Re: OT: Divorce and Autism

[Guest guest]

Hi Pam,

I suggest they try a period of *separation* (even as they are planning to go? ..

..)+ and take it from there, that I have any use for lawyers or the legal system,

or of rushing things? (God forbid where you have to go there with the way that

is (They'll both end up broke? or more confused than when they started, I

reckon, of what I've gathered *so* far.. .

I do that sort of thing with my wife, somewhat, as time goes by (as I suspect

she does with me, at that stage of separation?!. that she would be more honest

with me than that, LOL) even when I'm still living at home and legally married

to her! (from what I want and need in that respect) you understand (or you

should?!. (of as much.. .

Marriage shouldn't be an ultimatum, situation, or an all or nothing situation in

that respect, (either) I figure. That includes with our language/s?!. I figure,

of as much

My wife (when it's convenient for her?!.) still doesn't get my language in that

respect.. (So, So? who, or what, would that be sucking up to?!. of, how hard is

she really trying, for as much?!.) I would expect she'd try a little *harder,*

(sometimes!)(what with what *I* put into It?!.) realizing how much work there is

and that she *is* doing (can be such a strain, oh, I know, or we should, for as

much?!.) Until then, I give marriage *a real chance,* on how I figure marriage

works! (We all need our own space of as much, I figure

And where marriage doesn't work, we'd be more gradually and consideratly on our

way in that respect, not so much of burning bridges down, you understand.. . I

more than hope?!.

So don't be getting her rushing into things? or just, stay out of it? (of

picking what is more meaningful for you, and All, by as much?) to give peace a

chance. Justice is what we have to do for our selves in that respect of

Understanding More (of as much?) I figure.. .

Best wishes, Thereof, of taking things step-by-step where things aren't any

clearer than that.

Glavic

That I need social BS, otherwise, you understand, what you understand, Thereof..

..

Move along where you don't, but not over any cliff or anything, (No!) that I

wouldn't want you around for the choice/s you do provide.. . Not where

*Communication* is concerned that truly gets The job done and is The solution?!.

Who better than those married for as much, where I figure all we need is a

better perspective on that (Things, of what we really want?!. Show her this?)

for where they might be going with that, as prepared as they would be by as

much? .. . Otherwise, I figure they both deserve what they get. ! Yes

Just me on as much?!. (Nothing normal mind you?!.) I could jump over a cliff in

that respect.. I'd rather not in the meanwhile, that I won't end up somewhere

like that eventually, you understand, what you understand? .. .

Life is no holiday (?!. *No,* I figure.. . What goes up comes down, must come

down, eventually.. . You want to be with the one you want to be with in that

respect, of Understanding More (but what else.. . It's not like I want to hurt

anyone by saying as much

That could end up by being alone (as alone as you are?) that that would be so

bad. I never found being alone to be the problem.. .

Where people are abusive otherwise deal with that?!. (The sooner the better I

figure, as justice delayed is justice denied [of the higher, priori/ties?] and

that is rarely something to get divorced about I figure

Where you couldn't handle that figure *you* have the problem in that respect?

(Seek sexual counciling, where this doesn't provide as much) That we're not all

somewhat married to each other in that respect

That I wouldn't be able to handle as much, as I do? .. .

Empathize with them, Thereof?

Let your friend understand that you truly care. Suggest to her that she write a

letter to compose her thoughts and her self by as much?

There I go, of serving *justice* as good as anyone ever has is my sense of It.

Why be *partial* (favouring?) otherwise and be part of the problem by as much?

is where I feel no one has anything on me in this respect of what I Feel

everything is about, Truly, about, of Understanding More, that *Justice* would

be about anything else. That *we* could be about anything else

so meaningful? .. .

BWT.

Not a language class

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> One of my friends told me today her husband is packing up and leaving the

state to be with another woman. They have 2 minor children. The youngest is

solidly on the spectrum.

>

> Is there any site out there to help her navigate the divorce process as it

relates to finances and ASD kids or special needs kids in general? Any things

she needs to consider when requesting support and maintenance? Husband is an

MD.

>

> Marriage should be allowed to end. I just want her to be protected,

financially. As it looks now, there will be no fight for custody of either

child. They have been married 14 yrs.

