Re: Gaining strength from being sick.

[Guest guest]

Marta,

That makes wonderful sense! I have been dealing with this disease for nearly

6 years now and I'm *still* not at the " acceptance stage. " I still get angry

that I am so young (well, 34 is sort of young isn't it?! esp. to have a

chronic illness...) and that I am so limited in what I can do in my life. I

think I need some of that Paxil you're taking!! LOL!

Hugs,

Chrissy Ü

In a message dated 10/27/98 4:00:08 AM Eastern Standard Time,

mlmccoy@... writes:

<< Me too, I sometimes think that maybe there was something I needed to learn

in this life, and having a chronic illness was the only way I could learn

it. Somehow I just cannot feel sorry for myself anymore, maybe it is the

30mg of Paxil, or maybe I am just resigned to being sick, or could be I know

there are plenty of people far worse off than I am. Whatever the reason, I

am no longer bitter or angry about being sick as long as I can think that

having this illness will make me a better person.

Does that make sense?

Marta >>

[Guest guest]

Me too, I sometimes think that maybe there was something I needed to learn

in this life, and having a chronic illness was the only way I could learn

it. Somehow I just cannot feel sorry for myself anymore, maybe it is the

30mg of Paxil, or maybe I am just resigned to being sick, or could be I know

there are plenty of people far worse off than I am. Whatever the reason, I

am no longer bitter or angry about being sick as long as I can think that

having this illness will make me a better person.

Does that make sense?

Marta

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>From: RMcmur3194@...

>

>AMEN....(LOL) really it seems that thru defeat we gain

strength......thats

>how it worked for me ....i feel god has a bigger plan for me know

>

[Guest guest]

In a message dated 10/27/98 4:00:08 AM EST, mlmccoy@... writes:

<< Whatever the reason, I

am no longer bitter or angry about being sick as long as I can think that

having this illness will make me a better person.

Does that make sense? >>

I am sure you have heard of the different stages of a situation. If any of

you ever watched " All That Jazz " with Roy Scheider in the late '70's it was a

central theme of the movie.

I don't remember them all but in general, the chronological order was: denial,

anger, negotiation, self-pity, and finally, acceptance. I feel that I have

gone through all of these stages and am at the " acceptance " stage. It doesn't

mean I have given up, it just means I understand the situation. And I can

tell you, it has made my life easier. I still want to get well, but I don't

waste precious time and energy on anger, denial, etc. And I do feel I now

have a better understanding of life and am a better person for it. Now, I

would certainly have preferred this great insight without losing my health,

ruining my credit, losing my retirement $, etc., etc. But maybe that is how

it works.

[Guest guest]

I believe that being sick had made me such a better person. I have had lyme

Disease all of my childhood. I got bit when I was six, and am now 17. I

don't have past memories of feeling normal or who I was when I did but I

know that I am stronger now than I would have been.

>From: Golfdawg@...

>

>In a message dated 10/27/98 4:00:08 AM EST, mlmccoy@... writes:

>

><< Whatever the reason, I

> am no longer bitter or angry about being sick as long as I can think that

> having this illness will make me a better person.

> Does that make sense? >>

>

>I am sure you have heard of the different stages of a situation. If any of

>you ever watched " All That Jazz " with Roy Scheider in the late '70's it was a

>central theme of the movie.

>

>I don't remember them all but in general, the chronological order was: denial,

>anger, negotiation, self-pity, and finally, acceptance. I feel that I have

>gone through all of these stages and am at the " acceptance " stage. It doesn't

>mean I have given up, it just means I understand the situation. And I can

>tell you, it has made my life easier. I still want to get well, but I don't

>waste precious time and energy on anger, denial, etc. And I do feel I now

>have a better understanding of life and am a better person for it. Now, I

>would certainly have preferred this great insight without losing my health,

>ruining my credit, losing my retirement $, etc., etc. But maybe that is how

>it works.

>

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[Guest guest]

Thanks Colby,

I don't recall the movie, but I will look for it now. Yes, you hit the

nail on the head for me anyway. I went through each of those stages, and

finally accepted this illness. It was a hard road to this point, but I am

glad I made it. I'm glad you made it too. Thanks for sharing.

Marta

>From: Golfdawg@...

>

>

>I don't remember them all but in general, the chronological order was:

denial,

>anger, negotiation, self-pity, and finally, acceptance. I feel that I have

>gone through all of these stages and am at the " acceptance " stage.