for school tomorrow, NOW! " crisis? I know some of the answers are in the books I've seen mentioned--and I'm ordering them now. But I promised Maia I would put the word out tonight--oh, I know--maybe the worry cow will work! My daughter was describing a new obsession she has--to make sure things aren't " lonely " --like the period at the end of a sentence (she said she has to give it another period, which turns into two eyes on a smiley face, which needs another smiley face...etc). " Looping " is a great word for this--as several of you discussed earlier! My heart just breaks as I watch OCD start to enter Maia's school life--she's been a great student up to this point. I hate to see her panic, now. Thanks for any ideas you have. I'm trying not to feed into her panic, or take it on as my own. And I'm trying to frame her discomfort as motivation for starting CBT, ERT--assuming I can find a trained person here in Lubbock. Roth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 17, 2001 Report Share Posted December 17, 2001 Does anyone have any suggestions for making through a " But mom, tell me what to do for school tomorrow, NOW! " crisis? I know some of the answers are in the books I've seen mentioned--and I'm ordering them now. But I promised Maia I would put the word out tonight--oh, I know--maybe the worry cow will work! My daughter was describing a new obsession she has--to make sure things aren't " lonely " --like the period at the end of a sentence (she said she has to give it another period, which turns into two eyes on a smiley face, which needs another smiley face...etc). " Looping " is a great word for this--as several of you discussed earlier! My heart just breaks as I watch OCD start to enter Maia's school life--she's been a great student up to this point. I hate to see her panic, now. Thanks for any ideas you have. I'm trying not to feed into her panic, or take it on as my own. And I'm trying to frame her discomfort as motivation for starting CBT, ERT--assuming I can find a trained person here in Lubbock. Roth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 22, 2001 Report Share Posted December 22, 2001 HI LIsa: Hugs to you and Maia! It is not uncommon for kids with OCD to appear worse once their disorder is recognized since they no longer have to hide it so much. It sounds like you are doing a very good job managing the crisis by staying calm. Another helpful approach is to externalize the OCD so that Maia does not feel that she is the one who is a problem. The goal is to team up together " against " OCD. Giving OCD a nickname can help some sufferers shift to externalizing their OCD. Humor can also be helpful to diffuse tension during a crisis as long as it is perceived as respectful. Just as little kids make jokes about monsters to make them seem less fearful, people with OCD and their families can do this with OCD. We found this to be an incredibly powerful tool in our family. At first I thought it was disrespectful to Steve's suffering, but he has a great sense of humor and readily got with the program when the doctor described it. Another approach you will be learning is to help Maia recognize that this anxiety is just junk mail in the brain or error messages interfering with her enjoyment of life. We learned to say to Steve that we were sorry to see that OCD was bossing him around so much by making him worry about school tomorrow. Trying to distract him with other things that interested him or which could help dim the relentless nagging of his OCD thoughts (actually a form of avoidance and only to be used as a stop gap measure) could help to reduce the force of a crisis. He would play Gameboy constantly to try to avoid paying attention to OCD's nagging. Once treatment is underway you will come to accept and even welcome crises. It is through facing this anxiety and not doing rituals (e.g. providing reassurance that school will be fine tomorrow) that Maia will learn to recover from OCD and put it more into the background of her life. This probably sounds impossible right now, but I can assure you that there are many parents on this list who have seen this E & Rp therapy work wonders for our kids. As they learn to cope with their anxiety and manage it, they get an incredible sense of their own competency and this is a wonder to behold. Hang in there, please keep posting about Maia's progress, take care, aloha, kathy (h) kathyh@... P.S. When watching rituals makes you feel like you heart will break you can remind yourself that this suffering is temporary and that good treatment will rescue your daughter from OCD's cruelty. Also taking time to grieve what has happened to Maia will help you find the strength to help her in this battle. K. > Does anyone have any suggestions for making through a " But mom, tell me what to do for school tomorrow, NOW! " crisis? I know some of the answers are in the books I've seen mentioned--and I'm ordering them now. But I promised Maia I would put the word out tonight--oh, I know--maybe the worry cow will work! My daughter was describing a new obsession she has--to make sure things aren't " lonely " --like the period at the end of a sentence (she said she has to give it another period, which turns into two eyes on a smiley face, which needs another smiley face...etc). " Looping " is a great word for this--as several of you discussed earlier! My heart just breaks as I watch OCD start to enter Maia's school life--she's been a great student up to this point. I hate to see her panic, now. > > Thanks for any ideas you have. I'm trying not to feed into her panic, or take it on as my own. And I'm trying to frame her discomfort as motivation for starting CBT, ERT--assuming I can find a trained person here in Lubbock. > > Roth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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