RE: Re: Being Alone....phone tree?

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I support you my friend !!! Thank you again for the call the other day

You made my whole week. Hugs, love and prayers and remember to call me ANYTIME.

Hey we should get a phone tree thing going people...thoughts?

From: firstmenders <Euodiau@... <mailto:Euodiau%40aol.com> >

Subject: [ ] Re: Being Alone

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Date: Monday, August 23, 2010, 11:50 AM

Hi Josie,

Yes, the isolation can be scary. I've also thought that if I died in the

night it would be days before I would be found because everyone had deserted

me. I felt so bad I used to fill my dog's and cat's food and water bowls

very high so if I died and it took days before I was found they would have a

few days ration to carry them over. I would always go to bed in clean new

PJ's so I wouldn't be found in the old ragged ones. (Even though the raggy

ones are the most comfy.)

I've also had friends desert me. One of my best friends of 5 years

terminated our friendship one day at lunch when she informed me " I can't

spend anymore time with you because you've gotten too negative! " I wasn't

" negative, " I was dying. That was two years ago and I haven't heard from her

since. I can laugh about it now but it cut me to my soul sitting there

across the table from her that day and needing help and support so

desperately.

It's been comforting to know there are other people who can appreciate all

you've been through and who care even if they aren't right there with you.

Sharing anything I can to help others gives me a way to feel like I can make

a difference and be helpful. I was so sick when I first got on the Lyme

groups that I barely had the energy to read the posts but reading them

helped me know I wasn't alone and I felt part of a community who cared about

each other and it was engouraging to know other people were getting well.

I've had Lyme for many years and I'm getting better each day. It took a long

time for me to be diagnosed and finally find the cure that's working for me.

I'm not taking any abx. I'm following the Buhner protocol. There is a right

cure for everyone. I think getting the right diagnosis is the hardest part

of healing Lyme. After that it's a matter of fine tuning the remedy.

Blessings of good health

Barbara

Buy Healing Lyme: Natural Healing And Prevention of Lyme Borreliosis And Its

Coinfections by Buhner at one of these locations:

http://tinyurl.com/3bgm5d

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I refused to read the original post and replies for the longest time because I

thought the matter didn't apply to me. But, after all, it does.

Since I basically looked well and functioned, people didn't believe me every

time I came down with a new affliction from shingles to pneumonia to partial

paralysis to multiple fractures, the list goes on and on...all in the span of 2

years. They also thought I was being a snob because I was always too tired for

happy hour and really couldn't hang out with colleagues.

When I do have the strength to be social, no one is available or they think I'm

going to back out at the last minute, so I really have only my family left to

count on (and, unfortunately, they're not always that sympathetic).

Over the summer I bounced back and made 2 really close acquaintances. One is

surprisingly sympathetic and doting and, I hope, sticks around for once. The

other has recently disappeared (I'm not upset about it at all) - he suffers from

major depression and I was a very trusty and reliable companion, by his side

during some dark moments. Recently I scaled back on our reunions because I

recognized that I simply needed more rest and time for myself if I was to stay

well. He didn't like that news, but accepted it. Last week, I helped him out

by picking him up from work, saving him time and money. I felt I could handle

it because I had a long weekend coming up to rest and could use the company. In

the end, I waited in frigid A/C for him to be ready before retreating to my car,

which wasn't that much warmer. That it was midnight, I'd been up since 5:45 am,

and was getting a severe headache seemed to mean something to him, but not a

lot. The next day, he invited me for an outing, which I accepted but stated I

needed to run some errands first, to which he pretty much replied, " Fine, have a

nice life. " Of course, I was glad I wouldn't be accompanying him anywhere -

but, the clinker is, I got walking pneumonia, which I always get after exposure

to cold, explained to him that I was sick, never heard condolences, and he just

dropped of the face of the earth. This is not a love interest or anything, so

I'm not bummed, simply floored by how callous a person, depressed or not, could

be in light of all the favors I did for him.

I get tired of helping people out when I really need that precious time and

energy for myself, thank you very much. I wish people could understand and

respect my limitations, but it's hard when you don't look like you're at death's

door. The only time I got some understanding was when I was recently bound my a

cast on each leg thanks to a double fracture. And, yes, all my frequently

occurring afflictions are a result of Tick Borne Illnesses. As someone once

posted, " I am a walking collection of illnesses " . I'm pretty stubborn and never

ask for anyone to help me out - so the nurturing in my friendships is pretty one

sided.

