Guest guest Posted December 12, 2000 Report Share Posted December 12, 2000 In a message dated 12/12/00 9:11:16 AM Pacific Standard Time, mamacdoo@... writes: << I just realized something and I am kinda embarrassed. When I wrote you and Jerry, I said " you guys. " Sorry, I did think you were male. My uncle's name is Harper so I guess I assumed. It is a very unusual name to me. I have never heard of it except with you two. Anyway, my apology. Hope you have a great day. Rosemary >> No need to be embarrassed. " You guys " , when I was a teen-ager (I'm 57) was not a gender-specific term, so it didn't occur to me that you thought I literally was a guy. I've often found it useful, in business for people to be a little uncertain about whether the name was a man's or a woman's. The down side is that twice when travelling I've been assigned to share a room with a man. I forget that there could be uncertainty -- I know who I am, and I forget that everyone else in the whole world doesn't know, too. How's that for egocentrism! Back in the 1970's, because of a snowstorm, I arrived at a non-profit conference at a remote lodge in the mountains long after midnight. A flashlight and directions to my room had been left at the front desk.. A note said the door was unlocked and to try not to disturb people, as the group had to start work very early the next morning. I got to my room and found there was only one bed, with someone already in it, which annoyed me a bit because I hadn't slept with another female since I was a small child. But, after all, it was a non-profit charitable organization. I slipped into bed in the dark and slept well. I woke just as the sun was rising -- and saw a bushy brown beard above the blankets on the other side of the bed. I dressed and left the room quietly and quickly. I never did figure out who I'd shared the bed with -- lots of men had beards in those days-- and I don't think that person ever knew I'd been there. Asking " Can anyone tell me who I slept with last night " would have reduced my credibility at the conference, so I kept very quiet. I've always liked the name Rosemary. I have lots of rosemary plants in my garden. I hope your upcoming trip goes well. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2000 Report Share Posted December 12, 2000 Harper... I have a daughter.. Timithye.. who has those gender i.d. problems from time to time jerry Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2000 Report Share Posted December 12, 2000 Jerry, Your poor daughter. Why did you name her that? Shireen >From: gefox@... >Reply- egroups > egroups >Subject: Re: [ ] " You Guys " >Date: Tue, 12 Dec 2000 14:20:27 -0500 (EST) > >Harper... I have a daughter.. Timithye.. >who has those gender i.d. problems from time to time >jerry > ________________________________________________________________________________\ _____ Get more from the Web. FREE MSN Explorer download : http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 12, 2000 Report Share Posted December 12, 2000 shireen...... the doctor had insisted she would be a boy.... absent an ultrasound we took his word for it...my brother`s name is Tim(othy)..... when she was born we hadn`t given thought to girls names sooooo..... her middle name is Jerilyn after me..... she`s called Timi, which is kind of cool.... we used to call her TJ -- my mother and her sisters still do sometimes .... I call her TimiLu-- which is another story altogether... I`m the same age(57) as Harper and when I was young we also refered to boys and girls alike as " you guys " ..... Jerry Jerry, Your poor daughter. Why did you name her that? Shireen >From: gefox@... >Reply- egroups > egroups >Subject: Re: [ ] " You Guys " >Date: Tue, 12 Dec 2000 14:20:27 -0500 (EST) > >Harper... I have a daughter.. Timithye.. >who has those gender i.d. problems from time to time >jerry > ________________________________________________________________________________\ _____ Get more from the Web. FREE MSN Explorer download : http://explorer.msn.com Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2000 Report Share Posted December 13, 2000 I wanted to give my daughter an unusual although traditional name, as our last name is . I decided to name her for an elderly, highly individualistic woman I knew, the only person I'd heard of with that name. So, in 1968, I named my daugher -- . Poor kid. It seemed that every other girl in Boston was named for the next few years. Making bookends with all the little boys named . Fortunately, she was a oner in every other way -- people never seemed to confuse her with all the other s. Or at least so it seemed to me, her doting mother. Harper Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest guest Posted December 13, 2000 Report Share Posted December 13, 2000 Jerry I have a daughter Noel. (Yes just like Christmas) She thought to be a boy when people see her name. It's very popular to mix names up, I have neices named , Sam, and my littlee ones name is a but I call her or e. Joan Claffey NJ gefox@... wrote: > > Harper... I have a daughter.. Timithye.. > who has those gender i.d. problems from time to time > jerry > > > Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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