>

> Thanks... and sorry for the OT post but I figured someone out there has

advice. I'm still married!

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

May I strongly encourage them to go mediate their divorce rather than hiring

attorneys. Legal fees can skyrocket quickly leaving both sides even angrier

than they may have been going into the marriage.

_____

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Sent: Wednesday, September 22, 2010 2:48 PM

Subject: [ ] Re: OT: Divorce and Autism

Hi Pam,

I suggest they try a period of *separation* (even as they are planning to

go? .. .)+ and take it from there, that I have any use for lawyers or the

legal system, or of rushing things? (God forbid where you have to go there

with the way that is (They'll both end up broke? or more confused than when

they started, I reckon, of what I've gathered *so* far.. .

I do that sort of thing with my wife, somewhat, as time goes by (as I

suspect she does with me, at that stage of separation?!. that she would be

more honest with me than that, LOL) even when I'm still living at home and

legally married to her! (from what I want and need in that respect) you

understand (or you should?!. (of as much.. .

Marriage shouldn't be an ultimatum, situation, or an all or nothing

situation in that respect, (either) I figure. That includes with our

language/s?!. I figure, of as much

My wife (when it's convenient for her?!.) still doesn't get my language in

that respect.. (So, So? who, or what, would that be sucking up to?!. of, how

hard is she really trying, for as much?!.) I would expect she'd try a little

*harder,* (sometimes!)(what with what *I* put into It?!.) realizing how much

work there is and that she *is* doing (can be such a strain, oh, I know, or

we should, for as much?!.) Until then, I give marriage *a real chance,* on

how I figure marriage works! (We all need our own space of as much, I figure

And where marriage doesn't work, we'd be more gradually and consideratly on

our way in that respect, not so much of burning bridges down, you

understand.. . I more than hope?!.

So don't be getting her rushing into things? or just, stay out of it? (of

picking what is more meaningful for you, and All, by as much?) to give peace

a chance. Justice is what we have to do for our selves in that respect of

Understanding More (of as much?) I figure.. .

Best wishes, Thereof, of taking things step-by-step where things aren't any

clearer than that.

Glavic

That I need social BS, otherwise, you understand, what you understand,

Thereof.. .

Move along where you don't, but not over any cliff or anything, (No!) that I

wouldn't want you around for the choice/s you do provide.. . Not where

*Communication* is concerned that truly gets The job done and is The

solution?!. Who better than those married for as much, where I figure all we

need is a better perspective on that (Things, of what we really want?!. Show

her this?) for where they might be going with that, as prepared as they

would be by as much? .. . Otherwise, I figure they both deserve what they

get. ! Yes

Just me on as much?!. (Nothing normal mind you?!.) I could jump over a cliff

in that respect.. I'd rather not in the meanwhile, that I won't end up

somewhere like that eventually, you understand, what you understand? .. .

Life is no holiday (?!. *No,* I figure.. . What goes up comes down, must

come down, eventually.. . You want to be with the one you want to be with in

that respect, of Understanding More (but what else.. . It's not like I want

to hurt anyone by saying as much

That could end up by being alone (as alone as you are?) that that would be

so bad. I never found being alone to be the problem.. .

Where people are abusive otherwise deal with that?!. (The sooner the better

I figure, as justice delayed is justice denied [of the higher, priori/ties?]

and that is rarely something to get divorced about I figure

Where you couldn't handle that figure *you* have the problem in that

respect? (Seek sexual counciling, where this doesn't provide as much) That

we're not all somewhat married to each other in that respect

That I wouldn't be able to handle as much, as I do? .. .

Empathize with them, Thereof?

Let your friend understand that you truly care. Suggest to her that she

write a letter to compose her thoughts and her self by as much?

There I go, of serving *justice* as good as anyone ever has is my sense of

It. Why be *partial* (favouring?) otherwise and be part of the problem by as

much? is where I feel no one has anything on me in this respect of what I

Feel everything is about, Truly, about, of Understanding More, that

*Justice* would be about anything else. That *we* could be about anything

else

so meaningful? .. .

BWT.

Not a language class

>

> Hi everyone,

>

> One of my friends told me today her husband is packing up and leaving the

state to be with another woman. They have 2 minor children. The youngest is

solidly on the spectrum.