So here I lay writing, coughing, nose blowing, trying to figure out who my real

friends are and reminding myself that eventually some new companions will come

around who can deal with my limited availablilty.

I, too, consider prepping my 3 pets for the worst every night. Should I leave

them extra food and water in case I don't wake up tomorrow? How much extra?

How long would it take someone to rescue them? How else can I keep them

comfortable? All of this thinking started last month...I was surprised to know

that someone else thinks similar thoughts.

Got oil?

www.crudethemovie.com

www.H2oildoc.com

________________________________

From: MG <goddess_mystic@...>

Sent: Thu, September 9, 2010 4:17:07 PM

Subject: RE: [ ] Re: Being Alone....phone tree?

I support you my friend !!! Thank you again for the call the other day

You made my whole week. Hugs, love and prayers and remember to call me ANYTIME.

Hey we should get a phone tree thing going people...thoughts?

From: firstmenders <Euodiau@... <mailto:Euodiau%40aol.com> >

Subject: [ ] Re: Being Alone

<mailto: %40>

Date: Monday, August 23, 2010, 11:50 AM

Hi Josie,

Yes, the isolation can be scary. I've also thought that if I died in the

night it would be days before I would be found because everyone had deserted

me. I felt so bad I used to fill my dog's and cat's food and water bowls

very high so if I died and it took days before I was found they would have a

few days ration to carry them over. I would always go to bed in clean new

PJ's so I wouldn't be found in the old ragged ones. (Even though the raggy

ones are the most comfy.)

I've also had friends desert me. One of my best friends of 5 years

terminated our friendship one day at lunch when she informed me " I can't

spend anymore time with you because you've gotten too negative! " I wasn't

" negative, " I was dying. That was two years ago and I haven't heard from her

since. I can laugh about it now but it cut me to my soul sitting there

across the table from her that day and needing help and support so

desperately.

It's been comforting to know there are other people who can appreciate all

you've been through and who care even if they aren't right there with you.

Sharing anything I can to help others gives me a way to feel like I can make

a difference and be helpful. I was so sick when I first got on the Lyme

groups that I barely had the energy to read the posts but reading them

helped me know I wasn't alone and I felt part of a community who cared about

each other and it was engouraging to know other people were getting well.

I've had Lyme for many years and I'm getting better each day. It took a long

time for me to be diagnosed and finally find the cure that's working for me.

I'm not taking any abx. I'm following the Buhner protocol. There is a right

cure for everyone. I think getting the right diagnosis is the hardest part

of healing Lyme. After that it's a matter of fine tuning the remedy.

Blessings of good health

Barbara

Buy Healing Lyme: Natural Healing And Prevention of Lyme Borreliosis And Its

Coinfections by Buhner at one of these locations:

http://tinyurl.com/3bgm5d

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[Guest guest]

I always remember; some people are takers, some are givers. The takers will

take as much as you give and some will expect more.

Yesterday, I again heard - " but you look so good " which is nice,

but....comes from folks that haven't seen me when I feel like crap -

somewhere between a hangover and the flu. So I hide when I feel horrible and

try and get out when I don't.

And I agree with the " more time to rest " thing. Lost a boyfriend over that

one. Like you, I need more rest; more down-time; more quiet time watching a

movie. Have to have it. Learned to fight for it.

Hang in there and keep us posted! Today is a good day; but when they're

not, the cat stays outside...

_____

From:

[mailto: ] On Behalf Of Ma Huang

Sent: Friday, September 10, 2010 8:34 PM

Subject: Re: [ ] Re: Being Alone....phone tree?

I refused to read the original post and replies for the longest time because

I

thought the matter didn't apply to me. But, after all, it does.

Since I basically looked well and functioned, people didn't believe me every

time I came down with a new affliction from shingles to pneumonia to partial

paralysis to multiple fractures, the list goes on and on...all in the span

of 2

years. They also thought I was being a snob because I was always too tired

for

happy hour and really couldn't hang out with colleagues.

When I do have the strength to be social, no one is available or they think

I'm

going to back out at the last minute, so I really have only my family left

to

count on (and, unfortunately, they're not always that sympathetic).

Over the summer I bounced back and made 2 really close acquaintances. One is

surprisingly sympathetic and doting and, I hope, sticks around for once. The

other has recently disappeared (I'm not upset about it at all) - he suffers

from

major depression and I was a very trusty and reliable companion, by his side

during some dark moments. Recently I scaled back on our reunions because I

recognized that I simply needed more rest and time for myself if I was to

stay

well. He didn't like that news, but accepted it. Last week, I helped him out

by picking him up from work, saving him time and money. I felt I could

handle

it because I had a long weekend coming up to rest and could use the company.

