Re: RELATIONSHIPS ON THE VERGE OF RUIN

[Guest guest]

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I TOTALLY understand what you are living.....I have been there, sometimes I

am still there. First of all, I would like to give you a great BIG HUG*****.

The way that I have learned to deal with all of this BS is to do one step at

a time.

It is difficult enough to have a relationship with anyone that is healthy

when we have so much pressure on us already (kids, $$$, relatives, etc.) Add

lyme on top of it and it is like living on a mountain of dynamite. How do you

deal with this? Let me save you thousands of $$$ from therapy (although I am

HUGE advocate of therapy.....self, marriage, etc.). What I have learned is #1

and most important.....>TAKE CARE OF YOURSELF!!! get yourself in a good,

mental and physical shape. I don't mean this in a selfish way, I mean if you

are in good spirits and in good shape, you will THEN be able to take care of

others. As for your husband, he is an adult. I know this is HARD!!! I am a

huge nurturer and want to do everybody elses hard work for them. NO!!!!! you

cannot. I have learned to take care of myself, then my children respect me

more and I am then able to handle them. If my husband is acting funky, (no

meds.) , we just go on with life without him. If we have something planned,

he is in a depression/anger mood, we go anyway and have a great time. They do

catch on. I feel VERY strongly that if he does not catch on and eventually

join us, then the relationship IS over. He has conformed because I don't make

any excuses anymore. Our relationship has improved tremendously!!!!!

Take pride and love yourself---you a wonderful person, and if you do this,

you will glow!!!!

I know these are just words, but if you have Faith, and I do, it will work, I

guarantee it.

#2--if your husband won't do the research and read my posts or any lyme info,

PRINT it and read it to him when he is in a vulnerable state. If need be,

give him natural remedies, i.e. olive leaf extract (excellent natural

anti-biotic, anti-viral --wards off colds, and anti-fungal). Get one that is

at least 17-23% pure from health food store. If he refuses, crush it and put

it in his food!!!! or in a milk shake. (I know I am going over the line here

but so what, desperate times need desperate measures. LOL). I sent a bunch of

ideas....I have a ton more. Write me privately if you would like more info.

NOTE***** about babesia, you can take Artemesia, chinese herb from health

food store again, cheap. IT CURES BABESIA (I did it). There is also Mepron

(Rx), Flagyl (Rx but cheap) too. GET GOING AND DO SOMETHING and you will see

an improvement. As far as the anti-depressant....I have had and am still

having great success with Wellbutrin. The Paxil/Prozac/Zoloft/ etc. all kill

the sex drive (sorry, for the over 21 crowd only LOL).

I am 43 and not ready to give it up yet. Wellbutrin does NOT affect this!!!

Just a suggestion.

Write me privately if you need more support/documented articles/books/etc.

sue in nj

[Guest guest]

One more thing, , advise your husband that HE has the option of having

the pain stop.....by treating himself. I was paralyzed from the neck down,

May 1999. I KNOW what pain is. I am now 99% better; working full-time,

raising 6 kids, etc.

HE IS IN CHARGE OF HIS LIFE.

Please be good to yourself, you deserve it. You just need positive people

around to help be your cheering section to help YOU to the road to recovery.

If your son and husband have lyme, you live on a dairy farm, I will give you

great odds that you have this too.

sue in nj