>

> Is there any site out there to help her navigate the divorce process as it

relates to finances and ASD kids or special needs kids in general? Any

things she needs to consider when requesting support and maintenance?

Husband is an MD.

>

> Marriage should be allowed to end. I just want her to be protected,

financially. As it looks now, there will be no fight for custody of either

child. They have been married 14 yrs.

>

> Thanks... and sorry for the OT post but I figured someone out there has

advice. I'm still married!

>

> Pam

>

[Guest guest]

Thanks to everyone. This marriage is beyond repair and they need to get

divorced. He has been quite unkind to her even before the 2+ yr affair and he

will not go to counseling.

Mediation sounds like a good idea.

Pam

> >

> > Hi everyone,

> >

> > One of my friends told me today her husband is packing up and leaving the

> state to be with another woman. They have 2 minor children. The youngest is

> solidly on the spectrum.

> >

> > Is there any site out there to help her navigate the divorce process as it

> relates to finances and ASD kids or special needs kids in general? Any

> things she needs to consider when requesting support and maintenance?

> Husband is an MD.

> >

> > Marriage should be allowed to end. I just want her to be protected,

> financially. As it looks now, there will be no fight for custody of either

> child. They have been married 14 yrs.

> >

> > Thanks... and sorry for the OT post but I figured someone out there has

> advice. I'm still married!

> >

> > Pam

> >

>

>

>

>

>

>

[Guest guest]

Sent from my Samsung Epicâ„¢ 4G

Pamela H <phaselow@...> wrote:

>Thanks to everyone. This marriage is beyond repair and they need to get

divorced. He has been quite unkind to her even before the 2+ yr affair and he

will not go to counseling.

>

>Mediation sounds like a good idea.

>

>Pam

>

>

>> >

>> > Hi everyone,

>> >

>> > One of my friends told me today her husband is packing up and leaving the

>> state to be with another woman. They have 2 minor children. The youngest is

>> solidly on the spectrum.

>> >

>> > Is there any site out there to help her navigate the divorce process as it

>> relates to finances and ASD kids or special needs kids in general? Any

>> things she needs to consider when requesting support and maintenance?

>> Husband is an MD.

>> >

>> > Marriage should be allowed to end. I just want her to be protected,

>> financially. As it looks now, there will be no fight for custody of either

>> child. They have been married 14 yrs.

>> >

>> > Thanks... and sorry for the OT post but I figured someone out there has

>> advice. I'm still married!

>> >

>> > Pam

>> >

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

>>

[Guest guest]

Hi Pam,

I'm of the view that you have to nip abuse at the bud, (once you can identify

it? somewhat my specialty, now) or it only gets worse. (You also tend to get

respected better for doing so I find, if not merely loved) Your friend will have

to start now with something like that if she hasn't already? Things always seem

to go better step-by-step (though?) I figure, of going where that takes you?

unless it's war perhaps that we'd be about, which *I'm* not nearly so much about

or for anymore, by saying as much as I do? .. .

I do believe *you* have the gist of It Pam. It's the same advice I have and

give/would give for everyone everywhere, that I should be partial otherwise? I'd

rather not, with all that I have on my plate, or not, you understand, what you

understand.. .

Thanks for helping, of caring and wanting to help so especially as you do

I'd say that's *mediation* of sorts, call it what you will?

Best wishes. I do hope to hear more from you, on the board surely.. .

Mike

> > >

> > > Hi everyone,

> > >

> > > One of my friends told me today her husband is packing up and leaving the

> > state to be with another woman. They have 2 minor children. The youngest is

> > solidly on the spectrum.

> > >

> > > Is there any site out there to help her navigate the divorce process as it

> > relates to finances and ASD kids or special needs kids in general? Any

> > things she needs to consider when requesting support and maintenance?

> > Husband is an MD.

> > >

> > > Marriage should be allowed to end. I just want her to be protected,

> > financially. As it looks now, there will be no fight for custody of either

> > child. They have been married 14 yrs.

> > >

> > > Thanks... and sorry for the OT post but I figured someone out there has

> > advice. I'm still married!

> > >

> > > Pam

> > >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >

> >