In

the end, I waited in frigid A/C for him to be ready before retreating to my

car,

which wasn't that much warmer. That it was midnight, I'd been up since 5:45

am,

and was getting a severe headache seemed to mean something to him, but not a

lot. The next day, he invited me for an outing, which I accepted but stated

I

needed to run some errands first, to which he pretty much replied, " Fine,

have a

nice life. " Of course, I was glad I wouldn't be accompanying him anywhere -

but, the clinker is, I got walking pneumonia, which I always get after

exposure

to cold, explained to him that I was sick, never heard condolences, and he

just

dropped of the face of the earth. This is not a love interest or anything,

so

I'm not bummed, simply floored by how callous a person, depressed or not,

could

be in light of all the favors I did for him.

I get tired of helping people out when I really need that precious time and

energy for myself, thank you very much. I wish people could understand and

respect my limitations, but it's hard when you don't look like you're at

death's

door. The only time I got some understanding was when I was recently bound

my a

cast on each leg thanks to a double fracture. And, yes, all my frequently

occurring afflictions are a result of Tick Borne Illnesses. As someone once

posted, " I am a walking collection of illnesses " . I'm pretty stubborn and

never

ask for anyone to help me out - so the nurturing in my friendships is pretty

one

sided.

So here I lay writing, coughing, nose blowing, trying to figure out who my

real

friends are and reminding myself that eventually some new companions will

come

around who can deal with my limited availablilty.

I, too, consider prepping my 3 pets for the worst every night. Should I

leave

them extra food and water in case I don't wake up tomorrow? How much extra?

How long would it take someone to rescue them? How else can I keep them

comfortable? All of this thinking started last month...I was surprised to

know

that someone else thinks similar thoughts.

Got oil?

www.crudethemovie.com

www.H2oildoc.com

________________________________

From: MG <goddess_mystic@... <mailto:goddess_mystic%40> >

<mailto: %40>

Sent: Thu, September 9, 2010 4:17:07 PM

Subject: RE: [ ] Re: Being Alone....phone tree?

I support you my friend !!! Thank you again for the call the other day

You made my whole week. Hugs, love and prayers and remember to call me

ANYTIME.

Hey we should get a phone tree thing going people...thoughts?

From: firstmenders <Euodiau@... <mailto:Euodiau%40aol.com>

<mailto:Euodiau%40aol.com> >

Subject: [ ] Re: Being Alone

<mailto: %40>

<mailto: %40>

Date: Monday, August 23, 2010, 11:50 AM

Hi Josie,

Yes, the isolation can be scary. I've also thought that if I died in the

night it would be days before I would be found because everyone had deserted

me. I felt so bad I used to fill my dog's and cat's food and water bowls

very high so if I died and it took days before I was found they would have a

few days ration to carry them over. I would always go to bed in clean new

PJ's so I wouldn't be found in the old ragged ones. (Even though the raggy

ones are the most comfy.)

I've also had friends desert me. One of my best friends of 5 years

terminated our friendship one day at lunch when she informed me " I can't

spend anymore time with you because you've gotten too negative! " I wasn't

" negative, " I was dying. That was two years ago and I haven't heard from her

since. I can laugh about it now but it cut me to my soul sitting there

across the table from her that day and needing help and support so

desperately.

It's been comforting to know there are other people who can appreciate all

you've been through and who care even if they aren't right there with you.

Sharing anything I can to help others gives me a way to feel like I can make

a difference and be helpful. I was so sick when I first got on the Lyme

groups that I barely had the energy to read the posts but reading them

helped me know I wasn't alone and I felt part of a community who cared about

each other and it was engouraging to know other people were getting well.

I've had Lyme for many years and I'm getting better each day. It took a long

time for me to be diagnosed and finally find the cure that's working for me.

I'm not taking any abx. I'm following the Buhner protocol. There is a right

cure for everyone. I think getting the right diagnosis is the hardest part

of healing Lyme. After that it's a matter of fine tuning the remedy.

Blessings of good health

Barbara

Buy Healing Lyme: Natural Healing And Prevention of Lyme Borreliosis And Its

Coinfections by Buhner at one of these locations:

http://tinyurl.com/3bgm5d

Switch to: Text-Only, Daily Digest . Unsubscribe . Terms of Use

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